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Is physical beauty a handicap or an asset for women/men?

In life, physical beauty is generally considered a gift, perhaps especially for women. But is this necessarily so? And what of men? is it the same for them, or much different?

 


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they Survey Central Subscriber
posted 13-Oct-2006 10:37pm  
options?

asset
dab Survey Qualifier
posted 13-Oct-2006 10:52pm  
More than once I've looked at a very pretty woman and thought, "she's probably a dog", an opinion formed solely because of her looks.
ausfox
posted 13-Oct-2006 11:18pm  
Well it all depends on the situation and what the individual chooses to make of it. If you wanted to use your beauty for your career, as in modelling or something well that it's an asset. But it can be a handicap if people can't look past it or take someone seriously.
RGirl
posted 13-Oct-2006 11:34pm  
Can be either for women, but mostly just an asset for men.
romkey Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 13-Oct-2006 11:58pm  
Options would've been nice.

It depends on the person and the situation.
LJD
posted 14-Oct-2006 12:19am  
I've read that attractive people have more difficulty than average looking people, because people expect too much of them, expect them to be "beautiful" all the time. It can be a handicap.
Amanda
posted 14-Oct-2006 1:33am  
Hell if I know.
ROCKMAN
posted 14-Oct-2006 7:09am  
In general I'd say it is an asset, but it just depends on the situation and everything. If I was looking for someone who was an iron worker I wouldn't be looking for the GQ type.
bill Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 14-Oct-2006 7:25am  
It's undeniably an asset for both men and women.
docgbrown
posted 14-Oct-2006 8:19am  
gift and asset
mve17
posted 14-Oct-2006 8:32am  
Depends. Can be a bit of both.
autumnlight
posted 14-Oct-2006 9:12am  
Asset. People who say not are lying.
CGTREE
posted 14-Oct-2006 11:20am  
I think it depends on the persons personality. Depending on how they deal with how they look then sometimes it could be an asset and other times it could be a handicap.
JessicaWoman99 Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 14-Oct-2006 12:42pm  
My physical beauty is both a gift and an asset and I am soo happy', be pretty and beautiful'
Liss
posted 14-Oct-2006 1:08pm  
It can be both. In general, I believe it to be an asset.
southernyankee
posted 14-Oct-2006 2:47pm  
I think its generally an asset, but is a handicap at extremes. For a guy, it would never be a handicap, only an asset; for women, looking good starts to become a handicap beyond a certain point. Women are also more likely to secretly hate good looking women while pretending to be their friend. For guys, at worse they might be worried you might steal their gfs.
hypersky
posted 14-Oct-2006 3:58pm  
Physical beauty has been proven to be an asset when looking for jobs.
ElvisFan67
posted 14-Oct-2006 8:27pm  
For all purposes, it should be an asset. However--and unfortunately--sexual offenders have made physical beauty a disadvantage for some women, but to me, it's never a handicap.

And I don't think that affects men the same way.
Matty
posted 14-Oct-2006 11:06pm  
an ASSet, good looking women go further because men are still at the top. It's unfortunate, but it's what I see.
LindaH Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 14-Oct-2006 11:17pm  
Most of the time: Neither. It's an asset more often than a handicap, though.
chumpsrock
posted 15-Oct-2006 12:28am  
It is a gift. People treat you differently. How different is is for a skinny, attractive girl than for a large, unattractive Black man. Just ask them how people treat them. I bet the girl usually gets good service.
chumpsrock
posted 15-Oct-2006 12:33am  
You guys haven't heard of the studies that have been performed. Kids who are more attractive get more attention in daycare and school, and conversely unattractive kids are called on less and given less help. They have more advantages since the beginning. Studies show that people judge others on physical attractiveness more than other factor.
donn
posted 15-Oct-2006 6:26am  
asset
Irene007
posted 15-Oct-2006 8:16am  
I think it's a handicap, especially for men. It often makes them cocky, overly self-confident and generally turns them into butt-holes but I'm talking about the average man (having lots of money also has the same effect). An intelligent man might be a little vain but won't let it get to his head but the not so smart ones? It just makes them appear dumber...
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 15-Oct-2006 8:21am  
> Physical beauty has been proven to be an asset when looking for jobs.


That depends on who is doing the hiring... I once went for a job (way back when...) and ended up getting a ride after my interview with an employee who told me to forget about it; "She'll never hire you! She doesn't like to have younger women around." He was right, even if I was qualified, she never called me back. However, I did get a job with the guy's father who had a printing shop and was looking for someone at the time! smile
Iseult
posted 15-Oct-2006 10:14am  
How is it a handicap?
Iseult
(reply to southernyankee) posted 15-Oct-2006 10:16am  
> Women are also more likely to secretly hate good
> looking women while pretending to be their friend.

Secrectly?
Zang
posted 15-Oct-2006 3:18pm  
It's been pretty well established scientifically that physical attractiveness is an asset. I've seen a number of studies that have demonstrated overwhelming evidence that the vast majority of people attribute other positive qualities to people who are considered physically attractive and less inclined to perceive negative attributes.

I'm at a loss to think of any examples of where it could be a "handicap".
Zang
(reply to dab) posted 15-Oct-2006 3:30pm  
> More than once I've looked at a very pretty woman
> and thought, "she's probably a dog", an opinion
> formed solely because of her looks.

I'm going to take a wild guess that in those situations there was actually more going on than "solely because of her looks". I'm imagining a woman who is "all done up" strutting around like she thinks she's the cat's ass. Would you have thought the same thing if you saw her dressed casual, playing with a puppy in the park or holding a child or helping someone?

I know what you mean, because I've had the same thoughts myself. However, I'm aware of other subtle influences that taint my impressions.

hypersky
(reply to Irene007) posted 15-Oct-2006 5:18pm  
Salut toi!

I agree with you that the outcome of a specific job interview depends on who is hiring, but as a general rule, attractive folks tend to be rated higher in job interviews. I've read a couple of things on this subject over the last year that seem to confirm that attractive people do have an advantage. Here are a couple that support the position:

"Good-looking men and women are generally judged to be more talented, kind, honest and intelligent than their less attractive counterparts," Patzer says. "Controlled studies show people go out of their way to help attractive people -- of the same and opposite sex -- because they want to be liked and accepted by good-looking people."
CNN.com - Do pretty people earn more? http://www.cnn.com/2005/US/Careers/07/08/looks/

"Daniel Hamermesh, a professor of economics at the University of Texas at Austin, and Amy Parker, one of his students, found that attractive professors consistently outscore their less comely colleagues by a significant margin on student evaluations of teaching. The findings, they say, raise serious questions about the use of student evaluations as a valid measure of teaching quality."
The Chronicles of Higher Education - Do Good Looks Equal Good Evaluations? http://chronicle.com/jobs/2003/10/2003101501c.htm

"A London Guildhall University survey of 11,000 33-year-olds found that unattractive men earned 15 percent less than those deemed attractive, while plain women earned 11 percent less than their prettier counterparts."
Careerbuilder.com - Do Pretty People Earn More? http://www.careerbuilder.com/JobSeeker/careerbytes...

Anyway, there seems to be serious research to support the claim that attractive people are better off than average-looking people.


Biggles Bronze Star Survey Creator Survey Qualifier
posted 15-Oct-2006 7:47pm  
It can be both. However, where it may be an initial handicap I think that it is not that difficult to rise above if a person is capable, intelligent and determined. So I would tend to say that it was more of an asset than a handicap.
dab Survey Qualifier
(reply to Zang) posted 15-Oct-2006 8:55pm  
Excellent point. I'll have to pay attention to that in the future but I'm pretty sure you're right.
Zang
(reply to dab) posted 16-Oct-2006 1:27am  
People are always accusing me of over-analysing...I don't think they're far off.
Zang
(reply to hypersky) posted 16-Oct-2006 1:29am  
I've seen studies where they were looking at the same effect as applied to witness testimony in trials. Jurors tend to believe the attractive witnesses and are more likely to disbelieve the unattractive witnesses.
Jody
posted 16-Oct-2006 10:59am  
I believe it's more clearly an asset for most men, and often a two-edged sword for women. I suspect that the female stereotype of beautiful=dumb can often work against women.
gambler
posted 16-Oct-2006 5:49pm  
I think its an asset for men and CAN be less of one for a woman............... Honestly, its harder to notice life/academic/professional achievemnets of a woman if she is drop dead gorgeous and then you think, how much of her achievement is through solid merit as opposed to her looks
hypersky
(reply to Zang) posted 16-Oct-2006 8:40pm  
It's shallow, but it's there nonetheless.
JessicaWoman99 Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to hypersky) posted 16-Oct-2006 9:10pm  
> Physical beauty has been proven to be an asset when looking for jobs.

Not only my physical beauty and how pretty I may look and have on a pretty skirt or dress, but if you have the necessary skills and experience to go along with that job , and employers look back at your other jobs and how well you performed or lost that job for many reasons. I have lost a Housekeeping job because of my mental state and issues with anger fighting with another woman
JessicaWoman99 Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to gambler) posted 16-Oct-2006 9:21pm  
> I think its an asset for men and CAN be less of one for a woman...............
> Honestly, its harder to notice life/academic/professional achievemnets
> of a woman if she is drop dead gorgeous and then you think, how much
> of her achievement is through solid merit as opposed to her looks

And yes Gambler this is true from a womans point of view I can tell you that , if I have the skills and experience , I will get hired for that housekeeping job , and most employers look back at your most recent employers and how well you performed that job, and my physical beauty and how pretty I may look did not get me that job. I am more then a asset for this company it is how well I do my job and get along with other employees that really matters to my employer, I have to be ladylike and act with manners and well behaved like a woman should as I found out and lost my housekeeping job because of my anger issues and fighting with this other woman, I wanted to kick her butt so bad
RGirl
(reply to Zang) posted 16-Oct-2006 9:47pm  
People don't like to admit these things. Our decisions have a lot more to do with how we perceive the people involved than we'd like to admit. Most people try really hard but sometimes you simply aren't aware of it.
judgescratch
posted 17-Oct-2006 9:05am  
Both/it depends on how they use it.
And it does need to be acknowleded/used in order to make it a positive.
gazelda1
posted 17-Oct-2006 1:30pm  
We each have our own beauty. It comes from different areas we all just need to take what is beautiful about us and go with it. I think that bad things can make people ugly, but there is nothing more beautiful then a person who believes in themselves. Now that too can get ugly if they become full of themselves, but I am talking about those who know who they are and are happy and content with themselves and that warmth in them just seems to overflow and touch the lives of anyone who have the chance to be near them.
hypersky
(reply to JessicaWoman99) posted 17-Oct-2006 5:13pm  
For sure, the packaging ain't enough; you have to have solid content otherwise you're just an attractive empty shell.
Zang
(reply to RGirl) posted 18-Oct-2006 12:22am  
Alas, it would seem to be human nature.
JessicaWoman99 Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to hypersky) posted 18-Oct-2006 10:17pm  
> For sure, the packaging ain't enough; you have to have solid content
> otherwise you're just an attractive empty shell.

For sure'
JessicaWoman99 Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to gazelda1) posted 18-Oct-2006 10:29pm  
> We each have our own beauty. It comes from different areas we all
> just need to take what is beautiful about us and go with it. I think
> that bad things can make people ugly, but there is nothing more beautiful
> then a person who believes in themselves. Now that too can get ugly
> if they become full of themselves, but I am talking about those who
> know who they are and are happy and content with themselves and that
> warmth in them just seems to overflow and touch the lives of anyone
> who have the chance to be near them.

This sounds very much like me in many way,s and my anger issues can make it ugly, and I have gotten some help in dealing with all my anger, and I have lost a job because of my anger and fighting with another woman because she was grabbing my sheets and towels and my cleaning cart , and she was yelling" at me and I pushed her out of my way and I wanted to kick her butt so bad grrrrrr. And I am the kind of person she gets along with people in the real world just fine and I attend Church every Sunday my faith in God and Jesus and I do touch many lives indeed'. But I will stand up for myself if I have to and that means if another woman wants to start something with me then bring it on baby
MiniMary
(reply to CarlHalling) posted 19-Oct-2006 3:27pm  
Carl...this is a great question. Physical beauty is an attribute that others compliment you on and you are bound to get a bit more attention. At first, this is very flattering. But some of those physical beauties lose their ability to be humble and use their beauty for 'getting what they want out of life'. They may begin to believe they deserve 'more' because of their beauty and how others have treated them in their past. They may feel entitled. The sad part is, while their narcissism may bring them material things and being infatuated by the masses....they lose their ability to socialize on an equal basis with the rest of society. Being pretty is nice, but beauty fades and then they find that they do do have the skills or tools to form solid relationships.
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 22-Oct-2006 10:55am  
Ya think if I spend a little money on some plastic surgery; I might increase my salary? wink

Interesting links... I was just reading in the latest Discovery Magazine that beautiful people are more likely to bear girls for offspring... In the end, it's all about propagating the race huh?
hypersky
(reply to Irene007) posted 22-Oct-2006 7:37pm  


You're gorgeous enough as is. No need for plastic surgery on you.

cloudhugger
posted 22-Oct-2006 10:20pm  
Why isn't this question rated 'offensive'?

I don't know, I see the beauty within, and beauty without.
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 23-Oct-2006 6:05am  
Ha! OK Stef... What do you want? >smile
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 23-Oct-2006 6:51am  
Oh Stef! Would you really say the same if you weren't my cousin? J'ai perdu comme, 15 lbs et +. Je te le jure; ils attendent en ligne à ma porte! C'est bête - plus d'attention que j'ai, plus que je me sens seule... J'avais les mêmes sentiments lorsque j'ai connu Benoit! J'ai beaucoup trop d'affection et d'amour à offrir pour des "one night stand"... Please find me someone to love... Awww crap! Je crois que j'ai ces sentiments parce que ma 'date' m'a laissé tomber aujourd'hui. J'aimerais croire que si quelqu'un voyageait le continent au complet pour me voir, je m'arrangerais pour avoir le temps de le visiter!
I'm such a sucker...
RGirl
(reply to Irene007) posted 23-Oct-2006 11:52pm  
NOT FAIR!!! No speakin' foreign languages in front of people!
Irene007
(reply to RGirl) posted 24-Oct-2006 7:41am  
Awww you don't wanna know hun! I was crapping all over myself when I wrote that.
hypersky
(reply to Irene007) posted 24-Oct-2006 5:35pm  
Bin voyons donc! I don't need an excuse to suck up.
hypersky
(reply to Irene007) posted 24-Oct-2006 5:37pm  
You'll know when it's right. One night stands can be fun but they aren't my thing either... En attendant, mon lit est vide aussi, mais au moins je sens que je ne me suis pas laisser aller pour une bouchée.
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 25-Oct-2006 9:44pm  
Nawww.... Keep sucking! But NO suckling!!
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 25-Oct-2006 9:46pm  
Hmmm.... En parlant de lit; maybe I should go buy my matress this weekend! I'm still sleeping on the freakin' couch! I'll have that damned house warming party yet! Hopefully before Christmas!!
Zang
(reply to Irene007) posted 27-Oct-2006 4:17pm  
Hey Irene, I'm talking to this Mexican guy from another site. He's moving to Vancouver and looking for work "related to marketing / advertising / communications / promotions. I currently work at Iusacell, a telecommunications company as the Promotions and Events Manager. But my experience goes back to advertising agencies as Strategic/Account Planner. After that, I worked for 4 1/2 years at Nestlé México, both as Online and Relationship Corporate Marketing Specialist (2 years), and as a Consumer and Trade Marketing Manager for NESCAFE Out Of Home (2.5 years). I studied Communication Sciences at the Universidad Intercontinental in Mexico City."

Does this sound like someone your sister might be able to put to use? She's the only person I could think of around here that's involved in that sort of stuff. What do you think?
hypersky
(reply to Irene007) posted 27-Oct-2006 10:04pm  
ewww!
hypersky
(reply to Irene007) posted 27-Oct-2006 10:05pm  
Take your time, do it right!
Irene007
(reply to Zang) posted 29-Oct-2006 1:41am  
Yeah... I could hook him up with my sister but not her buffoon! He'd cut him down, no matter his qualifications... I'm sure she knows other people in the trade that can get him connected.
Irene007
(reply to hypersky) posted 29-Oct-2006 1:41am  
laughing out loud
Zang
(reply to Irene007) posted 29-Oct-2006 12:09pm  
Okay thanks. I've asked him for an email address, but I haven't heard back from him yet. I'll PM you with it if and when I get one.

Thanks! smile
Irene007
(reply to Zang) posted 29-Oct-2006 7:24pm  
Will do!
LindaH Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to RGirl) posted 29-Oct-2006 8:02pm  
> NOT FAIR!!! No speakin' foreign languages
> in front of people!

Don't discourage Irene from speaking French to hypersky. I like it when hypersky replies. I don't know what he's saying, but I like it.

RGirl
(reply to LindaH) posted 30-Oct-2006 12:50am  
Am I sensing a cybercrush? wink
LindaH Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to RGirl) posted 30-Oct-2006 12:57am  
Sorta... mostly playing.
RGirl
(reply to LindaH) posted 30-Oct-2006 1:28am  
Yeah, ok, we'll call it that........just teasin'.
kitti723
posted 31-Oct-2006 5:16pm  
It could be either depending on how you handle the attention.
deedeedee
posted 1-Nov-2006 10:45pm  
It can be both.
filiasan
posted 11-Nov-2006 8:45pm  
What kind of question is that? Of course it's an asset!
patarnone
posted 25-Nov-2006 9:22pm  
A nice physical appearance is an asset.

Beauty? My eyes have never seen an ugly dog.
mrmarm
posted 20-Dec-2006 11:27pm  
I think it is more about the state of mind of the person. Women who put make up on do so for a reason, to attract people or say a particular person. I think for a large majority of straight men physcial beauty is not so much a concern as much as how often they get laid, since in theory most straight men would prefer to have sex regulary with average looking women and look like some cross between Jabba the Hut and Golem from Lord of the Rings. Rather them be an amazingly hot guy who rarely has sex for some reason. I as a male however do enjoy venturing down to the local shops and being admired by strangers and anoymous other students from my high school. I don't find physcial beauty a handicap at all, since when I was in year 8 I wasn't overly that attractive in my oppinion however as my years at high school have passed I become more and more attractive via becoming older and the people in year 8 who were quite rude to me ain't many and flirt with me as if astounishingly I've forgotten the way I was treated.
mross
posted 15-Jan-2007 10:55pm  
Both.
mandy
posted 16-Jan-2007 12:47pm  
asset for both
blondie20
posted 18-Feb-2007 1:05pm  
Asset.
mrmarm
posted 30-Mar-2007 12:54am  
I find it an asset, because I'm an attractive person and I enjoy going to high school and have people staring at me daily and hiting on me weekly. Though I do have some pretty jeolous peers though, that's a good thing in the sense that there are people jealous of me, but really it's also pretty sad in a lot of ways.
falkensmaze
posted 30-Apr-2007 5:19am  
It can be an asset and a handicap.
kitkat
posted 15-May-2007 11:57pm  
Asset
krazykatlady
posted 28-May-2007 9:42pm  
It depends on the person. If a beautiful woman thinks she is superior because of her beauty, and treats others badly as a result, then it's definitely a handicap
calsgirl2008
posted 15-Mar-2008 4:46pm  
AN ASSET
meowry
posted 17-Nov-2008 1:37am  
It's an asset, of course. More options. Better options. Better jobs. More friends. Being average or below average is a handicap.
Rosemary
posted 25-Jul-2009 1:39am  
an asset
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