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Have your parents ever hit or spanked you with a belt?




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36Yes
19No
1Other
1I have something else to say
1Maybe when i was real young
0I don't have any parents
0I don't remember if they did


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RGirl
posted 19-Feb-2006 9:57pm  
I was spanked but not with a belt. My dad's yelling voice was enough to make you wet your pants. He would take off a belt or get a belt as a threat.
they
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:01pm  
No... my parents never hit me with anything.

Probably only once or twice with their hands.
FauxLo Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:06pm  
Many times.
llamamama
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:11pm  
Yes, billions of years ago
kirst
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:11pm  
No. That would be a terrible thing to do.
darkshadowsseeker
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:26pm  
My grandmother did.
ultamate
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:41pm  
My dad popped me on the hand once, that was the only time he ever hit me and I cried worse than when my mother whipped me with a belt, switch, shoe, hand, broom handle or what ever was handy at the time. I guess he thought she beat me enough that he didn't need to.
FauxLo Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:48pm  
I think any parent that would take a belt to beat their child for any reason should be executed. It's savage and barbaric.
longhaultrucker
posted 19-Feb-2006 10:52pm  
No, but my dad was a few times, back in the old days it was legal to discipline your kids, and they wonder why kids are selling dope and shooting up schools, bring back the belt.
FauxLo Survey Central Gold Subscriber
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 19-Feb-2006 10:58pm  
I think you have it wrong. Violence begets violence.
longhaultrucker
(reply to FauxLo) posted 19-Feb-2006 11:02pm  
True, maybe spanking kids with a belt is extreme, the kids i knew that got whipped from their parents always grew up real sadistic, but some didn't
blondie20
posted 19-Feb-2006 11:04pm  
Yes, too many to count.
FauxLo Survey Central Gold Subscriber
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 19-Feb-2006 11:06pm  
Besides... all that would do, in your scenario, is get the kids to shot the parents in the head before they went to school to take care of their classmates.  * evil smile *

...and since I like school shootings... you know what? BRING BACK THE BELT!!! j/k
Amanda
posted 19-Feb-2006 11:25pm  
No. My parents swatted me a couple times growing up. Not even what I'd consider a spanking. And, never with a belt. I remember my older brothers getting spanked with a belt a few times. We'll talk about it now. They both say they appreciate the discipline our parents gave them. I was the youngest and the only girl, so I got away with way more than they did.
RGirl
(reply to Amanda) posted 19-Feb-2006 11:45pm  
I had three brothers and there was an advantage to being a girl when it came to discipline. Unfortunately, his misconception of being a girl also came with me not being allowed outside as it got dark even though my younger brother of 3 years got to stay out as late as he wanted - and I was 15! My dad, 'Cause you're a girl.' I think he thought I'd get raped. Am I rambling? He didn't like boys anywhere near me.
Amanda
(reply to RGirl) posted 19-Feb-2006 11:53pm  
The only "because you're a girl" problem I had was when I was a teenager. When my brothers were teenagers, my parents let their girlfriends spend the night. But, my dad was dead set against my boyfriends spend the night. Well, he'd let them spend the night, as long as one of us slept on the couch. But, there was no way he'd let them sleep in my room. It was funny, because I got pregnant when I was 16. While I was pregnant, my then-boyfriend and I stayed with my parents for about a month. My dad still wouldn't let us sleep in the same bed. I couldn't figure out what he thought would happen that hadn't already! He's different now. He says that my mom didn't really like the idea of me sleeping with someone in their house, so he put his foot down because she couldn't stand to tell me no. Anyhow, I was 20 years old before I slept with someone in my dad's house. (At least with him knowing about it.) Back when I was a teenager, it pissed me off. But, looking back, I can't blame my parents a bit for that. I wouldn't want my teenage daughter sleeping with someone in my house, either.
cloudhugger Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 20-Feb-2006 12:19am  
Yes.
autumnlight
posted 20-Feb-2006 5:22am  
No, that's crossing the line of discipline.
ROCKMAN
posted 20-Feb-2006 6:14am  
I think my Dad did one time. Other then that it was my Mom who did the spanking and she used a dow rod (1/4" piece of round wood). It probably hurt more.
mve17
posted 20-Feb-2006 8:18am  
Oh yeah, they know how I like it  * wink * no ok seriously.. anyone who beats their kids shouldn't be allowed to have them.
Scott
posted 20-Feb-2006 10:04am  
I like the way some of you are automatically associating belts with "beating your child". Do I think it's wrong to beat your kids with a belt? Absolutely. I think it's wrong to beat your kids, period. Belt, wooden spoon, fly swatter, hanger, hand, or otherwise.

That being said, I am 100% not opposed to spanking kids, as long as the punishment fits the crime. I agree with longhaultrucker. I think kids have an upper hand these days. When I was growing up there was no confusion about who was the parent and who was in charge. You did what you were told when you were told to do it, you didn't argue with your parents about stupid things and, you knew, if you did something wrong, you were going to be punished for it. There were no "time outs". Oh please, mom and dad, don't send me to my bedroom. Whatever will I do with myself? I guess I'll have to watch my television or play video games without any supervision. It almost sounds more like a reward, to me.

Anyway, I was only spanked with a belt once, and only a few times was I spanked period. But I completely deserved it. My parents didn't spank us every time we did something wrong... we had to really screw up. The one time I got hit with a belt was because I broke the neighbor's arm with a baseball bat.

It's sad, in my opinion, that parents aren't allowed to parent their kids anymore. They can't so much as raise their voice in public without having to worry about whether or not someone is going to call the authorities on them. ...

And kids pick up on it, too. My cousin's son knows that he can pretty much do whatever he wants and that there are no real repercussions because all he has to do is threaten to call the police on his parents. As a result, he rarely, if ever, gets punished for anything and, (he's 16 now) has already been in trouble with the cops for, among other things, breaking & entering, drinking, and smoking pot.
FauxLo Survey Central Gold Subscriber
(reply to Scott) posted 20-Feb-2006 10:38am  
> I like the way some of you are automatically associating belts with
> "beating your child". Do I think it's wrong to beat your kids
> with a belt? Absolutely. I think it's wrong to beat your kids, period.
> Belt, wooden spoon, fly swatter, hanger, hand, or otherwise.

For some, if one has been hit with a belt by a parent, it's happened more than once.

> That being said, I am 100% not opposed to spanking kids, as long
> as the punishment fits the crime. I agree with longhaultrucker.
> I think kids have an upper hand these days. When I was growing up
> there was no confusion about who was the parent and who was in charge.
> You did what you were told when you were told to do it, you didn't
> argue with your parents about stupid things and, you knew, if you
> did something wrong, you were going to be punished for it. There
> were no "time outs". Oh please, mom and dad, don't send me to my
> bedroom. Whatever will I do with myself? I guess I'll have to watch
> my television or play video games without any supervision. It almost
> sounds more like a reward, to me.

Times have changed. You can't go backwards, nor can you revert to older methods to raise today's youth. It just won't work. Back in the good old days everything was different, including parenting. Folks don't have to fly blind anymore. They also don't have to come up with unsure and untried experimental methods of properly disciplining their kids. They just need to learn to ask for help, as opposed to refusing to admit that they aren't capable of raising their children without some guidance.

> Anyway, I was only spanked with a belt once, and only a few times
> was I spanked period. But I completely deserved it. My parents didn't
> spank us every time we did something wrong... we had to really screw
> up. The one time I got hit with a belt was because I broke the neighbor's
> arm with a baseball bat.

How was hitting you with a belt a fit punishment for your crime? Shouldn't your arm have been broken as well? The initial pain from being hit with a belt goes away after a little while, and the lingering pain goes away after a couple of days. The pain and discomfort of a broken arm make getting hit with a belt seem like a slap on the wrist.

> It's sad, in my opinion, that parents aren't allowed to parent
> their kids anymore. They can't so much as raise their voice in public
> without having to worry about whether or not someone is going to call
> the authorities on them. ...

It is within every parent's ability to talk to their child. As opposed to doing their job and working to figure out why their child is being bad through communication, they're just associating a "crime" with physical pain and not doing anything to understand their child's way of thinking or correct the flaw in their parenting skills.

> And kids pick up on it, too. My cousin's son knows that he can pretty
> much do whatever he wants and that there are no real repercussions
> because all he has to do is threaten to call the police on his parents.
> As a result, he rarely, if ever, gets punished for anything and,
> (he's 16 now) has already been in trouble with the cops for, among
> other things, breaking & entering, drinking, and smoking pot.

Perhaps if your cousin were a better parent and paid closer attention to what the son is doing, the boy wouldn't be acting out in this way. Obviously, I'm missing out on a lot of information here, but did your cousin spend enough time with the boy? Why is the boy's need for acceptance from his peers greater than his respect for your cousin? What I'm trying to say is this kind of behavior doesn't just happen over night. It may seem like an overnight transition, but it happens gradually, and usually the parent isn't aware because the parent doesn't care enough.

Experts are proving everyday that you don't have to hit your children to raise them properly. Pride is an ugly thing. Especially if children have to suffer for it in the long run.






...but what do I care? I hate kids.  * winking raspberry *
shorty189
posted 20-Feb-2006 11:30am  
No I don't think so. They got it out to scare me, but they never did.
Enheduanna Survey Central Subscriber
posted 20-Feb-2006 12:20pm  
No.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator
(reply to FauxLo) posted 20-Feb-2006 12:21pm  
> It is within every parent's ability to talk
> to their child
. As opposed to doing their
> job and working to figure out why their child
> is being bad through communication,
> they're just associating a "crime" with physical
> pain and not doing anything to understand
> their child's way of thinking or correct
> the flaw in their parenting skills.

 * yes *  * yes *  * yes *
Liss
posted 20-Feb-2006 2:21pm  
My dad has hit and pushed me, and the odd time my mum has completely lost it and attacked me, with my brother having to get her off. I don't feel better for it  * frown *
cerealkiller Survey Qualifier
posted 20-Feb-2006 2:37pm  
Never been spanked. I rarely caused any trouble as a kid.
caviartaste
posted 20-Feb-2006 4:47pm  
absofriggginlutely....and most of the time I deserved it.... the only time I didn't was when I wasn't fishing quite like my dad wanted me to, and he lost total patience with me....we laugh about it now...
Danger
posted 20-Feb-2006 4:49pm  
Nope. I got the hand-to-butt, bent-over-the-knee spanking, but never a belt.
bcollins
posted 20-Feb-2006 6:02pm  
No, the few times I was spanked, my mom used her hand.
busybaker
posted 20-Feb-2006 8:16pm  
No, I was spanked occasionally when I misbehaved, but my parents never used any objects such as belts and the like.
Enigma
posted 20-Feb-2006 8:43pm  
No
iamdonte
posted 20-Feb-2006 11:03pm  
yes and worse
Zang
posted 21-Feb-2006 10:20pm  
Yeah, that sort of thing was pretty normal behavior when I was a kid (1960s and 70s).
ultamate
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 22-Feb-2006 8:39pm  
I agree that sometimes children do need to be disciplined with a good spanking. I think there is a fine line though between a spanking and a beating. It's a spanking when it's not given while angry and it's a hand on the butt. I believe it is a beating when you use any object to spank with and /or do it in anger.
ultamate
(reply to Scott) posted 22-Feb-2006 8:58pm  
> And kids pick up on it, too. My cousin's son
> knows that he can pretty much do whatever he wants
> and that there are no real repercussions because
> all he has to do is threaten to call the police
> on his parents.

I informed my child at a very young age that if I gave him a spanking (hand on the butt) and he called child protective services on me, then he better be prepared to live in a foster home because I would not keep a child that I can't discipline when he needs it.




longhaultrucker
(reply to ultamate) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:13am  
very true, but the Child Protective Services looks at it as "Child Abuse" i guess it's better to let your kids run the parents lives, i know parents that are scared of their own kids because they didn't discipline their kids at a young age
RGirl
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:41am  
I know! I truly freak when I go to the store these days. I'm thinking, 'Dang, I never would have tried to pull that!'

longhaultrucker
(reply to RGirl) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:46am  
This is truly a screwed up time in age, spanking your kids is "Assault, Child abuse" go figure, i do not endorse beating kids in anyway, but discipline is a must, whatever it takes legally
RGirl
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:48am  
My posts are totally f'd up????
longhaultrucker
(reply to RGirl) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:50am  
Maybe i'm somewhere else? i don't know, did i get the wrong reply? sorry
RGirl
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:56am  
No. I put a reply & I think I went to edit it, add something, but you responded before I finished. So it looked like you responded to no one. When I tried putting them back on they kept switching with each other. It was weird.  * wry smile *
longhaultrucker
(reply to RGirl) posted 23-Feb-2006 12:58am  
That is a trip, what was the reply about, was it to me?
RGirl
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 1:01am  
I don't remember who I was responding to. But after I posted it I was going to add something to it, but I think I changed my mind & decided to make two separate posts. But I posted one & then the other, all it did was take the place of the first post. Back & Forth, I couldn't get them both on.
longhaultrucker
(reply to RGirl) posted 23-Feb-2006 1:03am  
How does everyone know if someone deleted a comment on a survey or forum?
RGirl
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 1:13am  
I don't know if they do. Do they? I just screwed mine up. It had to be something I was doing wrong.
longhaultrucker
(reply to RGirl) posted 23-Feb-2006 1:17am  
One user asked me why i deleted a forum comment on a survey, i did and i was wondering how they knew? don't feel bad, i got ragged on because i don't know who Abbott and Costello is,  * laughing out loud *
RGirl
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 1:17am  
 * laughing out loud * Abbott & Costello, are you serious!  * raspberry *
longhaultrucker
(reply to RGirl) posted 23-Feb-2006 1:20am  
Honest to God i don't know, i'm a trucker and spend 11 hours driving and 8 hours sleeping in the truck so i don't get out much, maybe i need to get out more  * laughing out loud *
ultamate
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 4:56pm  
Excuse my bluntness but child protective services can kiss my white ass.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator
posted 23-Feb-2006 5:23pm  
Most often, child protective services investigates kids claims, and dismisses them once they realize it's just a kid trying to play the victim on a nurturing, caring act of legal and reasonable discipline
Every so often, they overstep their bounds and mistakingly think good parents are abusive, but more often than that, they accidentally overlook real abuse, because for the most part they try as hard as they can to keep kids with the family, and try to get families to work things out without violence. CPS does so much to protect victims of serious abuse, it outweighs the mistakes they make thinking a kid is being abused when they are not. They aren't out to whisk kids away from decent parents. Spanking, in itself isn't considered grounds for taking kids away. Most of them know the difference. The whole organization isn't made up of a bunch of hypervigilant anti-spankers. There may a few among them, but not so much for caring, non abusive parents to fear losing their kids over.
longhaultrucker
(reply to ultamate) posted 23-Feb-2006 6:10pm  
 * laughing out loud * very true, everyone gets mad when i bring up spanking a child to discipline, so glad you agree, believe me you don't want CPS kissing your ass, they are mean folks
ultamate
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 23-Feb-2006 9:26pm  
I know exactly what DSS and Mental Healthís idea of discipline a child is. My step son is a perfect example of their parenting. You never raise your voice to them, never spank and let them determine their own punishment when they do wrong. What do you get from following these rules of parenting? A 20 year old who lives with his mom, won't work, does drugs,gets kicked out of school for assaulting other students. And letís not leave out the fact that twice he has attacked one of his cousins. Mind you the first time he was 17, right at 300 pounds and his cousin was 9 and not even a hundred pounds. Good job!
ultamate
(reply to LindaH) posted 23-Feb-2006 9:55pm  
When my son was in the 3rd grade I don't know what happened but it seemed as if he became a different child over night. He had always been a straight A student and very well behaved. Suddenly he was failing his classes because he refuses to do the work. His behavior was so bad I didn't know what to do so I went to the school counselor. She gave me books to read on how to raise your kids. Most of it was BS but I was desperate and I did not want to spank him because of the way I was spanked (beat) as a child. I tried all the techniques which didn't make things worse but by no means made them better. This went on for nearly 3 months, his grandmother kept telling me he just needed a good spanking. Finally after trying all these dumb ideas the counselor suggested, I decided as my last resort to spank his ass. I told him to stay in his room until I told him he could come out then I went to my room and cried myself. About 2 hours later I woke up to my son kissing my cheek and hugging me saying, "I'm sorry mom". When I went to a teacher parent conference his teacher told me that my son was doing so well and she wanted to know what changed. I told her with out hesitation," I spanked his butt." She told me that sometime you've got to. The counselor didn't quit feel that way but she couldn't deign the results.
longhaultrucker
(reply to ultamate) posted 24-Feb-2006 1:26am  
That is terrible, my uncle is the same way does drugs and can't hold down a job and always stealing things, except my grandpa used to whip them with a belt all the time, sometimes 4 or 5 times a day, depends on the scenario i guess, you had bad experiences with raising a child of your own? One of these years i will have a child too, and i don't know how to discipline him or her without getting 7 years in prison, but i will worry about discipline later on
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator
(reply to ultamate) posted 24-Feb-2006 1:30am  
Nope. You can't deny the results. People swear by spanking, especially because the results are immediate. I'm glad it worked out for you. Did you ever figure out just what his behavior change was caused by in the first place? I would have still wanted to know what was going on.
ultamate
(reply to LindaH) posted 24-Feb-2006 5:49pm  
Actually, no I didn't but it wasn't from lack of asking him. I thought it might have had something to do with the hours I was working but he said it wasn't. He had taken some test the year before and was determined borderline genius; I think that might have caused him to get a big head. The only thing he told me was he thought he just needed a spanking. I don't know what really caused it. Maybe it was a little of all those things. That was my worse experience as a mother and I thank God I've not had to go threw that with him again thus far.
ultamate
(reply to longhaultrucker) posted 24-Feb-2006 6:45pm  
In my opinion it is abusive to hit a child with anything other than your hand and even then it should only be on his butt or a pop to the childís hand. I've seen parents hit their kids on the shoulder and even across the head. That soÖ makes me want to beat the hell out of that person! I also believe that spanking a child too much is as bad as or worse than not spanking at all. Sometimes you might have to pop your child, but it should be few and far apart and spanking should almost always be a last resort. I'm not against spanking but I do think a parent needs to realize why he/she is spanking the child. Is it to teach the child that a certain behavior will not be tolerated or is it to help you release some anger? Of course if youíre doing it out of anger it is wrong and in my opinion abuse.

Honey when you have kids you will find it most aggravating and sometimes embarrassing that you canít always control the kids behavior or their mouth. Youíll also be amazed at just how much love you have in your heart for that child. Of course you know, the more you love someone the easier it is for them to hurt you and at some point they will. Its ok youíll still love them anyway.
jduPres
posted 5-Mar-2006 3:49am  
No, my father didn't believe in corporal punishment.
xoxoYoUrMoMxoxo
posted 7-Mar-2006 9:19am  
.....i hate my parents.....
xoxoYoUrMoMxoxo
posted 7-Mar-2006 9:21am  
they have anger issues.....hitting ur kids jus teaches them violence is the way to solve an issue
wanderingaround
posted 17-Mar-2007 10:56pm  
The belt was my dad's usual weapon of choice. I got my last whacking at 17.
Rosemary
posted 25-Jul-2009 3:31am  
Dad liked to use the belt buckle on us
Ashbee
posted 1-Dec-2009 2:47am  
Corporal punishment is still remarkably widespread across the world. The "News of the Lash" blog (www.newsofthelash.com) has numerous examples.
Chadj24
posted 30-Apr-2011 11:11pm  
i'm thirteen and still get spanked by my dad sometimes. last summer my dad caught me stealing from a store. the day he found out we were planning to go to the beech so my mom left with my brothers and i had to stay home with my dad. my dad got his thick whoopin belt and told me to go to the backyard. when we got there i was told i was getting whipped 15 times. I was already scared but then he told me that in order to make sure i was convinced i would never do it again i would get the metal buckle! and my dad does not half ass a belting. he spanked me soo hard i couldn't get over the initial pain of the hits by the time the belt came down again and i had welts that started to bleed. my butt stung through the next day and every time i sat down and got up for a month it would hurt. those welts and bruises lasted weeks!
carasobuf
posted 27-Jun-2011 2:43pm  
At my house it was called the strap and you got it for "big things" like lying, always bent over grabbing the seat of a chair and with pants down
sarah21
posted 16-Jul-2011 8:57am  
My dad started spanking me with the belt at age 10, I used to get spanked with a large wooden paddle but he threw that out. First time I ever got it, me and my friend had a water bottle fight, but instead of using the same bottle we would grab them out of the refrigerator, we went through a box of water. My sister called my dad at work and told him and when he got home, he took his belt off and made me bend over and hold onto the couch, he gave me 28 licks, 1 per bottle that we wasted.
Kandi
posted 19-Sep-2011 11:43pm  
My father took a belt to me for every imaginable offense. Mostly for lying. The worst beating I got was when I brought home a bad report card. He told me to pull down my pants and bend over. Told me I was going to get the beating of my life. I screamed so loud, I'm sure the neighbors heard me. I had welts for weeks. I got so many beatings with the strap, I've lost count. So humiliating. I have a very distant relationship with him today as an adult. I do not use physical discipline on my kids because I know what it has done to me. I still have nightmares about it.
youngkid
posted 10-Nov-2011 12:32pm  
i am still young and still gets spanked with a long leather belt it hurt so bad when im bad i get the belt
NYCNJCT
posted 1-Dec-2011 2:30pm  
My dad didn't spank us very often but when he did he usually folded over his belt. We called it "the strap" no doubt to make it sound more menacing. I remember one time he gave both me and my brother a good lickin' with "the strap" on our bare hiney right in our living room on a Sunday afternoon many years ago. I was 8 and he was 9 at the time
pcasper59
posted 4-Mar-2012 12:17pm  
The belt was commonly used at home for spanking discipline problems. Yes I felt it from my parents and so did many of my friends from their parents. it worked great on behavior and sassing back problems. I feel i am a better person for my parents taking time to discipline the old fashion way!
fifi555
posted 18-Mar-2012 6:34pm  
I got whipped a couple times because I teased and picked on my sister. Each time it would be a good 5 whips across my bottom. Once, my friend came over and played a trick on her and my sister told. I lied saying i didn't do anything. I got 10 whips with 5 extra from lying. I never did it again. even as an adult, i remember this painful situation.
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