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If your married, Do you consider kissing someone cheating?

33Yes, of course it is
17No, of course it is not
4Yes, I think
4No, I think
3I am not sure
3It may not be cheating but it is a serious break in trust

posted 25-Feb-2006 7:38pm  
I believe it is. I would not want my husband kissing another woman nor would I kiss another man. I have a question for you. My husband and I are separated, (soon to be divorced) are we cheating by seeing other people?
posted 25-Feb-2006 7:48pm  
What do you mean? Be specific!
Because I'm married I can't kiss anyone anymore? So I can't kiss my mother anymore on her birthday?

Or do you mean kissing a female friend when I see her? Or do you mean French kissing?

BAD survey.
posted 25-Feb-2006 7:54pm  
If you are talking about the kind of kiss I'm thinking of, then yes, it is cheating.
(reply to RGirl) posted 25-Feb-2006 7:57pm  
What if you're drunk??
(reply to Maarten) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:03pm  
Sorry, still cheating. No excuse. If you can't control yourself then don't drink. But then, what I don't know won't hurt me.
(reply to RGirl) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:04pm  
If you know someone was drunk, why take it so seriously?
(reply to Maarten) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:07pm  
Because that is just the way I am.
(reply to RGirl) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:16pm  
That's ok, Meghan! smile

BTW, I just love your name!
(reply to Maarten) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:21pm  
Thank my mom. She got it from the book The Thorn Birds, and according to her this is the 'proper' Gaelic spelling.
posted 25-Feb-2006 8:38pm  
Depends what kind of kiss..and with whom..Kissing a friend..on the cheek..probably not..Kissing else..maybe..
posted 25-Feb-2006 8:45pm  
I don't own a married, so I guess this doesn't apply to me.
(reply to ultamate) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:48pm  
So giving his mom a little peck on the cheek is cheating? wink

To answer your question, until you are properly divorced, I suggest you both remain blindfolded unless you're sure that you're completely alone! raspberry
(reply to llamamama) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:51pm  
So a session of prolonged necking with your second cousin twice removed is okay? grin
(reply to Zang) posted 25-Feb-2006 8:56pm  
And that's because they're your cousin.
(reply to llamamama) posted 25-Feb-2006 9:00pm  
laughing out loud
(reply to dadmastercode) posted 25-Feb-2006 9:03pm  
I'm not married. That being said, would you consider it cheating if I was married and kissed my son, my sister, my nieces, or for that matter, any of my other relatives?
(reply to Zang) posted 25-Feb-2006 9:04pm  
Might as well be your first cousin..
So Sick!
posted 25-Feb-2006 9:12pm  
If we're not talking peck on the cheek to the best friend or gramma then yes I sure do!
Enheduanna Survey Central Subscriber
posted 25-Feb-2006 9:35pm  
I'm not married, but I consider any kiss that is more than a friendly peck to be cheating.
(reply to Zang) posted 25-Feb-2006 10:47pm  
well he knows I'm seeing other people and I'm about 99% sure he's living with a woman.
romkey Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 25-Feb-2006 11:07pm  
There's a big difference between a peck on the lips and a french kiss.

Whether something is cheating or not also really depends on the agreement that the people involved have. For many people, extramarital sex isn't "cheating"... it's acceptable.
(reply to dadmastercode) posted 26-Feb-2006 12:05am  
There are many types of non-sexual kissing, including kissing your children, your parents, a dear friend, etc. Are we to include those types of kissing as well?
posted 26-Feb-2006 12:08am  
Ummmm YES........
posted 26-Feb-2006 12:15am  
What kind of kissing? Deep, passionate tongue down the throat kissing? I think that would be a tad innappropriate.
posted 26-Feb-2006 12:45am  
I don't see a kiss as cheating, but think it can lead to that. If it's a deep passionate kiss, then it becomes a trust issue. If they'll kiss someone else like that, what else will they do with them? If it's just a peck on the lips or check, then it's not a big deal.
(reply to Zang) posted 26-Feb-2006 12:51am  
> So a session of prolonged necking with your second
> cousin twice removed is okay? grin

This could explain why cousin Bobby John calls his father Uncle Dad.
posted 26-Feb-2006 1:50am  
Yes, of course it is... unless it's just a cultural thing where you do the 'welcome kiss' thing on the cheek. But passionate, more-than-one-second contact? Yes, definitely. Even if you don't sleep with the person, the intent is there.
(reply to ultamate) posted 26-Feb-2006 1:56am  
If you are living separately and are just waiting for the legal time limit to expire before you can sign papers, then go for it. When my first marriage (if you can call it that) went sour and we separated (because of his cheating and his attempt to hit me) I started seeing someone casually after a short while. He found out, and told me he didn't want me to see anyone until the divorce was final... what a f^c&ing jerk. rolls eyes
(reply to RGirl) posted 26-Feb-2006 4:13am  
You're half the European Union! wink
posted 26-Feb-2006 7:57am  
If it is kissing a family member, but kissing a "friend" that always knows the right things to say at the right time, yes i would
posted 26-Feb-2006 8:47am  
The last one! One thing leads to another.
posted 26-Feb-2006 9:49am  
Are you kidding me? Of course it's cheating. If my husband saw me wrapped up kissing another guy...he would think so too.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 26-Feb-2006 10:13am  
I like that,"attempted to hit me". You go girl! What did you do kick him in the balls? >smile Why should you have waited till the divorce when he couldn't wait for the separation? We have been separated a year and still have to wait a year (well six months now)!
(reply to romkey) posted 26-Feb-2006 10:21am  
you mean like Clinton's," I did not have sexual relations with that woman!" (It was just oral sex, that doesn't count as sex).
romkey Survey Central Gold Subscriber
(reply to ultamate) posted 26-Feb-2006 11:02am  
No, I don't mean anything like that at all. That was Clinton lying and being a weasal.
(reply to Amanda) posted 26-Feb-2006 12:38pm  
It could.
ElvisFan67 Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 26-Feb-2006 1:03pm  
It depends--as long as it's on the cheek, it's not.
(reply to ultamate) posted 26-Feb-2006 6:28pm  
No, didn't kick him, but I should have... he drew back with that look on his face, and instead of cowering and taking it like he most likely expected, I jumped up in his face and said, "Just you try it! See what it gets you!" He hesitated, and then backed off. I was pretty shy and quiet back in those days, and I think that really surprised him.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 26-Feb-2006 7:16pm  
Good for you! I had to take a few beatings, ok more than a few before I stood up and fought back. It's amazing how cowardly a woman beater really is if you just stand up to them.
(reply to ultamate) posted 26-Feb-2006 9:23pm  
I'm not sure if he would have 'become' a woman-beater, but I didn't want to find out. We separated soon after. Not to mention, he was sleeping with a stripper. He tried to make my life a drama for a little while, but I simply ignored him and moved on. Found out later he knocked up a girl and married her... they had a couple kids, and they separated recently. I know this because the girl he married is a cousin of a friend of mine... small world. Didn't know that until a few years after they married (all this is about 12 years ago). Anyway, I never heard anything about him becoming violent, but I know he has very little to do with his kids. Loser.... I'm glad I didn't have kids with him!!
(reply to cabinfever) posted 26-Feb-2006 9:31pm  
I'm glad you were smart enough to get away from him. That is sad about the kids.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 12:57am  
You go Cabbie! He sounds like a real PUNK! >frown
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:26am  
Oh, he is PA, he certainly is.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:28am  
What's PA?
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:36am  

BTW, been meaning to ask you, how did you come up with that user name? All this time I was thinking it was your name, and then I saw your user page!rolls eyes
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:41am  
I want it to be my name. Call me Pennyann- PLEASE! My min pin's name is Penelope, call her Penny. Her middle name is Ann. There is Anne, my girlfriend, but her's ends in an E. I'm going to have me & my dogs name legally exchanged. She can be Meghan, I'll be Pennyann. smile
I only just made my name visible on my user page. It's not like it was there the whole time so your good.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:42am  
You've called me PA before. I don't know why I didn't catch on.
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:46am  
Tha's allriiiight! We've had other things to think about here... especially lately. I'm glad I like my name. When I was a kid, my middle name I thought was dorky, but everyone else loved it, and it grew on me. I hope my daughter likes her name when she gets older. Her name means 'fair and beautiful' in ancient Celtic, so I hope she's okay with that.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:49am  
Yeah, but what is your name? Have you told me this before? I think Alannah is beautiful.
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 1:54am  

Thanks... when people asked us what we were naming our girl, we got several compliments on it. My family was a bit chagrined that it was so long. rolls eyes Tough crap, they don't have to sign it! And her middle name can't get much shorter.

(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:00am  
That is SO beautiful! For real, and I'm picky about names. smile
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:12am  
Not to brag.... okay, maybe a little...... but I had more than one woman say, "OH! That is so pretty! Wish I'd known that name when I was pregnant." Makes you feel good about the name you picked. Not like naming your kid 'Moon Unit'.... rolls eyes
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:14am  
Really. When I was born Meghan wasn't popular at all and my mom got a lot of compliments. Now there's a Megan or Meagan where ever I go, BUT my mom get picky about the spelling, the PROPER spelling.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:14am  
My oldest daughter's name is Alexandria. Alannah isn't long.
(reply to LindaH) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:23am  
Do you call her Alexandria or something for short?
My brother, Nick, was Nicholas until one day when he was about 8 he corrected my mom, 'No, I'm Nick.' And that was it.
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:23am  
My mom says my name wasn't around either when she named me... but when I was in fourth grade, there were six kids with the same name, or a form thereof. My poor teacher had to make nicknames or use shorts for us.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:25am  
I had a friend named Noelle. I always thought that was beautiful. AND the girl that got me in all that trouble, I loved her name, Mariah.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:26am  
We call her Lexie.
(reply to LindaH) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:26am  
That's what I told them! My name is longer. If I have another girl (not likely, but IF) I want to name her Natasha Christine. Long enough for them?? laughing out loud
(reply to LindaH) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:27am  
I like that. I would think it is kind of unique cuz most people would say Alex or Allie or something.
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:28am  
My husband wants a boy, and to name him Nicolas.
(reply to cabinfever) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:30am  
My oldest brother will always be 'Chuckie'. He's what, 40.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator
(reply to RGirl) posted 27-Feb-2006 2:32am  
When I was pregnant with her, I told a friend we would name her Alexandria. She said she had a friend everyone called "Lexie" and I thought it sounded nice. That, and there was this one kid where I used to work named Alexie, who was very huggy and sweet. So that settled it. laughing out loud
posted 27-Feb-2006 5:37am  
Crap grammar, crap options...
Other: It would totally depend on the kiss.
posted 27-Feb-2006 8:29am  
If I was the one doing the kissing then it would be fine, if it was my husband that would be a different matter.. raspberry
they Survey Central Subscriber
posted 27-Feb-2006 12:45pm  
posted 27-Feb-2006 8:16pm some cultures, it is considered polite for a man to kiss a man when greeting LOL Gotta love Ali G
posted 27-Feb-2006 8:32pm  
I'm not currently married, but I would never let my husband tell me I was cheating if I kissed family members. If he started pulling crap like that, he'd be out the door so fast his head would spin.
posted 27-Feb-2006 10:52pm  
Just plain no.
posted 28-Feb-2006 3:16pm  
nope. I know men who do it all the time.
FauxLo Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 1-Mar-2006 1:12pm  
check It depends on a lot of things... the intent behind the kiss and who initiated it (and how long the kiss lasts).
(reply to dadmastercode) posted 5-Mar-2006 12:22am  
Do you mean anyone besides my husband (if he was still alive)? Are you saying that I would be cheating if I kissed a friend of either gender or a family member. Do you honestly consider that to be cheating, too? If so, you're being exceedingly judgemental and narrow in your view of reality.
posted 21-Mar-2006 5:22pm  
Kissing has meaning behind it!!!!!!!!!
posted 24-Mar-2006 11:44am  
A person looking at another person in lust is considered a sin, so I guess kissing someone would constitute cheating.
(reply to FauxLo) posted 29-Mar-2006 3:04am  
> check It depends on a lot of things... the intent behind the kiss
> and who initiated it (and how long the kiss lasts).

On this we agree entirely.
(reply to Maarten) posted 4-Apr-2006 12:44pm  
Maarten, being drunk is not an excuse, maybe a reason...but taking it one step can be said having sex because you were drunk is acceptable...being drunk is no excuse.
posted 25-Apr-2006 8:35am  
What they dont know cant hurt them, just dont do it again.. On the other hand, if you fudgeed someone else then you should own up.
posted 10-May-2006 6:50pm  
yes and no because if its a friendly kiss the no but if its an affairable kiss then yes :D
posted 14-May-2006 1:46pm  
Yes, i consider it cheating. I am married and my husband has kissed another woman. There is no way of explaining how devastating it is unless it has happened to you. If a spouse kisses someone of the other sex, more then likely it has gone way beyond kissing to some extent. Most prostitutes don't kiss their clients. (at least that is what I've heard) Think about it, doesn't that say it all. Sometimes a kiss is much more intimate then sex or anything else. Been there done that.
posted 6-Jun-2006 11:03pm  
Any form of intimate contact like that is a break in your vows to love, honor, and respect your spouse.
posted 10-Jun-2006 6:07pm  
If I got married & my husband got upset because I kissed a friend or family member on the cheek, I'd demand that we both go to marriage counseling. That would be an indicator that there are some problems with my husband trusting me.
posted 14-Jun-2006 12:46pm  
Depends on the type of kiss
(reply to dadmastercode) posted 20-Aug-2006 2:27am  
You must be real fun to be married to if you think giving someone a kiss is cheating.
posted 22-Aug-2006 3:10pm  
Yes, of course it's cheating!
posted 12-Feb-2007 11:35am  
Being married means you made a vow to be intimate with only your spouse. No matter if you are fighting at home or having problems,unless there is an actual separation- kissing is cheating. Kissing is what happened first between your spouse and you. It was what brought you close. That hot, intense, heat should only be shared by your spouse.
posted 20-Aug-2008 5:28pm  
Depends on how deep that kiss is
posted 12-Mar-2009 4:29pm  
I've been with my wife for over 20 years and she has decided she no longer likes to French kiss. It has been YEARS (she won't even kiss when we make love) and I miss it terribly. I haven't kissed another woman since we've been together, but the thought of living the rest of my life without passionate kissing makes me sad. . . is it still cheating if your partner doesn't kiss you?
posted 25-Jul-2009 1:49am  
No, of course it is not

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