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How do you get over someone you love?

The pain of love lost is a pretty heavy thing to bear. Is there a secret to getting over someone you love? And you; how do you get over someone you love?


 


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gilibij
posted 5-Oct-2005 8:54am  
I don't think there's a secret. I think you just keep on loving the person, and you keep getting up every morning and facing life without them, and somewhere along the line you learn to enjoy life again.
Jody
posted 5-Oct-2005 9:58am  
You have to distract yourself - music, hobbies, friends, work, taking on new challenges. The pain dulls over time, but you have to distract yourself so you can tolerate it until it does. And, by the way, jumping into a new relationship to get over a lost love is seldom, if ever, a good idea.
FordGuy Survey Central Subscriber Gold Qualifier
posted 5-Oct-2005 10:38am  
Beer.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator Survey Qualifier
posted 5-Oct-2005 11:33am  
You could step over them, or you could just go around.

Just kidding. I've never been in this situation before. I guess I'd just move on/be strong for the sake of continuing to live a happy and productive life. That works for a lot of setbacks.
Enheduanna Survey Central Subscriber
posted 5-Oct-2005 11:48am  
Time.
mve17
posted 5-Oct-2005 12:28pm  
you never do
they Survey Central Subscriber
posted 5-Oct-2005 12:58pm  
I don't know.. I guess I can't answer this one.. If someone makes me feel this way.. why love them?
Maarten
posted 5-Oct-2005 2:15pm  
Getting totally wasted for days.
patarnone
posted 5-Oct-2005 2:18pm  
My dear friend had a saying that holds true after his death... "You can't turn off love."

I still love everyone I have ever loved. My best friend and soul mate might be married with someone else, but that doesn't stop what we have.

It's been a year now and when I talked to him on the phone the other day, I told him, "I think of you everyday." The sound of his voice when he said, "You do?" was totally awesome, and I could just see his whole face light up!

Love can be like that. I have no past loves, they all live in my present.

darkshadowsseeker
posted 5-Oct-2005 2:39pm  
Sometimes you don't. It depends on how deeply in love you are/were with them.
Scott
posted 5-Oct-2005 2:43pm  
You immediately start dating someone else (important note: the new person MUST be better looking than your ex) as a trophy and make sure your ex sees you and your new SO in public, laughing, holding hands, performing oral sex on each other, etc.

While this may not help you "get over" your ex, you should at least feel better knowing that you're rubbing their nose in your new found happiness (regardless of whether that happiness is real or not).

Oh, one last thing. Make sure that after homeroom you go into the boys bathroom and write on the wall what a lousy lay your ex is and that she uses her teeth when giving head. Then get one of your female friends to write on the girls bathroom wall how huge your cock is.

Ahhh, I miss high school
judgescratch
posted 5-Oct-2005 3:07pm  
Just wait it out.
jduPres
posted 5-Oct-2005 3:41pm  
If you love them deeply, you never get over them.
was_Frostbrand
posted 5-Oct-2005 3:48pm  
If anyone has the asnwer to this, clue me in please.
hypersky
(reply to patarnone) posted 5-Oct-2005 5:34pm  
"I have no past loves, they all live in my present."

That is so awesome...
dab
posted 5-Oct-2005 6:46pm  
I don't.
cloudhugger Survey Central Gold Subscriber
posted 5-Oct-2005 8:31pm  
All I know of is time. I don't think they have a pill for that one yet.
Amanda
(reply to Scott) posted 5-Oct-2005 10:04pm  
 * laughing out loud * Thanks for the laugh. I needed that. Wasn't high school an awesome time??
CGTREE
posted 5-Oct-2005 10:43pm  
Thats a hard one.....I think the only true way is to kill your self....but I wouldn't advise it....other wise I would be dead....
bcollins
posted 6-Oct-2005 2:36am  
I don't know. You're asking the wrong person.
verouge
posted 6-Oct-2005 2:38am  
No, you can't go over it, you can continue your life but not as nothing happened, you can't forget it..
pain of love would stay forever, unless it wasn't a love. Even another love would not make you get over the last one, it would stay forever with you.
I am not a negative person, in fact pain of love is the most beautiful pain, and with no pain of love your life would miss something.
caviartaste
posted 6-Oct-2005 7:48am  
I think that people have an amazing capacity to survive almost anything...especially emotional turmoil. Some of the best advice I've ever heard sounds harsh but works - and that is to "fake it till you make it"....meaning go on with your life even though you don't want to...get out of bed even though you don't want to...eat even though you dont want to....work, socialize etc...and eventually at some point you'll realize you've started to feel better. You won't realize when the change occurred but it will have happed when you weren't paying attention. If you obsess over the loss, your square focus on it, won't ALLOW you to go on with your life. In this way, it is very much like a death.
caviartaste
(reply to Amanda) posted 6-Oct-2005 7:51am  
>  * laughing out loud * Thanks for the laugh. I needed that. Wasn't high school an awesome
> time??

You just gave me a great idea for a survey.
autumnlight
posted 6-Oct-2005 8:05am  
There isn't a way, you just do. Avoiding them helps though.
Wackadoo
posted 6-Oct-2005 8:16am  
That's a complicated question. And I believe that the method of getting over someone is different for each individual and each relationship. Personally, my friends initially helped me out by getting me off the couch and feeling sorry for myself. From there we went out often to bars, shopping, dinner, etc. Eventually I started to get my self esteem back and it wasn't long after that, I met a wonderful person. I didn't stay with that person but it was the beginning of my realization that I was going to be okay.
Amanda
(reply to caviartaste) posted 6-Oct-2005 9:34am  
Groovy.  * wink *
LuridHope
posted 6-Oct-2005 10:13am  
Love is merely a chemical reaction in the body,
to elevate these chemical levels and feel "love" again
simply get involved in an intimate relationship with someone else.
cloudhugger Survey Central Gold Subscriber
(reply to LuridHope) posted 6-Oct-2005 10:46am  
uuhh, no, it isn't.
dilfreak
posted 6-Oct-2005 1:37pm  
Hmmmm, probably moving on and finding someone else to love
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator Survey Qualifier
(reply to was_Frostbrand) posted 6-Oct-2005 2:14pm  
Just don't let it prevent a happy, productive life. If you are productive and happy, you can think about it from time to time, but still consider it an 'oh well.' You are stll getting up in the morning, and still able to function and be responsible. That counts for something.
teatree
posted 6-Oct-2005 6:01pm  
You don't really. This is especially true if it was your child. You will always have memories of him.
cerealkiller Bronze Star Survey Creator Survey Qualifier
posted 6-Oct-2005 9:13pm  
People don't matter much to me so that isn't a problem. Go out and do hookers, find someone new, or just take a deep breath and enjoy freedom and being paroled.
luvmuffin08
posted 6-Oct-2005 9:37pm  
I do not think there is a possible way to get over love. I am having hugh problems over love and it is driving me insane. I do not want to get over love because I want to be with the person for ever. The person I am in love with I have love for 2 years and we are going through some tough times so we are trying to bear them together. That is my comment about getting over love.
gsummers
posted 6-Oct-2005 10:09pm  
man oh man.. good question. If you really love someone though, I dont know if you ever truly get over them... you just deal with and struggle with going on and accepting that that part of your life is over.. you live and you eventually fall in love again .. someday.. it will happen.. I still have good faith.. if you really were so in love in the first place, you just want to see that person happy.. its just a shame that it wasnt with you... but you cope and you live like theres no tomorrow, you love again, you enjoy life!
gsummers
(reply to cerealkiller) posted 6-Oct-2005 10:12pm  
hey killer.. nice to see you again on SC.. havent seen you in a while.. We have had our differences... but its nice to see you back!! Just wanna know how do you get your pic on the side there.. is that new? I dont know how to get there!!!!!
Enigma
posted 6-Oct-2005 11:25pm  
Getting over seems harsh to me. Certainly you learned from the person you loved and grew through your relationship. Pining for your lost love shouldn't go on forever!
cerealkiller Bronze Star Survey Creator Survey Qualifier
(reply to gsummers) posted 7-Oct-2005 6:26pm  
Click on "Customize" from the menu.
gambler
posted 8-Oct-2005 5:01pm  
Just Time really, I have been only really in love once before and I took a job 8000 miles away to get away from this kind of destructive love that is difficult to pull away from
iamdonte
posted 9-Oct-2005 6:30am  
By remembering that even if you love someone you have to do what is right and healthy for you. You have to love you first before you can truly love another.
darkroomdanny
posted 9-Oct-2005 4:14pm  
I imagine you don't ever really "get over it". But with time it may hurt less, maybe, I don't know. Keeping yourself busy, doing new things, meeting new people maybe? I imagine making time to feel crap and cry alot may help too, at first.
hypersky
(reply to gsummers) posted 13-Oct-2005 9:06pm  
"man oh man.. good question. If you really love someone though, I dont know if you ever truly get over them... you just deal with and struggle with going on and accepting that that part of your life is over.. you live and you eventually fall in love again .. someday.. it will happen.. although I havent had it seen it yet; I still have good faith.. if you really were so in love in the first place, you just want to see that person happy.. its just a shame that it wasnt with you... but you cope and you live like theres no tomorrow, you love again, you enjoy life!"


I really like your thinking on this. You have a knack for framing things, simply. I lost a major chunk of me a couple of months back, and getting over her has been (is, really) one of the toughest things that I've ever had to go through--ever. Your thoughts on this have made me realize that, yeah, the sun will rise tomorrow, I should get over it and carry on. And yes, I want her to be as happy as she can be.

Thanks.
Zang
posted 16-Oct-2005 11:40pm  
Get really really drunk. Be a pathetic drunk loser with your best friend(s). Cry. Tell them all your problems.

Not that I would ever do that, but it's worth a try!  * grin *
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 17-Oct-2005 2:15am  
Well now... It all depends on how you lost your love now, doesn't it? If I had lost Ben to another woman, I would have been devastated, enraged, hurt and etc... But having lost him to the netherworld, that's OK. I can deal with that. It's final, there's no hope of getting him back so I can move on. Otherwise, I'd live with the hope that he might come back to me.
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to FordGuy) posted 17-Oct-2005 2:16am  
> Beer.

 * laughing out loud * Fudging *cheers* man!  * cool smile *
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to they) posted 17-Oct-2005 2:17am  
> I don't know.. I guess I can't answer this one.. If someone makes
> me feel this way.. why love them?

A lost love can come from death too. So why not love them?

Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to hypersky) posted 17-Oct-2005 2:19am  
> "I have no past loves, they all live in my present."
>
> That is so awesome...


There is much truth to that!
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 17-Oct-2005 2:20am  
> No, you can't go over it, you can continue your life but not as nothing
> happened, you can't forget it..
> pain of love would stay forever, unless it wasn't a love. Even another
> love would not make you get over the last one, it would stay forever
> with you.
> I am not a negative person, in fact pain of love is the most beautiful
> pain, and with no pain of love your life would miss something.


Love does equal pain doesn't it? *sigh*
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to caviartaste) posted 17-Oct-2005 2:21am  
> I think that people have an amazing capacity to survive almost anything...especially
> emotional turmoil. Some of the best advice I've ever heard sounds
> harsh but works - and that is to "fake it till you make it"....meaning
> go on with your life even though you don't want to...get out of bed
> even though you don't want to...eat even though you dont want to....work,
> socialize etc...and eventually at some point you'll realize you've
> started to feel better. You won't realize when the change occurred
> but it will have happed when you weren't paying attention. If you
> obsess over the loss, your square focus on it, won't ALLOW you to
> go on with your life. In this way, it is very much like a death.

 * grin * I'm so alive!

Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to LuridHope) posted 17-Oct-2005 2:23am  
> Love is merely a chemical reaction in the body,
> to elevate these chemical levels and feel "love" again
> simply get involved in an intimate relationship with someone else.


"Intimate relationships" like in fudging? I can fudge without love - did it plenty of times too! I know what I'm talking about and love is something different...
they Survey Central Subscriber
(reply to Irene007) posted 17-Oct-2005 7:56am  
I'm touching wood as I type this... but haven't experienced that to answer for it....

It asked me how I get over it... and I think for me... love has been lost so gradually every time, that by the time it's completely and utterly lost, I'm cool with it.
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to they) posted 17-Oct-2005 8:07am  
> I'm touching wood as I type this... but haven't experienced that to
> answer for it....
>
> It asked me how I get over it... and I think for me... love has been
> lost so gradually every time, that by the time it's completely and
> utterly lost, I'm cool with it.


I've never lost a love that way... I don't know what it would be like - I met Ben when I was 19 and all relationships before that had never lasted more than 6 months, not enough time to fall in love.
they Survey Central Subscriber
(reply to Irene007) posted 17-Oct-2005 10:48am  
I was with my high school sweetheart from the time I was 14-20... I was with rod for 7 years or something...
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to they) posted 17-Oct-2005 12:50pm  
> I was with my high school sweetheart from the time I was 14-20...
> I was with rod for 7 years or something...


Who left who in both cases?
they Survey Central Subscriber
(reply to Irene007) posted 17-Oct-2005 1:18pm  
Both relationships disintegrated down to nothing first... I left the first one.... Rod and I agreed to split and he moved out... we'd been considering it for years, actually.
gsummers
(reply to hypersky) posted 17-Oct-2005 4:57pm  
I know what you're going through. (Take away love and our earth is a tomb.. )but as you know ..later on, it will be a part of your life's history.. a pain that won't be fresh and weeping like it is now, but just a scar. Hurts that we go through like heartbreak, family problems you just have to feel the pain, make that lousy pain work for you! and one day whats this? you're past it! pheww! When I was going through it, a friend of mine said to me that every tomorrow has two handles, we can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.. Luke, you will choose wisely. Use the FORCE... and Smile..  * smile *
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to they) posted 17-Oct-2005 6:31pm  
Doesn't it make it easier that way? If you've both grew weary of each other? I guess there's always some remaining doubt about the relationship... It's sounds complicated.
caviartaste
(reply to Irene007) posted 17-Oct-2005 6:56pm  
I love you, honey....and so glad you are!  * smile *
hypersky
(reply to gsummers) posted 17-Oct-2005 7:21pm  
I guess time does its job and we eventually move on. It's funny how just sharing this has helped me realize what, deep down I already knew--that I will get over her.

If you're okay with this, I'd like to make it my mission in life to have a beer with you someday. And Bubbles can join in, if he wants to. But no cats, please, I'm allergic...
they Survey Central Subscriber
(reply to Irene007) posted 17-Oct-2005 7:38pm  
I don't know..... it takes a lot out of you... and it's a waste of time...
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to they) posted 17-Oct-2005 11:54pm  
> I don't know..... it takes a lot out of you... and it's a waste of
> time...

You shouldn't look at it that way then you'd have to say that the whole relationship was a waste of time... Regardless of how it turned out, there had to be good times and you have to have learned something from the relationship?
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to caviartaste) posted 18-Oct-2005 12:04am  
> I love you, honey....and so glad you are!  * smile *


Love you too my little fish roe!  * wink *

It's funny though... I didn't feel any of those things that you described and I'm afraid it makes me sound callous but don't get me wrong; I loved Ben to death (literally too!), but I can't change what's happened so I look out to all the new doors that have opened for me now. My life has changed, for the better? Who knows? I'll do what I've always done, make the best of it!  * wink *
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 18-Oct-2005 2:45am  
> |> No, you can't go over it, you can continue your life but not
> as nothing
> |> happened, you can't forget it..
> |> pain of love would stay forever, unless it wasn't a love. Even
> another
> |> love would not make you get over the last one, it would stay
> forever
> |> with you.
> |> I am not a negative person, in fact pain of love is the most
> beautiful
> |> pain, and with no pain of love your life would miss something.
>
>
> Love does equal pain doesn't it? *sigh*
>

Of course it does, and that's why I don't try to fall in love again, or to "fall in love"..
You know, I think that love is the only thing that makes us feel "alive", and in the same time, love is all about getting used to someone listens to you when you want to talk, someone gives you when you wanna take, someone takes from you when you wanna give.. Love is about life..
I am not saying I don't believe in love, although I really don't believe in it, because without love we are nothing, but that love that we all wish to have (that ends by the most beautiful end, that is between two people) we all have it, and if we don't, we can make it!! It's not that perfect thing, it's nothing but a beautiful feeling that we want to make it perfect because we think it should be perfect..

(I don't want to make some SC feel like I am trying to put my ideas within your heads, it's just my opinion that I like to tell others about it)

"The greatest pleasure of life is love." William Temple
But it's not more than a pleasure...

Sorry, there was no need for all that speech, I like love, I am in love, but for me, love includes pain, but the problem is that although I love, I still can live without whom I love, so this weakens my love..

BTW, do you know the song "Faisons l'amour avant de nous dire aDieu"?? I heard it, in fact I have it on my PC and I like it very very much,
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 18-Oct-2005 7:40am  

> Of course it does, and that's why I don't try to fall in love again,
> or to "fall in love"..

That's something you can't control... *sigh*


>
> BTW, do you know the song "Faisons l'amour avant de nous dire aDieu"??
> I heard it, in fact I have it on my PC and I like it very very much,
>

Nope, can't say that I have!

Did I tell you that I sent the package yesterday? I sent a postcard at the same time, just to see what gets there faster...
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 19-Oct-2005 5:03am  
Really??? OH!! thanks dear, I would wait for it with pleasure!!!
Let's see which one is faster!!
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 19-Oct-2005 6:25am  
> Really??? OH!! thanks dear, I would wait for it with pleasure!!!
> Let's see which one is faster!!

There's no note in the package - my message is on the postcard! So if you get the package first, which I highly doubt, the words will soon follow!  * wink *
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 20-Oct-2005 2:23am  
So, if I didn't get the notes, I can do nothing with the package!!!  * frown *
And if I didn't get the package, I would not need the notes!!  * frown *
GEE!!It's so complicated girl, why don't you send them both together!! Why don't you come and give them by hands!!!  * smile * This would be really better!!!  * wink *
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 20-Oct-2005 6:35am  
I cost a lot more to send to Lebanon than a package - Méchant paquet!  * wink *
(That last part about the bad package is a local saying - Méchant as in "Tout un...")
gsummers
(reply to hypersky) posted 21-Oct-2005 5:29pm  
It's perfectly okay with me.. in fact I look forward to it. & I'll make sure the cat stays home... I promise.
hypersky
(reply to gsummers) posted 21-Oct-2005 10:32pm  
...okay then, it's a date (okay, so technically we haven't settled on an actual date or anything, but we agree that going out for a beer at some point in the future is a good thing). And I feel great about that!  * smile *
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 25-Oct-2005 2:08am  
AHA!!! Now, it costs a lot!!
Anyway, I wasn't at home when the card was here, but my mom took it from the post guy, and she liked it!!
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 25-Oct-2005 6:27am  
Oh! I guess she read it then eh?

Did I write anything vulgar?!?  * shock *
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 27-Oct-2005 2:26am  
hehe, now it's all perfect..
Elle a lu ce qui est en Francais, elle ne sait pas lire beaucoup en Englais.
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 27-Oct-2005 7:21am  
> hehe, now it's all perfect..
> Elle a lu ce qui est en Francais, elle ne sait pas lire beaucoup en
> Englais.


Phew!! *wipes brow*
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 28-Oct-2005 4:16am  
> |> hehe, now it's all perfect..
> |> Elle a lu ce qui est en Francais, elle ne sait pas lire beaucoup
> en
> |> Englais.
>
>
> Phew!! *wipes brow*
>

hehe..
Tomorrow, I will taste the syrup, tomorrow I will try to make the cake!!!
Irene007 Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to verouge) posted 28-Oct-2005 5:49am  
Be lazy - get ice cream and walnuts!!  * wink *
jojo_44dd
posted 28-Oct-2005 9:14am  
Love is something a person can not make happen. Love is uncontrollable!!! A person can make a lot of things happen but love is not one of them ... love happens on its own free will...
verouge
(reply to Irene007) posted 28-Oct-2005 6:38pm  
OK!!
kitti723
posted 28-Oct-2005 8:35pm  
Move away or kill them. No really just think of all of their bad qualities everytime they come to mind.
kitti723
(reply to Amanda) posted 28-Oct-2005 8:36pm  
No, high school sucked.
cabinfever
(reply to teatree) posted 30-Oct-2005 3:00am  
Oh, you had to bring up babies.... and suddenly, I was trying to envision my life without my little girl...I'm gonna go hug her and bawl now.
inlove2004
posted 31-Oct-2005 9:07am  
you dont ever get over loving some one because you used your hole heart in that and it hurts
xoaeroangel06
posted 4-Nov-2005 8:24am  
If you truly love that person than you never will stop loving them. BUT you can move on and learn to love someone else.
sam8988378
posted 5-Nov-2005 4:32pm  
remove all love songs from your hard drive, no love movies, no love songs on the radio, pharmaceuticals
jethroe1246
posted 8-Nov-2005 9:00pm  
I don't have a clue. I am 58 and had a much younger lover. The sex was terrific and the non sex was even better. She lit up my eyes. Today I got dumped and I have been crying like a baby. I feel no ill feelings toward her and would welcome her back with open arms (Damn, I am a sucker, huh). I have NEVER been in love this hard before. The end just came out of the clear blue. I had an old friend (male) come buy and we talked which helped alot. We made3 a date to play golf tomorrow morning. Golf helps me to relax. I have stopped crying. I read something beautiful the other day and sent it to her... "I wish I could return to this world as one of your tears... I would be born of your eyes, live on your cheek, and die on your lips" author unknown. I guess I will be okay. Just right now, I hurt so bad. Love never hurt this bad in all my life. I guess I need to leave the young one alone.
jojo_44dd
posted 15-Nov-2005 9:56am  
You never truly get over a true love
southernyankee
posted 18-Nov-2005 11:25pm  
Based on a few other people's expirences, usually anything that doesn't result in spending a night in jail or restraining orders should do.
morals
posted 20-Nov-2005 10:42am  
You need to meet new people.
docgbrown
posted 24-Nov-2005 6:57am  
You don't automatically get over them, but you DO move on.
FauxLo Survey Central Gold Subscriber Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 27-Nov-2005 11:24pm  
You REPLACE them with someone else.
gazblade
posted 4-Dec-2005 5:58am  
Big tub of ice cream and plenty of time. Never thought I'd get over my ex but 6 months down the line met the most amazing girl in the world. :)
shorty189
posted 25-Dec-2005 6:13pm  
It takes time.
RGirl
posted 27-Jan-2006 12:43am  
Don't. Keep the passion in your heart, but not with bitterness. Keep it with you as a part of your life. Keep it around for reflection later, but not with self pity.
ultamate
posted 29-Jan-2006 1:58pm  
Only time can heal a broken heart
busybaker
posted 26-Feb-2006 6:02pm  
Only time will tell and heal.
thecomic22
posted 27-Mar-2006 11:58am  
i heard an expression somewhere that went like: ''The best way to get over somebody old, is to get under somebody new'' that dont always work. it's fun, lol, but not what i would call a cure.
goofy34
posted 5-Apr-2006 10:19am  
You don't. You continue to love them in your own way and continue to let them know it.
eloradanan
posted 16-May-2006 3:08am  
I don't know.
LJD Gold Qualifier
posted 21-May-2006 9:09pm  
Time is the best healer. A true love will always have a place in your heart, even though you may move on. My first love, died at age 27, even though we parted earlier, he'll always have a place in my heart...I wish he had lived...never know what life would have brought....he was a good man.
ausfox
posted 9-Jun-2006 2:15am  
I don't think there is a secret, just time.
Oscar
posted 18-Jun-2006 6:24pm  
Time
ariannalorraine
posted 8-Jul-2006 11:45pm  
I don't think you ever do get completely over someone you love. I still love my ex-boyfriend, even though I know we couldn't be together, but I also don't let it prevent me from seeking new love. Every love is different, and it isn't so much a matter of replacing someone as it is a matter of seeing the difference between the two.
clare
posted 14-Jul-2006 6:23pm  
I don't have an answer for this.
Anderz
posted 22-Aug-2006 2:51pm  
I hope I will never have to.
donn
posted 1-Oct-2006 8:26am  
you do not.
number14
posted 29-Oct-2006 6:38pm  
Always remember that pain is necessary and suffering is optional
PinkZeppelin79
posted 12-Jan-2007 3:44am  
well.... i have a little story for this one.... when i was younger i grew up in the worst family and the only real connection i had was with my dad.... well a couple years ago he had gotten cancer and died.... my family grew worse and worse apart and seemed to blame all their problems on me.... i was the cause of everything.... well i had decided to kill my self.... i had planned out everything and before i did i had met this girl and she pretty much showed me i could live life again.... at the lowest point in my life she came and saved me....i thank god every day for her.... we were together for a year and a half..... during this time i had the best time of my life.... and i was getting to the point maybe shes the one for me.... and as it went on and on i didnt want anyone else except for her... so as our relationship moved on she started changing for the wrong reasons and treated me like crap.... well then one day she decides she just doesnt love me anymore and says goodbye.... and to this day i will never know what i did... i gave her everything and she just decides she wants to be alone and move on.... it rips ur heart out really.... well to best answer the question i would say go out and by urself a guitar.... it is honestly the best thing.... u feel good and dont think of anything except the music u think ur making is beautiful.... and i know i will think of her every day until the day i die.... and it bugs me to think that.... has anyone else been in some sort of situation i am in??? if so any solutions or advice...
ix3
posted 25-Jan-2007 9:59pm  
i completly understand what your going thru- if you all want to hear a ironic story please read this. i have a curse on me or something. When it comes to understanding the saying "what goes around comes around" im the one that understands it the best.

i met this girl 3 years ago thru my sister, she was unbeleivable. She was exactly what i wanted/ wjhat i thoguht the perfect girl would be for me. This also was going to be my first long term relationship. anyway we did alot together, she wanted to marry me, a year goes by, and i start to notice things about her that werent right, she became very controling, and all my firends were telling me to break up with her she doesnt treat you right, well what do you know i did, i told her im done its over, she was tough and said fine if thats how you want it. a week goes by and she calls me crying histerical, asking me this is really it? and she said oh my god you dont love me anymore? and i told her to go to bed. i hurt her so bad.

2 months later i noticed i made the biggest mistake of my entire life, i lsitened to my firend's rather then listening to my heart. so i call her to find out shes seeing someone, ill never forget hearing her tell me "what we had was good but it wasnt ment to be", i was just devistated, i was full of regret and hatred to my self

well now to the interesting part, a month later i meet this other girl, this girl was great, she was the nicest girl i ever met. But i already knew i wasnt too entirley into her as she was into me, i mean she was really in love with me. But i couldnt end it with her because being with her helped me get over my x girlfriend. so i dragged that on for 8 months and finally broke ujp with her. i will never again in my life use someone like that i sware to god, i felt like the biggest butt-hole,

anyway after ending it with that girl, i was in a store one night and i ran into my x girlfriend, seeing her for the first time again in over a year was so great, both of our eyes lit up when we saw eachother. and what do you know shes single, so we end up seeing eachother again. I WAS THE HAPpIEST PERSON ON EARTH. it felt like getting back with her was the happy ending to my dramatic life. It was so unbeleivable. Anyway ALL i have to say is this. For the past 7 months i treated like complete crap, i was mentally abused and treated like i was just a friend, after everything i did for this girl for the past 7 months (i mean i did everything you can think of, i did everything everygirl on this planet dreams of a man doing), she tells me she isnt in love with me anymore and shes sorry and that was it. Shes gone. After everything i been threw its over now. i tryed sooo hard, maybe too hard. Its ironic how i used that other girls to help get over my x, then i get back with my x and my X used me for 7 months and ended it with me. YUP THATS MY LIFE
Enigma
(reply to PinkZeppelin79) posted 28-Jan-2007 11:50pm  
Hmmmm....well stranger I might offer you some friendly advice but you haven't been on again since you posted this one comment...
graphite217
posted 31-Jan-2007 2:37am  
Honestly, I don't think shedding a poor light on the person you loved is the right thing to do. Though, it makes the feeling of you loving them slowly fade, it'd be a lie. Because, the things you love about them are so close to your heart, telling yourself that those feelings were a lie, would kill that part inside of you. Slowly, without noticing, your capacity to love as deeply as you did, dwindles, your heart shrinks and you begin to blind yourself to love. The remedy I've chosen to put space and distance between myself and the feelings that haunt me is to distract myself. If I start to focus on making my life beautiful and loving myself more my thought process will change and I won't keep running into this ghost everyday. Lost love is a flood, it's incapacitating and so much like a death. And even with death, time dulls the pain at least enough for us to believe in life again, and to believe that we can make it through when our world collapses.

I tried to tell myself that Jose was just a loser, and maybe I'd been blinded by his charm. I told myself that he was a horrible person to hurt my heart the way that he has, but each time I told myself these lies, I realized they were 'only' lies. And, I won't allow myself to believe them. So, I'm just going to believe the truth, that maybe we weren't meant to be and I have to let go of this beautiful picture in my head before I can finally see the one where it's just me, by myself, happy with myself. Smiling because I need to love myself as much as I want to be loved before I can allow my heart to love this way again.
crippin09
posted 26-Feb-2007 9:20am  
Well I need help in that area because recently the love of my life cheated on me and dumped me for that person but still claims to "love me" and said we need a break but i can't sit here and wait on them . I can't stand to see them with someone else. I want to move on but every time i try i end up on the phone calling them. PLEASE HELP ME SOMEONE!!!!!!!!!
crippin09
(reply to Amanda) posted 26-Feb-2007 9:23am  
I hate high school it's probably soooo much different than when yall were here.
Amanda
(reply to crippin09) posted 26-Feb-2007 1:04pm  
Could be. But, I'm only 24, so it hasn't been that long ago that I was in high school.
NenardJess
posted 11-Mar-2007 8:39am  
I think that the best thing to do is to keep loving them, you cant make yourself get over somebody. But to "get over" someone, means to forget them. You cant forget somebody you once loved. You should just cry when you need to, let it all out. Force a smile on yourself, And know that things change, and they happen for a reason. Something good comes from every bad situation, it may take a while to see the good in it, but in time you will.
pillowy
posted 21-Mar-2007 11:42pm  
I've just broken up with my girlfriend. We were going out for 9 months, and I was in love with her so much! But then she told me she doesn't love me anymore. Nothing comes close do describing how much this hurts. I mean, i'd read poems and seen movies about all this, but nothing comes close to showing what this feels like. I don't think i'll ever stop loving her, it's been a few weeks since we broke up, and I still feel miserable and I still love her. I don't know if there is a secret to getting over someone.. possibly just ride it out I guess. But.. I really want to know how she can stop loving me just like that, when I can't. Guhhh this is terrible. We don't have any ice cream in the house :( noooooo.
kommalmkhan
posted 9-Oct-2007 1:17am  
i have been in a relationship from past three years..in the beginning i wasnt sure about him...but as time went by, i started liking him more and more..not because of anything else but the fact that he was a nice human being..but from a past month or two, he has been acting strange..he is not the same person anymore..i feel like he is someone totally different..he has changed..before, he used to try his level best if we ever got into arguments..but now he doesnt even bother explaining his point of view or care to listen to mine...he has started yelling, swearing which he never ever did before..i feel like im sooo stuck...at this period of my life, i cant live with or without him:(..and i know that i will get over him if i try..but i dont want to..!!..IM SOO STUCK..i hate relationships!!!!
WindCriesMeri
posted 26-Oct-2007 12:16am  
I've had the hardest time getting over love; I am surprised at how many people here hold the same beliefs I have held since I first considered the possibility of "getting over love". I don't really find it possible, and I don't want to get over it. It hurts like mad; I miss him like mad, and I regret like mad the things that caused this. For me, there is only one choice: find the causes, and fix them, out of respect for our love, out of respect for him, out of respect for the mistakes I've made. Love doesn't cost; mistakes do.

I've never felt the desire to cause pain to someone who loved my love, until now. I don't understand it, except that I hurt so very badly, and am so very hurt by my thinking that I am unloved now. Which is ridiculous, of course. And I wish I hadn't thought the angry, spiteful thoughts I thought. Because he loves her, and is happy, and is well in loving her.

He never said he didn't love me. He just... doesn't want to be hurt. And I hurt him. I wasn't careful. Not with him, nor with myself.



packofcrayons
posted 14-Apr-2008 7:40am  
It is true that time is the only real healer in this - but that is not to say that positive thoughts and hope will not help along the way.

What you have to do is begin to understand the difference between reality and fantasy. The reality of the situation is that what has been has been - catch yourself thinking in the past.. grabbing hold of things they once said to you in hope that it means something now - you need to forget these and look forward. What is great though is that reality is also that you will one day experience the same and even stronger love than you have done this time around. With WHOEVER that may be.. it could even be the one you have lost love this time (if they are still around). The truth is YOU... DO.. NOT.. KNOW and all you can do is have hope and let time do the rest.

When you catch yourself thinking about this person.. stop yourself and refocus the energy on yourself.. this may be hard at first as all you want to do is think about them and you may feel that 'letting go' is just too much.. but when you realise that focusing on yourself is the ONLY choice to move forward.. and in fact the only way you will have the slightest chance of getting with someone else or even this same person again.

Use the time to improve on yourself.. this pain is taking up huge amounts of energy in yourself - take this energy - think big - and create a new more real and happy you.

And it is true also that you will never stop loving someone.. but you will.. over time.. be able to look at a photo of this person.. with warmth.. and smile that they are happy.. even though you are not with them. You can too.. with time.. still spend time together (although at first it may be advisable not to). This isn't goodbye.. it's just moving forward.

Best wishes to all in this situation.
lovesick
posted 25-Jun-2008 11:40am  
If time is going to heal everything then why am I not healed yet? It has been almost 3 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kirstii_oOX
posted 28-Jun-2008 5:49pm  
personally ii would say that yes there is a secret to getting over the person that you love but its only you who can figure that secret out, since everyone deals with pain a different way, some people like to talk about it and take each day as it comes others just seem too much on and just hide the pain.
i think that we never really get over love at first its just that we simply forget it and in some cases give our love to somebody else. When you loose the person you love the most it just feels like life is not worth living without them, i understand it all since i have been through it which is why im writing this now incase any lass/lad is reading now just to try and find an answer to get over that person. so heres what helped me and hope it can help you...

You have to take it at your own pace dont try move to fast move on when your ready to.
Think about what you want for yourself your the most important person so put that other person into the back of your mind and decide what is the best thing for you!!
Don't go running after the person if they cant see what a great person they allready have then they arnt worth your time and love someone whos loves you back and is totally devoted to you deserves it.
Try to keep yourself buisy do things that you really love doing and what you used to do before you met that person and keep with your friends :)
Most importantly smile and the whole world will smile back at you we were all born into this world to fight for ourselfs and to live our lives how we want to live it never let anyone bring you down and stop you from living the life you want they arnt worth it friends and family are the most important people they will see you through all your hurt :D
I really hope ive helped someone out there and all the best to everyone who has read this..x
:)
lovesucker111
(reply to kommalmkhan) posted 7-Sep-2008 2:22am  
Have u had sex with him? That might be y he's meaner to u.
Everyone I loved/liked I had huge feelings for them and intense longings to be with them.
I started feeling that way since kindergarten and I love/like multiple ppl at once.
I had a huge crush on a celebrity and as school started, I was so busy I got totally over him.
Ppl long for love becuz they think it's going to be the happiest pleasure on earth. Well it's only gonna last for a few years and u get sick of it. Also that person will change as time goes by,for example their beauty might fade, events in life might change their character and by the time these things start to happen, you've already done everything exciting with them enough (sex, cuddling, hobbies etc) and that huge longing for those things will go away cuz you've alreadydone it enough. not only that u will know things about them that r displeasing to u, snobbish, or disgusting. love is just a tease, the only pleasure is fantasizing. fantasizing is controlled by u and nothing negative comes out of it. Also think of yourself as better than them and realize that they dont deserve this kind of praise. If they dont want u, u might as well say i dont want u either becuz u will be happier being the heartbreaker with someone worse than ur love/crush than be the heartbroken. Just forget about love and find other distractions that r a lot more worthwhile and might eventually lead to the other way around, u r the heartbreaker and finding a lover will be waaay easier. since I'm just a student right now, I have endless goals to reach my dream life and only a couple of years of suffering is needed. Credits to my mom lol.
panab
posted 14-Sep-2008 8:42am  
There is a lot to say on this topic, but I would say the two primary things you need to do in order to get over someone is

1) Accept the situation. If you're fighting the situation emotionally, if you have some resistance to having things be as they are, you just remove your ability to do anything about it. It's like being on a boat that's taking in water. Not accepting it would be like "WHY IS THIS BOAT TAKING IN WATER????" instead of realizing that this boat is taking in water, and acting through the frame of acceptance.
2) The second thing that is really important is to realize that you WILL get over it. Time heals everything, we all know, but realizing that any feeling you have now, whether good or bad, will pass eventually.

There's also a pretty good site on this topic, It's called Get Over Love, you can check it out if you want to read more articles on the topic.
angelofgodsgrace
posted 29-Sep-2008 12:39pm  
wow reading all this stuff...saddens me but cheers me up at the same time. I can honestly say that I am in love with sum1 who doesnt love me...i didnt want to say it cuz my heart is fragile, but it wont lie. I am suffering knowing that the person is so close to me...but that there is no chance. It stings like no other pain I have felt. This person is really special to me. He is everything I am lookin for in a guy. I think we wud b great but he jus does not c me in that way. It is literally killing me inside. My heart is slowing torturing itself bcuz of my feelings for him.

I am so glad that sum1 posted this bcuz I was going crazy looking for the answer. Hearing all these opinions and stories made me realize-yes, I am in love with him...but I MUST move on. I must. If I dont, it will just be emotional torture from there. Time really is the best healer...yea it will hurt...but eventually the pain goes away. It might be awhile for me....but I know im strong. All ppl have the will to survive.
risingroad
posted 22-Oct-2008 6:47pm  
I have been through some pretty touch times in my life and have a lot of great friends and feel pretty good these days yet almost 34 years ago I dumped the man I should have stayed with and loved deeply for another. At that time I just didn't feel worthy of him though he was wonderful for me and I had very little skills with love coming from a economically depressed town. Recently I wrote him a letter telling him how much I appreciated him and how much I loved him back then and realizing that people change said this wasn't about reconnecting, just looking for release from this on-going memory and wondering. I don't expect to hear back from him... it was really about releasing and telling him how much I cared for him and how great he is. The sad thing is that I am still thinking of him more than ever though I know it isn't healthy. I haven't been in a relationship for over 10 years yet have been married twice (am single now). I guess it will just take time after the sending of the letter that I was truly looking to end this "unfinished business" I thought I had finished with long ago. I just wish the dreams would stop. Is this mistake I made and not ever talking to him about it afterwards the reason I have yet to meet someone who truly clicks with me? I thought I was all grown up. I guess we never grow up over a lost love. Sigh. Normally, I am a very happy person.
LindaH Silver Star Survey Creator Survey Qualifier
posted 27-Oct-2008 11:23pm  
Does this survey come up when people type this question in a search or something?
littlekie
posted 12-Feb-2009 3:15pm  
I'd been with my boyfriend for 3 years in. all three have been really hard but I hung on because I love him so much. in this time we have split up and got back together more times than I can count. The first time we split up was because he had slept with his ex when he was with me and she had fallen pregnant (he made the split not me). he couldn't decide between being with me and being there for the baby. He told me never to go back to him twice and twice I stupidly tried to move on to quickly met other people then broke it off because I couldn't be with them all I ever thought about was him. Even though he told me to go away for good he thinks I cheated on him (I wasn't going out with him he finished it with me). I would never cheat on anyone my dad did this countless time to my mum and I would never ever do that to anyone after seeing what it did to her. We managed to get though the above but not before he text me pictures of other naked women that had been texting him. Stupid as it may seem I still loved him and my love for him really knows no boundaries because I still loved him through all of this and I took him back. I have no friends because he was and is everything (plus I couldn't have male friends it would make him think I was going to cheat on him, like bloke stuff so I generally get on with men better). I have put everything into my relationship with him we don't live together but I would look after his house when he asked me round and look after my own too. he never had to cook dinner or clean. I have never really had a special birthday, Christmas or valentine day with him he would always forget and left everything to the last minute which meant I would normally get a bunch of flowers and a card from the garage and nothing else. This year was the best I didn't even get a Christmas card even though we spent Christmas together. His son will be two in April and since he has been born I have never been allowed to see him because his ex doesn't like me. I understood maybe she was wary at first being her first child but almost two years on I was still not allowed to be with my partner every other weekend which is when he has him. I asked last august for my partner to sort this out and he said he would. but he still hadn’t even up to when he finished with me and a week ago I asked why and he said it was because he didn't think it was that important. I did and tried to do everything he asked if he wanted time alone I’d give it to him he asked me not to ring him as much so I didn't I even told him when I’d ring so I could make sure that was ok (once in the morning, at my lunch and on the way home to ask him if he was coming over so I could work out what to do for dinner). I did everything. all I asked for was for him to sort out so that I could have a normal life with him and be around him when he has his son and could he show me that I was important to him. (apparently according to him just being with me should of been enough. He would ignore my texts allot when I would ask him something simple like was he coming over (I only wanted to know this because if he wasn't I might of gone to see my mum or brother etc.) his favourite excuse for not replying was he forgot. He would ring me have to go then say he'd ring me back and disappear for 8-9hrs at a time. the best one was we were going to have a romantic evening and he upped and went to help a mate who lost a key 117 miles away and forgot to ring me to tell me and left me not knowing what had happened to him. I would of understood him going what I couldn't understand was the forgetting to tell me when we had made plans. Anyway I did everything, everything he asked I tried to do. all I asked for was to be made part of his life properly and to be showed he loved me not just being there. I understand relationships are hard work I understand that compromises have to be made but where were mine? he told me driving over to me when he did was and that he didn't have to do that (so was that his compromise, was seeing me a compromise). When he finished with me he told me he still loves me and will always care about me. But about an hour afterward he text me and said he couldn't sleep and was I ok. (ok yeah just great...NOT!). He keeps on texting me, yesterday he text me in the morning telling me to be careful on the road and then he phoned me at lunch time to see how my day was (I can‘t even remember if he had ever done this when we were going out)!???? today he has only text me once just to say 'I hate this I love someone and we don't get on I wish it wasn't like this'. I can't talk to him I hurt so much I couldn't even go to work today I feel dead and hollow inside. he wants to still be friends. but how can I ever get over him (he said he wants to move on with his life not me) or be friends with him when I still want to be with him? I know he hasn't been the best person and I have been really unhappy (not all of the time though) when I was with him but I love him. I really love him I know I do, I was in a relationship for 6 years before I met him (I had been single for a year) and I knew I didn't love that person so we finished it. on very good terms too but I gave up everything and just walked away. I can't do this with this guy he is like my blood and without him I can't function properly. I don’t know what I did wrong, I know he will never want me back but how do I move on. He won't leave me alone and I don't want him to even though I know that is what I need to do to be able to move on myself.

Sorry this is so long and sorry if it also doesn't make any sense just all came out and I can't type as well as I can talk.

By the way when I met him he was never like what he is above and he is the only man that make me feel like I want children no one else. I know I love him I am/was different with him to how I have ever been with anyone else I really wanted it to work. I would give anything.
Bitesize_Oreos
posted 11-Apr-2009 4:00am  
To be honest, love never goes, its something that's always going to be there with you, and it hurts, I mean really hurts, The fact you were so used to doing things together, have someone that knew you inside out, your dreams, thoughts and was able to look after you when your ill or down, then when it's gone your left thinking, all of what we had, has now gone. So much you put into it so much you felt and have done with him/her, love is a scary thing, we seem to fall easier then we lead on, some people want to be strong but still give in, But when love's there, grasp it and don't let go, its the best thing and brings out the best in everyone!
Well that's my rant done! Thankyou
helper1
posted 23-May-2009 12:40am  
Well to get over someone is really hard but with support from familys and family its very easily just gotta keep your self busy and don't do stuff that makes you think about that person i been thru it and in the beginning it was very hard and when i look back i relize that i was pretty dumb for beening sad all the time.. well what im try to say its just give it time
zecevicleila
posted 26-May-2009 11:35am  
About 4-5 months ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. When we first started dating- he seemed really nice, and honest. But I guess he obviously isn't. He is leaving for basic training (army) this summer around June. And he told me when we broke up that he didn't want to date because he was leaving for the army and because he was really in love with this girl named Katie... well, I go to the same school as he does. He's 18, now. And just recently this past week, I've noticed him with this girl- her name is Jessica...well guess what - that's not Katie! He lied to me about the army thing AND about Katie. He's being such an ass. For some reason we don't talk at school...probably because I'm too scared? I don't know, the point is that- even with him and I not talking I miss him every single night. and every single time i look at my house, i remember us watching movies and playing tag and just hanging out, It's like hard to be in my room. I think that if he just apologized to me.. I might be able to get over him? because i wouldn't be so hung up on the fact that he doesn't care about how I feel...I'm not sure if that makes sense. I only have about another 3 weeks with him in school, but next year (september) I've got a lot more time with him, and I just don't know what I'm going to do.





I hate Jessie >:[
Gomezy3k
posted 5-Jul-2009 3:32pm  
Find someone else.
sad
posted 21-Aug-2011 2:00am  
Well this is something I am dealing with. I decided to FINALLY end a serious 11 yr relationship. I spent 11 years dreaming that he would love me the same way I loved him. I finally GOT IT in my head that HE NEVER WILL. Painfully I broke it off and he immediately moved far away. We ended as friends and said our sad good-byes. I never cried so hard in all my life! It felt worse than if he had died because I knew I'd never see him again, but he was still alive. We don't really keep in contact much. An odd brief and shallow email just to let each other know we are alive. He was very close to my family and we were very close friends so the part that I find the hardest is the loss of his friendship. I didn't just loose a boyfriend of 11 years I lost my closest friend who knew me inside and out and I always counted on his advise. I am sure most of you reading this are wondering why I broke up...well sometimes love isn't enough! There were many reasons but one was trust and the anger I felt toward him because he betrayed me 3 times and continued disrespecting me in different ways. I loved him with ALL my heart but I had to take a jagged knife and cut my own heart out to move on and find the true love I knew I deserved. Now I am dating a wonderful guy. He is exactly what I have always wanted. I am extremely happy with him. It still doesn't erase the feelings I feel for my ex. True love is forever. When you truly love someone I believe you always will. Doesn't mean I don't love my new boyfriend, I love him with all my heart!!! But this relationship is new and it will take time to grow deeper. For me it's a daily decision to love myself more than I love my ex. Everyday I look at my new boyfriend and I see how lucky I am to have found such a wonderful loving man. Now, I have the man of my dreams but even at that I still have emotions of sadness "at times" of the person I miss who played a big part in my life for over a decade and who was my friend. I don't want to have him back, nor do I want anything sexual with him ever again, but I still miss the friend I had in him and I still love him and always will. I think it will only be time that will heal the loneliness I feel for his friendship. It will also take a long time to get over my disappointment. I dreamed for 11 years to have what I have now but with my ex so it's just a re-adjustment, but it takes time. My boyfriend now is helping me. We talk about how I feel and he pours his love on me. He is my angel. He is helping me move on and he helps me understand I deserve so much more than what I had settled on for so long. Normally I don't recommend a new relationship as soon as I found mine but My ex and I broke up numerous times for long periods of time and I already had moved on quite a bit before the final break-up. Finding someone very special has helped me finally let go completely once and for all. Now I just have to wait it out. Time will help me get used to him being out of my life but I will always have a special love in my heart for him because my love is real! My future is so much brighter now than before because I can love my boyfriend deeper since it's safe to love him. I know in a year or two my heart will be totally fine. I also know I will still love my ex but it will change and I won't miss him anymore. Just knowing he is doing well will make me happy and that will be enough. I believe that in our next life all these things will be repaired. This life is short and temporary and we just need to accept and love even our ex's for who they are and let them go with love. I know how hard it is and hope my experience has helped you.
Jermyan9880
posted 25-Sep-2011 11:47pm  
I'm at a loss....I'm 21 yea I know i can get someone eles and i'm sure i will but in the mean time I don't want anyone...I think of her nearly every min of the day and we've been over for almost a year....she never loved me the way i loved her but still...I had devoted evey moment of my life since I was 14 to her....nothing helps and nothing makes me happy....idk what to do anymore....
Sexycladyc
posted 22-Sep-2012 8:36pm  
I feel the same way we haven't been together for 4 yrs but I love him so much he's married.. He hates me for no reason.. I guess there is no way to get over someone u love so much
Biggles Bronze Star Survey Creator
(reply to LindaH) posted 19-Oct-2012 8:29pm  
Third hit when I type "how do you get over someone you love" into Google without the quote marks, second with the quote marks. So I guess they'll keep on coming!
Sarah2010
posted 29-Oct-2012 5:33pm  
I have been inlove with this guy I dated very briefly but still can't get over him. I have since been in a relationship (still am) with someone else for over 4 years. How do I get over the old guy. Its been 5 years and still I think about him all the time.
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