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At what age should a child begin to visit their doctor without a parent in attendance?

This is about the actual doctor's visit. Transportation should not be a consideration. If the parent waits in the car or the waiting room and doesn't see or speak to the physician, it would be considered "not being present". Assume this is an "average" child in every way and that they haven't expressed any particular interest in seeing their doctor alone.

2Before they are 12.
0Over 25.
1When they don't live with their parents.

posted 11-Jun-2004 1:52am  
I don't understand the question. Is the Dr. trying to force them to go alone? is the parent? Does the child care?
posted 11-Jun-2004 2:33am  
There is no "average" child. Personally I would expect my children to ask to see the doctor alone at some point. I would imagine that most would want to see their doctor alone by the time they are 12 or 13.
posted 11-Jun-2004 3:50am  
I think unless there was something wrong, that around the age of 14 when I went to a family physician instead of a pediatrician
(reply to kirst) posted 11-Jun-2004 3:50am  
yep...pre to early early teens
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posted 11-Jun-2004 5:13am  
Other.. When they are ready.
bill Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 11-Jun-2004 5:54am  
I would think a parent would want to know, and would naturally be there as they are prone to give them a ride. I guess I could see where it might be good for the child to go alone if they needed to ask the doctor about something and might have been to embarrassed to ask in front of their parents.
posted 11-Jun-2004 7:52am  
Ask the kid. There's your answer. As you can see, it will most likely be different for everyone.
posted 11-Jun-2004 8:09am  
posted 11-Jun-2004 9:00am  
When they get a drivers license and a car.
posted 11-Jun-2004 9:39am  
It really depends on a child. I started when I was 13. I begun visiting doctor on my own accord (you know, schedule my own appointments and get there by myself) when I turned 15. I think it really depends on the health situation of the child.
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posted 11-Jun-2004 9:55am  
I'm going with 13, as sort of an average puberty-type age. I don't really have that much of an opinion on this, and I think it would differ from case to case. I can't remember when my mother stopped coming in the room with me.
jettles Survey Central Subscriber
posted 11-Jun-2004 11:07am  
i'd say in the teens somewhere.......... maybe 15? i think a mom should be there for the first gyn exam and then not. and boys, i guess 14 or 15. or whenever they become sexually active. i do think that the parent should still speak with the physician. if this is completely no interaction with the physician or extender then it should be legal age: 18.
posted 11-Jun-2004 11:39am  
when they move out or otherwise pay for it themselves.
Biggles Bronze Star Survey Creator
posted 11-Jun-2004 11:55am  
I would say at 18 there's no need for the parent to be there. But there's nothing wrong if you want your parent(s) there. Under 18, there may still be things you don't want your parent to know. I 16 year old shouldn't be turned away if they go to the doctor because they want to go on the pill for example.
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(reply to thevelvetcure) posted 11-Jun-2004 11:58am  
Why would you go to the doctor *unless* there was something wrong?
posted 11-Jun-2004 2:09pm  
18 or when the don't live with their parents.
(reply to Biggles) posted 11-Jun-2004 2:11pm  
*shrugs* you got me, but I had ADHD, and because of that I had to have a check up at least twice a year, and I also had a heart murmer as a child. I wasn't a sickly child otherwise.

I've been paying insurance for 3 yrs now, and have yet to go to the doctor on my own, the only time I've gone was b/c of a on the job injury smiley:::wry smile
posted 11-Jun-2004 5:54pm  
I can't possibly answer. Because especially for girls it depends on when they get their period. An average child I would say 11-12, but it depends. if it's a psychiatrist even before.

posted 11-Jun-2004 6:09pm  
13 - if they feel comfortable.

Kids are different though and each develops at their own level so you can't really apply an age to it.

I was fine going on my own at 13 but my younger brother probably felt more comfortable going with my Mum until he was 16.
(reply to heyzeus1) posted 11-Jun-2004 8:34pm  
I brought my daughters to every single visit to the doctors until they were 18. They just felt safer with me around. I miss
(reply to EddieT321) posted 11-Jun-2004 9:38pm  
i dont remember ever going to the doctor without my parents while i lived with them. of course they were poor, so i almost never went anyway.
posted 13-Jun-2004 2:57pm  
I don't see a problem with before 12 UNLESS the child wants the parent there or the doctor wants the parent there. If the child is having a physical for next school year, for instance, I don't really see the need. If the child has a disease that calls for special care, of course the parent should be there. If the parent wants specific questions answered . . . would depend on the child. Can the child reasonably be expected to get the answers or should the parent go in specifically to ask. This is one of those questions that there are too many variables, but I guess if I was the parent, the sooner the child learns to cope independently the better.
posted 13-Jun-2004 6:55pm  
12 would be the perfect age.
(reply to heyzeus1) posted 17-Jun-2004 4:37pm  
It goes deeper than that.
(reply to EddieT321) posted 17-Jun-2004 5:06pm  
what do you mean?
(reply to ASB) posted 18-Jun-2004 12:49am  
No one is forcing anyone to do anything. As I stated in the explanation: "...they haven't expressed any particular interest in seeing their doctor alone.".

The idea was that most people, at some stage in their life, will begin to see their doctor alone, without their parent present. I was curious at what age people thought that should happen.

It was also a reaction to something Kate said in qualification, over another survey which didn't qualify. She expressed shock at a hypothetical situation where a 16 year old boy went to see his doctor without a parent present.

I don't think I had a parent with me at the doctors after I was about 13.
(reply to kirst) posted 18-Jun-2004 12:51am  
I agree that there is no "average" child. I just wanted to avoid a lot of answers like "It depends...".
(reply to Zang) posted 18-Jun-2004 7:36am  
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(reply to Zang) posted 19-Jun-2004 4:21am  
I can understand that. I would expect my kids to specifically tell me that they want to see the doctor alone, though.
(reply to heyzeus1) posted 19-Jun-2004 12:53pm  
The doctor isn't the point, but my daughters feeling safe is. Soon they associated feeling safe with me, their father. They are grown now. I wonder, when I see them ,now, as adults, if they still see me as safe. I hope so.
(reply to EddieT321) posted 19-Jun-2004 4:34pm  
why wouldnt they?
(reply to kirst) posted 22-Jun-2004 2:54pm  
So if they're still living with you when they're thirty, you'll still accompany them if they don't suggest otherwise? smiley:::grin
(reply to Zang) posted 24-Jun-2004 8:24am  
AAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH! That is too scary to contemplate!!!!
(reply to kirst) posted 24-Jun-2004 10:34am  
My specialty! smiley:::grin
(reply to heyzeus1) posted 25-Jun-2004 7:40pm  
I traveled a lot (in the sales industry) and was away from I know they missed me and wanted me to change my place of employment. But I had a family to feed. Even though I was away, I always let them know they were in my thoughts. I hope they remember that, now.
posted 26-Jun-2004 9:01am  
It depends on the child. If they want to go in alone, fine. If it's just a general check up, 14-15 probably. But, if it's for something more serious, then they might want their parent with them.
I've had my Mom in the doctors office with me in my 20's!
posted 30-Aug-2006 8:37pm  
No right answer. Parents should stop going with their child into the exam room when it stops being beneficial to the child. It all depends on what is wrong with the child, how mature they are,
and how good they are at communicating with the doctor.

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