How do you feel about one-night stands?

I don't know. I've never had one. The idea doesn't appeal to me at all. It seems so...cheap...tawdry...demeaning. It just isn't the sort of behavior that befits a gentleman.

Damn! I created this survey with the sole purpose of feeling you out on the topic. I'm so disappointed!

I had one in my late teens. It was okay, but it's really not my speed. I think it's fine for other people, as long as they are honest with each other about what's happening...and don't forget the condoms!

i've had some great one-night stands, although i prefer sex within a relationship.

They can be fun if everyone involved understands it is just a one night stand.

They're great. I also like one afternoon stands and one evening stands especially when I don't even get to know the womans' name.

Not my kind of thing.

I don't see any problem with them as long as they're within the relationship agreements of all the people involved, you play safe, and you're emotionally mature enough to handle it.

why bother to spend the night?

not getting the other person's name definitely helps avoid the "why didn't you call me???" problem

I am happily married and would never sleep with anyone but my husband.

i think it's ok as long as both parties understand that that is all it is and safer sex is involved....

why is this anonymous?

They are fine but I am not a great fan!!

It also cuts out the chit chat during sex, as does her blowing me.

I discovered (somewhat to my surprise) a few years ago that I don't really enjoy them. But I don't object to them on principle, and I think it's fine if other people want to have them.

They're great if you want to screw a person that you know is definitely not your type--or that you don't get along with them that well--as long as you're attracted to them. It's fun, and you're single and young, so who cares? But they can become quite a nasty habit. My friend is practically addicted to them. Whenever I'm out with her I always feel like she's scoping out every guy in the place. It gets pretty uncomfortable at, like, the zoo!

Not for me.

In theory I'm all for them. I certainly had my hayday and all that. In practice, these days, I'm pretty picky. If I find I like someone enough that I'm interested in sleeping with them, then I tend to want to keep in touch with them as well.

It makes me feel very bad to think of the situations leading to and reasons surrounding such behavior. I suppose if both people can do that, be safe about it, not feel bad afterwords, and have it not conflict with their other interpersonal relationships, then there isn't anything wrong with it. But... how often is THAT the case?

Oh, yeah, Romkey makes a good point too-- add in 'And they are of a reasonable level of emotional maturity' as another qualifier on my previous comment. Sex+Emotionally weak young girls=Bad.

sex+emotionally weak anyone=bad

I had sex with my wonderful man on our first date, I love him so much, we were together for 1 year and 2 months, I broke up with him on Sunday but we are now getting along great and are still friends. But I do miss him.
Anyway, I didn't expect anything from him after we had sex on our first date, it just happened to turn into more. All the other people I have slept with had to devote their lives with me for at least a good period of time before they got to even see my goods.

Even on a one night stand I cant imagine sleeping with somone I wasn't considering for a relationship.

I think it's a dangerous choice to make with all of the std's out there. I also think that sex is supposed to be something beautiful and an expression of your love for one another, whereas a one night stand portrays your lust for each other or your own selfish passions.

With smooth massaging hands.

That's not my style, but if it okay with the people doing it, it's their choice.

I like to imagine other people having one night stands........and stuff

and stuff? nude waterballoon fights in supermarkets?

I'd feel incredibly demeaned and cheap at the end of it all, most likely. I slept with someone the first time I met up with them, but it was because we got along and were the same type...> Not a one night stand if it ends up going on past 3 months, eh? And yet I still feel bad about the fact that I'm not more protective of my body... But didn't Morrissey sing 'give in to lust, give up to lust, oh, heaven knows we'll soon be dust'?

whatever!

Plenty of movie and video games say 'kill all humans' too. Don't go blaming Morrissey.

...and junk

i belive that god dislikes them and so do I

i did it once and wont do it again

I wouldn't do it, but to each is own. I just hope they use protection!

Ahhhh...the good old days when one-night stands weren't so fraught with peril (incurable STD's 'n stuff). You kids missed all the fun! Now I only date regular blood donors. So much for one-night stands since the odds are I'm gonna run into them again at the blood bank.

Ha. What a riot. I'm celibate and healthy but they turn me away from blood donations on looks alone.

Looks alone? That calls for an explanation. Do they seriously do that? If so, what makes them think a person's outward appearance has anything at all to do with their ability to donate blood? I'm sorry to hear they do that to you, blood is scarce enough as it is without cutting off a potential donor.

It's harsh, but I can just about see their reasoning. Do they question you before they turn you away (they should) or do they just point to the exit?

Yep, looks alone. Being transgendered in appearance, they automatically put you in a high risk category no matter what you explain otherwise.

see above reply.

Hon, that's just a damn shame. Blood is blood, your appearance is irrelevant. Their loss!

That sounds kind of illegal to me.......Like I said, they have a point but unless they question you regarding your lifestyle, etc. their point is just prejudice. Maybe the system is different in the US though because health care (and thus, presumably the blood transfusion service) isn't nationalised like it is here (so they don't have to stick to the same rules).

Do you know what blood group you are?

A+. I donated blood once back in highschool. and tested it in 7th grade science. Ever since then, long before a hint of gender change, there was always some reason they turned me down like having had my ear pierced a few months prior or something.

Strange.......Maybe they found something in it that's likely to cause a transfusion reaction. Maybe you have unusual and strong antibodies! (Sorry, getting over excited here - I've spent the last week and a half trying to get hold of blood with strong antibodies and screening it, I'm getting a one-track mind!)

You're looking for blood with storng antibodies? Please explain. Actually I'm fairly certain I do have strong antibodies. I don't worry much at all about my exposure to things (other than STD's). I'll eat just about anything, yet I seldom ever get sick. I also regenerate from accidents quite well.

I got a science bursary from Nuffield (available to Y12 students here) so that I could work on a research project this summer. Most people are working in higher education (with university lecturers) but you can work in industry too. I wanted to do a genetics project but I couldn't get anything with that. It was kind of last minute and I needed something so my Dad offered me a project that he wanted doing. He works for the National (UK) Blood Service. There are only a few centres in the country and his is the one that is supposed to look into Gm allotypes. On the heavy chains of Immunoglobulins - antibodies - there are constant and varying areas. The structure of the varying areas results in five different types of Ig - IgG, IgA, IgD, IgE and IgM. On the constant area of the IgG are slight variations. These are known as Gm allotypes. The Gm allotypes are antigens, they stimulate the production of antibodies. It is possible that they could cause transfusion reactions. There hasn't been much research into them since the 70s so there's a lot to work on. I've been screening donor samples from women who are 40+ because these are most likely to have IgG antibodies as IgG crosses the placenta and women of that age are likely to have had children. If the serum samples contain strong antibodies to IgG - and to specific Gm allotypes - they can be used to screen for Gm allotypes. So, I'm looking for good reagents. I also happened to observe by chance that agglutinations between Gm allotypes and their corresponding antibodies seemed to occur less frequently during hot weather. I thought this may be due to chance but I'm looking into it further anyway. It seems no-one has done research specifically into the effect of temperature on reactions involving these reagents. It is possible that only certain antigen/antibody reactions occur at body temperature. Preliminary tests suggest this may be the case.

I'm really sorry if that didn't make much sense. I understand what I'm talking about but I've only been working on it for a short while and I haven't quite got it to my fingertips! It's especially difficult when you try to write it at a different level to that which you learned it (I'm not suggesting that it needs dumbing down for you K-R! It's just that I don't know what you know about Immunoglobulins and I don't want to confuse you if you aren't familiar with heavy/light chains, etc. Most of the people my Dad works with, including the doctors, are shocked that he's given me a project like that because they don't understand the subject themselves. It's not that complicated but it hasn't been brilliantly researched before and not many people know about it.)

I'm having a great time!

By the way, good on you for not worrying much about your exposure to things! There seem to be so many people around who won't let their children play in the dirt or eat with hands that haven't been washed moments before. They say they're trying to keep them from getting ill *sigh*

I hope you got something of what I was saying up there. I know I don't always make complete sense, especially when I'm tired.........

*Yaaaaaaaaaawn*

I'm just barely getting what you're saying. Physiology is one of those few topics I've left for others. I got an A in college, but that's just scratching the surface. I keep up with the broad concepts of new developments, like neural cloning or mineral life, but that's about it. You're looking for subjects that have developed antibodies because of reactions to their offspring? Doesn't sound like a good antibody to have, at least not till you've had kids. On the other hand, I guess it'd be useful to know exactly what to look out for, just like the reeses factor.

A wise woman leaves some things for others - only fools try to do it all themselves!

Having children is one of the most likely ways for you to develop the antibodies but there are other ways too. For example, children that have multiple transfusions often have them.

"On the other hand, I guess it'd be useful to know exactly what to look out for, just like the reeses factor."

Exactly! In some cases it's more important than others, if you have an immune disorder they need to know exctly what blood they're giving you.

Is the reeses factor another way of spelling rhesus or is it something I haven't heard of? (Probably the latter!)

No, I spelled it wrong. I should have recalled 'Rh', the +/- that they discovered in rhesus monkeys.

One night stands are okay, but they make me feel like a slut.

"I'm too old to have an informed opinion on this matter."
I can barely remember the last time I had sex, let alone a one night stand. You might ask my wife...she seems better informed.

I've had one night stands. I dont regret them, but I'm not proud of it either. The best sex I've had was in a relationship, definitely