Which of these impressions would you rather people have of you?

I'm not sure. I think I would want them to think I'm nice, gentle and soft. But in some situations, around certain types of people, I would want them to think I was mean, tough, and strong. In other situations, I'd rather not leave any real impression at all.

I'm a little bit of each of the above & then some...
Depending on what kind of mood someone puts me in at the time.

I don't care, but I think that "nice, gentle, and soft" is more realistic. I think you'd be hard pressed to find anyone who would describe me as "mean, tough, and strong".

Zang, you are just so mean. And tough.

Oh, and you are so strong

nice

I'm a big guy (6'5 200 lbs) but I don't have this rampaging "i'm gonna beat you up" attitude. I like it this way because ladies aren't scared of me but other guys that want to start something know that I'm bigger than them.

Of these: "Nice, gentle & soft", BUT I'd rather be "Nice, gentle & strong".

The first option sounds dumb. The second option sounds a lot like Kleenex. I don't know anyone who gives out either impression, and I don't blame them.

By the way--and for any other straight guy on this site--women find it REALLY cheesy when guys refer to them as 'ladies'. Puh-leese.

Maybe thrifthtml is only interested in the kind of woman who likes being called a "lady," and couldn't care less what women who find that cheesy think about it.

I wouldn't want to come across as mean!

Who says? I'm a young lady - one day I'll be a lady - it's not some sort of offensive term!

I'll take nice, gentle, and soft.

I would like to think in this day and age that people are more diverse, and most don't automatically fall into either the first or second category. I have qualities from both ends of the spectrum. I know who I am, and am content with that knowledge, so I honestly don't worry about what impression people get from me.

I don't want to be either. I almost picked mean, tough and strong because I don't look it, and maybe that would balance out. I want to be Nice, Tough and Strong!

Nice, gentle and soft. Which is what they say right now.

I know that putting the word "some" before "women" would have made a huge difference. I better watch my back now.

lol

nice gentle soft and a pushover, i think

I wasn't trying to be smooth or anything.

Don't sweat it. It actually sounds hilarious when you repeat it over and over in your mind..."the ladies, the ladies..."

Oh, do we have ourselves a comedian here? I say ladies if I am in the presence of any females.
I tried saying 'woman' to a female once and she got angry and pinched my arm. Note to self, don't say "get me a drink, woman" to a volatile latina woman.

I think I usually come across as nice, gentle and soft, but sometimes I really wish I could be tough and strong. I never want to be mean though, unless someone really pisses me off.

'get me a drink, lady' isn't too hot either. How about 'Can you get me a drink, please?' (didn't kindergarten do anything for you!?!) or try 'can you get me a drink, honey?' 'honey' is great. You can use it on anyone.

kindergarten taught me nothing

Part of me wants them to see me as nice, gentle, and soft.
For some reason, when I meet someone my defensive side shows through (surprise surprise) and I end up coming off as hard.

People who don't know me well tend to put me in the first category, and I guess you could say that I'd "rather" that be their impression, since it's the image I tend to project. But people who bother to get to know me learn that I fit pretty well into the second category.

why would someone "bother" to get to know someone they think is mean?

I don't care.

What an butt-hole!!!! People remember dirty deeds far longer than good ones. LOL

Tough exterior with a soft chewy center, huh?

Hey now, I did NOT mean that in a nasty way!

Yeah, pretty much. But don't blow my cover, OK? I want everyone to think I'm a big meanie.

*whispering* Your secret is safe with me.

What about nice, tough and strong?....... and my package - they have to notice my package.

I am becoming a softie in my old age.
Beside, I have this bad habit: people!
Still the best resource the world has going for it.

i am a mix of the above so i couldnt answer that with just one. and besides, no one should care what anyone thinks about them. live for yourself.

I'd prefer to be a weak one... Less intimidating and more intellectual...

nice,gentle,soft I don't know many women who want to be mean,tough and strong

I come across as both. People have told me that I come across completely different every time they talk to me.