What would you do if you found out that one of your co-workers was being really mean to you because they thought you had a crush on them?

I work with adults. That... that just wouldn't happen.

Sorry.

Oh, and I wouldn't ever give anyone that impression in a malicious way. I've had crushes on co-workers and told them "Just give me the word and Barry's out of the way. I'm all yours."

The thing about that, though, is that I'm a woman in a hetero relationship, and it's always women I hit on.

Much like SueBee and mandy, Barry has to worry- hard- about me and the ladies.

I really like the ladies.

Barry is HOT. He's really attractive. I'm not looking for men...

I'm hunting down the ladies!

I dont work, but I don't know what I would do if that ever happened. I hate confronting people, so that wouldn't be an option for me. I might be mean in return, then I guess they would realise that I don't like them.

Confront her.

tell them to, first, get over themselves, and second... to fudge off

I don't work, and hopefully when I do, I won't have to deal with this grade-school stuff.

I would drop hints (kind of animating disinterest) that I don't like him, and watch him figure it out himself.

I would tell the co-worker that he/she really needs to grow up because that type of behavior is strictly grade school.

I would talk all the time about the person I really have a crush on!

What?! That doesn't make any sense. Is my coworker a retarded 12 year old? Do I understand the question properly? Are you sure you mean "crush", as in "infatuation"? Or do you mean "crush" as in "creepy stalker/sexual harassment"?

Organise to talk to my co-worker and ask them why they are being mean. Don't assume anything!

i'd confront him like I did a guy that spread the word that I liked him just to make my life hell. Well at 30 I dont take to that crap...I got him in the back storage area and told him if he ever said anything about me ever again like he did i'd kick his back end and then get the dm to fire his rear over sexual harassment. he shut up real quick....

I don't know, probably ignore them, since they obviously haven't grown up yet.

Hypothetical, huh?

A crush? Being mean to someone because that person likes you? What grade are we in here?

Put your glands aside a minute and talk to the person straight up. Human to human.

If that doesn't work, show up on Monday with your big brother and have him beat the snot outta the other person.

Kris. I realize you deserve better than the wise guy answer I gave you above. Really and truly, what juliw said is the most practical advise: ignore them, since he obviously haven't grown up yet.

You might want to demonstrating your maturity by confronting him about his behavior toward you. That is: why is he acting mean to you unnecessarily?

Sorry about my initial response. Even grown ups can act like kids sometimes. (Maybe I have a crush on someone and don't know it.)

Umm....thanks dude!
But...ummm...Kris is short for Kristofer

You've got to be kidding!

My ten year old pride and joy is named Kristopher. He is a Brazilian/American, speaking three languages, an A student who loves Harry Potter novels and "capoeira" (a Brazilian kick dance technic similar to Eastern martial arts).

He's a whip and keeps me on my toes. Maybe I am seeing his future in you. That would be a good thing.

Talk to you later, gater.

Wow, I'm Guatemalan/Canadian, speaking 3 languages, an A student who does not read Harry Potter!

I'd confront him/her and tell um offfffffffffffffffffffffffffff.Don't flatter yourself,buddy no one likes you,least of all me!!!

Ha, ha, ha. I would imagine Harry Potter to be a bit "youthful" for you, but my Kristopher loves them. I am pleased he prefers reading to Nintendo.

You probably already know how fortunate you are to be multi-lingual. It is definitely a jump start in today's world. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I beat out the (superior) competition for a job, because of my language skills (weak though they are).

Let alone the pleasure of being able to read poetry and literature, listen to music (singing), participate in conversations, etc.

World's a bit more fun when you can join in.

By the way, did you ever resolve the crush thing? If so, how?
I am curious as to your "conflict resolution" technique.

I hear ya...

No I actually haven't resolved it. I just found out two weeks ago that the reason why she was being mean was cuz she thought i liked her. It came as a big surprise to me cuz i barely even talk to her. I have to quit that job at the end of July...right before I leave for Benin. I figured she must be feeling good about herself now that she thinks she is liked, and I don't want to break it to her cuz I figured she might have a low self esteem. So, i'm gonna let her enjoy it.

Good idea. Let her live the fantasy.
I am reminded of various old adages, including:
"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." or
"Let sleeping dogs lie."