What is the meanest thing anyone has ever done to you, either that was intended as mean or that hurt you the most?

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will haunt me for the rest of my life and require years of therapy to get over."

many of these things have happened, but almost all of them can much more easily be attributed to being inconsiderate or daft than mean. *** Jen: Too fat? seriously? Did he go for the Kate Moss or Twiggy type or something?

This may sound silly, but someone spread lies about me. I don't know why they were started, or actually who started them, but it got me one of the biggest, meanest enemies I have ever had.

Someone who I had thought was my friend freshman year in college took my bank card and stole all of my money. If the crap had asked I would have lent or even given it to him. It really hurt a lot to look at the pictures from the ATM machine and identify him. I never saw him again since he went back to Europe and never came back to school.

Cheated on me, definitely. Especially since I told him it was OK if he wanted to break up and see other people, that he should just tell me. It really, really hurt me that he still cheated.

They made this survey single-select.

When I was in school there was this girl we called "the weekend" because she hung around every weekend, as in "Hey, it's only Thursday, the weekend's here early." She pretty much destroyed the relationship between me and one of my best friends. It firmly established my reputation as a bitter, cynical person.

I think "said something mean to me" is probably the closest answer and the one that represents most of the most hurtful episodes of my life. Actually, though, when I think about "mean" the thing that hurt me the most was when Krissy Stalker and Jill LaRue decided that I wasn't allowed to sit at their lunch table anymore. This was basically tossing me out of my social group. It's not that this was the most awful thing anyone's ever done to me, but it was in 7th grade and I was young and extremely vulnerable and I had never been exposed to the idea that people would do hurtful things just for kicks. That idea having been impressed on me by these erstwhile friends, subsequent slings & arrows have never hurt as much as that did.

Breaking promises is the worst. If you promise something, then do it. If you aren't going to or can't do it then hold on to your promises.

"Stick and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me"? Yeah, right.

I suppose the very worst had to have been when my father died with a nice healthy estate and rather than divide it between all 5 of us kids, he chose to single out two brothers to get everything. He left the rest of us nominal amounts so we couldn't break it by saying he just overlooked us, but it was obvious what he was doing. He was a cruel, evil man who always imagined he was being slighted by one or all of us at any given time. It hurt because my brothers decided that they would just grab it all and run. When we protested, they turned their backs on us. They also ignored the elder members of our family who said they should split everything equally. Her sister said the old man had reached from beyond the grave to tear the entire family apart after mother had sacrificed her life to keep us together. This will hurt me as long as I live. It really wasn't the money; I do quite well without it, but it was the idea that my brothers would be so selfish. (This happened to my husband & he found himself the sole beneficiary of his uncle's estate. He didn't discuss any of it & just proceeded to divide every dollar equally among his siblings. He is a rare man.) How about that, jen!

even though we were best friends this, person was told something and believed it. They didn't even ask me about it..just assumed it was true and that i was lying about it. They said they could never trust me again until I admitted to it. Obviously the "best friend" thing was totally one sided. Live and learn.

how about betraying trust? i don't suppose it was to be mean or to hurt me but my doctor raped me. Does that count jen?

sorry....I'm STILL bitter!!

She was dating my best friend. They broke up, and she learned that I was very interested in her. So she hooked up with me in order to make him jealous and ultimately to get him back. Everybody told me she was using me, but I was completely infatuated so I didn't listen to them. They begged me to smarten up, but love (or whatever) is blind. Three days later the other shoe fell, and I was devastated. That was a pretty bad time. Thanks for reminding me of it...

***everybody: wow, has this survey been cathartic or what? I'm changing my rating to "good"...

***Ynot: Oh my god!!! That's awful! And you married this person?!? How could someone be so cruel and insensitive? I literally feel sick now...

pushed into an outhouse and forced to strip at knife point

**BadtzMaru and Ynot: Husband? Ex-husband? Are you still with this person?
This survey has acquired a higher squick factor than I was expecting...

In grade seven one of the guys in my class got every single other person against me and very nearly drove me insane, well sort of anyway, I pulled a knife on him one day when he started a rumor about me that just went way too far. It's funny that the teachers hear about these things and know that they go on but never do anything about them. ***I honestly hope that whoever did these things to all of you seriously got =worse= than what was coming to them. If I'm not over what happened to me yet, I don't think I could even live thru what happened to you guys...

they lied ABOUT me and other people believed them ... mean people suck.

I was raped. I didn't struggle because there were two of them and i couldn't. My husband wanted to hear details. After a while....the first time we had relations...he did something that he had never done before but it was something one of my attackers had done. I was devastated. He said he wanted to see if it really upset me.

***daver....husband at the time. we were together not quite a year after that.

Jen: Very sadly I can, actually. My husband called me a disgustingly fat dog too many times to count. I know many people who were treated worse than me. (I divorced the loser 3 years ago.)
DustBunny: I'm so sorry. Yes, he is definitely a demon.

I have a very hard time remembering. I tend to forget subjectively bad things that happen to me very quickly. My boyfriend was horribly mean to my partner, I think to try and drive her and me apart - he called her some very nasty names that were carefully chosen to be hurtful. That was downright nasty. I had to make him break up with me.

"Intended as mean" and "hurt me" are so radically unrelated that I can't answer the question meaningfully...

I put they dumped me. As a freshman in High School my best friend of 12 years decided I wasn't going to be popular enough for her. It was a rotten year, culminating in a huge party she held to which I was the only person in my class not invited...

the greatest wound i ever sustained from someone was when a close friend decided to completely cut off all contact with me and his other friends because he had a girlfriend. i'm not talking being blown off for a day or two here...i'm talking months and months, including blowing off my 21st birthday, and event he had previously sworn to attend...sigh...i have since forgiven this person (its been 9 years now), and i occasionally talk to him, but it still hurts a bit...he might not have been trying to be mean, but he knew what he was doing, so close enough...

I've had friends "dump" me - i.e. disappear from my life with no warning or explanation. That's the worst. Wait, I changed my mind. The meanest thing was the girl my first week of freshman year of high school who wouldn't let me sit at her lunch table. Totally humiliating.

it's hard to pick what was meanest.. i mean, people who insult me, push me around, or otherwise intentionally try to hurt me sting for a while.. but when i found out someone i had thought to be my friend was only using me cuz i looked good on her arm and that nothing she had ever said to me had one grain of truth in it.... i still haven't gotten over that..