Yes....It was a few years ago, and this boy asked me out who I thought I liked. I was so happy, he was my first boyfriend, first date, and first kiss. Anyway, we went out for a little while, the whole time I would tell my friend, who I was really close, to all about him and the relationship, how excited I was and all about our dates and stuff. I hung out with both of them together a lot, he ended up dumping me and asking her out the very next day. And she said yes. I got over being upset eventually, because I realized that the guy wasn't that great anyway. I had just not noticed because I was so excited that I had a boyfriend, I hadn't been picky about who it was. So I stopped being mad at my friend, but we were never the same because I couldn't trust her anymore. We drifted apart about over the next year or so, and I don't see her anymore. It's kind of sad, really.

Yes!
I was raped at a party my best friend and I both attended. I told her about it that night.
When I went to the police to make a statement they wanted her to make a statement as well, but she refused saying, "I don't know anything!"
I asked her why she would not help me and she said that she felt sorry for him (he had told her how scared he was of the police talking to him.)
We had been best friends for over ten years, now I have not spoken to her for about three years.

Yes.

Ever since the 1st Grade, I've nee betrayed by my so-called friends.

yup....I met this girl in school who had a lot of issues. She would cry everyday at lunch because of family problems and such. She was even suicidal at one point. So i ditch all my friends to be there for her. Eventually she got better...her self esteem improved and she became stronger. Then she got a boyfriend and became very distant...so I was left with no friends. She would only come to me when she needed help...so i told her to get lost.

No.

Many times. I feel like it happened a lot in grade school and high school. I like to think I have better judgement in choosing friends now.

Oh, yeah, just today, in fact. This woman I am kind of friends with at work started yelling me in the lunch room for no apparent reason. The boss came in because it was getting so loud in there. She asked what was going on, and Jennifer said I had called her a whore, which I had NOT done, and I got written up for it, and had to go to personnel. My boss and the personnel guy both said it would be dropped, but I was so pissed.

That is terrible. I know that had to be very painful experience both physically and emotionally, especially when your so-called friend was not even supportive of you.

but i've had very few friends.

I have to say I can't remember, since it hasn't happened anytime recently, and I tend to forget bad things that happen to me.

oh yes.

Several times while in college.

Yes!

Yes. Which is why I sometimes fear of abandonment and trusting others.

Women are like that. This why most of my friends are male.

I gave my best mate my credit card so he could get out £20. I looked at the statement a week later and he took out £40. He never told me.

Stupid that I am, I forgave him eventually!

What!!

A nasty friend indeed but what about the man/boy that did it?
Has this man/boy got away with it?
Do you know who he is?
Tell me, I'll pay for a plane ticket just to sort the bastard out!

Not to my knowledge.

No.

My so called friend talks to me about her other friends behind their back so i know she talks about me all the time. Plus when i wear clothes she always tells me that she would look better wearing them and all the boys would want her. She makes me so mad and she won't go away!

Not since I was much younger. I choose my friends more carefully now.

Yeah, but I think I may have forgiven her by now. Or else just forgotten about it.

I know who it was and he got away with it. I tried to contact him a few years ago so I could swear at him, but he joined the army.
His name is Joseph VanHale. He is 22 now. If you ever see him, spit on him for me.

that's good

dicked me over 3 times on the same subject, what a nutlicker

i was betrayed by someone i knew was my friend and still is.

I'm sure it happened more than once when I was a teenager, but I don't recall any specific incidents.

Yup, I got stabbed in the back by a couple of "friends" last year, while in my 3rd year of nursing training. It badly affected my marks, and what the tutors thought of me. It got so bad, I had to drop out. Now I dunno what to do. I'm sure not starting again! No way am I gonna repeat over 2 years of study. Oh, well ... I'm now working in a supermarket. yippee. Life goes on ...

So you could swear at him? He needs more than that.

Do you know where he lives?

wow, that sucks.

He tried to kill me!

There were many years when I had several elaborate death plans for him. I even considered taking $ out of my savings account so I could hire someone to kill him. That is when I realized I needed to move on with my life because my rage was consuming me.
He may still live in International Falls, Minnesota.

Oooh er... Many times. Secrets, confidential stuff.. also in love.
I think what hurts most is when people have been given the benefit of the doubt and have taken the opportunity to betray yet another time!

Fudgeen YES

, just the two fudgeen hours ago. She is sucha dog. Hopefully, I won't see her again.

I caught my "friend" naked in a hot tub with my wife (now ex-wife).

This one?

Joseph Vanhale
396 County Rd 20
International Falls , MN
(218)286-2016

What!? You know him?

Two of my co-workers

Yes, probably. Where did you find that information? I have looked, but not for a while. Maybe he moved back.

OH MY GOD! OH MY GOD!!
I just called the number. The girl who answered the phone didn't want to say if he was home because he is "the most wanted man in Koochiching county." I convinced her to let me talk to him, cuz I was his friend.
She gave the phone to him! I fudging talked to him. My heart was and is beating so fast. This is what happened-
The girl who answered phone said, "Here ya go, Joe, it's one of your doges!" And I could hear him laughing and I knew it was him. I would recognize that laugh anywhere.
He asked who it was. I said my name and do you remember me? He said no.
I asked how old he is to make sure it was the right guy, he is 20- it is him.
I said, "You don't remember me?"
He said no.
I said, "That is funny. You don't remember raping me in the bathroom?"
He said no.
There was a silence.
I said," So, you gonna hang up now?"
He said, "Yeah."
I said, "Yeah, I thought you would."
Fudging coward.
THANK YOU THEY! That was the oppurtunity I wanted.
And I have this funny feeling the cops will find out where he is staying.

There's "betrayed" and then there's just sort of disappear and don't seem to be around or available, when things get rough for you for a little while. I feel forsaken.

Thanks for that information, THEY

Spidertea, do I have your permission to phone him? I come from England and I could really crap him up by saying that if he ever came to this country, he would be arrested!

Please let me!

By the way, what code do I use to phone the US?

Haven't we all?

I just looked it up on yahoo.

The US (together with canada, and some of the carribean) is country code 1.

I was betrayed by my best mate Kerry 3 years ago. I started to get spots at school and Kerry was miss perfect and being friends with me ruined her image and so she started bullying me and writing graffiti about me all over the school and stuff like that. Because she was so popular and an A* student and pretty and all that everyone else in my year basically started doing it too. My sister was mates with us too even though she is 2 years older and rather than risk her popularity she picked on me too and wrote graffiti about me herself all over the bus stop that i used to use in the mornings. Since then i have never been able to forgive my sister. Unortunately for the past three years i have had an enormous complex about my face, even though the spots have gone. I always always wear makeup, even in front of my boyfriend and even thought I know that I am pretty I hide my face behind my hair all the time. My last boyfriend broke up with me because of my paranoia. I felt really good last night because i phoned up one of my old friends who still goes to the same college as her ( I moved out of the area because of it) and I found out that Miss Perfect who was hopng for A's in her A Levels got 2 D's and a C. I got 2 B's and a C so that means that i beat her! Ha! she won't be able to go to Oxford now!!

Do whatever you want, but I doubt he will be taking any other strange phone calls! I'm not usre about phone codes.

Thanks again!! :)

I have been betrayed so often that I have reduced the amount of people I have any real in person conversation with to two people, and they don't know where I live.

Big time! More than once. I'm a perpetual idiot. I still leave myself open time and time again. (I think it's called life, huh?)

Darlin', that was not a friend- never was never will be to anyone. Thank your lucky stars you are rid of her.

More times than I care to remember. :o(

My boss.

My best friend stole my boyfriend away with a certain promise to give him something that I wouldn't. But later, I didn't care because he ended up being a real jerk. She apologized for the whole thing. In the end, I didn't fell any animosity towards her because of how badly he had treated her. I actually felt bad for her!

More often than I'd like to admit.

No.

Yes, unfortunately. My best friend for six years - I met her in the sixth grade - is lost to me now. A few weeks ago I was going through a deep wave of depression from the loss of my boyfriend who was very close to me, and I reached out to her for comfort; being my best friend, I figured she would. I guess it's pretty obvious she didn't. She acted completely oblivious although a few times I poured my heart out to her painfully and she still showed no warm reaction. So I told her I wanted to stop associating with her, and that I felt neglected. It was then that she decided to care, and begged for me to tell her what was wrong. I told her, yet she still couldn't understand my actions. We still don't talk, and it is my fault, but I'd rather be alone by choice than pushed away by one I love.

WHOA! She really pissed you off, I'm hoping that you don't see her again for her sake and yours. I'm sure it's better that way, remember, what goes around, comes around.

I think so, when I was a kid. Not since then, though.

I cant remember.

Well, not me, but a good friend has....This guy spent befriended a friend of mine and spent a year telling her that she was his best friend and that he'd always be there for her etc etc. She had just developed cancer and had been abused and he said he'd help her get sorted out, but what he did was persuade her that it would be a good idea to have sex with him....she then got pregnant and miscarried, and he dumped her for another girl. My friend cant understand what she did wrong and blames herself for everything because he spent a whole year being as nice as pie to her...now she's very weak in hospital and has lost the will to fight her illness. That guy is pure scum, he took advantage of her sweet nature and totally betrayed her.

So many times that I just blocked it out it hurt so much.When a friend betrays you thats the ultimate diss.

Yes. Again and again and again and again. In very small, insignificant ways that are impossible to get angry with anyone over, yet they just keep building up. That self centered dog.

I just found out that my best friend from high school did a lot of mean things to me because she was jealous of time I spent with other friends. (She tells me this more than 20 years later!) She just wasn't good at expressing her feelings back then. She seemed really independent to me, but she really valued my friendship a lot more than I ever realized. We're still best friends now, but we went through some rough times as teenagers. Good luck sorting things out!

Thanks! There is really nothing to sort out, it's more like "Yeah, I'll see the movie Shrek with you" and then "Sorry, I can't do anything today, I'm going to see the movie Shrek with my brother". What bugs me is that she does it without even realising it's wrong, and doesn't even care that she broke a promise when it's brought up. > But I'm probably making to big a deal over it all.

Well, if it bothers you, then I think you should tell her. Sometimes people are just selfish without even realizing that they're acting like buttheads. Maybe she'll shape up soon.

lol I know what you mean. I probably should mention it, although I've said it before. It's hard to get things across to her.

Have you been to see Shrek though? Great movie, I loved it!!!

No, not yet, I just got home from my trip. Soon, hopefully.

How was it???

Great! I bought so much stuff, and I had a blast!

yes. my bestfriend asked me for the email of one of my online friends, the one i happened to like. so she flirted and got him to like her and now they're dating. plus he barely even talks to me anymore. this happened just yesterday.