If you are over 18 and still a virgin, are either of your parents disappointed by this?

I didn't answer because I'm over 18, but I want to comment.... Why would any parent be disappointed? That's so strange. I was a virgin at 18. I'm not sure if my parents knew that, but if they did, I'm sure they wouldn't have been disappointed.

My father is EXTREMELY disappointed. I tell ya', I wouldn't be at all if he bought me a hooker if I was still a virgin by my 20th birthday.

They were disappointed when I was 18 and wasn't a virgin.

I think my mother was a little disappointed when she figured I was no longer a virgin at 23.

My parents are Mr. and Mrs. Morality. They think that everyone should save themselves for their wedding night. I managed to keep it in my pants until I was 19. I don't think my parents suspected anything until I was 20, and I shacked up with someone. By that time there wasn't any point in them being all disapproving. Whatever morals they had tried to instill in me were either there or not, obviously I had made my own decisions. They've lightened up a bit now that I'm pushing 40 really hard. I think they've realized that times have changed.

That's pretty sad. Well, I guess it would depend on WHY you're still a virgin, wouldn't it? If your dad was concerned that you were being rejected, I could kind of understand his thinking. But if someone was still a virgin because they wanted to wait, and a parent was disappointed, they have their priorities wrong. Would his disappointment have gone if you had lost your virginity, but got some girl pregnant?

I am under 18, I am not a virgin, and my parents do not know my sexual status.

And you hope they don't find Survey Central.

I don't think that just because 'times have changed' anyone should lower their own morals. I am 22 years old, and I believe in saving sex for marriage. I believe sex is a sacred thing, only to be shared between a husband and a wife. I don't think that is old fashioned, I think that whatever a person chooses for themselves is okay. Not old fashioned, not 'with the times', just a personal choice based on our own beliefs.

I don't know

I can't imagine my parents being disappointed because I was a virgin....Only because I wasn't I just don't get it....It may be different for guys than girls but I doubt this happens often.

Don't know. Maybe not. He just wants to live vicariously throguh me, and I think I may have sabotaged several potentially good relationships to rebel. I live my life like a total uber-nerd just to piss him off. and he deserves it! Especially after ripping me off for $1100.

I'm pretty sure my parents know I've had sex....

What is this?????????????

lol Yeah.

I have a daughter and my mother still thinks I'm a virgin.

I am over 18, and not a virgin, but I WAS a virgin when I was over 18, and I think my parents were kind of glad.

Well, that's fine for you. If you can stick with it, I commend you. If I had followed that path, I'd either be a 38 year old virgin, or a guy with a lot of ex-wives. I prefer my choice.

I think it's a really good thing for a couple to know that they're sexually compatible before making a lifetime commitment to one another.

I agree that sex should be an important part of a healthy relationship and someone should have an awesome sex life and be totally into the same things and be entirely sexually compatible before getting married.

it's too good to miss out on

Does a relationship depend on sexual compatibility? Personally, I don't think so. Commitment to me means just that - commitment. If you love each other, and you make a commitment to love & cherish each other 'till death do you part, that stuff doesn't matter. Difficulties can be worked thru, no matter how challenging. I don't think relationships are built around good sex, I think good sex is a by-product of a good relationship

I don't regret that sort of thinking. When I was younger though I had wanderlust, my affairs never got further than the fantasy and talk stage (my wife's did though). We were too much in love to think about or wait for the moving in together that happened half a year later, the marriage another 1/2 year later (when she graduated high school (i was 1 yr older)) or the two kids that came 3 & 5 years after that (& unfortunately the divorce when I became a yogi). I had one partner after that. I wouldn't consider sexually dating anyone I wasn't at least hoping to marry.

I dont have to have sex with anyone to have a pretty good idea just what it would be like upon meeting them. I would hope a trip to the beach, a hug and a passionate kiss witha potential mate would be enough to get an idea of your compatability. Do people totally betray their psyches in bed?

I agree, but you're sexually experienced... there are a lot of people who've been trapped in relationships that were sexually unfulfilling for them... isn't that a shame?

I agree that good sex can be (and should be) a by-product of a good relationship. But in my first and second-hand experience, sex is an important part of an intimate relationship and good sex isn't necessarily a given.

That was my mother's advice to me on why I should not wait until I was married to have sex! I told her (only half seriously) that I was going to wait, and she told me I should know what I was getting into and make sure I liked it!

I am a virgin but under eighteen. I can't say either of my parents are too frustrated by this.

I went through a whole range of Physical emotional tender lust manuevers with my wife, and a whole range of transcendental tantric experiences with my next lover. I doubt I could be able to size people up without the immense variety from those two lovers in conjunction with what i see in their attitudes, historical saturation, and body utilisation.
I guess the key is educated imagination, projection, which unfortunately is an ability many do not have anywhere in their life.

You make me realise that I am hoping my almost 17 son will start a physically intimate relationship soon. I told him years ago "make your first time a lifetime impression that's better than a back car-seat experience". I was thinking when he was recently dating to suggest carrying condoms. I hope he doesn't misunderstand that I'd be fine with him waiting a few years. I tell him of my petting exploits at his age, so he knows I approve. Most of the talk is about character and commitment.

But what if you love someone deeply, and marry them, then discover the sex isn't as great as you hoped it would be? Would that change the nature of the relationship? Would you still love them just as much as before? Is it that bigger deal?

I've seen lots of people love people that they couldn't stay in a relationship with. It might not change the nature of the love but it does change the nature of the relationship, and that usually feeds back into changing the nature of the love eventually.

My parents would be thrilled if either one of those things were true!!

Mmm... No. A relationship does indeed depend on sexual compatibility. Try getting out of crashingly bad sex every night and see how long "till death do you part" really lasts.

... and romkey ... Can u give me a definition of 'bad sex?' If two people really, truly love each other they will want the best for the other person. It provides an opportunity to learn and grow together in the relationship. If a relationship means sex and only sex, that is simply lust. What about emotional and spiritual compatibility? These are all part of a 'whole' relationship. Then the WHOLE person becomes important, and not just their body. Love always puts the other person first.

you know it when you have it

yes, I agree there's more to a relationship than sex - what I'm saying is that it's important... when you marry someone you've already explored those other aspects of your relationship. Why is it bad to have explored the sexual aspect as well?

what kind of dumbass question is this? "sorry you can't get any pussy son here's a $50 for a hooker." come on

Are you saying that I'm a liar? I've already explained that this has happened to me! Are you calling me a liar? Well then why don't you go outside and play hide-and-go-FUDGE-yourself?!?

Brian: listen, it's YOUR life. It's YOUR choice. Please don't feel bad that your Dad is disappointed, 'cos it's none of his business! You, and only you will know when the time is right for you. I can guarantee you, that if you lose your virginity just because of what your Dad or anyone else thinks, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Your first time should be special - not forced. Stick with your guns. Wait for the right opportunity, and enjoy it! Don't do anything you know you'll regret later, okay?

I was only replying to SpyderMan's implication that I made this up and that this type of thing never happens, which is just not true.

Oh, I know that. I just felt kinda sorry for you when I read that your Dad was disappointed 'cos u were still a virgin. That sucks But it's your choice

my parents arent disapointed aboiut a thing having to do with me or my brothers. wether were virgins or not..why would they be??? lol

I'm 30 and still a virgin and proud of that fact. I am one of those that want to wait till im married before doing that sort of thing. My parents are very proud of me, and my brothers for waiting. My kid brother is 21 and still a virgin and believes the way I and my older brother does, my older brother is a minister and married now. He says it was worth it to wait untill he found his wife. I know some people dont believe this way, some of my friends dont..but it's there choice..I think a parent should be proud of there children wether or not they choose to wait..stand behind them and support them when you can.

I absolutely agree My Dad is a minister, and has taught us the same principles. Being a virgin is something to be proud of!