| User | Comment |
|---|
| mandy | | posted 10-Jul-2000 6:17pm |
11 to 15 years older
I was 21 and he was 33.
6 to 10 years younger
I was 21 and he was one day away from his 16th birthday.
My SO is 6 years my senior. |
| kirst | | posted 10-Jul-2000 8:36pm |
My husband is 10 years older than me. |
jettles  | | posted 10-Jul-2000 9:31pm |
5 yrs and it is the difference between myself and my partner, she is 5 yrs younger than i. |
| Zang | | posted 10-Jul-2000 9:45pm |
What a coincidence, this is something which has been much on my mind lately. Some one told me I'm too young for them. (Age difference less than 9 years) I don't think anyone would even notice, and we have lots in common otherwise. When I was 21, I went out with a woman who was 32, and no one thought anything of it, now that I'm 38, you wouldn't think it would be a big deal if I went with a woman who's 47. I'm all messed up about this right now because I'm really kind of obsessed...I could blather on for hours but I think I'll stop now before I get carried away, (if I haven't already). |
| Lauren | | posted 10-Jul-2000 10:33pm |
about 3 years difference nothing that big. he was really cute though/. |
Frostbrand   | | posted 10-Jul-2000 11:18pm |
I'm a virgin, but the biggest age difference between me and a girl I've fantasized about: 32. |
| Avocado | | posted 10-Jul-2000 11:36pm |
I have a lover who is 27-28 years older than I am.
In the other direction, I checked the "2-5 years younger" category; I don't recall offhand, but that sounds about right. |
| Zang |
Younger or older? |
| BlueberryMuffin | | posted 11-Jul-2000 4:23am |
Someone 11-15 years older. Someone 6-10 years younger.
The older one was on my 19th birthday and he was 31 or 32, I'm not positive which. The younger was when I was 22 and he had just turned 16. |
| bluebird1974 | | posted 11-Jul-2000 7:25am |
12 years older and 6 years younger. |
| dsysko | | posted 11-Jul-2000 12:02pm |
Lots of choices, good survey! |
| Frostbrand | | (reply to Zang) posted 11-Jul-2000 1:28pm |
Older. |
| Zang |
I was confused by your use of the term "girl". I only use that for women younger than, say, late twenties-ish. Of course, I don't know how old you are either. |
| Frostbrand | | (reply to Zang) posted 11-Jul-2000 11:38pm |
18 |
| BlueberryMuffin | | (reply to Zang) posted 12-Jul-2000 3:55am |
So by your definition I, being recently turned 23, am just a mere girl? I'll accept being referred to as a child by someone more than twice my age, but a girl? I am very definitely a woman and have been for some time, in every aspect of life. |
| joachim |
Pet peeve #6327: "Woman". Why is it that female persons become "women" at age 13 and remain so util approximately age 70? There seems to be a clear conflict of connotation here. I would generally not call you a woman because I would consider it insulting - you're not old, dried up or boring! But I suppose to you the term "girl" connotes immaturity (in my experience a touchier subject for women than for men). I guess I use whichever seems to fit best in the sentence but if by "girl" I mean "child", I usually make that clear through context. Then again I respond with hostility to every touchy comment on SC. Instinct forces me to close in for the kill at the merest hint of insecurity  |
| Zang |
Please don't take offense. I didn't mean to say that women under the age of 27 were "mere" girls, or children. Only that I would never use the term "girl" for someone over that age. I don't know if it is equivalent, but I certainly wouldn't object to someone calling me a "boy", now that I am 38, I don't think it is accurate, but when I was in my mid-twenties it wouldn't have phased me one bit. In fact if someone called me a "man" back then, I would have thought it odd. |
| mandy | | posted 12-Jul-2000 7:54pm |
I'm a girl
a 33 year old girl |
| sequel | | posted 13-Jul-2000 2:24am |
30 years. It was a mistake, but not because of the age dif. |
| BlueberryMuffin | | (reply to joachim) posted 13-Jul-2000 6:05am |
Women are not by definition "old, dried up, and boring". The word woman describes a female who has reached maturity and the word girl does not. The reason this is more defined in females than in males is likely that females undergo more obvious changes when they become women than males do. |
| BlueberryMuffin | | (reply to Zang) posted 13-Jul-2000 6:11am |
I didn't take offense. It just struck me as an odd comment. I haven't been referred to as a girl since my early teen years and it never even occurred to me at this point in my life that anyone would consider me one. I suppose I might take offense if it were meant to be offensive but as your comment was not, you can call me "girl" if you like.  |
| joachim |
While your statement is not factually incorrect in any way, when I hear the word "woman" I still tend to think of my mom. Not always, of course - it does depend on the context. |
| Zang |
Gosh thanks! *blushes* |
| sequel | | (reply to joachim) posted 13-Jul-2000 7:45pm |
So do you think of "men" as old, dried-up and boring too? Do you consider yourself a "boy"? |
| liquidliqhtninq | | posted 13-Jul-2000 8:49pm |
wow i havent been on here in forever...hi people! |
| BlueberryMuffin | | (reply to Zang) posted 14-Jul-2000 1:59am |
|
| Andyroo | | posted 14-Jul-2000 2:54pm |
My ex was a year older and my girlfriend right now is 2 years younger. |
| natsim | | (reply to joachim) posted 14-Jul-2000 3:25pm |
I don't even think OLD women are dried up and boring! |
| drdt | | posted 14-Jul-2000 5:56pm |
I have never even been (successfully) romantically involved with someone even remotely my own age. |
| Frostbrand | | posted 15-Jul-2000 12:50am |
My response to the "girl"/"women" debate: I use both temrs interchangably. Both words only mean one thing to me. A female member of the species. |
| anonymous |
...female...species...I can see why you aren't getting any. |
| natsim |
I don't believe that for one minute. When you see a 3 year old female human walking down the street, you would not use girl/woman interchangeably. |
| Maarten | | posted 16-Jul-2000 2:31pm |
At 24 I had sex with a 39-year-old woman.
Now at 31 I do this girl form work. She's 19. |
| Maarten | | posted 16-Jul-2000 2:33pm |
15 years older: I was 24, she was 39.
12 years younger: I'm 31, she's 19. |
| guillem | | posted 17-Jul-2000 7:11am |
18 years older |
| joachim | | (reply to sequel) posted 17-Jul-2000 10:51am |
Frequently, yes. I'm 28 and I still find the word "man" slightly uncomfortable. I am growing into it, though, and by the time I'm 40 (ie, old, dried-up and boring) I am certain it will fit me like a glove. |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to joachim) posted 20-Jul-2000 12:24pm |
The real problem is that there's no female equivalent of "guy," which is what males who are neither men nor boys are. |
| joachim |
Good point. What's wrong with "woguy"? Maybe it would sound a bit too much like "wookie"? Then we're back to one of our many body hair surveys again. |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to joachim) posted 20-Jul-2000 1:56pm |
Yeah, and "guyn" sounds a little too clinical. |
| joachim |
A friend of mine (and yours actually, I think) is from North Carolina and uses the word "gal" without a second thought. It makes him sound very southern, though. How about lassie? Or does that, once again, get us into body-hair territory? |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to joachim) posted 20-Jul-2000 4:43pm |
Actually, I think "lassie" gets us into Indian yogurt drink territory. And "gal" is really just a shortened form of "girl," so that's no good either. |
| joachim |
You're probably right in this case, but sometimes a slight modification of a word is all that's required to throw off a stigma (Mz, eg). |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to joachim) posted 20-Jul-2000 8:31pm |
In that case, I'd suggest modifying it to "gur," rather than "gal." |
| Frostbrand | | posted 20-Jul-2000 11:58pm |
I feel that maybe I should point out that in the X-Men movie, Jean Gray is about ten years older than Cyclops, the love of her life. In the comic however, she is one year younger. Good rewrite on the part of Bryan Singer!  I'm all for dating older women. |
| joachim |
I have never completely hated "Grrrl". "Gur" sounds an awful lot like "Gor", which might get a lot of Grrls in trouble if they started calling themselves that. |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to joachim) posted 21-Jul-2000 3:46pm |
But it's kind of hard to tell the difference between "girl" and "grrrl" when spoken. |
| joachim | | posted 21-Jul-2000 3:55pm |
Not if you say it with gusto! It's a kind of a Tony the Tiger thing. |
| mandy | | posted 21-Jul-2000 7:10pm |
I'm a gurl |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to joachim) posted 23-Jul-2000 6:32pm |
Go for it. This is have to hear! |
| anonymous | | posted 28-Jul-2000 10:26am |
I was 26
She was 11 |
| Maarten | | (reply to anonymous) posted 28-Jul-2000 6:00pm |
anon #2: even here that's illegal! |
they  | | posted 30-Jul-2000 4:14am |
I don't think any more than 5. |
| anonymous | | (reply to Maarten) posted 3-Aug-2000 8:04am |
where's here? |
| Maarten | | (reply to anonymous) posted 8-Aug-2000 4:25am |
The Netherlands |
| anonymous | | (reply to Maarten) posted 8-Aug-2000 5:52am |
What's the limit there? |
| Maarten | | (reply to anonymous) posted 8-Aug-2000 12:34pm |
15 I think. |
| Hotbabe |
I was 20 and he was 28. Glad we split up though, he's 30 this year!! |
Wicksy  | | (reply to Hotbabe) posted 9-Aug-2000 5:05am |
Next thing you know, he'll be receiving his pension! |
| Hotbabe | | (reply to Wicksy) posted 10-Aug-2000 11:24am |
Next thing you know, you will be receiving yours. |
| Timmer | | posted 16-Aug-2000 2:39pm |
6-10 years older and 2-5 years younger. |
| Jemmy |
Lets see...I was 13, and he was...18, I think, so 5 years. |
| North79 | | posted 13-Sep-2000 4:10pm |
I generally date older women, I have no idea why. My current SO is the same age as me.
The rule the guys back at school use is: half your age plus seven, should be the lower limit for girls you can date (ie if a guy is 20, 17 year olds should be the youngest girls you can date) |
| Frostbrand | | (reply to North79) posted 13-Sep-2000 11:35pm |
So, for me using that "equation," the lowest age for me would be 16. Ugh! I can't stand teenage girls. Never could, never will. |
| Jemmy |
How can you say that you can't stand teen age girls? All of them? From 13 to 19? That's a little stereotypical, don't you think? |
| Frostbrand | | (reply to Jemmy) posted 20-Sep-2000 11:16pm |
Yeah. So? |
| Heatherkd | | posted 16-Oct-2000 11:00am |
6 years |
| seajay | | posted 14-Nov-2000 3:16pm |
woohoo!!! i got the two most popular ones! |
