What's the biggest age difference there has been between you and a sexual partner?

11 to 15 years older
I was 21 and he was 33.

6 to 10 years younger
I was 21 and he was one day away from his 16th birthday.

My SO is 6 years my senior.

My husband is 10 years older than me.

5 yrs and it is the difference between myself and my partner, she is 5 yrs younger than i.

What a coincidence, this is something which has been much on my mind lately. Some one told me I'm too young for them. (Age difference less than 9 years) I don't think anyone would even notice, and we have lots in common otherwise. When I was 21, I went out with a woman who was 32, and no one thought anything of it, now that I'm 38, you wouldn't think it would be a big deal if I went with a woman who's 47. I'm all messed up about this right now because I'm really kind of obsessed...I could blather on for hours but I think I'll stop now before I get carried away, (if I haven't already).

about 3 years difference nothing that big. he was really cute though/.

I'm a virgin, but the biggest age difference between me and a girl I've fantasized about: 32.

I have a lover who is 27-28 years older than I am.

In the other direction, I checked the "2-5 years younger" category; I don't recall offhand, but that sounds about right.

Younger or older?

Someone 11-15 years older. Someone 6-10 years younger.
The older one was on my 19th birthday and he was 31 or 32, I'm not positive which. The younger was when I was 22 and he had just turned 16.

12 years older and 6 years younger.

Lots of choices, good survey!

Older.

I was confused by your use of the term "girl". I only use that for women younger than, say, late twenties-ish. Of course, I don't know how old you are either.

18

So by your definition I, being recently turned 23, am just a mere girl? I'll accept being referred to as a child by someone more than twice my age, but a girl? I am very definitely a woman and have been for some time, in every aspect of life.

Pet peeve #6327: "Woman". Why is it that female persons become "women" at age 13 and remain so util approximately age 70? There seems to be a clear conflict of connotation here. I would generally not call you a woman because I would consider it insulting - you're not old, dried up or boring! But I suppose to you the term "girl" connotes immaturity (in my experience a touchier subject for women than for men). I guess I use whichever seems to fit best in the sentence but if by "girl" I mean "child", I usually make that clear through context.
Then again I respond with hostility to every touchy comment on SC. Instinct forces me to close in for the kill at the merest hint of insecurity

Please don't take offense. I didn't mean to say that women under the age of 27 were "mere" girls, or children. Only that I would never use the term "girl" for someone over that age. I don't know if it is equivalent, but I certainly wouldn't object to someone calling me a "boy", now that I am 38, I don't think it is accurate, but when I was in my mid-twenties it wouldn't have phased me one bit. In fact if someone called me a "man" back then, I would have thought it odd.

I'm a girl

a 33 year old girl

30 years. It was a mistake, but not because of the age dif.

Women are not by definition "old, dried up, and boring". The word woman describes a female who has reached maturity and the word girl does not. The reason this is more defined in females than in males is likely that females undergo more obvious changes when they become women than males do.

I didn't take offense. It just struck me as an odd comment. I haven't been referred to as a girl since my early teen years and it never even occurred to me at this point in my life that anyone would consider me one. I suppose I might take offense if it were meant to be offensive but as your comment was not, you can call me "girl" if you like.

While your statement is not factually incorrect in any way, when I hear the word "woman" I still tend to think of my mom. Not always, of course - it does depend on the context.

Gosh thanks! *blushes*

So do you think of "men" as old, dried-up and boring too? Do you consider yourself a "boy"?

wow i havent been on here in forever...hi people!

My ex was a year older and my girlfriend right now is 2 years younger.

I don't even think OLD women are dried up and boring!

I have never even been (successfully) romantically involved with someone even remotely my own age.

My response to the "girl"/"women" debate: I use both temrs interchangably. Both words only mean one thing to me. A female member of the species.

...female...species...I can see why you aren't getting any.

I don't believe that for one minute. When you see a 3 year old female human walking down the street, you would not use girl/woman interchangeably.

At 24 I had sex with a 39-year-old woman.
Now at 31 I do this girl form work. She's 19.

15 years older: I was 24, she was 39.
12 years younger: I'm 31, she's 19.

18 years older

Frequently, yes. I'm 28 and I still find the word "man" slightly uncomfortable. I am growing into it, though, and by the time I'm 40 (ie, old, dried-up and boring) I am certain it will fit me like a glove.

The real problem is that there's no female equivalent of "guy," which is what males who are neither men nor boys are.

Good point. What's wrong with "woguy"? Maybe it would sound a bit too much like "wookie"? Then we're back to one of our many body hair surveys again.

Yeah, and "guyn" sounds a little too clinical.

A friend of mine (and yours actually, I think) is from North Carolina and uses the word "gal" without a second thought. It makes him sound very southern, though. How about lassie? Or does that, once again, get us into body-hair territory?

Actually, I think "lassie" gets us into Indian yogurt drink territory. And "gal" is really just a shortened form of "girl," so that's no good either.

You're probably right in this case, but sometimes a slight modification of a word is all that's required to throw off a stigma (Mz, eg).

In that case, I'd suggest modifying it to "gur," rather than "gal."

I feel that maybe I should point out that in the X-Men movie, Jean Gray is about ten years older than Cyclops, the love of her life. In the comic however, she is one year younger. Good rewrite on the part of Bryan Singer! I'm all for dating older women.

I have never completely hated "Grrrl". "Gur" sounds an awful lot like "Gor", which might get a lot of Grrls in trouble if they started calling themselves that.

But it's kind of hard to tell the difference between "girl" and "grrrl" when spoken.

Not if you say it with gusto! It's a kind of a Tony the Tiger thing.

I'm a gurl

Go for it. This is have to hear!

I was 26
She was 11

anon #2: even here that's illegal!

I don't think any more than 5.

where's here?

The Netherlands

What's the limit there?

15 I think.

I was 20 and he was 28. Glad we split up though, he's 30 this year!!

Next thing you know, he'll be receiving his pension!

Next thing you know, you will be receiving yours.

6-10 years older and 2-5 years younger.

Lets see...I was 13, and he was...18, I think, so 5 years.

I generally date older women, I have no idea why. My current SO is the same age as me.

The rule the guys back at school use is: half your age plus seven, should be the lower limit for girls you can date (ie if a guy is 20, 17 year olds should be the youngest girls you can date)

So, for me using that "equation," the lowest age for me would be 16. Ugh! I can't stand teenage girls. Never could, never will.

How can you say that you can't stand teen age girls? All of them? From 13 to 19? That's a little stereotypical, don't you think?

Yeah. So?

6 years

woohoo!!! i got the two most popular ones!