| User | Comment |
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| davec | | posted 10-Jul-2000 3:26pm |
Nope, and I don't think they expected very much, either. |
jettles   | | posted 10-Jul-2000 3:35pm |
choices are limited on the no side.
i think their expectations have changed over the years! |
dab  | | posted 10-Jul-2000 3:41pm |
I know my mom would like more grandchildren. She's not getting them. |
| Netpawz | | posted 10-Jul-2000 4:19pm |
My parents wanted me to be thin, well educated, get married, live in a nice house with a dog, a cat, and 2.3 children.... I have disappointed them on all counts. --Well, I do have two cats but I don't think that makes them feel any better!  |
| Oscar | | posted 10-Jul-2000 5:05pm |
I don't know what my mom's expectations for me are/where. |
| lara | | posted 10-Jul-2000 5:23pm |
They haven't said anything, but I bet they're a little disappointed that I never went to college. |
| natsim | | posted 10-Jul-2000 5:49pm |
In all except for the fact that I don't yet have children. |
| mandy | | posted 10-Jul-2000 6:22pm |
I don't think either of them expected me to be in a happy committed lesbian relationship. My mother is happy for me.
My father refused to acknowledge it.
I know that they both felt/feel as if I have done well financially(compared to them).
They both felt/feel I was/am a good parent.
Really though, what they thought/think of me makes no difference.
I think I've done very well in life, all the way around. That is all that counts. |
| kirst | | posted 10-Jul-2000 8:38pm |
I'm not sure what my parents' expectations were, but I'm sure they're happy with the way my life is turning out. Things are very good. |
| Zang | | posted 10-Jul-2000 9:51pm |
Hell no! My mother has told me she accepts the fact that I've chosen to live a different lifestyle from what they had hoped for me, but they are happy that I'm doing what I want to do. |
Frostbrand  | | posted 10-Jul-2000 11:19pm |
I'll be honest. I'm not sure my parents had any expectations for me. Other than staying alive. |
| Wheels | | posted 10-Jul-2000 11:32pm |
I guess so. I'll have to get back to you when I'm done university. |
| Avocado | | posted 10-Jul-2000 11:44pm |
Oy, quite the topic. My mother basically is proud of me and wants me to be happy. My father is dissapointed that I'm "only" getting my PhD (as opposed to an MD or JD or business degree) and that I'm not prioritizing being filthy rich. He sees me as immature to the extent that I'm not like him  Familial status is an odd one... my mother would really love for me to start producing her grandkids all ready, but she is in no particular rush for me to marry - that's not a prerequisite in her eyes. My parents would like it of course if I met "the right person;" but they aren't pushing about it. They are less thrilled that I might meet "the right people," despite being poly themselves - they don't want competition for the affections of said eventual grandkids. I don't know yet if I want kids - abstractly, I do, but in practice I don't know how they would fit into my life. I want time for myself. |
| Avocado | | (reply to Netpawz) posted 10-Jul-2000 11:46pm |
Oh, that's one of my father's beefs too - that I'm not thin. |
| Avocado | | (reply to mandy) posted 10-Jul-2000 11:47pm |
i agree - if we're happy with our own lives, that's what matters most!
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| Analog | | posted 11-Jul-2000 1:06am |
If my parents ever had goals and expectations for me about my relationships, financial status, etc., they never let me in on what they were. |
| Jemmy | | posted 11-Jul-2000 9:25pm |
No, my mother seems to think that I'm an obnoxious insolent rude brat, and she's probably right, but I don't care! |
| Jemmy | | (reply to Avocado) posted 11-Jul-2000 9:27pm |
You're lucky. I'm too thin, and people accuse me of being anorexic. |
| TwistedIvory | | posted 12-Jul-2000 12:57am |
I don't think I've reached their expectations -- rather, I've changed them. |
| Avocado | | (reply to Jemmy) posted 12-Jul-2000 8:37pm |
Well, I'd prefer to be of medium build - I do weigh more than I'd like to. In any case, though, the people in our lives should not feel like they have free license to comment upon our builds. It just ain't about them. |
| Jemmy | | (reply to Avocado) posted 12-Jul-2000 9:29pm |
I know! I hate that. Everybody I know comments on how little I eat and how little I weigh. It's so annoying! It must be annoying to be over average weight and have people comment on you too. |
| romkey | | posted 12-Jul-2000 11:40pm |
financially, far exceeded it (though I felt dirty about telling my father that before he died). emotionally too, since my father was stuck thinking of me as a twelve year old. Relationship-wise, I'm not really what they bargained for. Bummer for them. |
| sequel | | posted 13-Jul-2000 2:37am |
I've never experienced pressure from them to get married or spawn, or to look a certain way, thank god. Even though I am doing better financially and am happier after having changed careers, I think there may be some disappointment on my mom's part about the level of success I've achieved in my work life. |
| liquidliqhtninq | | posted 13-Jul-2000 8:53pm |
Nah...but I'm only 15...I've got a few years to fix that  |
| Avocado | | (reply to Jemmy) posted 13-Jul-2000 11:21pm |
It is.
And people act like it's a moral issue or a psychological one when people are fat. *Sigh* I simply have a low metabolism and the same build that generation upon generation of the women in my family have had (and those that didn't, smoked). I'd like to be slimmer, but achieving that aim just ain't high on the list of priorities compared to, say, graduating, having fun, not feeling hungry all the time because I'm on a diet, etc... |
| Jemmy | | (reply to Avocado) posted 14-Jul-2000 9:50am |
Society wants everybody to be perfect, but that's not possible. It's always too fat, too skinny, too dark, not dark enough... it's stupid. |
| Avocado | | (reply to Jemmy) posted 14-Jul-2000 10:07am |
*nods* |
| Andyroo | | posted 14-Jul-2000 2:55pm |
Not at all and I couldn't care less. Whatever I do I will never reach my parents expectations. |
| Frostbrand | | (reply to Jemmy) posted 15-Jul-2000 12:51am |
Exactly. i mean, first you kill off the other races. Then the other religions. Then the short people. Than the too tall, and finally, finally there's only one person left on the entire planet, and no doubt that crazy jerk will attack the mirror. |
| Jemmy |
:) |
| autumnlight | | posted 15-Jul-2000 2:09pm |
I'm only 15 too and at the moment I'm getting the pressure from my mothers side of the family. I've met upto their expectations in the academic side of things but I think I've turned out a little too independant for them. My dad is great though. |
bill  | | posted 16-Jul-2000 8:53am |
I don't think I understand what "familial status" is - which, I suspect also means that I "failed" that part.
In general my parents haven't expressed what their goals were for me - though, I can infer from some of their actions that they had some basic ones (dating girls, college, good job, house) which I accomplished without much trouble. I suspect that in some ways my parents are in awe of me, that I turned out different than them, but in some interesting ways, better. |
| joachim | | (reply to bill) posted 17-Jul-2000 12:04pm |
I suspect nihon meant children. |
| debaston | | posted 18-Jul-2000 10:27am |
anything else though, I have never hit their mark. Nor do I care to do so, nor do I worry about what they want. |
| nihon | | (reply to joachim) posted 20-Jul-2000 12:51am |
I suspect you are right. However, I just picked up this survey as a "fix-me", and that part wasn't changed after I did that, so we'd have to find out from the original creator. |
| Enheduanna | | posted 20-Jul-2000 12:27pm |
You mention work in the explanation, but there's no option for it! |
| drdt | | posted 20-Jul-2000 12:43pm |
I am sure my mother would like me to be happier, and I am sure everyone except for my brother is appalled at my relationship/family situation. Everyone except me knew I would be financially successful, but I'm probably the only one who is satisfied with my educational level.
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| LouLou | | posted 26-Jul-2000 7:43am |
We fill our own dreams. |
| Guthrie |
My Mum's expectation is for me to be happy in the things I do, and for the most part I am. |
| Frostbrand |
My Mom's expectation for me is very simple. She says not to make her a grnadmother until she's over 40. No problem. Her 40th is coming up tomorrow, and I'm still a virgin, so I think she has nothing to worry about. |
| Hotbabe |
I can't say I've pleased my parents, but the important thing is that I've pleased myself. |
