Are you still friends with your ex SO?

Yes we are good friends.

If we did not share a child, I would have nothing to do with him. I grit my teeth, tolerate(yes, I said it) his stupidity and irresponsible behavior because my daughter loves him, and I love her. I know it is best for her to have him be a big part of her life. Unfortunately that means I have to see him, talk to him and keep my fury to myself.

Nope, but only because he's a butthead about it. I wouldn't want to hang out together, but I wish we could at least talk once in awhile.

Other. No.

Wow. I ticked all the first four options!

We both care about each other and would help each other out in any way, but both of our lives are so different it just doesn't fit to be friends.

I'm still very good friends with my ex who I was with the longest. I danced at his subsequent wedding, even.

Am good friends with a fair number of other exes, too. One ex I wish I'd been able to stay friends with; I was immature in how I treated him when the relationship got rocky, and he was hurt; I can't say I blame him for keeping his distance. But I miss the friendship.

One ex, I am glad to not tend to run into.

I'm not sure if I should be counting ex-girlfriends here. If not, then I should say I don't have an ex-so, just my current SO/wife. If so, then the answer varies with each girlfriend.

no, but she calls...and i feel all crapty trying to get off the phone with her without hurting her feelings

I have relationships with various ex'es ranging from friends who I see on a regular basis to some I never see at all. There are a couple of negative situations, otherwise the rest are positive.

Assuming that both parties are on the up-and-up and doing their best, I figure that when you have a relationship w/someone and you try to make the relationship work at some "level" and fail, that doesn't mean that the relationship can't work at any level at all. It just means that the relationship couldn't work the way the two of you were trying to make it. Therefore, you can still be committed to one another/friends/um-friends/acquaintances/what-have-you if you both can get past the disappointment/depression/anger at failing to make the relationship work at that new level.

Jonathan -

Exactly!

I've sometimes referred to that as "de-intensifying" a relationship.

I've always been really psyched that I'm still on good terms with my ex's brothers and sisters... they have accepted our transition to friendship. I had really been bummed about the prospect of possibly never being in touch with them again - they are such cool folks.

I don't know yet.

I don't have an ex-SO.

I've found that being friends with an ex really works a lot better if we were friends beforehand.

I have several that pop back into my life extremely casually from time to time, and several I have not heard from in years. I have to interact a tiny bit with my last ex because of business, which I don't enjoy.

yeah I picked the first four, too.

Good point, phi

Two yes good friends, one no and I'm glad, all the rest (not that many), no but I would like to be.