| User | Comment |
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| Mariah | | posted 12-Dec-1999 9:16pm |
I am mostly pragma and eros. Friends and romance, you can't go wrong! |
| anonymous | | posted 12-Dec-1999 10:56pm |
Why must I always play foolish games!!! |
| Fluffball | | posted 12-Dec-1999 11:05pm |
Geez, all of them. |
| mandy | | posted 12-Dec-1999 11:32pm |
Eros first
Mania last |
| Gamera | | posted 12-Dec-1999 11:40pm |
Just for the record "like several partners at once" does not necessarily imply "enjoy the chase more than the catch." I wasn't sure whether to answer this question based on how I feel love "should be" or how it is for me. There are ways in which Mania expresses itself in my feelings of love. I don't like that about myself, and when it does I try to seek out the root cause of the insecurity that I think is leading to it to try to grow out of it, but it is there sometimes. |
| Mariah | | posted 13-Dec-1999 2:02am |
topper: I agree. I got the definitions out of a psychology book, and I wanted to give the full definition. I thought about changing that one, but I decided to leave it the way it was. |
| drdt | | posted 13-Dec-1999 3:23am |
I thought agape was infatuation with, bordering on worship of, an idealized version of the beloved. |
| drdt | | posted 13-Dec-1999 3:24am |
Topper, Mariah: similarly, chemistry and passion do not necessarily indicate or require 'true love' or long abidance. |
bill   | | posted 13-Dec-1999 7:13am |
Wow - great survey. I wonder if this question was asked 1000s of years ago to the ancient Greeks! |
they   | | posted 13-Dec-1999 2:31pm |
I liked this survey. :) |
| Mariah | | posted 13-Dec-1999 4:03pm |
Thanks! :) |
| jjg | | posted 13-Dec-1999 5:50pm |
The question asks what type of love best describes my relationship style, but the options are to be ranked. Seems kind of odd. |
| pandora | | posted 13-Dec-1999 9:20pm |
I really really like this one. |
| bill | | posted 15-Dec-1999 12:44pm |
jjg - the explanation says "rate" - which implies that you can give each answer whatever value you want (repeats and skips are OK). |
| mikecap | | posted 19-Dec-1999 10:09am |
Love is the most important thing in the world. |
| Avocado | | posted 22-Dec-1999 11:02am |
Mariah - cool survey concept - but, as Topper said above, I'd prefer if this survey didn't imply that several partners at once was game-playing. There are some stable, committed group marriages (and other poly configs) out there.
Would like to know the name/author/chapter-author/ year/date/publisher/page-citation of your
psych text, if you have a moment to type it in, so that I can write a letter to the author asking them to be less biased in their presentation of these definitions. |
| Maggie | | posted 23-Dec-1999 12:16pm |
That is a hard one to do. More then one of those is the way I love my husband and also the most important parts of our love. |
| Jeanne | | posted 2-Jan-2000 10:27am |
I believe that true love is selfless. Putting the other person's feelings above your own. Really caring about the value of the other person's life. Being loyal, honest, being a shoulder to lean on or cry on and being able to share, in life, the good and the bad. Being able to be strong in a commitment and above all have God in your life,which in todays world especially, will help a relationship survive. |
| mandy | | posted 3-Jan-2000 12:12am |
Jeanne ........I believe you can do those things without god, in fact a lot of the things you attribute to having god in your life or put in his hands to control actually are up to you and the choices you make and the actions you take.
To me religion is a crutch. I realize some see it as a guideline and a comfort but I just don't understand why they don't trust themselves to be their own guide and why they can't comfort themselves. Why make up a deity at all? Take care of yourself...trust yourself....find your strength within and not without.
Let go and let god, my ass.
More like hold tight and do it yourself. |
| Darius |
Well whoopee, how fun. Im loser baby |
| eris | | posted 5-Jan-2000 10:23pm |
I do several of these with different people and for different reasons. I'm answering as to what I think of when I think of "relationship". |
| Jade | | posted 7-Jan-2000 12:25am |
This is a really cool survey. My top pick is storge. |
| natsim | | posted 11-Jan-2000 10:42am |
I don't like this definition of Agape - it sounds much more submissive than I had learned previously. |
