Have you ever been invited to an event that would have been very special but didn't go because you were depressed or felt you didn't belong?

Recently, yes. A gathering after a funeral. I went to the beach instead.

I've not gone to events for both those reasons, but I don't think that I've ever missed anything that I believe would have been "very special". I'm trying to think when I last missed an event I actually wanted to go to for a reason other than another commitment or ill health, and I think it's been a few years. I missed the finalists photo at the end of my first degree because I didn't want to bump into an ex, but then ended up working with him over the summer which was a useful lesson!

No!!! I only miss events if I have other things to do, or if I won't find them particularly enjoyable.

I have a mild to moderate aversion to all events.

Many, many times.I guess thats why I don't like to go anywhere. I'm pretty much a homebody.

Well, my brother graduated last June with his girlfriend, and she was going to have a cookout at her house or something, but I didn't go, my family went. It's just that there would be a bunch of seniors from school there, probably, and I knew I wouldn't belong.

I don't get invited to ANYTHING often. But if I do skip out, it's because I'm sick or busy, or can't get a ride. Of course there is the other reason.

Yes. Social anxiety has a way of making this a huge part of your life.

I can see that as very reasonable. It would have been okay, it would not have hurt anything. but I understand that.

Lonley in a crowd.
Hell yeah. Story of my life for a large while. I'm getting better with it though.

I've skipped a lot of events because I don't like parties. And there's the time I left my brother-in-law's strip-club bachelor party early, and had a nice discussion of economics instead.

I can't recall, but it's likely that this has happened once or twice. More for the "didn't belong" reason than the "depressed" reason.

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Hey there. Just trying it out again.

Yup, there are still a few of us old folks around. And some cool new ones. I hope you stick around a while!

I'm not sure why a person would feel they 'didn't belong' if they were invited. Doesn't the person who invited you provide a connection to the 'belonging'?

You might 'belong' to the group of people, but not to the environment. I tend to steer clear of alcohol-fuelled events, for example.

Oh. I can pretty much adapt to different environments. I don't have to actively participate to enjoy it.

Maybe not a special event..But in my junior year, I started going to youth group..but then stopped before second semester. Even though I didn't really come, I was still invited to everything (people don't go every week..sometimes it's weeks before you see anyone..and some kids only show up to events). I never went for the same reason I had stopped going..I didn't feel I belonged..I now wish I had gone..But can't change the past I guess.

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I've been too down to have my act together to make it without a 10 hours of prep, thus missing the occasion, like to a concert I had tickets to.

> I have a mild to moderate aversion to all events.

Ahh, but not eating, eh? Eating is the major event of my day, every day.

I said yes knowing me but I can't for the life of me remember specifics. I find I don't let things stop me from doing much any more.