How would you handle your friends generosity with your personal items?

You like your friend most for their generosity, but they tend to also offer your items for sharing. For instance, they offer your expensive shampoo, or a favorite food item, your personal space or your car, or it could be a service that you do well. All of which you would most likely would share on your own, but you are face to face with the guest when your friend makes such offers.

It isn't at all that you are not generous, it's about not having a say in it before the guest recieved the offer. AND it isn't about this one time, it's all the time.

If you must look at this hypothetically, please do so.
I'm making it like an essay because having options may appear biased.

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1	This happens(ed) to me and I...

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mandy	posted 31-Aug-2009 3:17pm How could I have an issue if it is all things I would likely share on my own.....
Lahdee	posted 31-Aug-2009 3:33pm I don't think it's very generous to offer another person's time, services or stuff. It's very selfish, actually. I think I would stop being friends with the person. I'm picky about friends so I'm sure it would be easy once I realised their ways.
LindaH	posted 31-Aug-2009 5:16pm I would find another room mate.
labjog	posted 31-Aug-2009 7:27pm I would be so pissed while trying not to blow up in front of people. see my big fake smile
cerealkiller	posted 31-Aug-2009 8:00pm shoot the friend. Or maybe cut them, slowly, drawing nice designs into their flesh.
Crayons	posted 1-Sep-2009 12:25am Well, I would tell them. Or maybe, I would do the same thing back.
FordGuy	posted 1-Sep-2009 7:13am I'm confused.
gambler	posted 1-Sep-2009 7:56am Cloudy, like I said in Qual , when would/could this happen and how often for it to be an issue?........... like I said it m,ust be a roomate thing /college sharing room thing, I would just pull them to one side and tell them in no uncertain way to stop f**king doing it!!
Iseult	posted 1-Sep-2009 9:22am I would let my friends know that I am perfectly capable of making my own decisions when it comes to sharing my stuff. I would do that quite nicely and with a smile. If a problem persists it might get a bit ugly.
cloudhugger	(reply to gambler) posted 1-Sep-2009 9:44am Often, David....once a month maybe? How about business partner? Can you see that? Say the business partner wants to impress a potential client, or make them feel at home, so the friend says in front of you and everyone "David makes the best fried green tomatoes, he can whip them up in no time!" Or..."David has a very good eye for decoration, I'm sure he will go to your place and rearrange the furniture to suit things better" Or you are neighbors with some friends, and one of their cousins pops in. You and everyone is standing around and the neighbor says "David LOVES to fix cars, maybe he will work on your vehicle before you leave town" Does that help?
Jody	posted 1-Sep-2009 11:22am Address this directly with them, and indicate my preferences - they are certainly welcome to ask to use something, but cannot volunteer it for me.
gambler	(reply to cloudhugger) posted 1-Sep-2009 11:58am Yea yea, I got it thanks for clearing that up..... My answer rermains
Enheduanna	posted 1-Sep-2009 12:15pm I would just ask them to stop.
autumnlight	posted 1-Sep-2009 4:15pm I would take the person aside and ask them not to do that.
LJD	posted 1-Sep-2009 4:49pm The less said, the better sometimes. I just got myself into a situation, doing something I'm not really up to, but more or less talked into...doing for a good cause. I don't blame the other person, I blame myself. She was very gracious, but I didn't want to disappoint her, as she's a good American, she didn't want to go by herself.
cloudhugger	(reply to mandy) posted 4-Sep-2009 9:30am Pretty much the point I was trying to make. It isn't that you are not generous, it's the point that you were not left much choice to share. someone else is offering rather than you. It puts me off a bit. My friend offers my shampoo, face cleaner, and anything else of mine in the bathroom. It isn't like she bothered to offer her stuff, I guess, and I don't even leave my stuff in the bathroom for when my friends come over. I ask if they need anything, and than I hand it over.
mandy	(reply to cloudhugger) posted 4-Sep-2009 1:26pm Don't sweat it...it's just "stuff" hug
LindaH	(reply to cloudhugger) posted 4-Sep-2009 8:20pm Start giving away prized possessions...
cloudhugger	(reply to LindaH) posted 5-Sep-2009 12:52pm First on the list is a pin that says No Bozo's
Dino	posted 6-Sep-2009 11:19am I'm pretty up front about being tight-fisted. Most of my close friends are knowledgable about that. Also I don't have much. But, hypothetically, I can imagine one of my friends saying "Yeah Dean takes good photos. He'll come around and take some pics for you" and this involved my time. And if I didn't want to, I'd just say no. Or say I don't have time. Although that would be a confidence thing too. My pics aren't that great.

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