What is the worst thing you can do when in a relationship?

Many things...

I'm going with Lack Of Communication, because it can probably lead to one of the others.

I don't think I would tolerate any of those anyway.

Abuse and cheating. I don't care about lack of communication. The less negative crap said, the better.

Abuse, definitely. But also, lack of communication. It's the quickest way to ruin (if not destroy) a relationship.

any of these could be the worst for anyone......... for me i think that apathy would be the worst. i think it leads to infidelity, different abuses and loss of relationship, any kind of relationship. i would not tolerate physical abuse or sexual abuse and have never had to deal with those but i think anyone who becomes involved with me knows that and that is why i never had to deal with it. physical and sexual abuse are horrible things but i think they come out of other problems with a person.

Any of the above can make a relationship difficult. I think it'd depend on the exact situation as to which are the worst.

Cheating, he cheats on me and i cheat on him and lack of communication

It's hard to compare these. All of the 'abuse' answers seemed like clearly bad things, so I picked them. Also, communication, since it just seems like the issue that triggers a lot of other problem. Though, in itself, seems rather minor (at first, anyway). I picked cheating too, though the act itself doesn't seem so bad (just sex, I guess). The betrayal and resulting lack of trust just destroys everything, I think. Cheating seems so common in our culture, and thus accepted, but I think it's devastating and something we should all be more wary of.

All of these would be problematic for me, although I imagine some of them would be less of a problem for some people (infidelity and disrespect for family in particular might not always be a problem). It depends on the relationship.

Yes.

All of the above are pretty bad. Infidelity nearly did it for me. This arose out of apathy and lack of communication. I've never been in a relationship where there has been abuse of any kind.

This would be fun to answer without options... lets see...

murder

Mentally insane

Cheating, then lying about it afterwards when confronted about it.

Lie.

CAKE!!!!!!!!

Kill the other person.

I guess the answer "lack of communication" can encapsulate all the others because if you don't communicate, you don't treat the other as a person. From that moment on, he or she has been turned into an object then the worst becomes possible.

It's all mine!

Kill your father and sleep with your mother?

cheating and not taking it in the butt at least once a month.

How pregnant that reply is coming from you.

How does not communicating treat someone like an object?

Well, of course, this is just my opinion.
Usually, people do not communicate with an object. They're just using it.
I mean, they don't expect an object to be able to experience human feelings nor to say anything valuable.
If you don't communicate - at all! - with your partner, then, in my opinion, it means you're using it as an object.
An object is not human, so you can use it but you may also easily feel free to tear it, break it, throw it, trample on it, and so on.
For example, a friend of mine got divorced recently; she explained that her husband had been using her as an object for several years: he would make her clean the house, drive the car for him, give him sexual pleasure, but when she ever wanted to communicate with him, he would just shout at her "shut up, you slut. You're only good at cleaning the floor and fudging." As she wanted to make him understand he couldn't treat her this way, he just seized her hair and threw her in a rage against the wall!
The doll was broken a few times until she finally packed up her things and went away...

Sexual Abuse.

Lying cheats you out of making a right choice around something because it's not true. If people are totally honest at all times then they will know how to respond.

> Well, of course, this is just my opinion.
> Usually, people do not communicate with an object. They're just using
> it.
> I mean, they don't expect an object to be able to experience human
> feelings nor to say anything valuable.
> If you don't communicate - at all! - with your partner, then, in my
> opinion, it means you're using it as an object.
> An object is not human, so you can use it but you may also easily
> feel free to tear it, break it, throw it, trample on it, and so on.
>
> For example, a friend of mine got divorced recently; she explained
> that her husband had been using her as an object for several years:
> he would make her clean the house, drive the car for him, give him
> sexual pleasure, but when she ever wanted to communicate with him,
> he would just shout at her "shut up, you slut. You're only good at
> cleaning the floor and fudging." As she wanted to make him understand
> he couldn't treat her this way, he just seized her hair and threw
> her in a rage against the wall!
> The doll was broken a few times until she finally packed up her things
> and went away...


I agree, Feng. So many times men... or "people" run away. There isn't anything more frustrating or degrading then someone that wants to stay in a relationship with you yet doesn't care about what is going on inside, won't listen. It feels like being used. Four or five days of not answering the phone when they call usually gives them the message and its just game playing. AND we have the right to take the high road and move on because when you are with the wrong one, the right one won't appear.

cheating and lying

Physical abuse and theft are the worst ones...

Other. Specifically, ask him/her what he/she is thinking. You might get an answer.

Cheat. Lie. Be an ass. Treat your girlfriend diefferently because your friends don't like her.