Would you rather love or be loved?

Should be option for both, i want to be loved and show love

Good quetion. I'd rather be loved. Much easier.

Lack of either would suck, but not loving seems more likely to lead to serious psychosis. Not being loved would just be sad and lonely, but not soul-killing. I think. I don't know.

If I HAD to pick between the two, I'd pick being loved over loving.

I would rather be loved by the man of my dreams Mr. Romeo

I've done enough loving for right now. I think it's my turn to be loved. Though, I think anyone who loves me has good taste, and so I would probably love them back.

> I would rather be loved by the man of my dreams
> Mr. Romeo

Mr Romeo? What happened to Mr Bush? You know, he'll get jealous.

> I've done enough loving for right now. I think
> it's my turn to be loved. Though, I think anyone
> who loves me has good taste, and so I would probably
> love them back.

You make me laugh.

> |> I would rather be loved by the man of my dreams
> |> Mr. Romeo
>
> Mr Romeo? What happened to Mr Bush? You know, he'll get jealous.
>
>

Yes George Bush it is he will miss me and be all jealous gee horseback riding in Texas hill-billy music and hot dogs
fat 20" inch hot dogs yee haa

Why not have both?

My favorite musicians don't seem to mind that I am married.

> Why not have both?
>
> My favorite musicians don't seem to mind that I am married.

Yea multiple husbands with lots of money gee i could buy myself a Mercedes Benz and open up some businesses
haha haha

Love. I would rather love than be loved. If I am unable to love, I would be unable to recieve love. If I give love freely and unconditionally, than I am capable of feeling it all come back to me several-fold.

*Applauds*

That was beautifully said!

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Thank you.
I find the results interesting.
rates survey 'excellent'

Yup, this is a great survey

Kristal Rose did a good job!

I'd rather be loved. It's more comfortable.

If I could only have one, I'd rather love than be loved.

Would you rather fear or be feared?

I picked "love" because (what Enheduanna said).

Oh get a room you two!!

I would rather room than be roomed.

I would rather than be rathered Mister!

I would rather miss her than be a mister.

Yes

Neither... I prefer to hate and be hated...

Both....but, I must say a woman is nothing without a man to love....

Be loved

> a woman is nothing without a man to love....

That's crazy. Are you saying that a woman is nothing if she is single??

> Would you rather fear or be feared?

'Let them hate me, so long as they fear me'.

- Tiberius

> Would you rather fear or be feared?

I would rather be feared

I would rather love. I would feel more in control this way.

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To be seriously truthful, a person is nothing without a person to love, and be loved. They may not be able to admit it, but I feel it's true. I need a man in my life, a man is a complement to a woman, and visa versa. Human beings need to be loved, and to love. I know I could never be alone. I am a self confident woman, but know I need a strong man to share my life. We need a balance in our life.

> To be seriously truthful, a person is nothing
> without a person to love, and be loved. They
> may not be able to admit it, but I feel it's true.
> I need a man in my life, a man is a complement
> to a woman, and visa versa. Human beings need
> to be loved, and to love. I know I could never
> be alone. I am a self confident woman, but know
> I need a strong man to share my life. We need
> a balance in our life.

I believe that we need to love and be loved, but we don't have to have a partner to do that. A dog has the same effect. Any woman that feels like she needs a man doesn't reach my standards for a confident woman.

I agree that a person needs to love and be loved - but love is not necessarily romantic. I am loved by God, by my family, by my friends, by my son (granted, he doesn't exactly know it yet), by my kitty cat ... and I love them all, also. I don't need a man to love me romantically in order to be fulfilled.

Be loved.

I'm sick of doing all the lovin'.

Amanda, I understand how you feel, being a woman of your age, growing up in a different era, an era of womans liberation.

A man and woman are to be a complement to each other...not in competition. I want the companionship of a man, the protection of a man, the leadership of a man, I enjoy sex with a man, to cuddle up with him at the end of the day. Sure, pets are great, but they don't take the place of a man in my book. Pets make great little companions, but they don't talk, and cuddle like a man. I admit it, I need a man. AND I am a confident woman, that needs a man.

I like all those things just as much as the next person. While I enjoy having a man around, it's not something I need or must have. I just have a hard time wrapping my mind around a woman needing a man. The way you've talked, your husband isn't the greatest person to be around. I think I'd rather be alone than with a man that annoyed me.

> Be loved.
>
> I'm sick of doing all the lovin'.

I you! and your butt

Amanda, true I've lived in a loveless marriage for over 40 years. I chose to stay for the family. We have a marriage like roommates. My husband is basically, a good man, but on the selfish side. He tells me he loves me every day. He doesn't know I feel the way I do. I think he thinks everything is ok. I am the one who chooses not to cuddle with him, however, he asks for a hug often, and I accommodate. I half heartedly tell him I love him, and I do for the years we're shared, and giving me two wonderful sons. I'm NOT in love with him as a woman should love her husband. He killed it for me many years ago. I want to learn to love him again, but the damage is done. He, in his own way, has tried to make amends, but I can't let go.

Since I had my stroke he has been so helpful, and I appreciate it. We laugh, joke, try to have some fun, but my loving him is gone. Perhaps, by a miracle, I'll forgive one day.

I still crave the protection and love of a man. To curl up at night, with a man you love, and fall asleep together. I know I'll never have that again, and this I feel is part of the reason I had my stroke, lovelessness. I'll never give up on men. I need the feeling of love, and to love a man.

I you too.

love.

At the moment is the first experience I've ever had of being loved (&/or infatuated with) and not really being in love myself.

It's easier to feel loving than being loved.

If I'm in love, I end up loving everything in the world.
Just being loved, I feel as ackward as wondering what to say during someone's tragedy.

I wasn't aware you'd had a stroke. Sorry to hear that. I hope you're doing okay now.

Staying in a loveless marriage for over 40 years sounds crazy to me. You chose to stay for the family? I've heard that line so many times and it's never made sense to me. I love my family more than anything or anyone. However, I'm not going to be miserable and stay with someone I don't love to make anyone happy. If you're not truly happy, then you're not going to be able to give your all to your family. Sure, you can go through the motions. You can try like hell. But, there's going to be something missing. If you believe they don't realize that, then you're only kidding yourself. Maybe nobody says anything, but if it's like you say, then they know.

You say that a woman needs to love and be loved. That a woman needs a man to do this. Well, you're now saying that you don't love your husband. Yet, you're still surviving. I guess I'm a little confused.

Thank you Amanda, I'm recovering, slowly, but surely. I've learned alot . My message is TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH,. do not take it for granted.

Amanda, there is nothing we can give more important, than ourselves. For my sanity, happiness, I've often thought I probably should have left my husband, but I didn't. Now after many years, I'm set where I am. My children I feel have a sense of security knowing we're together. My children are the same as I. My grandchildren love the idea grandma and grandpa are together. Over the years, I have hid from others, how I feel.

My husband in the last two years has become less selfish. Since my stroke, he has watched, hovered over me. Does things for me he never would before.

Amanda, I understand how you feel. As I've said I'll live out my life, always wanting to love, and feeling loved, but it's not going to be, I've accepted it. My life is what it is,

You can't do, be, have one without the other because "Love" is a full circle. Not to put a clinker into the romantic way people see love but a lot of what we think is "loving" is really "needing". I am such a kill joy, huh?

unrequited love happens all the time.

Tell me about it. But, thinking back, I "needed" something from that person that didn't "love" me back. And there's family and friend love that is great. Still... what comes around goes around. If not, the circle's broken. Like "I LOVE my tea which I just drank a bunch of just now because I love it so much so it is making me a motor mouth... or motor hands. :o)

I think its a great thing to love someone & for that Individual to love you back. I thought love was a two-way street. A woman that loves a man will do alot for him. Probably more than he will her. i don't know why this is so but it always seems to ring true. I like romance & spontaneity. I think it's good. It's what makes love so grand!

That's a toughie. Uhhhhhhh, how about both!