What do you think of arranged marrages?

Do not arrange my marriage

I don't. I'm assuming you're referring to arranged marriages.

They work but invite cheating

options would have been nice. coming from a culture that has never had arranged marriages in my lifetime, it is hard to understand the concept. some seem to work and some don't just like marriages everywhere. has anyone seen the movie "The Namesake"? parents in that film had an arranged marriage, which worked for them............ it was a beautiful film.

> They work but invite cheating

more cheating than any other marriage??

apparently, not as bad as it sounds

Depends. Theoretically, it should be right, because parents can see what their child may not. I only wished I had listened to my parents years ago...but I was too young, 17 years old. The more they "pushed", the more I became distracted. They really liked my first boyfriend, and looking back, he was right for me. He really loved me. He was four years older than me. He was German/Hungarian, very industrious, really treated me like a lady. I was young and inexperienced in life. Joe was good for me, and my parents knew it. Today, I would have grabbed him in a minute.

I do believe people can learn to love, learn the process. When getting married, we must think with our hearts, and mind, not just the first physical attraction. If I only knew then, what I know today.

Unethical and dumb.

Ew.

I think they work out well for some people. I know people who have asked their families to arrange a marriage for them. But I don't think anyone should be forced into one against their will.

How do old folks like my parents know young people who would be candidates for this kind of thing? Who would pick me to be their son's wife? Well, in my view, it would just totally depend on who it is. But well.. I don't know. How do people decide? I don't think just anyone is right for anyone. I uh... I guess there could be success regarding children would be made and whatever, but I think I would want to be deeply in love and connected to some dude, you know? I've been waiting my whole life for my parents to stop telling me what to do and I'll have to wake up every morning next to a reminder that this could never happen. Plus what about gay people? I don't really like it. It would help more people get married and have babies, but it would not promote people being happily married.

Do not like the idea. People should make up their own minds who they want to live with as partners for possibly the rest of their lives.

I think that they'd be really interesting to study because I understand the success rate of these marriages is quite high.

I would think so, because a spouse would be with someone they might not have wanted to be with.

That probably has more to do with the culture than the fact the marriage was arranged

I've actually seen some work well. I'm sure there are many more that don't.

I don't really think about them.

I think in certain cultural contexts it's okay, but for me, I wouldn't like if somebody tried to arrange marry me. Or to arrange to have me married. You know what I'm saying.

> has anyone seen the movie "The Namesake"? parents
> in that film had an arranged marriage, which worked
> for them............ it was a beautiful film.

I've watched it. I saw Kal Penn was in it, and I find him hilarious, so I checked it out. I agree, it was a beautiful movie (a bit too long for my taste, though).

> apparently, not as bad as it sounds

I've got this friend of mine...

There are a lot of people in India and that have an ancient culture.. how wrong could they be?

I don't

I think you misunderstood my joke

Since you said it's not as bad as it sounds, I thought I should arrange marriage you.

Actually, I do have a friend who went back to Pakistan to get married.

From what I've heard, they work out better than I'd expect. I still don't want one.

Oh, I'm taken. Hm, well maybe I could have an arranged second wife.

I think whoever is doing the arranging should buy a dictionary.

I don't have a huge problem with them if there is no coercion involved. It wouldn't be my ideal, but more liberal arranged marriages seem to hold up pretty well.

I wouldn't be at all surprised to discover that they were statistically less likely to end in divorce.

I once worked with a woman who expected to enter into an arranged marriage. We got along quite well and flirted a bit. I got the impression that she thought I should try to talk her out of the arranged marriage, but I didn't.

I don't have a problem with it at all. I think that in cultures where this is the norm and everyone is on-board with it, there really isn't a problem. I don't think anyone should be forced into it though.

Ever seen that sketch from Goodness Gracious Me (TV & radio) with the arranged shag?

Its a backwards custom that should stay in the 17th century and/or crapty third world countries where it belongs.

Be careful what you wish for. Arranged marriages are somewhat popular in Muslim and Hindu countries (and third world countries in general). One of the things that makes the US (and Western countries in general) great is more individual freedom. People from third world countries (some of them illegally) have a tendancy to bring their values to the first world, one of them is arranged marriages. Is this really what you want?

they suck. Although at this point I think it might be a good idea. Mostly because trying to find someone is difficult enough.

I hold them in the same regard as marriages that are not arranged. (M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E-S)

> Oh, I'm taken. Hm, well maybe I could have an arranged second wife.

No no your not serious a second wife ???? i do not even know you and we never really met

ok, you made your point, arranged marriages are just wrong wrong wrong

I don't know what to think.

Just out of curiosity, how old are your parents?

I just realized that I'm old enough to be your parent.... and now I feel old.

Well, my mom is 53 and my dad is 57.

I know you're taken (hence the joke).

Oh okay... your parents are the age of my parents. Mine are 57.

I guess I should have just laughed, huh?

I try my best to be funny.

I try my best to respond with something, anything; despite how it makes it seem like I didn't get the joke.

Yes
Whilst hitched to one you don't care for it becomes easy to fall for one that isn't your assigned mate.
This is evidenced in cultures with arranged marriage customs throughout history.

Whats the point Im mean seriously why do pepole do it

I don't really think about them. Not much at all.
I recently became friends with a man who was in an arranged marriage. He started hanging around with another frined of mine who is quite the womanizer. Apparently, sex with a different woman other than the arranged one opened his eyes to all the stuff he was missing. All of us others are saying he will grow out of it, he really had it made where he was. so I think tht they can work, but it might boil down to re-arranging the attitude about it.
I would probably die if someone arranged a marraige for me.

I'm thinking I may be old enough t be yours? oh god, talk about feeling old.

Mommy!!!





(Born: 1976)

They are good if they've arranged for me to marry Jenny McCarthy.

On the plus side, if a marriage was arranged, you would have no reason to feel guilty for cheating, because the commitment wasn't sincere in the first place.

I'd of been 16 and fudgeed up. Give thanks it's all just a dream.

Yeah, it's messed up. I'm sure there is a contract or agreement from the parties (other than the married ones) that has to be fulfilled, so it would be really great if the two married ended up being compatible. No previous baggage from being dumped, lied to...cheated on...rotten in-laws and so on. Then it would be a win-win situation and less stress on everyone around them too.

Totally stupid... But what do you expect from a bunch of 3rd world idiots...

I don't agree with them.

I think arrangements should be made to shoot the arranger.

> There are a lot of people in India and that have an ancient culture..
> how wrong could they be?

There are also many people in India who think that being all dressed up on the way to work and splashing cow urine on them is a good luck omen. Check the History channel. That's where I saw it.

They're like other marriages, in some ways. Sometimes, they work. Sometimes, they don't. Sometimes, they're pure hell. The difference? The husband and bride don't do the picking. BTW, it's "marriages".

they are not right unless the two people love each other