How much time do you think is appropriate to spend with your in-laws? Is it okay to just see them on the holiday's?

It is totally okay to only see them on the holidays, especially if they drive you nuts.

Just with the inlaws? No spouse present?

It depends on how much you like them. It sounds like in this case the answer is: not much. Then spend as little time with them as you and your spouse can reasonably agree on. If you have kids, then I think you have an obligation to visit the grandparents. If you don't have kids, then why bother going at all?

Depends on you, depends on your partner, depends on your in-laws.

Depends. Who are you talking about? Mother/Father-in-law, sister/brother-in-laws? If I had had a good relationship with my mother-in-law, I would have loved to spend lots of time with the in-laws, but I didn't...it was sad. For the first 7 to 8 years of my marriage, I was totally tormented by my mother-in-law, and we visited them often. Until she died, we did not have a relationship, but the last few weeks before she died, I tried to help her, she was ill.

Don't let anyone hurt or destroy your marriage. What does your husband want? I wanted to make my husband happy, he loved his family, and I feel it was fair to please him, all the while I was miserable. I told my husband after almost eight years, what his mother had been doing. I begged him to have a talk with his mother, he did, and then came home and called me a liar, I exaggerated. Not so. I did not forgive my husband for not believing me. He always took up for his mother. I had always dreamed of having a wonderful relationship, but it was never to be.

As I said in qual, I think appropriate is the wrong word for what you're trying to say. Do they live close by, far away; are you hostile; are you protecting your spouse from them; do they control, manipulate or just plain irritate; what's going on?

I go to the family reunion, visit the YL's family whenever I get the chance.

Depends on a lot of things

It's your life, you decide. I say, if you don't like them, it's reasonable to do very little.

depends on how well you get along with them. it is appropriate to JUST spend the holidays!

Spend as much time or as little as you wnat to, but make sure you allow your kids to do the same. I.E. don't deny your children a relationship with their grandparents out of selfishness.

It depends on how much you like them, how close you live to them, and what is expected from the in-laws' family. Unless you want things to be really strained and difficult, attending family gatherings on a regular basis if you live close by may make the most sense.

Depends for one thing how close to you they live. If they live near enough to you locally I'd say that isn't enough. If they live a day's drive away or you have to fly there then just on the holidays or not even every year is fine. When my mother-in-law was still alive we only saw her twice in 12 years when she would come to visit and it wasn't even on the holidays.

The problem is with my mother-in-law and my sister- in-law. They both live about an hour away from us. I have typical in-law issues. They are both nosy, demanding, they seem to know everything about everything, they make rude comments to me, interrupt me every time I speak and LOVE to correct me and my husband! When I stand up for myself they make me out to be the bad guy and will ignore me. I have spent an entire weekend being ignored by these two adult women! My husband and I have tried to talk to them together and separate. However, they will not admit to their rude behavior. Because my mother in law and sister in law are best friends and live close to one another they see each other 3 to 4 times per week. Also, we don't have any kids.

For me, I would like to see them when I miss them.. Maybe weekends is enough?

Anything's too much time.

why that often?

The holidays is a span of more than just one day. I would find time to spend with them unless there's some real (not imagined or perceived) reason not to.

Whenever you feel like spending time with them. I get along great with my in-laws.

It depends on your spouse and the kind of family your spouse is from, really.

I spend no time with inlaws

Surely that depends on how often your partner wants to see them?

Depends on whether or not they like to play Skip-Bo.

That depends on rather you get along or not , i spend very little time with mine and my marriage has been saved by doing this so i guess if you like them spend alot but if you don,t get along then stay away.