If you had a bad home life, would you write a family member you were living with a letter and tell them you were moving out?

No. I would just move out. If someone treats you bad, they don't deserve a letter. You aren't obligated to let everyone know your intentions or reasons. You run the risk of them nagging you to change your mind. If you don't want that, you are better off slipping out without warning.

That would really depend on whether the person to whom I was writing was the source of the strife.

No, just tell them in person -- unless, of course, they're inclined to violence to you.

Not brave enough to tell them? Why write a letter? My wife at 18 one day just left and moved away.

Looks like a yes or no question but I can't find the yes or no options to select.

No, does anyone do this anymore? What about emails and phone for counsel?

Possibly. Dunno. Need more specifics....

No, I would tell them face to face.

Wait, I'd just leave a message on their Facebook wall.

Maybe.............hard for me to say, I had a good home life

I think I would be more likely to tell them personally, rather than write a letter. It would depend, though. If I thought it would be a terrible confrontation, then I might write a letter. Or I suppose if it were bad enough, I might leave without any notice.

No.

I hated living at home, and desperately wanted to move out. I dreaded what would happen when i did though (my parents are very overprotective. I got the impression they'd not want me to leave). When I found a place to move into I made all the arrangements without telling my family. I only told them a week before I moved, and I'm glad I didn't say anything sooner. That last week was worse than usual. However, I am glad that I told them in person, as anything else seemed cowardly and inappropriate to me.

I'd leave first... assuming it's really bad (abuse, etc.) .

I'd just leave Billy Joel's "Moving Out" on repeat.

Is the family member that is so bad for me, that makes me want to move out? If so, than maybe. It would depend on how the bad was. If it was bad, bad I would not bother, there would be no loss of respect there. If it was plain bad, I would write a letter.
again, who is the letter for? Is it for a bad member or a good member. If it was one of the good members I would tell them to their face.

I wouldn't do it with a letter. I'd want to stand face to face and try to say what I would write. I would be prouder of myself for doing that than if I took the easier way and didn't show my heart through my eyes. And what I saw in his/her face would tell me if my decision was reversible or permanent and would leave me with a cleaner understanding of what I was doing. You can explain yourself in a letter, but understanding comes with the big picture.

Why do I think of '50 ways to leave your lover' when I see this survey?

???? wow, not even any choices??
no i wouldn't

No..I would tell them..or talk to them...

No, I tell them to thier face

Ha ??

No I guess if I didn't have the balls to tell them to their face (or if they were prone to violence) I would just pack up and leave and then maybe call them. It depends on what kind of a "bad home life" we're talking about here really.

probably not.

Nah, I didn't write a letter. I just left and let them figure it out for themselves.

I'm not living with any family members.

No.

That's not the way I did it.

What if you have an intimidating evil step mother and you've learned to shut up about how you feel? I was 18 and I left without saying anything. My controlling, overbearing step mom didn't deserve the respect.