Has jealousy or insecurity made you do any of the following?

No partner - no one to be jealous of.

None of those things! This sort of thing is insanely stupid.

I have never had a partner.

Many years ago...with just cause.

Have not had a partner

I'm not the jealous type. I think I briefly had a partner that did a few things like that: I'm not sure. She was definitely insecure. Gone now.

No, but I have a wife; I might do a couple of these things if I had a partner. One can never be too careful in business, even if love's involved.

Never. It has occasionally made me act a little stupidly, mostly in conversations with my partner or with the person who is making me jealous/insecure, but I've never done any of these things.

No.

Anytime I've felt jealous or insecure it was because of something in ME. It might have been triggered by somebody else's actions, but being snoopy isn't fixing it. You don't base your worth on what somebody else is doing. Don't ever let anybody diminish you. If you do any of the things on your list, you're not going to be happy with yourself and you won't find any satisfaction. Becoming strong and independent is as simple as being honest with yourself and your partner. Talk it out - and leave this stuff for the movies.

Anytime I've felt jealous or insecure it was because of something in ME. It might have been triggered by somebody else's actions, but being snoopy isn't fixing it. You don't base your worth on what somebody else is doing. Don't ever let anybody diminish you. If you do any of the things on your list, you're not going to be happy with yourself and you won't find any satisfaction. Becoming strong and independent is as simple as being honest with yourself and your partner. Talk it out - and leave this stuff for the movies.

I am guessing from your reply you think this is something I do or have done?.......... I am very happily married to a goddess, 11 years now, and am very secure, I got the idea from reading my wife's copy of cosmo.....
Regards David

Uhm, I did read stuff with one of my first relationships, but I figured out that they left it out for me to read. It was due to her insecurities. One other relationship was after we broke up. She left the house till I moved out and I found love notes. They were new.
My current relationship I do not. On occasion I may glance around so I have some kind of warning about invitations or classes she will not tell me about until the last minute. I only do it to keep informed. It isn't out of insecurtities, it's more like a little helping hand. I do mess with her when she is on the phone, and I give her that stern "who are you talking to" to just fudge around and she thought I was jealous. I found out I laughed at her. I was just screwing around to see her nervous.

I haven't, I wouldn't, goodness these behaviors are just awful.

love how you say that. I didn't actually mean to get personal, but that first "you" in the third sentence led to more of them. Forgive me. Stay happy!

No Probs *smile*

Regards David

All except surprise them at work and follow them.

I am insecure person despite having no reason to be.

I've checked his text messages. I do thorough inspection of his closet when I do the laundry. And I've gone through his wallet, but in front of me. I like going through people's wallets.

I've had suspicions of my exes, but it's never made me do any of the above.

I got a letter a couple of days ago from this emotionally disturbed person; she claims to be the wife of a friend I made online a few years ago. At one point; he wrote me to tell me that he was involved with someone and I would not hear much from him as he's a one woman man but he would be happy to remain friends. A few months later, he wrote me telling me that she had gone ballistic and deleted all his contacts on his computer. He had to have a restraining order put on her and that she had keyed his truck. He said that she was just looking for a paycheck and yada, yada, yada...

Sometime later, I wasn't getting any news from him and he explained that he was involved with someone again. I would get mass forwarded jokes from him occasionally and one day I asked how he was doing. I got an email a couple of days ago from his supposedly wife - I recognize her now; she's the same nutcase he had a restrainer order put against. I find it hard to believe that a man with such a high IQ would be involved with someone like that. She's obviously very distrustful to be going through his email. I could never do that and even if I did; I would NEVER contact the people in his accounts! She's some sick puppy...

I go through my husband's wallet.......... when I'm out of cash.

Psh. I was a teenager once.

Jealous people who don't understand the concept or possibility of platonic friendships suck.

Honestly, she gave me the creeps. When she first appeared, she would send "pinches" and such on my profile in Yahoo 360 where he and I both were friends. I knew she was messed up but emailing me like that... Ewww! Fudgeed up.... I didn't bother replying to her last email; the first ones were just trying to let her know that it was all OK. I never met the man so why would I be hurt?!? He did become a good friend online and somewhat of a big brother to me. I confided in him last year about my situation and some men so she misconstrued it in her email this week. For fudge's sake! It's something I wrote almost a year ago! Bah! I thought that if I replied; it would antagonize the situation so I just ignored her. I mentioned something about all the jokes I get that I don't bother to send to her "husband" (I can't believe he married her...) and mentioned all the French ones I get from the local yokels (usually one year after I got the English version ) and she said something like; "French? I won't stoop to your level." WTF is that supposed to mean?!

I do not go in my girlfriend's pocketbook, she will tell me to get her something, and I bring her the pocketbook. even if I can see what she wants in the open section, I won't reach in for it.

i have never done any of these things.

Not a chance. If

No haven't done any of these. I figure if she is loyal she won't do anything, and if she does cheat then it wasn't going to work out anyway...

I am not the jealous one in my relationship

But it was when I was younger, I do not have insecurity problems anymore and I rarely if ever get jealous.

I have not done any of these things