Do you think you will raise your child like your parents raised you? or Did you?

In some ways sure.

Hell no if i had children they would never be raised like I was my life it sucked bad

Yeah, mostly

I have a child?!

Don't want children. I actually have names picked out though, which is very girly and weird of me: Stephen Dedalus and Leonard Cohen . Screw having baby girls.

I pretty much did. I was really proud of what my kids became, until my son killed himself, which has me wondering if he inherited too much of the minister perspective burden from me.

i don't have and child and probably won't. i always thought i would change some of how my parents raised me but much i would keep the same.

No, I am a few years passed the "I want to have a baby" stage. I never had an inkling of wanting children. I don't feel I have any experience of raising a stable child. I would hate nothing more ruining a child's life.

I don't see this as absolute; in some ways, yes, in others, no.

What do you mean by minister perspective burden?

It really depends. One thing I'm glad that my parents instilled in me was how anal I am about money - we didn't grow up with much, so I've really learned to watch where my money goes, and learn (or try to learn) how to make the most of it.

But we were not a close family - I can't remember ever hearing my parents tell each other they loved each other (though my dad says it to me all the time). I never felt comfortable going to my parents with problems, and I would want my children to feel comfortable doing that.

No kids but I wouldn't want to raise 'em like my parents raised me when I think about it. I was ignored too much and not taught to do chores and wasn't talked to very much by my parents that I can recall. My dad was practically a stranger. I wasn't allowed to have pets. They were people that really didn't want kids.

I've got parental voices in my head and it sometimes takes conscious effort to choose the response I want when dealing with my kids. It's effortless to slip back to repeating what I heard my parents say. I'm making better choices with my grandchildren. Totally agree that you should have your grandkids first!

If I have a child, then I will try to do many of the things my parents did. I think my parents were very good parents. There are some things I wouldn't do, though, and I'm sure there would also be things my partner would want to do or not do.

I tried to raise my children as I was raised...but I failed....due to circumstances. About meals, and responsibility I did, and faith. Failed in some areas.

I try to take the best of what my parents did, and improve on those things I felt weren't constructive.

No. But then again you never know until you get there. I like how my dad used to challenge me mentally. He would tell me jokes and anecdotes. He'd teach me about stuff, like animals, science, history, etc. I'd like to do that with my kids. But all the other crap my parents pulled on my sister and me, I'd never want my kids to go through that.

Don't recall, actually. Well, guess I'd say "No" overall. I never spoiled the kids and bought them anything they wanted like my parents did for me. I mostly ignored them, but, my father was like that though. Never said much, never did anything with me much. I spent alot of time baking and cooking with mommy. Guess that was good because in 26 years of marriage my wife has never cooked a thing.

I don't raise children.

Sometimes I think I'm a crapty mom when I compare myself to my parents.

And then sometimes I think I'm being too hard on myself and that they weren't perfect - I just thought they were despite their mistakes.

That saving the world and all those around around him was too great a burden. That probably wasn't the problem though. I would have had difficulty myself living in close earshot of a military artillery range as he did.

I don't think you can ever know what really happened. For whatever it's worth, I wish to extend you condolences. I can only imagine the pain that is losing a child.

My dad did a good job. Step mom = no freakin way. Mom didn't raise me.

Yeah I would like too........ my parents were good to us, we were working class, but we always had food and my dad was/is a great provider so we never really missed out on stuff because of money (school trips, xmas, latest clothing fad etc)

God no.
It's the one true ambition I have not to raise my daughter like I was raised.

Thanks. It doesn't feel like I'm in any pain, but I can't get myself to wake up or do much when I am up. There's kind of a 'what's the point' feeling to things lately.

Nope..my parents were very strict so I let my kids pretty much do as they wished.

No, I will avoid doing that like that plaque (and hope I don't screw up in some other way).

lol, goodness no.

In some ways, yes. In other ways, no.