Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? If so, more than once?
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| 19 | Yes. | | 11 | No. | | 1 | Other. |
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LindaH   |
No. If it were possible, I'm sure it would be possible more than once. But seeing how it is impossible, it has never happened. | Galomorro  |
Yes, but not with a person - just with houses, stairway-streets, and trails (like in big parks). | Enheduanna  |
No. I'm not that type. | dab   | | posted 9-Jul-2008 10:59pm |
Maybe not quite first sight but pretty near. It was some 22 years ago and I'm still attracted to her. | kcthedog  | | posted 9-Jul-2008 11:31pm |
YES | Kristal_Rose  | | posted 9-Jul-2008 11:34pm |
Several times. I'm in the midst of one now with a neighbor. She said 'Goodnight Sweetheart' so it might be somewhat mutual. Alas, she's practically married to her girlfriend-housemate. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 9-Jul-2008 11:38pm |
How is it imposible? Are you saying you can't recognize at a glance someone you would like to spend the rest of your life with?
I know what to expect in the long term from everyone I meet, so if love at first sight weren't possible, I'd say love wasn't possible. | | LindaH |
No. I can't, not at a glance. I honestly don't think other people can either. You can't tell that much about people just from looking at them. | | they | | posted 10-Jul-2008 12:07am |
I think maybe.
With Ben, I felt some connection with him -- literally, from across the room. Who knows what it was though....
Maybe just sake bombs. | | docgbrown | | posted 10-Jul-2008 2:02am |
Yes and yes. An incurable romantic from a very early age, I 'fell' at first sight for my first two girlfriends (before Kindergarten and during first grade). The last one I fell for I fell for the hardest. I met and dated her the same day and that same date I was already thinking on how to win her hand without scarring her off. I proposed 8 days later and three months later we were married. Love can occur at first sight, my father, my brother-in-law and I have all married and stayed married to the one we ‘fell for’ at first sight. By the way, it’s been over 1.5 decades later we are still married and in love. | | LJD | | posted 10-Jul-2008 2:49am |
I've become attracted to some men, instantly. I admire very strong men, leader types. But, I demand loyalty, and many of these type men can't or won't be loyal. I like sensitive men, take charge kind of men. | | Pomeranian | | posted 10-Jul-2008 4:52am |
If you believe in love at first sight then you're crazy! | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 10-Jul-2008 5:05am |
People have flavor-types which permeate every fiber of their being, the microcosm mirrors the macrocosm sort of thing. By the way a person moves their eyes you can tell how they like their eggs cooked and their preferences in pop music. Half of such estimates will replaced by quirks, but once you have a feel for the general flavor, you can can estimate the other half - not objectively, but subjectively - which for me is what counts anyhow. You can also tell what sort of illnesses they will be most susceptable to.
This skill is what makes good actors tick. Once you nail your characters flavor, everything else like how to react to arguments, hold a pencil, get dressed, turn on the radio, investigate someone's computer, mix a drink - just flows naturally even if you've never witnessed it before.
It's also true in a collective sense for nations. The way the French would build a car or music instrument is organic with everything curled to fit each other, where Germans would engineer everything as solid Lego building blocks, each component rock-solidly performing it's seperate duty, and components interacting in set digital mechanical cuckoo-clock fashion to each other, things pushing each other to program cues. The French components would be analog, perhaps air or hydraulic activated, and more dance together.
What can you tell at a glance (by which I mean a few minutes conversation) about someone?
One thing I'm finding, the more I converse with others, is how little people can figure out others wth a glance. Can you tell right away for instance if a person is generous or paranoid?
Here's another angle at the question, do things people you are getting to know ever surprise you? If not, perhaps subconsciously you did have them figured out from the start. I'm rarely ever surprised about anything. These last eight years of Bush were pretty much just what I expected of him. As fewer people approve of him now then originally voted for him, I have to imagine they weren't able to judge character, intent, and motive, rather than were hoping for this sort of outcome as I originally imagined. | | Melf | | posted 10-Jul-2008 5:13am |
No. I don't believe in it. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Melf) posted 10-Jul-2008 6:27am |
I don't get how a person could not believe in such a thing.
How about 'like at first sight' (or dislike), do you believe in that? Do you ever make friends instantly or do you have to hang out with them a few times to figure out if you really like them?
My wife was a 'deep-like' at first sight (I was still a teen). Unfortunately soon after we got together, I met her best friend, which was a 'love at first sight', and after a decade, having her as our occasional housemate was no longer enough fo me. My ex is still a beloved relative/friend of some sort 30 years later.
One's commitment and deep concern may grow over the years, but it seems unlikely to me that one's romantic endearing charm would increase past a first date.
How do things differ for you? | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Galomorro) posted 10-Jul-2008 6:28am |
Considering your initial reply here, what struck you to compose this survey? | | Matty | | posted 10-Jul-2008 7:46am |
When I was younger, I fell in love every night I could.
When I met my wife, I'd say I became infatuated at first sight. Then I came. Then I fell love.
Then I got married. Now I'm content. | bill  | | posted 10-Jul-2008 8:17am |
I'll say "yes", but I mean figuratively (not real love, in my opinion).
I've felt infatuation for people I've just met. This is what I feel "love at first sight" means. | | Galomorro |
Just thinking of new surveys to do that hadn't already been done before. I came upon some Myspace surveys for people to put up on their Myspace pages and looked these over. Most had already been done before though on SC, like what color are your eyes... stuff like that. But this one hadn't. Though I usually don't like to do surveys that I myself can't answer, I said what the heck-I CAN answer it - it doesn't SAY in the question that it has to be with a person! I've never felt that kind of strong thing with a person but I do feel that others can. I've gone instantly head-over-heels over the things I mentioned, and this, to me, is a very strong form of love. | | LindaH |
Okay, I can see that. We get a general 'feel' for people right off the bat. A subconscious sense/hunch. But knowing enough about them to fall in love? I don't think it's possible. You still don't really know them well, even if you have a general idea about what type of person they are. Unless you fall in love with 'types' without knowing their core, which I suppose could happen. I have to know someone's core. | | LindaH | | (reply to bill) posted 10-Jul-2008 11:09am |
Infatuation at first sight. That's what I think it is. I believe in that, for sure. | | Cain | | posted 10-Jul-2008 1:42pm |
Yes. It was great (I'm still with him). | | Melf |
Love is a strong word. It's something powerful. People will do extraordinary things for those they love.
I don't like or dislike on first glance. It takes me some time to make friends. I think that if you like, dislike, or love on first sight, it can only be surface. I don't understand how a connection can be made without any time between meeting and loving, that's crazy. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Galomorro) posted 10-Jul-2008 6:13pm |
Well, it was timely for me anyhow. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 10-Jul-2008 6:19pm |
Well, I think I do fall in love with their flavor - warm hearted, caring, mystical, clever, positive minded, etc. etc. Everything I care about is readily evident. I don't really care if they work editing car part catalogues, are good at gardening, fear travelling too fast, or other things which aren't immediately apparent.
As I see it, even being a spiritual person is more of a type thing than objective fact. They may officially be atheist but have the outlook of someone who believes in tree fairies. | | cerealkiller | | posted 10-Jul-2008 6:24pm |
My wife and I met at a wedding, went out once and got married 2 weeks later. It's been 26 years now | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Melf) posted 10-Jul-2008 6:46pm |
For me, meeting new people is like "Oh yeah, I remember you. We've met 1000's of times over the millenia. Oh, so you gave up blacksmithing and build computers this time around. ok."
With my best friend for instance, after spending the last decade talking daily about the deepest of topics, I don't feel that I really know her better that the first weekend we met. I know her family details and favorite books better, but she's still exactly the same quality of person I thought I was meeting that first weekend.
If a person has a capacity for indignation or a tinge of sadism or something, I catch it immediately. On the other hand, I'm also a psychic, capable at times of telepathy, remote viewing, and such too. I figure everyone has those gifts in varying capacity. Most everyone for instance can at least feel when someone is looking over their shoulder or know the phone is about to ring a lot of the time.
Part of making connections may be about living wide open or not. Even if can read another person, perhaps you put unnecessary restrictions upon yourself to reservedly adapt to situations. I think for love at first sight to work, both persons have to be wide open, such that there really is two-way deep communication happening instantly. I meet others who are wide open and totally know them right away even if they aren't someone I'd be romantically interested in. In another sense they are still on a sort of universal love channel, even if their role is that of a Mongolian warrior or something. | | LindaH |
It's a rare skill to see those things (warm hearted, caring, mystical, clever, positive minded, etc) right off the bat. I think it takes most people a while to figure out that an honest person is honest, or that a spiritually philosophical athiest is spiritual.
Maybe my own 'flavor' just isn't apparent to most people. I tend to get along with people who see it earlier than most, though.
(Maybe people are thrown off by the impish coating  ) | | llamamama | | posted 10-Jul-2008 11:46pm |
Well, I can't really say that I have. It's not to say that I don't believe in it, it's just it hasn't happened..because I am not going to look at a particularly attractive man that is say, 30..and fall in love, at first sight with him. Creepy.
And then..you just have teenagers..and I dunno, just the fact that I've been going to school with these kids since kindergarten kinda makes that a no go. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Jul-2008 7:51am |
I just wrote a survey to find out how rare it is. Coating?
Let me take some guesses about you.
You sweep into corners, not start by sweeping out the corners. Sweeping under a carpet would at least cross your mind thoough you wouldn't have done it except as a kid.. You prefer your eggs sunny side up, unbroken, with solid yolks, neither runny nor burnt in the slightest. You prefer card games over board games. Your favorite footwear is white sneakers with the rubber toes and wear them till they get ragged. Your favorite alcoholic drinks are beer and tequila. You enjoy vases of flowers in the windows and ones found in the local wild will do fine. You enjoy cutting paper things to shreds (not that you go out of your way to do it for any reason). One of your characteristic facial expressions is akin to rolling your eyes, but more like watching a ball roll under the table. You tilt your head to the side when questioning people. You would make a joking gesture of batting someone with a broom for something they said. You do a lot of house work, and sometimes even enjoy doing dishes (not usually though) and let dishes pile up, and never mind built up coffee stains on mugs. Scrubbing walls is more the thing which gives you cleaning satisfaction. You light lighters for the heck of it. You can't wait to pop open rolls of biscuits. You would rest on the bed with your shoes on. You park in gravel more than most people. You lose the tv remote. You like your movies wierd and dramatic, but they have to lots of action too. Something inbetween James Bond car chases and a horror movie involving an organization of psychotic clowns would be ideal (Batman, 12 Monkeys, Pirates of the Carribean, or Austin Powers comes to mind). You favorite animals hop around a lot. You like the look of silver over that of gold, and prefer jewelry with lots of dangliness and many solid colors or bold design over delicate intricacy. You prefer a bit of weight to a skirt (like cotton-denim or suede weight) over light silky, but not crazy thick wool or something either. If someone had a guitar or harmonica lying around you would pluck at it or blow in it, not enough to make a song though, just enough to hear the extremes of sounds it can make. You spin globes. You play with friends pets. You like to read to get away, but also pretend to read while observing what's going on around you. You occasionally sprint/skip while hiking trails. Sometimes you intentionally set things upside down, particularly when others will see it. In a friendly way you like to push people. Spaghetti dinners amuse you. You get dramatic with your voice, speaking especially high or low at times. Chairs aren't always put away and your furniture isn't arranged rectalinear but rather requires walking around or at interrupted diagonals, although the intended arrangement is to create the most floor space. You probably don't have a coffee table in front of your couch unless it's made of low tough rounded wood that doesn't require being careful around. You don't strive for an art gallery look but have a few odd pieces of decor like rocks or license plates or old appliances you found. Practical arrangement takes precedence over aesthetic arrangement, but even more so, things just seem to find their own place where they belong. You utilize floor mats. Things hang on the wall or on wall shelving in your kitchen. You're not fond of cabinet doors for things you often use, but let the closets pile up thick. You own at least one stuffed animal. You somewhat collect printed plastic drink cups. You have sports equipment in storage, including frisbees. The trunk of your car contains random stuff. You like wind-up toys, squishy hand toys, and puppets, also carved wooden toys and cuckoo clocks. You have sets of colored pencils with many missing or broken colors. You are reluctant to toss things you might find a use for but will also toss anything that becomes a hassle to deal with. A lot of dubious stuff enters and leaves your place. Cool is more important than pristine or valuable. You have a lot of ancient battered stationary supplies kicking around in drawers and such. Most things belong in general areas, not exact places. You have multiple things like soap bars or breakfast cereals open at once. Your souvenirs tend to have names of places, especially t-shirts. One can find ketchup packets in your home or car. You have some sort of dashboard or car mirror ornament. You have a plaid wool blanket that goes on car trips (now there's a longshot guess). Fried meat is a common meal though you would bake caseroles or meat loaf if you spent more time cooking. You have board games saved from when you lived with your parents. If you were to pick favorite yard tools, they would be gardening rakes (not leaf rakes), wheel-barrows, and reciprocating arc sprinklers.
Well, how'm I doing with this 'type' estimation? | | LindaH |
A bit of that is accurate, but quite a lot of it isn't.
That would make a fun list to modify to match me and put on my user page, though it would take a while. | | Biggles | | posted 11-Jul-2008 1:19pm |
No - and unless you have a very different definition of what constitutes love to me, then I don't believe that's possible. | | LindaH |
ok, I went through each one... You were generally more accurate near the end. Here goes:
You sweep into corners, not start by sweeping out the corners. (This varies) Sweeping under a carpet would at least cross your mind thoough you wouldn't have done it except as a kid.. (not generally) You prefer your eggs sunny side up, unbroken, with solid yolks, neither runny nor burnt in the slightest. (scrambled or fried -sunny side up, runny) You prefer card games over board games. (both the same) Your favorite footwear is white sneakers with the rubber toes and wear them till they get ragged. (black tennis shoes) Your favorite alcoholic drinks are beer and tequila. (beer and scotch) You enjoy vases of flowers in the windows and ones found in the local wild will do fine. (they're okay) You enjoy cutting paper things to shreds (not that you go out of your way to do it for any reason). (it seems fun. Haven't done it in years) One of your characteristic facial expressions is akin to rolling your eyes, but more like watching a ball roll under the table. (?) You tilt your head to the side when questioning people. (sometimes) You would make a joking gesture of batting someone with a broom for something they said. (I don't do this, but I could see myself doing this) You do a lot of house work, and sometimes even enjoy doing dishes (not usually though) and let dishes pile up, (occassionally let them pile up) and never mind built up coffee stains on mugs. (okay, I let my mug build up coffee and tea quite a lot) Scrubbing walls is more the thing which gives you cleaning satisfaction. (not really, I like doing countertops and tables) You light lighters for the heck of it. (sometimes) You can't wait to pop open rolls of biscuits. (if some needed to be opened, I'd probably want to do it) You would rest on the bed with your shoes on. (not for long, unless my feet were cold) You park in gravel more than most people.(yes. My driveway is gravel) You lose the tv remote. (never) You like your movies wierd and dramatic, but they have to lots of action too. Something inbetween James Bond car chases and a horror movie involving an organization of psychotic clowns would be ideal (Batman, 12 Monkeys, Pirates of the Carribean, or Austin Powers comes to mind). (Im not much of a movie watcher. I've never seen austin powers. It seems far removed from my type of humor. I like comedies, though) You favorite animals hop around a lot. (no favorites, but I do like bunnies) You like the look of silver over that of gold, and prefer jewelry with lots of dangliness and many solid colors or bold design over delicate intricacy. (I'm not much into jewelry. I like dangles on bracelets) You prefer a bit of weight to a skirt (like cotton-denim or suede weight) over light silky, but not crazy thick wool or something either. (usually) If someone had a guitar or harmonica lying around you would pluck at it or blow in it, not enough to make a song though, just enough to hear the extremes of sounds it can make. (probably) You spin globes. (sometimes) You play with friends pets. (yes) You like to read to get away, but also pretend to read while observing what's going on around you. (yes) You occasionally sprint/skip while hiking trails. (yes!!!) Sometimes you intentionally set things upside down, particularly when others will see it. (I haven't, but I think it would be funny. I place things 'wrong' or in a silly place/way to watch it get discovered. So upside down would be something I'd do) In a friendly way you like to push people. (yes) Spaghetti dinners amuse you. (sometimes. Especially with kids) You get dramatic with your voice, speaking especially high or low at times. (for fun, yes) Chairs aren't always put away and your furniture isn't arranged rectalinear but rather requires walking around or at interrupted diagonals, although the intended arrangement is to create the most floor space. (no, it's arranged pretty squarely. Chairs are usually where they belong, unless there's lots of people here) You probably don't have a coffee table in front of your couch unless it's made of low tough rounded wood that doesn't require being careful around. (yes, no coffee table) You don't strive for an art gallery look but have a few odd pieces of decor like rocks or license plates or old appliances you found. (I don't strive for an art gallery look, but I don't use rocks, licence plates, appliances or anything like that either) Practical arrangement takes precedence over aesthetic arrangement, but even more so, things just seem to find their own place where they belong. (usually) You utilize floor mats. (floor mats?) Things hang on the wall or on wall shelving in your kitchen. (just pictures) You're not fond of cabinet doors for things you often use, but let the closets pile up thick. (no; yes) You own at least one stuffed animal. (yes) You somewhat collect printed plastic drink cups. (no) You have sports equipment in storage, including frisbees. (no) The trunk of your car contains random stuff. (no) You like wind-up toys, squishy hand toys, and puppets, also carved wooden toys and cuckoo clocks. (yes to all but the clocks) You have sets of colored pencils with many missing or broken colors. (yes) You are reluctant to toss things you might find a use for but will also toss anything that becomes a hassle to deal with. (yes!!!) A lot of dubious stuff enters and leaves your place. (some) Cool is more important than pristine or valuable. (yes) You have a lot of ancient battered stationary supplies kicking around in drawers and such. (yes) Most things belong in general areas, not exact places. (yes) You have multiple things like soap bars or breakfast cereals open at once. (no) Your souvenirs tend to have names of places, especially t-shirts. (yes) One can find ketchup packets in your home or car. (no) You have some sort of dashboard or car mirror ornament. (no) You have a plaid wool blanket that goes on car trips (now there's a longshot guess). (no) Fried meat is a common meal though you would bake caseroles or meat loaf if you spent more time cooking. (yes) You have board games saved from when you lived with your parents. (yes) If you were to pick favorite yard tools, they would be gardening rakes (not leaf rakes), wheel-barrows, and reciprocating arc sprinklers. (probably)
Are any of my answers surprising to you? I'd be curious to know which ones, especially the movie one. I wonder where you got the perception of my taste in movies from.
| | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 12-Jul-2008 1:01am |
So where was I surprisingly dead on or way off (besides the plaid car blanket)? | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 12-Jul-2008 1:45am |
I can't pinpoint where I got any of this from. As per the point I was making, it's all about my general sense of your flavor or type. Most all of these speculations are derived directly from your primary distinguishing characteristic, your quick physical inquisitive playfulness. Some are based on your type of sentimentality. The gravel was just pure telepathy.
Most suprising answers: Well, you didn't really disagree with too much. You don't collect as much interesting or incidental junk as I thought you might. I didn't expect your furniture to be arranged formally unless that was the only way to create more floor space. Probably the most surprising thing was that you have the patience to open one thing at a time instead of having immediate variety on hand.
I forget the comedy genre even exists or I would have surely suggested that first. Your response there was like 'Oh, duh' for me.
I'd say I got a high quantity of distinguishing details about you down though, and they all stemmed from something I could have discerned about you from a first meeting, that inquisitive playful quality of yours.
Too bad this thread isn't taking place in the 'Can you read people at glance' survey. I'm tempted to copy our posts over to there and delete the ones here. | | LindaH | | posted 12-Jul-2008 1:54am |
You were way off on my tastes in movies or decor, or like the plastic cups. It seems you perceive my taste in clutter as kind of like those people who use 'stuff' as art, putting license plates on the wall, rocks... There's a type I'm thinking of, I can't name it though. Trash into treasure types, that hang a towel where a door should be, who tend to live in high density areas. I'm not at all into that very low maintenence decor look. I think it looks cluttered. I have so much unwanted paper clutter, that things like that would be hard to live in/look at. I like framed pictures, mostly, but not fancy ones.
And movies.... Austin Powers. That surprised me. I've only seen the previews, ads, merchandise, etc, and I actually saw it as something I probably wouldn't like. Car chases and horror movies aren't my thing either. I like gut busting witty comedy that makes my ribs hurt. I also enjoy dramatized biographies of interesting people.
"You are reluctant to toss things you might find a use for but will also toss anything that becomes a hassle to deal with." I guess that was the only sort of surprisingly accurate one.
I sprint/skip while hiking trails, but that's something about me that's probably pretty easy to tell.
Funny about losing the remote. I never lose it. I hardly ever watch tv. My family frequently loses the remote. If I touch it, it is most likely due to me finding it for them. | | LindaH |
go ahead. i think that would be a more appropriate thread.
I think you can probably guess what I tend to do when I see aesthetically interesting things when I'm out and about. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LindaH) posted 12-Jul-2008 3:47am |
No, not really. Apparently not take them home. | | LindaH |
I touch them and mess with them. | | Iseult | | posted 15-Jul-2008 2:52am |
I think I have. Although love is usually something that grows. It's more of lust/infatuation. | | Gomezy3k | | posted 15-Jul-2008 1:22pm |
Yes once, unfortunately she died from an overdose... Nothing worse than waking up and finding someone you love dead next to you... | | Cain |
Ooh, ooh - do me!!
Just kidding - I know its rude to ask.
Oddly enough, I found an email yesterday that I had written to you about 4 years ago. I'd done a tarot card reading and interpreted as best I could, but was looking for another person's point of view and you were the first person I thought of. For some reason I can't remember now, I put it in the drafts folder and never sent it. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Cain) posted 17-Jul-2008 1:26am |
I was just last night to perhaps get back into tarot reading. I'll send you my current email. Come to think of it though, that reading is probably quite out of date though. | | Cain |
It was the first time I had done a tarot card reading, haven't done one since and couldn't find the report I did for it to check whether any of it had been accurate - four years is too long to remember now. | | Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Cain) posted 17-Jul-2008 8:53am |
The tarot is a visual cue to cosmic intuition. Right or wrong comes down what you thought it meant, and and whether you turned out to be correct, not about traditional interpretation. I probably would have had additional insight though. Oh I see, your report to compare outcomes.
I don't do readings of the 'what will objectively happen' sort, but rather 'what deeply is', or 'what are the optional paths and comparative costs/gains of each'. I believe in infinite potential. The world and our individual lives could either become great despair or a blooming renaissance in the next decade. I've predicted most of the Bush agenda, but that was about observing patterns and predicting Bush, not things like earthquakes or lotteries. | | cloudhugger | | posted 17-Jul-2008 9:58am |
I thought I might have. I forget- is it the chainsaw in the stomach feeling? Or is it the genetalia starts to ache and the pants get creamed up? | | cloudhugger | | (reply to Cain) posted 17-Jul-2008 2:46pm |
I was gonna ooh ooh do me till I saw you did, so now what? I still wanna ooh ooh do me *sigh*
Can we take this to the other thread... / | | Cain |
If it's any consolation, she didn't!
(I kinda really want her to, but I know it is rude to ask and said so, and added in a just kidding). | | cloudhugger | | (reply to Cain) posted 17-Jul-2008 7:54pm |
See...I didn't think it rude, but *sigh* you kinda set the precedent, now didn't you.   Oh well.... | | JessicaWoman99 | | posted 26-Jul-2008 4:29pm |
Oh gee he blows my fuse at first sight i am in love already |
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