| User | Comment |
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they    |
First! |
cloudhugger  |
Other. If I am thinking it is everyone else having problems moving on, than it must be me being stuck in the same hole with them. If I have moved on than I really wouldn't know what is going on with the rest of everyone else. |
Crayons   |
I've got nowhere to go. |
Galomorro  | | posted 2-Jul-2008 10:54am |
Moving on from what? |
| Matty | | posted 2-Jul-2008 12:21pm |
I'm sorry, Bill, I still don't get this. |
| Enheduanna | | posted 2-Jul-2008 12:21pm |
You. |
| they |
You! |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to they) posted 2-Jul-2008 1:32pm |
I would reply "You!" but that would suggest that I'm having trouble moving on. |
| LindaH |
I have more trouble moving on a wobbly footbridge than a fixed one. |
| ausfox |
Me |
| JessicaWoman99 |
Everybody else has more problems moving on |
| they |
Haha. |
| Pomeranian |
I don't believe I any better or any worse at moving on that anybody else. |
Kristal_Rose  |
Probably me. I spend a lot of time thinking of old girlfriends. |
| bill | | (reply to Matty) posted 3-Jul-2008 9:16am |
You really don't know what I mean by "moving on"? ...or, are you just playing dumb because the survey could be more clear?
Here's my off-the-cuff definition of "moving on". It's usually in a social situation, often in a relationship where things shift and change for what ever reason. In that situation, some people will tend to cling to the old way things were while others more easily move on to adapt to the new conditions. I think moving on is often attributed to situations where one person gets dumped, but can't get over it. But, I was hoping to apply it in a broader sense of whether you're a person who has trouble adjusting to changes or not. |
| Matty | | (reply to bill) posted 3-Jul-2008 9:32am |
"Moving on" could mean a lot of things; I honestly had no idea to what you were referring. Plus, the posts in the survey were answers like in a monkeee survey; I couldn't get the context. Hey, Bill, I never claimed to be all that smart.
Of course, your above response makes your intent clear to me. However, I still really can't answer too accurately. I haven't had a romantic break-up in 12-13 years, but if my wife were to leave, I would be devastated. She and my daughter are the focus of my life. Is that an answer?
In the broader sense, the focus of my career is public service to our nation. I won't give that up. Some individuals can be annoying, but I love America with all my guts. And yes, for me, it is the only place on earth. I've been all over the world with my career (especially the Army), and nothing compares in my heart. Is that an answer?
I don't know; maybe we'll just have to chalk this one up to a bad fit...it happens. |
| jettles |
of course everyone else!!!!  |
| bill | | (reply to Matty) posted 3-Jul-2008 10:25am |
How about your recent job change. I think that could be a situation where this "moving on" idea could be applied. Some people have trouble changing their job too. They stick with what they know even though they may be unhappy with it. Others, move on to a new job without much concern. |
| Matty | | (reply to bill) posted 3-Jul-2008 10:45am |
Yes, in some ways I did indeed "move on," you're right about that. I think the biggest adjustment was relinquishing the status and power of my previous position. I must admit it was nice flashing a Secret Service credential to get out of speeding tickets or to cut lines at all the hot spots; I still miss that. In the above scenario I guess I am in the middle; I'll move on, but with caution. |
| Zang | | posted 3-Jul-2008 12:42pm |
...and they say there's no such thing as a stupid question... |
| llamamama | | posted 3-Jul-2008 12:53pm |
I was originally going to say women, but apparently that's not what the question was asking..so..ho hum.. |
| aquawolfy |
You do. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to bill) posted 3-Jul-2008 7:32pm |
That broader definition makes the question more interesting. I often have difficulty shifting gears, and know others who are totally disabled by such circumstances. For instance a conversation may be shifting topics and a person who can't shift gears is stuck compelled to express thoughts which have long lost topic relevance.
I have difficulty shifting gears from computer activities to physical activities, and will dredge up new eBay searches rather than close my browser and make breakfast. Likewise leaving the house is a problem. It requires shifting into travel preparation, then relinquishing preparation to actually leave. When I do finally get into serious software programming work, I might work on that incessantly all week (sometimes months on end) and neglect things like buying groceries, visiting friends, or doing laundry.
It's a form of obsessive-compulsiveness. I rightfully am reluctant to choose an activity to engage in, because when I do finally engage in it I will likely be there for an inappropriate lengthy time. |
| bill |
Yeah, that conversation topic thing has been something I've thought about and struggled a bit with over the years. I think I'm better at moving on in that situation than I used to be. Being aware of it helps.
Sometimes that focus you're talking about is great for working. But, yeah, I can see what you're saying about the drawbacks too. |
kcthedog  | | posted 4-Jul-2008 12:22am |
I think you should have given the option "ME"
 me |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to bill) posted 4-Jul-2008 12:33am |
I'm about due for getting into another one of those extended work trances, but I have a myriad of loose-end projects it seems I should have done first, and so until I make up my mind, I go online instead.
Storing up a whole winters worth of groceries, programming away, and forgetting about things like house cleaning till it's time to come out of hibernation almost sounds reasonable. Come Winter though I'll be craving the chance to leave the house I have now.
I'm a lot better than I was a few years back too. At least I have a master plan all my random activities must conform to. I've also learned more to just do anything when indecisive. Perfectionist angst was part of my earlier problem. |
| bill |
I have a kind of contrasting point of view. Sometimes, I seem to do better when I have a few different things to work on at once. It allow me to switch off of one project and onto another when I get stuck or bored or sick of it. I guess it's a kind of multi-tasking, but in a positive sense. For somethings, I do better if I take breaks in between working on it. I come back to it fresh and sometimes will make a lot of progress. To some degree, it's unavoidable because we must take breaks no matter what, eventually. I saw a 60 Minutes report last month about sleep studies and researchers have made a pretty clear connection to people learning better after a night's rest. From my experience, that applies to problem solving too. Like the old saying "sleep on it". To use a geeky metaphor, I sometimes think of it as putting the task in a background running state to let it complete on its own. And, miracles do seem to happen. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to bill) posted 4-Jul-2008 6:08pm |
I do multitask, which is why I mentioned having the plan of 'just do anything'... 'as long as it's towards the goal list' (it used to be I'd just do any random thing that struck my fancy). A the minimum I have to take guitar breaks. Usually I severely multitask, but sometimes I do get locked into pure extended focus, forget things like guitar, and start to feel like some sort of basement monster after a couple weeks.
I'm often amazed about how I keep improving procedures I thought I had fully optomized already. |
| Biggles | | posted 5-Jul-2008 10:03am |
I tend to move on pretty well from most things. |
| Cain |
Me.
I lag behind sulkily and then do a wee jog to catch up, every now and again, just so I don't get too far out of touch. |
