| User | Comment |
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Crayons   | | posted 27-May-2008 7:20pm |
Ten years is long enough for them to be mine. I would see if I could get the other one too though. |
kcthedog  | | posted 27-May-2008 7:46pm |
I would not swap; I would embrace my new child and be thankful that both families were able to find each other. This is an opportunity for love and joy not one to be bitter and resentful. |
Enheduanna  | | posted 27-May-2008 9:15pm |
I think I would keep the child I had raised and loved. I think they would be more my real child than the other one. |
cloudhugger  | | posted 27-May-2008 11:41pm |
I hope this never happnes to me, or anyone I know. I don't know what I would do.
I think the law is you have to swap, tho. |
| Psychologo |
U wouldnt want your own child? |
| Enheduanna |
I don't think the other child would feel like "my own" child. The child I had raised would. I might be curious about the other child, but I also wouldn't be interested in breaking up that child's family. |
| Psychologo |
You make a good point, i however would try to keep both, but we know that wont happen because the other family will also try to keep bouth childs, so i guess you make the most sence, also we must think of the kids and what they are having to deal with. |
LJD  | | posted 28-May-2008 3:10am |
This has happened before. I would want to do what is best for the child. I would probably not uproot the child, especially from good parents, but I would definitely want to be in my blood child's life. Work it out with the other parents. . |
| Melf | | posted 28-May-2008 4:16am |
I wouldn't trade. That's evil on the kids. |
bill  | | posted 28-May-2008 7:14am |
What's behind door #3, Monty? |
| icurok | | posted 28-May-2008 8:44am |
It would depend on what was in the best interest of the child. I suspect that this would be the status quo. |
| aquawolfy | | posted 28-May-2008 4:04pm |
I wouldn't trade. By then I'm sure both children would be comfortable in their own environment. You can't trade children like some people trade dogs.
I don't even think that's really right.. By then I'd have already had a strong bond with the child I raised. I'm sure the other parents would feel the same way. |
| LindaH | | posted 28-May-2008 4:40pm |
I wouldn't trade. The thought is absurd. |
| JessicaWoman99 | | posted 28-May-2008 5:04pm |
No no after 10 years this just would be so hard to simply give them up and depending oh it breaks my heart
to hear all this |
| Biggles | | posted 30-May-2008 8:25pm |
I would not trade, but I would hope to have contact with my biological child (and for my child to have contact with their biological parents). Impossible to know how I would really feel, but I think that's the most likely. |
| Psychologo | | (reply to Biggles) posted 31-May-2008 1:36am |
Would you ever tell them the truth or would you make them think that the 2 families are friends or something? |
| Psychopath | | posted 31-May-2008 9:43pm |
After 10 years the emotionally attachment would be so great...how could you possibly trade them. This is not even mentioning the emotionally damage you would do to the child. I have a 10-month old and I can tell you I would not trade that little guy for anything in the world. |
| Zang | | posted 4-Jun-2008 12:02am |
This seems highly unlikely at this point in my life. My girlfriend is going to become a grandmother any day now...
However, in any case there would be four parents involved in this decision, not to mention a bunch of lawyers I'm sure...I'd opt for some sort of group arrangement I guess, mutual parenting with liberal access... |
| moviesnob | | posted 17-Jun-2008 12:03pm |
I would talk to the kids about it. I would most likely keep my own child I had raised, and work out time for the kids to spend time visting their biological families. |
| Psychologo | | (reply to Zang) posted 3-Jul-2008 7:59pm |
Your rigth i didnt even think about the lawyers |
