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Crayons   |
Of course people need to be yelled at! Even Dr Phil yells at people! How else can you intimidate them without any physical beating up? |
| Biggles |
Pretty much. I'm assuming we aren't talking about shouted warnings or anything like that... |
bill   |
um... I'm not sure I've considered this from all angels, but given the wording, I think I can say "yes" to this |
| JessicaWoman99 |
So quit YELLING " at me for heaven's sake shut up |
Melf   |
It's not about deserving it. It's about whether there's a point to shouting, which there isn't, usually. |
| Galomorro |
Yes I believe no one deserves to be yelled at. Unless it's an emergency or and you feel it necessary to scream "Look out" or something similar. |
| dilfreak |
In general I would say no one deserves to be yelled at, but there are certain cases where I would approve of it; such as military boot camp training, criminals in jail, and police officers enforcing the law. |
| CarlHalling |
Yes, I do; no one deserves this. It can seriously undermine a person's confidence, but we've all done it, and all been victim to it. That's life, and life ain't fair. |
| jettles |
i think that things should be discussed not yelled about. |
| Biggles | | (reply to bill) posted 9-Mar-2008 8:58am |
> um... I'm not sure I've considered this from all angels, but given
> the wording, I think I can say "yes" to this
Michael, Gabriel and Raphael all agree with you, but Uriel is firmly in the no camp.
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| llamamama | | posted 9-Mar-2008 12:13pm |
I'M NOT YELLING, THIS IS HOW I ACTUALLY TALK!!!!!!!!! |
| bill | | (reply to Biggles) posted 9-Mar-2008 12:53pm |
amen *sigh* |
| Biggles | | (reply to bill) posted 9-Mar-2008 2:18pm |
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LindaH  |
I think that people who are not listening or paying attention deserve to be yelled at, as well as people who have music or TV up way too loud. It's okay to yell at people if you have to talk above the din of the room to get their attention. |
| Enheduanna | | posted 10-Mar-2008 12:31pm |
No. |
| kcthedog | | posted 10-Mar-2008 8:25pm |
I do believe that there is a time and a place for yelling but not much. IMO yelling is the result of a communication breakdown and is an attempt to regain control of the situation. I have strong feeling about the raising of voices, I believe especially with small children it can and does impact them in a negative manner, possibly even giving them the opinion that yelling is an accepted form of communication rather than the result of failed communication. Intelligent and level-headed individuals should be able to have a stimulated conversation conveying ideas and ideals without raising voices. There was a lot of yelling in my family most of it was spontaneous and reactionary and not necessary but Italians seem to yell a lot I’m not sure why. |
| kcthedog | | posted 10-Mar-2008 8:26pm |
I knew this was LindaH! Please don't yell at me...........  |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 1:25am |
I pretty much think you only need to yell if either the room is loud or if you have talked in a normal voice and haven't managed to get someone's attention. Raising your voice to get attention is okay. |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 3:27pm |
I took your question as yelling ‘at’ someone not to overcome ambient room noise it would be natural to increase the amplitude of your voice to overcome a noisy work environment that is different than yelling at someone. In the case of attempting to get someone’s attention that is situational based on who you are communicating with and the intention for that communication. For example if someone is not aware of impending danger, by all means get their attention, if yelling accomplishes that then yell. If we are talking about people who just are not paying attention or are young and naturally distracted I can think of more imaginative ways of obtaining their attention, a whistle comes to mind, or for real fun try a squirt gun,  I just do not like the sound of raised voices it conjures aggressive and angry intentions. Sometimes (this does not always work) when I find myself in a situation where my spontaneous reaction is to raise my voice I do the opposite and speak very softly, this can change the ‘tone’ of the conversation. |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 5:28pm |
I think that people should be able to express their anger in the most comfortable way that suits them, as long as the intent isn't to intimidate or harm. |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 6:33pm |
I know I’ve got a tiger by the tail, throwing caution to the wind I reply.
I do understand as mortal men and women we cannot be expected to react always in a calm and logical manner and there will be times when even the most levelheaded, calm, cool and collected of persons will be driven to outbursts of frustration and even anger, but you cannot convince me that displays of anger can be considered mature behavior. If I may be so bold as to suggest that some of your attitudes about yelling have a basis in dealing with young and immature individuals such as children. I am not qualified as a child physiologist to try to quantify the amount of physiological damage that is done by yelling but from my personal experience yelling is a form of abuse and potentially has to ability to leave scars just as much as a physical wound. My question to you would be; were you yelled at as a child? If so could there be any bearing on your approach to situations that you find yourself to be the yeller, because that is how you were shown to deal with similar situations. Most behavior is learned experience and breaking the cycle takes a premeditated effort to accomplish. Another point I would like to suggest is; when disciplining or correcting children (or anyone for that matter) it should never be accompanied by yelling or screaming, it does not convey a position of confidence and shows lack of control on the part of the yeller. The effort to refrain from expressions of negativity (anger being an expression of something negative) is worth the peace that expressions of positive and helpful comments can bring. People who are yelled at soon develop defense mechanisms and soon learn to ignore or tune out the yelling, and only more and louder yelling will seem to reach them. Better to get their attention first in a manner that is mature and positive in nature maintaining control of the situation. Try my idea of squirt gun, I was joking but the idea is to turn their heads without yelling and it keeps it light and funny, and when all else fails yell but not ‘at’ anyone go out in the back yard and yell at the moon, they just might feel bad that you got you so worked up they will willingly behave.
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| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 8:34pm |
I wasn't necessarily talking about kids. I only yell to get attention. I don't go into screaming tirades. I'm just saying that it's okay to yell just to yell. You are upset, so you yell at no one in particular. Not to intimidate or get up in anyone's face, but to 'show' your anger, to let it all out. That sorta thing. |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:17pm |
I luv U! |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:18pm |
Yes... and to declare your love. It's okay to yell "I luv U!" to let it all out. That sorta thing.
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| kcthedog | | posted 11-Mar-2008 10:22pm |
My point being is that Is if I overwhelm you with love can you look me in the eye and yell at me ? I think not!
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| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:25pm |
I don't look at people when I'm yelling. I'm usually way across the room. |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:28pm |
And I do luv U! |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:30pm |
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| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:32pm |
> I don't look at people when I'm yelling.
> I'm usually way across the room.
Look me in the eye when you talk I understand more by eye contact then I do with words. And your eyes are beautiful! |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:33pm |
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| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:43pm |
*holding magnifying glasses up to eyes*
Can you see me now? |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:48pm |
Did I respond? U R B U TEE FULL? |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 10:56pm |
> *holding magnifying glasses up to eyes*
>
> Can you see me now?
MY EYE FRIGGIN ITERNET IS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SLOOOOOOOOOOOOO THAT I WROTE THIS and I tt ook a weak 4 it 2 catch up.
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| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:12pm |
That reminds me... How do you feel when people are yelling at inanimate objects? "This stupid freakin pen!!" I always wondered why people get upset around that, knowing the 'receiving end' (an object) is not really receiving anything. |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:20pm |
`Speak softly and carry a big stick! |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:21pm |
"This stupid freakin stick!" |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:26pm |
My stick is not freaking stupid! |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:28pm |
Sorry, stick. |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:29pm |
Stick says U R B U T full! |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:42pm |
> Sorry, stick.
Stick humbles in the corner humiliated and rejected shunned from society as a dog, nobody wants to claim as their own. Humble and unwanted like a bastard child. |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:49pm |
I must have mistook stick for pen.
(just kidding) |
| kcthedog | | posted 11-Mar-2008 11:51pm |
Wag, wag, wag! |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:55pm |
> I must have mistook stick for pen.
>
> (just kidding)
J |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 11-Mar-2008 11:59pm |
I feel like singing
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| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 12-Mar-2008 12:01am |
Eye must sleep! |
| kcthedog | | (reply to LindaH) posted 12-Mar-2008 12:04am |
> I feel like singing
>
ILUAWTTYT |
| LindaH | | (reply to kcthedog) posted 12-Mar-2008 12:06am |
Okay. Happy dreams. ooh remind me to tell you about the Carlos Santana dream I had... |
| kcthedog | | posted 12-Mar-2008 12:06am |
by buy1! Buy by! |
| RGirl | | posted 13-Mar-2008 9:52pm |
There are plenty of people that deserve to be yelled at and worse. |
| anarchistandy | | posted 20-Mar-2008 6:49pm |
if nobody deserved to be yelled at, then nobody would deserve to be able to yell. I think I deserve the right to deserve to yell, so I'll accept the fact that I'll be yelled at from time to time, and I can even yell back. oh, and one more yell, "Stop yelling at me!!!" |
| Pomeranian | | posted 21-Mar-2008 5:07am |
Who could possibly believe this? |
| Zang |
No, that does not form any part of my belief system. Nor does the contrary. |
| LindaH | | (reply to Zang) posted 4-Apr-2008 6:36pm |
Contrary? Everyone always deserves to be yelled at? |
| Zang | | (reply to LindaH) posted 4-Apr-2008 6:40pm |
Sure |
| Psychologo | | posted 18-Apr-2008 11:55am |
Brats who think the wprld revolves around themshould not only be yell at but have their ass whoop |
