| User | Comment |
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| Biggles | | posted 29-Feb-2008 7:43am |
It depends on how large the gathering is - slipping away from a huge event seems fine, or from certain types of event (like an office party, or a night out with a large group of friends) but failing to thank the host after a more intimate event like a dinner party, or small gathering certainly seems impolite. |
bill   | | posted 29-Feb-2008 8:02am |
I was tickled to find out that there's a term for this... it's something I often get the urge to do. But, like Biggles said, I'm less likely to do it if it's a small gathering. I think my primary reason for wanting to do this is that I don't like drawing attention to myself. I especially dislike having to break into a conversation the host is having with other people just to say bye. |
Melf    | | posted 29-Feb-2008 8:21am |
I don't care. |
jettles  | | posted 29-Feb-2008 11:04am |
i think it is fine. whatever works! |
| Galomorro | | posted 29-Feb-2008 11:14am |
I would sometimes do this I guess. I normally don't go to parties at all, but it would appeal to my introvert nature to just sneak out, and as soon as I could. But then if it was miraculously some kind of gathering where I felt comfortable with the people and could manage any small talk, I'd probably want to bid them farewell as well as it does seem the right thing to do. |
| Zang | | posted 29-Feb-2008 12:28pm |
This isn't something I would normally do, but I used to go out with a woman who made a practice of leaving parties this way. So I've done it under those circumstances. I don't think it's a big deal at a large party, but I think it would be pretty rude at a small dinner party or something.
This is the first I've heard of that expression BTW. |
| Enheduanna | | posted 29-Feb-2008 12:45pm |
I think it's fine sometimes and not others. I would be unlikely to do it if the host was someone I knew, but if I didn't know them, then I would. I usually tell someone I know when I leave, just so they don't have to wonder what happened to me. But if there's no one there I know, then I might leave without saying goodbye. I once attended a Christmas party for the alumnae association of the college I went to; I didn't know anyone there and it was a fairly large party, but I did find the hostess and thank her when I was leaving. It seemed like the polite thing to do. So I guess I sometimes do it even if it's a large gathering where I don't know anyone. |
| JessicaWoman99 | | posted 29-Feb-2008 4:26pm |
Very bad to just disappear without letting somebody know because they will freak out and wonder what happened
to you and they will call the police
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| Crayons | | posted 29-Feb-2008 7:49pm |
What if they had something to tell you and you couldn't be found so they'd search all over and call the cops? |
| Crayons |
Just what I was thinking! What happened to Jessica, has someone taken her far away never to return again? |
| RGirl | | posted 29-Feb-2008 7:55pm |
Sometimes it is ok, like at a party but not ok at a funeral. |
| romkey | | posted 29-Feb-2008 8:20pm |
I imagined it had something to do with tongues. |
| romkey | | (reply to bill) posted 29-Feb-2008 8:21pm |
You got this phrase from some damned book you read on your infernal book-reading machine, didn't you? |
| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to Crayons) posted 29-Feb-2008 9:33pm |
> Just what I was thinking! What happened to Jessica, has someone taken
> her far away never to return again?
The mafia came along and kidnapped me |
| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to RGirl) posted 29-Feb-2008 9:35pm |
> Sometimes it is ok, like at a party but not ok at a funeral.
Oh sounds cool RGirl a Funeral Party?? wonder what they have at this party besides dead bodies |
| bill | | (reply to romkey) posted 29-Feb-2008 10:43pm |
...probably... I forget |
| Crayons |
Well why didn't they stay for chips and salsa? |
LindaH   |
I think it's okay to leave a party as long as you tell someone (anyone) who can thank the host for you, if it's such a big party that the host is hard to find. |
| kcthedog |
It sounds a way too formal for me! If I gotta go, I gotta go! Sorry no offence to anyone but if I have been out drinking and that little red light goes off……….I am outta here!
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| cloudhugger |
The sometimes option. Is this always a party thing? As to not upset the host, it is probably a good thing. Upsetting as the host is quite busy 'hosting' and saying goodby might be innapropriate. Especially if the host hardly knows you, although, it would be polite to say thank you. If one is close to the host or not close...if your pocket is full of hoers devors, I think it best to leave quickly and quietly. |
| LindaH |
> if your pocket is full
> of hoers devors, I think it best to leave quickly
> and quietly.
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| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to Crayons) posted 1-Mar-2008 4:31pm |
> Well why didn't they stay for chips and salsa?
Oh because they had no time and they were in such a hurry to kidnap me and get out of Dodge quick! |
| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to LindaH) posted 1-Mar-2008 4:32pm |
> I think it's okay to leave a party as long as you tell someone (anyone)
> who can thank the host for you, if it's such a big party that the
> host is hard to find.
It is because the host was kidnapped and hauled away |
| LindaH | | (reply to Crayons) posted 1-Mar-2008 5:28pm |
They wouldn't have any reason to call the cops for an adult unless you have been gone 24 hours. Most people don't fret like that over adult friends.
How many people get kidnapped from parties full of people they know? |
| Kristal_Rose |
I'm usually last to go, and like to keep track of everyone. There are times I think it may be appropriate for some. I usually at least fit in a wink good-bye if a host is busy.
It seems to me to suggest being an antendee rather than a participant.
It's rare that I don't end up meeting the host or mingling back stage at even the largest of events. |
| they | | posted 2-Mar-2008 10:53am |
Meh. |
| Jody |
I actually sometimes prefer to leave without saying goodbye to everybody and causing a commotion, though I will try to thank the host or hostess on my way out. |
| cerealkiller |
I do this all the time. I like to disappear and fade away. |
| Kristal_Rose | | posted 4-Mar-2008 12:20am |
Consiidering I'm always late to events, classes, appointemnts, and such, 'French arrival' is more my thing. |
