| User | Comment |
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romkey  |
We'd stop being friends after the third time. |
| CarlHalling | | (reply to romkey) posted 6-Feb-2008 9:16am |
I can understand that! |
| judgescratch |
I'm a private person, and only see people when it suits me
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| CarlHalling |
Human beings need privacy, or they go under. |
bill  | | posted 6-Feb-2008 10:10am |
I'd be a bit grumpy, but it would probably be good for me and I might get used to it... I think I'm better off in situations that don't allow me to isolate myself (my tendency). When I used to live with roommates, I think I was better because I ended up interacting with people regularly, face to face, despite my general aversion to it. I'm not great at socializing in more-formal settings. So, if I'm forced into a regular social situation, it becomes informal and I relax more and will eventually enjoy it, and I think the socializing is good for me too. |
Melf    | | posted 6-Feb-2008 10:34am |
I'm a private person; and people know not to spring surprise visits on me. |
| moviesnob | | posted 6-Feb-2008 11:18am |
They should call first if it's that often. Especially if I'm sleeping. |
| Galomorro | | posted 6-Feb-2008 11:57am |
I'm a private person, and a recluse to boot. |
| Enheduanna | | posted 6-Feb-2008 12:04pm |
None of these options really fits my feelings on this. I've had this kind of thing happen to me before; I liked it at first but it got pretty annoying after a while. I don't think I'm an especially private person, although I do like to have a lot of time to myself. But I love it when friends drop by unannounced, as long as it doesn't happen too often, and as long as it's not at a time that's completely inconvenient for me or when I'm stressed and have a lot to do. When it starts happening a lot, it can be very disruptive. When I was a student and studying or writing at home, friends or visiting family often seemed to have the attitude that I was free during the day when they were free, and their visits often meant that it was difficult for me to get work done. |
| LJD |
I feel if you plan on visiting someone, you must ask beforehand if they are available, call beforehand. It's only being courteous. Perhaps it would be good to be upfront with the person, ask them to please call beforehand. |
| Amanda |
I guess I'm a bit of a private person. I don't mind visitors, but prefer they call before coming over. If someone dropped by a time or two, I wouldn't say anything. If they made a habit of it, I'd ask them to knock it off. But....if I were doing something, I probably wouldn't answer the door to begin with. |
| smurf |
 None of these options. I'm not fine with this, but I'm not a "private person" either. I would talk with them about it, as it seems they need a few boundaries. Maybe ringing first, or only popping in within certain timeframes. |
Crayons  |
I'm deeply unsociable and sometimes I get somewhat lonely, so i'd expect unexpected visits to please me once in a while. I think it depends on the frquency. I don't think I'd have the heart to tell them to stop, but I might act a little irritated. |
| JessicaWoman99 |
I would be fine and ok with this just drop on by and say hi ! we can chat and gossip |
| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to Crayons) posted 6-Feb-2008 4:25pm |
> I'm deeply unsociable and sometimes I get somewhat lonely, so i'd
> expect unexpected visits to please me once in a while. I think it
> depends on the frquency. I don't think I'd have the heart to tell
> them to stop, but I might act a little irritated.
Oh by the way Crayons I am coming over to chat ok ? |
| Crayons |
Yes, and we can dance to some Ricky Martin and party like it's 1999. |
| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to Crayons) posted 6-Feb-2008 5:10pm |
> Yes, and we can dance to some Ricky Martin and party like it's 1999.
Alright see you in a few minutes if the Emergency Workers get me dug out of here that is |
| kcthedog |
If "she" is cute and friendly, lovable, and cuddly, give me two!
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| justjulie |
i've been through this....not a big deal as i don't mind. it's the other people i co-exist w/ that have issues |
| cerealkiller |
We wouldn't like it. It is known by family and anyone else that no one is welcome to just drop in at our house. Or even if they call first for that matter. We both find it alarming if the doorbell rings and we don't answer it without peeking out the window first.
Main reason for this is that the cats get upset when strangers or even other family members intrude into their space. They all run for cover, start fighting with each other, etc.
It doesn't cause any problems. Family generally never comes here anyhow even though one of our kids and his family live 2 minutes away. He only drops in occasionally to bum cigarettes or a beer. We go to their house Friday nights for pizza and movies. That's more than enough for us. |
| they |
I would probably not answer the door a good part of the time.
I usually don't care for visitors without warning. |
| they |
> can be very disruptive. When
> I was a student and studying
> or writing at home, friends
> or visiting family often seemed
> to have the attitude that
> I was free during the day
> when they were free, and their
> visits often meant that it
> was difficult for me to get
> work done.
I know this well. People think since I work at home, I'm available... but really, trying to call or stop by when I'm working at home is the equivalent of stopping by my desk at work. If it's not a scheduled break time, I can't help you. I'm strapped to the phone.
I have this old friend who I talk about a lot here.... Angie. We grew up on the same street.... have known each other forever. She's sort of ghetto(for lack of a better word) with some of her actions... One time I was sitting here in my office working - with the window open.. and I heard someone screaming my name. I look out the window and she's sitting in her car, in my driveway, screaming my name. I guess somehow she thought this would be a better way to interrupt my work than honking.... She knows I don't want people to knock because it sets the dogs to barking and barking dogs are hard to explain when people think they are calling a call center. But here's the rule: Don't honk, don't knock, don't scream my name.... it doesn't matter which one you do... I'm still working.... go away.  |
| Enheduanna | | (reply to they) posted 8-Feb-2008 11:29am |
I don't know why she would think it was ok to scream your name from the driveway even if you weren't working!
One of the frustrating things for me also was that I wasn't technically tied to anything--the nature of the work meant that I could take breaks and time off when I wanted to, which made it too easy to just goof off and do other things. My visitors would end up enabling my bad habits and procrastination, and I'd end up feeling anxious and guilty for not getting as much work done as I could. I think having the excuse that you absolutely have to work or you'll get fired would come in handy. I'm only now learning to be firm about when I have time to chat when I'm working at home. |
| cloudhugger |
I'm fine with it; but I'd rather they called first
I wouldn't want someone to not stop and see me because they think I might be busy. I'm always busy. I am also vey lonely sometimes. I may sometimes be irritated when someone comes unnanounced and I have to stop what I am doing to entertain, but that is pretty rare that occurs. Unless it's my Mary that invites them over and doesn't seem to make it home on time. That has happened and I did make a fuss about it. I prefer a call first, but if not, it's OK. I don't know, I am kinda weird about this.
If someone does this repeatedly, I would put them to work. Give them odd jobs. I guarentee that will make them stop stopping in unnanounced. |
| cloudhugger |
I knoew I should have said what Enheduanna said...du-oh! |
| Enheduanna |
It's good for you to express your own thoughts, though, so people don't start thinking we're the same person! |
| lily333 | | posted 8-Feb-2008 10:00pm |
I would prefer they call first but I would be polite. |
| RGirl |
I'm a private person but wouldn't speak up, especially since they never stay long. I wouldn't have to worry because the person I live with would speak up, no problem, so I'd depend or even ask them to do it. |
| cloudhugger |
Have I been stopping in too many times bothering you? Have I been hyper-social? |
| Biggles | | posted 9-Feb-2008 10:12am |
It depends on how often it happened - if it was every day or multiple times a day, it might be a bit much. |
| Enheduanna |
Not at all! You'll know when you start bothering me because I'll pretend I'm not home when you drop by! |
| MacGregor | | posted 9-Feb-2008 12:35pm |
This would drive me up a wall. I would lock my door for a start! Then...if I didn't feel like a visitor - meet them at the door and explain that it's a bad time and offer another time. Have a backbone! |
| cloudhugger |
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| Gomezy3k | | posted 10-Feb-2008 10:19am |
I am a private person and a recluse but have a couple of friends who are disabled and they are continually calling me wanting rides or some other bother. I usually either do not answer my phone and ignore them, but every now and then will answer to see what they want. They tend to only call me when they want to go somewhere or want something. Very irritating, but I figure I can use all the good Karma I can get... |
| Enheduanna |
I don't have guests just dropping by anymore, either. And for the most part I do like it when people occasionally drop in, so I'd be happy if you dropped by! And if I got sick of you, I'd just tell you it was time to go drop in on the next person! You could make the rounds of all the SC people. |
| cloudhugger |
Till everyone got sick of me. Tha's ai'ght. I'll go home now. |
| Enheduanna |
Just wait a couple of months and then you can start all over again! |
| cloudhugger |
That might work. |
| Zang |
I wouldn't call myself a "private person" as such, but I'm also not anyone's doormat. I only answer the door when I feel like having company and for people like this, that usually means they're left standing on the outside of the door. |
