| User | Comment |
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| RGirl |
Uhm, this person worked at the Customer Service at a store and I made ALL kinds of reasons to have to go there, return stuff, ask a question, get a money order, etc. It worked.  |
Melf    |
Rather not say  |
| Arthou |
trying to be to cool, I mean im 37 years old now, there has been many things Ive done when I was a young man that I really can't recall now. The only thing I can come up with is trying to be to cool. (making myself look foolish) |
| cabinfever |
Brace yourselves.... I flashed my boobs at him. |
| cuteasabutton |
Heh- every bad fashion decision I made in the 80's! |
| Zang |
Something stupid I'm sure. I'd rather not dredge it up for all to see. |
| BionicLips |
Put my hand on the person's butt. |
| Frostbrand |
I'd rather not say. |
| ROCKMAN |
I don't think I've ever done anything that was embarrassing, at least to me. |
| mve17 |
Be sexaaaay..
I couldn't make that happen if my life depended on it. |
| hypersky |
I've never done anything to embarrass myself to attract someone of the better sex.
(okay, maybe I did, but it's buried under piles and piles of emotions and only Dr. Phil can dig that deep to extract those memories...Ha!) |
| hypersky |
> Brace yourselves.... I flashed my boobs at him.
That would get my attention!!!
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| they | | posted 2-Sep-2006 10:45am |
Nothing.
I'm too reserved. I don't flirt. I have it in my head that anyone would be grossed out if I hit on them.... so I never have done that. |
| Venetian2416 | | posted 2-Sep-2006 11:25am |
I don't think I've ever done anything embarrassing to attract a member of your preferred gender. |
bill   | | posted 2-Sep-2006 12:03pm |
I don't know if I've ever done anything to attact someone. |
| ultamate | | posted 2-Sep-2006 12:07pm |
Oh I've done my share I'm sure. I did ask a man out not too long ago. Turned out he was engaged. Now that was embarrassing! |
| ultamate | | (reply to they) posted 2-Sep-2006 12:12pm |
> Nothing.
>
> I'm too reserved. I don't flirt. I have it in
> my head that anyone would be grossed out if I
> hit on them.... so I never have done that.
Now why would anyone be grossed out? You're the one in the picture on your profile page aren’t you? If so you are an attractive young woman. I don't think any man would be grossed out. |
| they | | (reply to ultamate) posted 2-Sep-2006 12:37pm |
Thanks.... I really wasn't fishing though  Yeah, I'm the girl in the picture--drunk and on a good day  The guy is my buddy Tracy.
I have extremely low self esteem... I think it probably stems from a lifetime of boyfriends with even lower self esteem than me who felt the need to bring me down with them.... telling me how ugly, fat, or worthless I am.
Luckily, I don't need to flirt anymore... I have  Ben I did actually pick him up... but it was after a couple beers and about 6 sake bombs... and then my friend just gave him my number. |
| Amanda | | posted 2-Sep-2006 12:55pm |
I don't think of anything. |
| cabinfever | | (reply to hypersky) posted 2-Sep-2006 2:04pm |
I'm sure it would... at the time my measurements were 38-34-36... so I was a size D cup. That's a lot to flash.  |
| ultamate | | (reply to they) posted 2-Sep-2006 2:28pm |
I just thought I had some bad BF's. That is terrible that they would say that to you!
Aww love such a sweet thing....what I remember of it.
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Matty   |
I played a quatro outside my wife's (then girlfriend's) bedroom window in Colombia; her mother threw dish water on me. Everyone around me laughed for minutes. |
gambler  |
Nothing recent, but I can recall, doing some inane things in my 12-16yr old days at high school |
| southernyankee |
Nothing not counting dancing like an idiot in random clubs while drunk of my ass. It usually pays off since I end up getting dry humped doing a "dance" called bump and grind. |
| Biggles |
I don't think that I've ever tried to attract anyone.
Perhaps that is where I am going wrong... |
| Enigma |
Nothing that I can remember. I don't need to attract them |
| RGirl | | (reply to they) posted 2-Sep-2006 8:59pm |
I'm not hitting on you or anything but you had a user page picture for awhile that was pretty nice. Why would you think that, that a person would be grossed out?
I ask because I've had similar sensations except mine went more like the person would laugh at me if I tried to flirt. Turns out my awkward attempt at flirtation actually got me somewhere.
EDIT- Ah, butt-holes bringing you down. Well, chuck what they said, you are very pretty if you ask me. |
| icurok |
I got the idea for this survey from a TV show that's currently on Channel 4 called "The Law of the Playground". It's based on a website and book created by Jonathan Blyth, and the show is basically an excuse for celebs (mostly comedians) to reminisce about the silly stuff they used to get up to when there were at school (including one story from Paul Kaye about him and his mate - also Jewish - mucking about at the back of the class only to interrupted by their teacher shouting, ".. and THAT'S why you were GASSED!")
I suddenly remembered 4th year English when some of the boys in the class (not me, honestly) had the brilliant idea of impressing the girls by cutting off samples of their pubes and placing them in envelopes and passing them to the table where the best looking girls sat.
Needless to say, it didn't work. |
| they | | (reply to RGirl) posted 3-Sep-2006 9:33am |
I feel like that a lot... that people are laughing at me. I could walk past a group of giggling teenagers... and I make it about me.... they must be laughing at me. It sounds stupid when I say it out loud.
Yeah, people suck. I'm who I am because of it though... and I'll take the good with the bad.
Thanks for the compliment.... I promise I wasn't fishing for them.. I was just answering the survey |
| RGirl | | (reply to they) posted 3-Sep-2006 4:54pm |
I didn't think you were fishing at all. I thought you were being honest. |
| they | | (reply to RGirl) posted 3-Sep-2006 9:55pm |
As you can see, I don't handle compliments well.
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| RGirl | | (reply to they) posted 3-Sep-2006 10:38pm |
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| caviartaste |
i danced with my best friend....kinda...dirty...kinda.... |
| caviartaste |
omg...after seeing icuroks explanation!! i think i have actually mailed my underwear to someone before......ROFL..... |
| Kristal_Rose |
Prance about, cook exotic things, and show off my music or sculpture portfolio; nothing exotic or embarassing. |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Biggles) posted 5-Sep-2006 3:36am |
Uhhh.. yeah. If you don't outright suggest a meeting or a call, there has to be some sort of flirting or the interpretation is 'not available', or 'not intersted'. Flirting need not be blatant. If you are 'feeling and thinking' 'available' it should show in your subtle eye gestures, but if you are simply cerebrally thinking 'I wish he/someone would take an interest in me', it could be months before you get attention based on some academic or hobby interest, and then after a few dates of not flirting, you're stuck with a friendship that can't be converted to a relationship.
You get back the energy you send out. |
| kitti723 |
I've never tried to attract a member of my preferred gender |
| Biggles |
Oh, I flirt...But flirting doesn't necessarily signify interest or a desire to attract someone - I flirt with plenty of people that I absolutely do not want to attract, such as my elderly male patients. |
| RGirl | | (reply to Biggles) posted 5-Sep-2006 5:28pm |
I'm sure a person could tell the difference between friendly flirting and genuine flirting. I know what you are talking about with the elderly male patients. Flirting doesn't have to be blatant as Kristal Rose said. It is mostly body language, leaning in, talking quietly... |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to Biggles) posted 5-Sep-2006 5:36pm |
Well, that's sweet. The elders have been around long enough to know you're just being kind.
I think amongst younger candidates though that there are two different cultures, those who flirt with anyone just as they laugh with anyone, and those who believe it is reserved only for those who are taking a serious romantic interest in each other. Because the rules aren't announced, apparent, or agreed upon, it's no surprise dating is such a complex issue. You've even got the rapist fools who probably genuinely feel that wearing risque attire is an open invitation for generic sexual attentention.
Aside from the patients, do you flirt with people you don't want to attract in your social/age group? If so, what do you mean by flirting?
If someone's checking me out witha smile, making smutty jokes with sublime directed innuendo, grabbing my ass, or anything else I'd call flirting, I take it as a sign that arranging a date is not out of order (and that I'm declining a potential offer if I don't make such an arrangement). A date itself, for instance partying at home under the pretense of doing homework, is where things congeal to a relationship or fall apart.
So where would you draw the line between flirting and attracting someone? As it's all on the same scale, I can readily see how someone would make it easy on their self and believe it all equates to attraction/invitation; On the other hand, I can also see how people would like to safely get a feel for how others interact on a romantic channel without any commitments being implied.
It just now dawns on me that some people are so far along the liberal end of the flirting spectrum that even casual sex does not necessarily indicate continued relationship commitment. Hopefully those folk don't intermingle much with the types who imagine that sex will indicate their one true-love life-long partner.
In my experience, flirting is more likely at parties where it is known that those involved are married and the flirting won't be leading anywhere, much like the country dances of a century ago. I love to dance, but in clubs I either dance alone or drift to several partners per song, to avoid indicating further interest. I'm there for the love of dancing, and somewhat resent that my mere presence there supposedly indicates I hope to go home with someone. |
SillyDrea  | | posted 5-Sep-2006 10:33pm |
When I was 11 I thought this boy was soooo cute. Problem was he didn't speak English at all. A friend of mine instructed me on what to say which I thought was something like "I think you are really cute". Turns out I told him to go do something with his mother that he found really offensive. His older sister was knocking on my door that night. Needless to say I have never dated anyone who couldn't speak English. |
| judgescratch | | posted 8-Sep-2006 11:09am |
I don't think I did anything too embarrassing or bad. |
| judgescratch | | posted 8-Sep-2006 11:18am |
KR is awesome.
Thanks for your input. |
| Kristal_Rose |
Thanks. Like in software development, I manage to get myself into situations too tough for the Dr. Phils to comprehend. (Funny, just as I typed that last work I accidentally switched my keyboard intrepreter to 'Dvorak right hand') I end up with borderline girlfriends, where it's clear we've been dating for months, but they won't admit to it and take things up a notch unless they've had too much to drink, which I've discovered doesn't interest me. My situations are generally accompanied by a parallel spiritual plane interpretation, I've been in different types of love triangles (working and not-working), and the bi-gender thing thing doesn't help much. I also get the guys who give me lingerie but wouldn't admit to taking an interest either. Although I consider myself a bit of a old-world romantic social wallflower prude, my Aries pioneering scout quality flavors my relationship life as well. As an engineer, familiar with diverse family structures across geography and history, I even invented a new model, that of staggered rotating threesomes, where the current youngest partner chooses a younger partner as the elder ones begins retirement. This continues indefinitely with each generation. It has the advantages of the extended family, as far as taking care of elders and indoctrinating novices, but the clean mobile modern compactness of the nuclear family. |
| cloudhugger | | posted 12-Sep-2006 9:49pm |
Sorry, don't remember. Except for the stuttering and stammering and babbling nonsense. I was usually the stalk-ee. |
| judgescratch |
I haven't been part of the 'dating scene' for several years now. My SO and I have been together (with one breakup) for about 9 years now. Come to think of it, I don't know how much into the dating scene I was even when I was so-called dating.
I'm not dull, it's just that my interests have included smaller groups around me.
That said, I'm glad to not be a part of it...what with all of the communication which gets screwed up from non-verbals, expectations, etc. It sounds like you take it all in with an analytical approach.
I enjoyed reading your response and I liked that I felt I needed to wait until I had a few minutes to stop and think before I replied.
What is your engineering background? Is it software oriented? My academic background is in design, and I'm now in a position where the boundaries between design and engineering are blurred. Afterall, "engineering is designing for a function" (from a text I refer to often, "Fabric Structure, Basic Weave Design".) |
| Kristal_Rose |
The analytical approach may have been my problem in the first place. I may have missed stuff that I was supposed to understand and act upon intuitively. It wasn't until relationships after my divorce in which I had an opportunity to formally 'date'. While intriguing (and stressful), formally dating is an indication itself that the relationship is less than natural and fully open. It does provide a great excuse to go out and do things though instead of hanging out at home passively maintaining things.
"Fabric Structure, Basic Weave Design" - are you in nanotech? I used to have a 'Library of Congress' -like organization to my research bookmarks, but I came to find that all fields of engineering (and arts, biology..) lead to nanotechnology. The boundaries between description, physical manifestation, and behavior have become blurred.
I plan in a decade to be in the business of conceptual pattern interfaces, anticipating the day when we need to communicate with generic matter and tell it how to behave.
Engineering design is indeed a fascinating environmental function art. I enjoyed designing a culture of mermaids for an RPG (role playing game) environment, where the cultural mental-patterns rubric was based on weaving. Our engineering is based on static rectalinear foundations. An underwater culture would be based on dynamic spherical cellular construction. Such a primary change in foundation would change models of poetry, software design, family structure, and everything else., not just architecture.
We have a very binary outlook; is/isn't. A creative taoist outlook would be more trinary; source/thesis/antithesis.
Software is written bottom-up: bits -> bytes -> characters and digits -> words and operands -> functions and compositions -> AI meta-data. I'd like one day to write a top-down fractal OS: trinary bits = states of existence <- archetypes <- metaphorical parallel <- conceptual sythesis <- structural paradigms <- data and other content <- details. Imagine the power of a computer when the flip of a single bit represents an entire change in the metaphysical rubric or pardigm by which content is symbolically comprehended. - Such a system would have to at least be trinary. Binary systems have forced computers to mirror reality in the form of settings/properties for linear logical predicate processing... not very creative. at all Trinary systems allow one to manipulate the infinite implied unknown fractal trees along with the known fractal trees. A top-down system based on intersection of analog frequencies representing manifestion points of narrative-energy archetypes would be even more powerful, but I can't even visualize fully that for another 10-20 years. My simple visual proof of Fermats Last Theorm is a step in that direction though, and contemplation of the Sri-Lantra helps.
"Fabric Structure, Basic Weave Design" is the foundation of ancient kaballism (mind-matter cascading nuclear-physics golum propogation {air, fire, water jods = proton, electron, neutron}), and even celtic spirituality based on tree roots and fisherman knots. All mystical models of creation start with a trinity, then often branch out to 22 archetypes. Binary thinking limits our art/science models to mortal historical logs with no greater creative possibility than synthesis. It does not allow for thinking outside the box.
I tend to take conversational subject matter not just up a notch, but up a dimension. |
| smartelic14 | | posted 30-Sep-2006 12:23pm |
lol...i brought him candy and chocolate bars every single day in the 7th grade...and in 9th grade i stalked him lol....2 different guys tho |
| judgescratch |
I'm not in nanotech, I do R&D for a textile manufacturer. Nanotechnology does overlap into the textile industry, but I haven't dealt with it as yet with the markets that this company serves.
I have a very binary outlook (when I view art especially, within a split second, it's either 'like it' or 'don't like it'. An ex-boyfriend used to tease me about how quickly I decide in this scenario), generally, except of course when it's not convenient to the argument I'm supporting at the moment.
Your paragraph on software being written in a linear fashion was, on the most part, lost to me. I can dig how it's written/designed in a linear fashion, but I can't visualize how it can be tri-linear. Even with the mention of fractals, I associate them to be very 2D. I'm glad you're out there working all of this stuff out and utilizing your innate strengths.
"I tend to take conversational subject matter not just up a notch, but up a dimension."....I noticed. I enjoy it! |
| AbbyK |
It was on the first day of my freshman year and i saw this boy that i had liked the year before and i had changed over the summer. i went up to him and started talking and come to find out he was talking about me. He liked me but he never had the guts to tell me. so we have been going out for 3 months now. everytime he brings it up, i blush because his friends were laughing at my thongs. |
| Kristal_Rose |
A like/don't like opinion of a painting is at least top-down, not bottom-up. I'm writing in non-linear programming at the moment and it's a real pain. There are all sorts of Catch-22 situations where one relies on data which might not even exist. That too though is because the thinking is still linear. A non-linear system would be based on reacting to whatver unexpected results became present, rather than anticipating results. It would be much more AI in that respect. Binary follows decision paths, trinary juggles the known path with the unknown path. I don't have it all worked out yet as pertains to machine processing, but it makes for great cosmology theory. |
| judgescratch |
You're into some terrific stuff. I really can't comment more except that I can visualize and imagine what some matrix of dots and lines in my head which represent known and "unknown" paths. |
| Kristal_Rose |
Or perhaps a Dr. Seuss painting of a tree where all the weird branches grow trees which connect back to other trees, and all arch to create portals to other worlds. |
| LJD | | posted 14-Oct-2006 7:16pm |
I've never done anything... In my day, women never asked men out. I always left that choice up to the man. After all, ultimately, it's the woman that makes the final choice. I think women all the time try to, in subtle ways, attract a man, use their womanly wiles... |
| Kristal_Rose | | (reply to LJD) posted 15-Oct-2006 7:27am |
Veto power.
"What I say goes" is kind of trumped by 'But you will say what I desire you to say.' |
| chashipp | | posted 17-Dec-2006 11:16am |
I dressed up as a girl in paddington station. |
| chashipp | | (reply to icurok) posted 24-Dec-2006 6:57am |
I had sex with and married another guy |
