Who loves who more?

We both think we must love the other more, but I'll bet it's about even.

Interesting Advances Stats. Only female voters said that they loved their partner more than they were loved, and predominantly male voters said they were loved more. I wonder if this has to do with who communicates their affection more, or if it has to do with who will stay in a relationship that feels unbalanced? Some of both maybe? Maybe there are too few voters at this point (24) to evaluate.

BTW, whom is the direct object pronoun you're looking for in the question: Who loves whom more?.

it varies

This comparison is offensive.

We Love each other to distraction! Fully...deeply...savagely!
I believe that Love is not something that can be measured in concrete amounts(or even in the less rigid terms of more/less/equal).
And Love fluctuates and vacillates between people, moment to moment.

Topper: maybe it is because women love men more than men love women?

drdt.........That's quite a generalization. What about women who love women and men who love men? I know there are a few of those represented in those advanced stats.

If you think you love your SO more, then you are wrong and it is your SO that loves you more. For your belief is an act of unlove.

I don't agree with that at all. I've definitely been in relationships in which we both knew and acknowledged that I loved the other person more.

Good options.

What does it mean to "love more"? define that. How do you measure?

TwM: The stats don't give enough information for me to postulate on that. I was assuming a primarily hetero population, on the basis that society is primarily hetero.

If you assume a primarily homo population, then my interpretation would be that (in general) female couples are more loving than male couples. But I expect that would get me even more flak.

drdt...so do you really believe that women love men more than men love women? Or were you just tossing that out there to get the discussion rolling?
Most women are raised to be loving and nurturing? Most men are raised to be tough and logical?
This all fascinates me. ;)

i was raised to be loving and logical...;p

um..let me change that...i turned out to be loving and logical...wouldn't say i was raised that way

My genes made me more "tough and logical" than "loving and nurturing"

TwM: It just seemed to be a logical interpretation of the statistics. What I personally believe didn't enter into it. My personal experience is that I have loved others more than they have loved me, but that may be sour grapes.

bill -- what does it mean to "love at all"? Define it. How do you measure it?
And yet you don't hesitate to assert you love jen and she loves you.

That's a good point. Defining it is near impossible - especially in a way that others would agree upon. So, measuring it is near impossible.
Somehow, it's easy to assert my feelings of love, even though I can't define them very well.
I think if the question was phrased "Who do you feel loves who more", I'd be more at ease with it. Without the "do you feel" it sounds like something that really can be measured. ...and I guess I'm saying that it cannot, it's just how you feel. Comparing your feeling of love to someone else's seems especially dubious. ...and I can't see the point of doing it. It seems a hurtful thing to think about.

Bill: the problem arises when two people love each other but are using different definitions of 'love'. So you each think you know how the other feels, but in fact you don't. And you can't understand why they do the things they do because if they loved you by your definition they wouldn't do those things.

so true, so true...

I am not sure who loves who more because we don't express it as much as normal people do but we know that it is there.

We love each other the same, that's what love is. How we express our love is another story but we love each other and are committed to one another the same for life.