Do you have unresolved issues with your parents?

Both my parents have passed. It is surprising, or perhaps not, of how much you wish you'd have told them you loved them more, taken more time with them. Why do we always have to wait until it's too late sometimes??

None whatsoever.

Everybody does. All human beings are flawed. Even the best of parents do permanent damage.

Plenty.

Plus something I never dared to mention to anyone. It's just a little suspicious I have, I just don't know how would I approach the subject and whether at all I should approach it. It's nothing bad... well nothing too bad.

Yes & No. Yes, with my father. No, with my mother.

Who doesn't?

Doesn't everyone?

> Plus something I never dared to mention to anyone. It's just a little suspicious I have,

"Yes, dear, if you must know, yes, you were a mile high baby."

Re: "Who doesn't?" "Doesn't everyone?" Some people have no unresolved issues with anyone. It's not good to hang onto stuff. Either get it out or let it go.

What's a mile high baby?

I guess my question killed the joke.

No. They're dead. Actually, there is sort of an issue around the whole thing.

No

I resolved them without their help.

Yes but my mother is passed so the issues are still there, but there's no way to resolve them with her completely. My dad suffers from CRS so it wouldn't do any good to bring them up. Besides most of my issues with him involve my mother in some way and I know he done the best he could under the circumstances. He was otherwise the greatest father in the world, and it’s nothing I’m that concerned with.

Don't get me started.

All I can say is mom did the best she could. I need to believe that and all my issues will be resolved.

Oh my.... where do I start?

Yes. They will get resolved though. When I am older and braver.

Yes, my father.. but nothing I cant brush over and 'be fine' with.. he doesnt much like sentimental 'talking about the past' chats... and Im happy to stay away from it.. he hasnt screwed me up that bad.

Not really... there are probably things we don't agree on or something, but I don't really care.

it drives my family nuts.. but i will not go to bed until things are resolved....when i was little i did, and that resulted in a lot of bitterness towards my dad...now we just talk it through when it happens and then leave it...much better. hmm..wonder who came up with that idea

The only unresoved issue i have with my parents is my mother died when i was 31, and she never got to see my children be born. so she never got to be a grandmother to them.

Yes. I have issues relating to the religion they brought me up as.

welcome back Kaleb!

No not really. There is the whole thing about dad marrying satan's daughter after mom died but what can I do? She wove her devilish web around him and clouded his senses. So it ruined the later part of my immediate family life. He ended up suffering too although I don't know if he realizes it.

I always will have those unresolved issues because my family is refusing to accept me, for who I am, and I am their daughter Miss Jessica! and this is the way it is going to be for the rest of my life, plus my parents never ever wanted another girl in the family and here I am? For my parents wanted boys instead of girls and this is selfish in my opinion

> All I can say is mom did the best she could. I need to believe that
> and all my issues will be resolved.

My issues with my family probably will never ever be resolved all because of who I am, and it has been like a warzone in my family my parents as well

We are all human beings. There is only consolation in doing the very best you can without depending on any one else living up to your expectations. It's very sad when the parents voice their objections, as I deal with that also, I am not who they think I am. I am who I am and if I expect everyone to love me as I see fit, than I will not recieve any love. the love comes from within and when you are able to love yourself fully, than the rest will join in if they feel they are worthy.

> We are all human beings. There is only consolation in doing the very
> best you can without depending on any one else living up to your
> expectations. It's very sad when the parents voice their objections,
> as I deal with that also, I am not who they think I am. I am who I
> am and if I expect everyone to love me as I see fit, than I will not
> recieve any love. the love comes from within and when you are able
> to love yourself fully, than the rest will join in if they feel they
> are worthy.

And yes how very true' , we are who we are, and I do love myself being the true person I have always known myself to be, and my parents I hardly ever talk to them and only with my sister, I can talk with her over the phone just like sisters and she fills me in as to what is going on in the family, and how my aging parents are doing down in Florida and my other sister back home in Connecticut she has gone through a nasty divorce and it was ugly, and I never ever hear from her at all?

Thanks. Was I gone long?

Long enough for me to notice you were absent, at least.

They are the unresolved problems

Nope. Not-a-one.

With my mother? No. Never have. Now that she's gone, I'm really happy about that. With my father? Yes. There's quite a few. I don't talk to him about them, though. It only starts these huge family feuds.

Nope, my parents and I are good.

> Who doesn't?

I don't!

See what I mean? Wholesome!

Your not trying to stick me with a new nickname are you? Although it's a good one.

Hey, that's a good idea!
(Although your avatar isn't very wholesome!)

What is that chick supposed to be doing anyway? Your avatar?

Your right. I could change it but it might get less wholesome. Maybe I'm just not as wholesome in some ways as I am or seem to be in others.

Closing mini-blinds.

I'm just waiting for the bewb-baring avatar to come back! I miss her!

Oh, I get it.

No problem!

I changed it now. Please don't ask what she's doing.

Yay!!!!

What is she doing?

I think she's flashing us, A lot!

Not anymore. They're both deceased.

I haven't seen or talked to them in about six years, but they still invade my dreams

Abused as a child, father passed away. Mother has senile dimentia. My siblings would call me a liar and would not believe me.
I wait for the day my abuse does not affect me any more.