| User | Comment |
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dab   | | posted 16-Jun-2006 9:21am |
Oh yes. I can be pretty extreme in some of my views. At the very least, I shade my opinions so they're more acceptable to whatever group I'm in. Or I just remain silent. |
| cB | | posted 16-Jun-2006 10:22am |
All my friends know I'm very blunt, therefore, if they took everything I said to heart, then I'd probably be pretty lonely.
Some of my views could be considered "harsh" but I think if people can't handle someone's opinion, then they don't deserve to speak their own.
All my friend are pretty sarcastic, witty, and at time, utterly offensive. I LOVE IT! |
Iseult  | | posted 16-Jun-2006 11:29am |
No.
They wouldn't be my friend, now would they? |
| Oscar | | posted 16-Jun-2006 11:39am |
I have friends that I tread lightly on subjects, but we don't avoid them. I think it is good to know what they think/believe and to respect it the same as they do for me. |
Enheduanna  | | posted 16-Jun-2006 12:22pm |
No. |
Melf  | | posted 16-Jun-2006 5:17pm |
Yes, there are friends I don't discuss relationships with because they would get incredibly uncomfortable and there are friends I don't discuss politics with because they would get defensive. |
gambler  | | posted 16-Jun-2006 5:35pm |
No.......... but to be honest, what kind of friends do you have where you can't even discuss a subject? |
| cloudhugger | | posted 16-Jun-2006 6:18pm |
Yes, that is why I have friends. I have a wide variety, and seperate circles of friends. If I had only one friend I suppose we had better be able to talk about anything. But, because I have seperate circles of friends that share a common thread, there is plenty enough to talk about within that conversation group. I am particular who I talk to about certain things like politics or sex mainly because I may not want to know that about a person. You know, TMI. I enjoy hearing other's views, but I don't like to be lectured or belittled because of my views. Especially when someone puts you in a catagory because of something you say, and than calls you names. That is not friend type material anyway. |
Zang  | | posted 16-Jun-2006 6:26pm |
One springs to mind. I have a friend who was born in Serbia and she used to be very patriotic about Serbia. When the Kosovo War broke out it really upset her. She wouldn't talk about it at all and stopped making any reference to her heritage for at least a couple of years. Now when she does, she says "Yugoslavian" rather than Serbian.
I would never bring up the war with her. In fact, I tend to avoid the whole topic completely. We'll talk about her childhood or Serbian cuisine, but that's about it. |
| ultamate | | posted 16-Jun-2006 6:30pm |
Yes. I avoid talking about abortion with one friend. Mostly we agree on the issue but on some points we don't. She gets really mad, really easy over the abortion issue. |
| cabinfever | | posted 16-Jun-2006 7:07pm |
Yes, but I wouldn't say we have a friendship, so far. But I won't discuss her kids because she is a typical mother in thinking that they aren't that bad, and I can't really stand them. We've had a tiff over that before. |
| kitti723 | | posted 16-Jun-2006 8:54pm |
don't have any friends anymore |
LJD  | | posted 16-Jun-2006 9:09pm |
I don't worry about losing friends over subjects. I tell them how I feel about a subject, they tell me theirs...I would not shut a friend down over their opinions. I have friends that know me, know how I stand politically, and religionwise. We generally don't speak on certain subjects, because we are worlds apart on the subjects. |
| llamamama | | posted 16-Jun-2006 11:06pm |
No, because my friends and I aren't like that. We know that we can talk about those things and nothing happens. For example..I enjoy discussing religions with people..But I hate it when one of my friends(we shall call him larry) says things he has no idea about..
Especially on religion |
| Enigma | | posted 16-Jun-2006 11:09pm |
My friends know my belief system and what I'm all about as I know them. I understand they refrain from discussing certain things around me and that's okay with me. We have mutual respect for each other, it's not like we "don't want to hear it" or anything like that. People that are acquaintances, I won't discuss things with them if they are ignorant. I do not shy away from a discussion with someone that holds different views. In fact, I like it. |
| autumnlight | | posted 17-Jun-2006 2:16pm |
No - most of my friends share my views. A few of my mates don't share the same political views and it can get heated, but it never escalates beyond lively discussion. One of mates at work is a Catholic, but she actually likes talking about the differences between what we think, for some reason. |
| mackdaddy33 | | posted 17-Jun-2006 3:03pm |
One of my best friend is a goth, Whaat do I do |
| RGirl | | posted 18-Jun-2006 1:06am |
No. If we can't talk and disagree than we can't be friends. There are things I don't discuss because it has been discussed and nothing has changed so there is no reason to bring it up again. But never "won't". |
| RGirl | | (reply to kitti723) posted 18-Jun-2006 1:10am |
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| kitti723 | | (reply to RGirl) posted 18-Jun-2006 1:13am |
not a bad thing. i don't care for people much. they generally drive inward & i tend to hide. that's why it's o.k. to visit sites like this. i get to express myself w.o. looking at anyone. |
| RGirl | | (reply to kitti723) posted 18-Jun-2006 1:16am |
I feel very similarly about coming to sites like this. |
| Cain | | posted 18-Jun-2006 11:57am |
Yes, I don't discuss the fact that I slept with one of my friend's husbands before they got together. She tries to ask me about it and how he was and I just refuse to talk about it. Ick. |
| ElvisFan67 | | posted 18-Jun-2006 2:29pm |
I'm pretty sure I do, so my best solution is not to bring sensitive topics up in conversation.  |
| gazelda1 | | posted 18-Jun-2006 3:06pm |
yes. i have boundaries in all my friendships except with my husband.. it helps keep a level of intimacy in my marriage |
| kitti723 | | (reply to RGirl) posted 18-Jun-2006 4:58pm |
i do have friends but i've dropped the ball on all of them since i'll be moving soon and no one has really responded. i like to make a clean break. |
| Amanda | | posted 18-Jun-2006 6:08pm |
No. There are issues I don't discuss with certain people, but it's not because I fear it will damage our friendship. It's just that I know their views, they know mine, we understand and accept each other's point of view, but we know hashing it out isn't going to change anything. So, it's just easier not to talk about those issues. |
| FitnessGuy | | posted 19-Jun-2006 2:35am |
OK.....READ THIS, PEOPLE: If you have any friends whom you are wary about speaking to regarding the subjects of religion, politics, or any other "sensitive" topics out of the fear of losing them, then you need to seriously consider if they are your "FRIENDS."
TRUE FRIENDS MIGHT NOT ALWAYS AGREE WITH YOU, BUT THEY WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU. |
| gsummers | | posted 19-Jun-2006 2:16pm |
Good question.. Yeah I do. I wont discuss my drug history when I was in my twenties with a particular friend of mine.. I experimented in some narcotic pleasures like most people.. but she is somewhat straight laced and she would be astonished and very disappointed.. but she would still love me! I just dont need to make it a topic of conversation. |
| cerealkiller | | posted 19-Jun-2006 3:26pm |
1. No friends
2. I don't talk anyways
3. But, religion and sex are never discussed. I don't care what you believe, I don't want you laying your Bible crap on me, and it's none of your business what I believe. I'd never discuss my sexual beliefs, experiences, etc. |
| cerealkiller |
> One of my best friend is a goth, Whaat do I do
> One of my best friend is a goth, Whaat do I do
First, you gotta explain what a goth is. If all else fails, kill your friend. |
| JessicaWoman99 | | posted 19-Jun-2006 6:23pm |
I will not talk about my Faith in God or me being a transgendered woman because some people are real sensitive and they just do not want to hear it at all, and it can damage a friendship for good |
| JessicaWoman99 | | (reply to Melf) posted 19-Jun-2006 6:27pm |
> Yes, there are friends I don't discuss relationships with because
> they would get incredibly uncomfortable and there are friends I don't
> discuss politics with because they would get defensive.
Of course! and discussing Politics it can get heated up," to wartime, world war 2 bring it on" and it is not fair game |
| RGirl |
Well, I imagine, cerealkiller, that if you were to discuss with most anyone your preference when it comes to sexual relationships you're bound to get your butt kicked in a hurry, anyway. |
| Melf |
Exactly  |
| cerealkiller | | (reply to RGirl) posted 20-Jun-2006 2:51pm |
I reckon so. |
| mve17 | | posted 23-Jun-2006 8:36am |
Nope |
| kaleb777 | | posted 24-Jun-2006 1:27pm |
Yes. I have a female friend who believes that abortion should be on demand, no questions asked, and paid for by the state. She also believes men should have no say as to what happens to the baby they helped create.
I also have a friend who keeps spewing this socialist dogma despite owning shares in several companies that have a poor record on employee treatment. He also drives a 4X4 yet keeps tryingt to convince me of how global warming is the greatest threat to the planet EVER.
Gee, who would have thought socialists are also hypocrites. |
| RGirl | | (reply to kaleb777) posted 24-Jun-2006 2:21pm |
Reminds me of some I used to know (and never got along with) who insisted she was a vegetarian because of the cruelty to animals issue and was very uppity about it. She even asked if the fries were fried in animal fat or vegetable oil. Guess where she worked. Berman's, a store that sells all leather, only leather. Purses, jackets, skirts. Hypocrite. I am a vegetarian- only just recently I guess, but realized that my reasoning for doing so was that I didn't want to eat an animal that had been slaughtered that I would also have to make changes in other areas. I don't buy or wear animal products anymore. |
| down_by_the_bay | | posted 25-Jun-2006 8:26pm |
some of my friends have big egos and only see things from their point of view so I don't bother! |
| southernyankee | | posted 29-Jan-2007 4:45pm |
yes, I try to avoid discussing politics and religion with most of my friends in "real life". Especially my black friends who on average tend to be much more liberal than me and more religious as well, but not allways. The rules with internet friends tend to be much more lenient. |
| darkshadowsseeker |
Yes, I do. |
