Do you really think that you can change someone?

Is it possible? Yeah, I'm sure it is. Is it right? I don't think so. You speak of changing your boyfriend. I think that is so wrong. You should never try to mold someone to the way you want them to be. Each person should be their own person. If you try to change someone, it will only cause problems in the long run. You should accept people for who they are, flaws and all. If you are unable to do that, you probably don't need to associate with them to begin with.

the ultimate change must come from themselves. But you can inspire someone to start the work.

But its a dangerous game to want to go about changing someone.

No, you cannot change people.

They have to want to change themselves.

Some things are more likely to be changeable than others. Certain things are unlikely to change--such as cognitive ability, basic emotional temperament, or tendency to be outgoing or solitary. On the other hand thinks like skills, knowledge, and strategies for going about things are very changeable, depending upon input and opportunity. With your boyfriend, for example, if he is a party-person and craves stimulation and excitement, that will probably not change. On the other hand, if he reacts to frustration in immature ways, that aspect could change if he is introduced to alternatives.

You can change the baby! I think it's your turn, I did it last time!

It's a years long commitment, but yes, you can definitely help someone change for the better.

Compare yourself to yourself, you'll always come out a winner. Real achievement comes from applying yourself to a higher standard.

Strive to be the best person you can in your own personal life and set a good example for others to follow.

Yes, I can do it if s/he wants to do it, I cannot do it alone, s/he should help.

Yes, it depends what for though..If someone is told something enough they tend to believe it.

I think it's possible to change someone, but anyone who would, deserves to be left. It isn't up to anyone to change someone else to suit them in a relationship.

?..........You mean you showed him how bad his habits were and he has since stopped?

I'm guessing she nagged him to mercilessly and will continue to do so until he leaves her, starting the pattern that is to follow her through the course of her life, destined with doomed relationships.

............... look!!! , I hate that crack pipe, do you know how bad that is............nag nag nag

More like: .........look!!! , You're supposed to pay for all the meals and everything when we go out because I'm just a dumb girl. I'm just social veal!!! Do you know how bad it is to expect me to pay my own way??!?!?!?

lol

I guess it's possible to influence another person....

But going into a relationship with the intention of changing a person is not right.

A person cannot change some one, but an event can. A person just might be related to that event.

...uh, but you just said you changed him.

Whats good for one person is bad for another,if you feel you want to change someone you better leave the relationship

> ...uh, but you just said you changed him.

Maybe he's faking, and she's just too blind to see it.

Its a bit arrogant to try and change anyone into what "you" want.

He smoked and I didn't like that push I have asthma and it bugged my lungs, so he quit for me. It was sweet. It was a bad habit, not the presonailty. I wouldn't change the way he is for anything.

> They have to want to change themselves.

I agree

> ?..........You mean you showed him how bad his habits were and he
> has since stopped?

He smoked and I didn't like that plus I have asthma and it bugged my lungs, so he quit for me. It was sweet. It was a bad habit, not the presonailty. I wouldn't change the way he is for anything.

I still believe that you shouldn't ask someone to change something about themselves for you, even a habit. If the smoking bothered you, asking him to go outside when he was at your home or something like that is one thing. But, asking him to quit smoking for you is a totally different thing. He should quit because he wants to, not because he feels pressured by you. But, if you're happy and he's happy, more power to you.

How many psychiatrists does it take to change a light bulb?

What light bulb?

The one in the light bulb socket.

And how does that light bulb make you feel?

Like I want to save it from it's darkness and despair.

And why wouldn't you just turn that lamp on then???

The bulb is burned out...BUT IT HAS TO WNT TO CHANGE
hahahahahahahahahahaha

w A n t _{I had to fix that, you know}

I didn't. Now I suspect you do it on purpose.

Not without chloroform, a whole lotta rope, and the book Brainwashing for Dummies.

People are singularly responsible for their own lives. Depending on someone else to make you happy, "change" you, give your life meaning is all bullcrap. If someone re routes their life it was their decision no matter what someone else may think.

I didn't make him and he honsetly did want to quit! Well he actually dips and I think that it is sexy!

I change an ex boy friend one time from beating on me, but then the beatings turned to sexual abuse. (17 years later and he’s beating on his current wife)

I change some things about my husband, but once he knew he had me they creped back in. (he’s doing the same things to his current girl friend)

I’ve been changed a few times but I always go back to being the old me again.

So my answer is, even if you could change them it won’t be for the better nor will it last.

You should accept them as they are, or move on.

What right do you have to change someone if you can’t even change yourself?

uhm...no...why dont people understand u cant change someone, no matter how hard u try, trust me , this survey is extremly ironic to what is happening in my life right now, which is y i absoutly HAD to say something, i may be only 15 but i do kno how people in general work....ive been through enough to have a good idea of how life really is and if someone wants to be a duchbag and screw peoples llives they're not going to change, they may seem like they've changed,but deep inside, their still the same person. i dont know if this makes any sense to u ppl considering u dont kno the circumstances, maybe you could convince someone to add something into their lives (religion etc.etc) but ....ugh idk this is a little tough to explain

(reply to Amanda) posted 6-Feb-2006 6:36pm (quoted) reply

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I didn't make him and he honsetly did want to quit! Well he actually dips and I think that it is sexy!


ugh sexy? dip? *shudders* spitting is disgusting, spitting brown? wow if thats a turn on to u then u r one deeply disturbed person *shudders again*

I'm not deeply disturbed. But what i like some people don't and what other people like I might not. Like smoking , I can't handle it. I think that it is nasty, all it is, is smoke and air. But that is just me.

Maybe for the short-term but old habits always come back.

Unfortunately no. Be nice if you could. I would work on getting women in my life to loosen up.

Unfortunately no. Be nice if you could. I would work on getting women in my life to loosen up.