What was the meanest thing anyone has ever said to you?

"You'll never amount to anything".

Too many things to choose from. I'd fill a page and keep on going.

This one still stings after 18 years ago. So called 'best friend' out of the blue stopped calling me and talking to me at work. After a few days I was concerned if she was alright so I called her at her home saturday night. I said "hello?" and she started screaming at me non stop about what an idiot I was for not knowing she was just using me for the past 3 years. She just used me to have someone to get high and drunk with and I was too stupid to know that and she didn't want anything else to do with me. Because I was so stupid I didn't know when I was being used and it was beneath her. These are the things she actually was yelling at me, I couldn't get a word in, to ask why the sudden change in our friendship, then I just couldn't say anything. I think I went into shock. I was pretty pissed about that one for a few years, and it does to this day confuse the hell out of me. I know I wasn't that buzzed.

Ouch! (whoever said that suck's)

That I had done something wrong in the past and that's why God caused my son to die. He was 13-months old and had multiple birth defects, but was a sweet and precious child. What hurt most is that this came from someone who I considered to be a dear friend. Needless to say, I don't have anything to do with such a self-righteous dog anymore.

I can't recall.....I don't normally take words seriously anyways..

That I was stupid.

Until I read what you wrote, I was shocked at what cloudhugger had endured. Omg, teatree, what a vile person you had cross your path.
I hope you are not bitter. That is someone who is dragging up the ashes of what we all have felt...guilt about things we have done in our lives and that "possibly" we are paying for what we have done. It's not true
I am sorry for your son. I am sorry for you. I hate what this person has said to you, and thank you for sharing such a painful thing.
Humans are just mean.

It's nice to see you back!

That it was God's will that my husband died.

i guess most recently would be that i had a "big attitude".

I never left. I've just been quiet. I'll try to make more noise now:)

Someone once said I was an idiot. What an butt-hole!

The most recent thing that really hurt me was some things my father and step-mother said to me. That I'm a dog, a whore, will never go anywhere with my life, and a terrible mother. If anyone else had said things like this to me, I wouldn't have given it a second thought. I'd have wiped them out of my life and moved on, as I don't care what others think of me. But, for things like that to come from your own father is painful. Just goes to show that he really has changed since he married that....woman.

My high school Spanish teacher said that about me to my mother because I dropped his class.

43 years...I don't keep a running tally. The most recent that comes to mind was a litany of criticisms from my ex that led to our break-up. Suffice it to say that her bourgeois sensibilities didn't mesh with my bohemian lifestyle.

people can be so nasty

Hmmm, I'm having to think on this a bit. I've had pretty good relationships with friends and lovers, I don't remember many ugly words, but it was probably something Michael said when he was drunk then apologized for the next day.

He always said I talked too much and used a 50 cent word when a quarter would do. He use to go on about how "old" I was and wouldn't shut up about it. SO I waited until he brought up the age thing and asked him, in front of everyone, "Didn't you mother teach you to respect your elders?" End of that little dig.

I never took stuff too seriously, but there is the saying, "A drunk man speaks a sober man's thoughts."

there's been many mean things said to me, thanks.

That I was stupid because she had an advanced degree and I had a lowly Bachelors. More education doesn't always give you more common sense.

cant really remember, I can more tell you mean things I have said

I can't think of one particluar thing, but over the course of my marriage, many things were said that, all told, made me feel inadequate and unworthy.

She is (or was) a twinkie.

She is a major league twinkie. Screw her. And then screw some more. twinkie!

Sorry for your loss; there is no greater pain than the one your endured, and to have this idiot say something this stupid...twinkie! What else can I say?

Another one that I have to qualify as a twinkie (see my other rants!). What is it with people saying hurtful things when you're in the most difficult period of your life?

Can your own father be a twinkie? I guess so. I'm sure you're an upstanding individual. Screw them; it's what you think about yourself that counts. When in doubt, check with your kids; they'll let you know sure enough.

I don't know. Sometimes I'm not certain if people say these things because they sincerely and self-righteously believe what they are saying is true, or that they take pleasure from causing others emotional pain.

Well, she's a twinkie for...whatever!

I'm going through the same crap, and I know how it feels. Phak itt! You know what the score is, you know if you did right, and screw whatever is said that is overblown and...twinkie! Did I say twinkie already?

> That I had done something wrong in the past and that's why God caused
> my son to die. He was 13-months old and had multiple birth defects,
> but was a sweet and precious child. What hurt most is that this came
> from someone who I considered to be a dear friend. Needless to say,
> I don't have anything to do with such a self-righteous dog anymore.
>


That has got to be the most horrible thing I've heard in my entire life! Who could be so crass and self-righteous as to say that to a mother who has just lost a child? I'm glad you don't have anything to do with her any longer. Personally, I would have punched her lights out and I'm not the fighting type, but that just puts me into a rage. I don't care what a person's personal religious beliefs are. There are just some things that you don't say to another person when they are grieving for a loved one. If anything, that would drive someone away from God, not closer to Him. I believe God loves us and I can't believe for a minute that He would be so cruel as to take someone's child because they did something that offended Him. I don't care what anybody says!

Too many people talk without thinking, some say nasty stuff with the specific intent of hurting. The idiots you can deal with, the butt-holes are another kettle of fish. You have to figure out in which camp the people who hurt you stand.

That's true. I still haven't decided if the person who said this to me is an idiot or an butt-hole. Maybe they are a bit of both.

Some of the biggest twats I've met in my life have Masters and Docs. Higher education just means that you are better in theory. Real life is the test, and many fail, because they haven't figured out the human factor.

There's a combination of words I would not want on my CV. (Idiot and butt-hole)

Sadly, there are many in the world who are such a combination. All you can do is try and avoid them as much as humanly possible.

Easier said than done, but hey, we can cope, I guess. Just don't take any crap from them. Keep to the moral higher ground, and the idiotic butt-holes (or should that be the anal idiots?) will understand that their adolescent pandering has its limits. Did I use the word twinkie yet?

that is absolutely horrible...how could anyone say that?

A few times, but that's okay.

My girlfriend said that I looked like a washed up 80s rock star. That was a low blow.

I can't remember anything right now.

I can't remember the last time someone said something really mean to me.

My father used to be the most caring, loving, generous man. That all changed when he married my step-mother. He's changed a lot since then. One of my brothers has nothing to do with him now, the other very little. I've tried and tried to remain in my father's life, to overlook the things, to give my step-mother chance after chance. But, when she started bad mouthing me in front of my 6 year old, that took the cake. Then, she had the nerve to call my mother (who passed away nearly 3 years ago) a dog. I lost it and jumped on her....which was wrong of me, but felt oh so good.

My son, who's 6, is a happy, loving, wonderful kid. He'd let me know in a heartbeat if I wasn't doing my job.

1. That I'm stupid.
2. Nickname: Melanoma.
...and this is "professional" adults at work.

If I had the time, this would take me a day in a half to do. But the one meanest thing I would like to share is back when I started High school, kids would pick on me by calling me "Prince" because to them I looked like him, which is a bunch of BS. They would call me that no matter where I am, whether it was at school, at the mall, restaurants, you name it. Even when I was with my mother walking down the street, and they are sitting on a park bench downtown, when I was called that in school, (It depended on who was around,) I would say fk you ahole!! and one time I was chased, after saying that phrase when one kid called me that, but I had somewhere. 50% of the student body called me that, and it went on for my whole high school years, this was to me totally insulting remarks, and my Jr. year, one of my teachers wanted to see me after class, (I did not know what for) apparently she heard about kids picking on me, by calling me that while I was waiting for a ride, and she wanted to talk to me about it and try to comfort me about it, and asked who was doing it at that time, I was afraid to say who, and told her they they would beat me up etc, and told me you don't need this if there is a problem talk to the vice principal,and he would help you out. Also kids who drove would stop their car, and chase me as soon as the car pulls over. Not only it spread all over the school, it was all over the school district. This happened almost 20 years ago, and I still get called that, but his time, I insult them right back, and 95% of the time, they shut right up, after I say something back to them. I also had obscene phone calls on this issue.

my bf called me a whore

Holy crap. That's rough.

Jeez, that sounds heavy all-round. There is undeniable proof that love makes you blind. Too bad your father can't see how crappy his wife is. Good on you if jumping that (dare I say it?) twinkie made you feel better.

Not exactly loving words...

The myriad of insults and curses that my father used to yell at me, which unfortunately wasn't enough to satisfy his rage. Thankfully, that was a long time ago, and I haven't heard anything since that comes even close to hurting as much as that did, so that's fortunate.

Let's see...where do I begin?

My partner has trouble with waking in the middle of the night and not being able to go back to sleep. She will often use a "mind machine" (check out the Proteus model) to attempt to bring her into theta. During that transition, she used that time to also meditate. Now keep in mind that it is the middle of the night and I am sound asleep while this is going on and haven't a clue. At points during the night while sleeping, I would roll over and put my arm around her or put my hand on her hip or shoulder. One morning as we were getting up, she asked me why was it that the only time I ever touch her during the night was while she was plugged in to the mind machine. I told her that I wasn't aware of that being the only time nor was I aware that she was plugged in. She then ranted at me about how it never failed that when she used the machine to help her work on herself I would disrupt her with my touch and could I please be more aware of when I touched her during the night. I kept telling her that I was asleep and didn't think that I could be aware of what she was doing while I was sleeping. I asked her why is it that she couldn't see my touch as a comfort, the comfort of knowing that there was someone there that loved her, instead of seeing it as a disruption. Her response is one that I will never forget - she replied, "I never thought of that."

Then there was the person that told me that if it wasn't for people like me (homosexuals) New Orleans and the World Trade Center would not have been subjected to god's wrath.

There are plenty more, but I'm sure you get the idea.

nope his idea of a joke. ha ha. funny. not.

Now this is a tough one...I would have to say that they said they felt bad for me so they dated me then spread false rumors all over school.

Debasing people is not my idea of humour. Laughing at yourself or taking light jabs that you know the other can return is okay, but taking cheap shots at people (especially hurtful crap like this) is just not on. No, I'm not a politically-correct guénille ("guénille" is a "rag", en français), but some crap just doesn't fly with me.

These jerks/jerkettes (I'm not sure) are just the latest to be added to my ever-increasing list of twats. Why are people so mean?

That "Wrath of God" comment just goes to show how ignorance and prejudice are alive and well. How can we make it that people judge others by how they act, not by what convenient little label we affix upon them in our feeble little minds. (Je rant beaucoup, I know...)

This survey is the one that has made me angriest since I joined SC. Not the survey itself so much as the personal experiences SCers have brought forward, most of which confirm in my mind that there are nasty people among us. Thanks for creating this.

I'm glad you "liked" it. I didn't mean to make anyone angry though. There have been a lot more things said to me but I just can't think of them right now. I just know that some people really suck.

I don't get angry-angry...maybe more upset than angry, but yeah, some people suck. And some more than others. I haven't used the word twinkie in years. Kinda felt good, actually...

I am 36!!! I was recently in a beauty parlor and the "hair dresser," and I use that term loosely, told me she could take me from looking 40 to 35. Guess who didn't get their hair cut that day!!!

That makes three times.

I think maybe I'll start using that one too

i know. he was a dickhead anyway...

Only if used in it's proper context: referring to an idiot or a jerk, but never as a specific body part.

He's history, no? I notice you wrote that he "was" a dickhead. He might still be a dickhead, just not a dickhead you have to deal with nowadays...

OK I'll be very careful. It seems like it should only refer to a woman also.

I'm not bitter, but it took me a very long time to get over that remark. I know that the remark wasn't true, but it cut my soul to the quick. I was lucky enough to have my son for 13 precious months. He is with God now and I know in my heart of hearts that he is happy and pain free.

I think 'twinkie' pretty well covers it, 'dog' works too.

I don't believe in a vengeful God either. I believe in a loving, giving God.

I still don't understand that completely myself. That is, how could someone be so self-righteous as this person was. She puts me in mind of Jerry Falwell and Pat Robertson when they try to blame things such a 9/11 or Hurricane Katrina on the sins of Americans. That these things are examples of God's wrath against us, which is nothing but a steaming pile of bullcrap!

Fk you bch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They work for me. Isn't the English vocabulary rich with monosyllabic ammunition? Dick, chicken, twinkie, dog, whore, slut, jerk, twit, skank, jerk...the list goes on and on...

It's a good thing some of us can control our urge to spew off these things...

Nothing really comes to mind.

here here

Are you able to control yourself?

I can control myself, but my evil side, Hyperhell, likes to have fun from time to time...hehehe!

It's okay, but keep a tight leash on Hyperhell or make certain that she takes her meds. She might Hulk out.

Oh, so you two have met?

OMG!!!! I hope you popped that twit in the face. My hubby had an older female friend who lost a baby, and she had a Jehovah Witness co-worker tell her that her baby went to hell... this was several years ago, and my hubby still gets extremely pissed about it whenever he sees his friend and remembers the incident.

Let's see... the two things that come to mind immediately are my mother calling me a dipcrap or stupid as a child on a regular basis. The other thing, and it was years ago and should be in the garbage bin by now, was being told by a guy I liked that I wasn't feminine enough. I guess it stuck because even though I had a kick-ass hourglass figure, I didn't know how to dress to show it off, and was painfully aware of that problem. I also worked in a big-box hardware store (a man's job, right?). And being 5'9" and big-boned (not fat!), I was taller than about 99% of the men I found attractive... not to mention I outweighed them. Just the wrong comment at the wrong time.
twinkie. That's one I haven't heard in a while... in the face of what teatree went through, I kind of feel guilty even posting this.

To an addict. "I bet you'd suck dick for a rock." I regret this very much. This person is now dead from an overdose. I was really just trying anything and everything even tough love or shock or whatever to get his attention. Apparently being verbally abusive didn't work. Nothing did. I tried everything. I failed. He was the love of my life.

No, I didn't pop her in the face. I was in a state of shock from her comment. She wasn't a JW, but claimed to be a born-again Christian.

You know, all my years of working with the public, I have found that the so-called 'Christians'- especially the ones who make it a point to say they are- are some of the most self-righteous and sometimes downright mean people. The 'joke' in the retail business where I was working was that Sunday was the worst day to work, especially after noon when the churches got out, because everyone feels validated after going to church and/or confession, and they can be their nasty selves again.

Oh sweetie, you did not fail. I'm so sorry you got caught in that trap of feeling responsible for another's actions. Women are so good at that... I know it may sound trite to say that he wouldn't have been helped unless he wanted to be helped, but it is true. I'm not going to insult you by saying I know what you've gone through... all I can do is offer an e-hug and my best wishes for you.

thanks much. my deceased boyfriend was addict. I consider this a disease. I have explained it as being hungry. When you are hungry all you can think about is food and then you eat way more than you should and hate yourself for it. An addict is always hungry.

You just described my eating habits to a 'T'... all I would add to that is that you eat something you shouldn't, and so much that you feel miserable and hate yourself for it. The worst part of it is that you do this to feel better and end up feeling worse.

Absolutely, I over eat too. Ughh...

I won't argue with you about that. In my personal experience, the "born-agains" tend to be way too zealous, unyielding and unforgiving. I'm not saying all "born-again" Christians are that way, but the ones I've come in personal contact certain behave in a very "un-Christian" matter.

There are too many to list, sadly.

I was about 8 months pregnant & some drunk had come up to me & called me a slut.

My boss recently said; "It seems that you don't care about your job!"

FUDGE!! How dare he say that?!?

I care more than all of them do!!!!!!!!!! I'm more organized, I try harder to make some kind of system to make the work flow more flowy... Grrrrrr!

He apologized and took it back but it hurt anyway.... I was overworked at home and there but there is so disorganized so when they feel the heat; they hassle you and try to make you feel responsible! He kept on saying; "Irene, you're fudging me up!" And I'd loose it and ask him where the Hell I was "fudging him up" because he had never even given me the work to do yet!! I said; "Go look on my fudging desk (we talk like that all the time!) and tell me where I'm fudging you up!" and then he'd realize that he'd not done his own job! He was just feeling the pressure and decided to put some on me...

Lily!! I often think of you! I'm here but mostly in Forum these days - I have so little time to myself since Ben is gone...
I was just talking about you to some newer users at SC about how you gave me the idea for Jess' bonbonniere. I thought about you last Sunday when I served some nice jam to my brunch guests and used your spoon! I think about everytime I see the "Thank You" cards I framed in my entrance hall...

I think of you...

Oh that is so nice. I'm kindof quiet around here usually so I often think no one would miss me if I wasn't here. So it's nice to hear you say that!

See? I missed ya! I even went out of my way to find you because I mostly hang in Forum. You should go there more often - lots of whacky stuff goes on there...

I go there more than surveys these days too.

Then I'll see you around eh?

Yep. I'll try to make more noise when I'm there.

Wear some bling. Everybody notices bling and if not; they hear the clang of it!

> That I had done something wrong in the past and
> that's why God caused my son to die. He was 13-months
> old and had multiple birth defects, but was a
> sweet and precious child. What hurt most is that
> this came from someone who I considered to be
> a dear friend. Needless to say, I don't have anything
> to do with such a self-righteous dog anymore.
>

Screw her & the horse she rode in on!!! dog!!

((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

What this person said is the closet to how I ALSO feel on this. SHe took the words right out of my mouth!!



That has got to be the most horrible thing I've heard in my entire life! Who could be so crass and self-righteous as to say that to a mother who has just lost a child? I'm glad you don't have anything to do with her any longer. Personally, I would have punched her lights out and I'm not the fighting type, but that just puts me into a rage. I don't care what a person's personal religious beliefs are. There are just some things that you don't say to another person when they are grieving for a loved one. If anything, that would drive someone away from God, not closer to Him. I believe God loves us and I can't believe for a minute that He would be so cruel as to take someone's child because they did something that offended Him. I don't care what anybody says

> This one still stings after 18 years ago. So called
> 'best friend' out of the blue stopped calling
> me and talking to me at work. After a few days
> I was concerned if she was alright so I called
> her at her home saturday night. I said "hello?"
> and she started screaming at me non stop about
> what an idiot I was for not knowing she was just
> using me for the past 3 years. She just used me
> to have someone to get high and drunk with and
> I was too stupid to know that and she didn't want
> anything else to do with me. Because I was so
> stupid I didn't know when I was being used and
> it was beneath her. These are the things she actually
> was yelling at me, I couldn't get a word in, to
> ask why the sudden change in our friendship, then
> I just couldn't say anything. I think I went into
> shock. I was pretty pissed about that one for
> a few years, and it does to this day confuse the
> hell out of me. I know I wasn't that buzzed.

What a dog!!! Someday someone will use her all up & spit her out!


huck put ..... patooie on her