If or when you were single, would you ever be put off by a potential date because you feel their job isn't good enough? (Be honest!)

It depends on the job......... Not from a financial standpoint that is unimportant to me, but if the woman worked in a brothel or was a former call girl....... I would have an issue with that.

A few years ago, a young 'lawyer type' engaged me in some friendly flirtatious banter. At that time I was a bartender, and upon telling him that's what I did he scoffed, " you're a barmaid!?" and walked off without another word

That example is so nasty, God I hate people like that.......... like a school on summer break... NO Class

Maybe. If they were a politician or most kind of government work I would smile, nod and walk away. Doctors or lawyers, the type to tend to bring their work home with them isn't much fun either. Irony has it's way with me.

> That example is so nasty, God I hate people like that.......... like
> a school on summer break... NO Class


*rimshot*

I would probably hesitate in dating a pimp or prostitute, but that's about all. It's not that their jobs aren't good enough, it's the nature of their jobs.

If I were single I wouldn't have "potential" dates. I would have friends and get to know them very well (good, solid, valued friendship) without thinking of a future relationship. If we ever eventually felt compatable with eachother, or had stronger feelings for eachother then maybe something could go from that point.
Now as far as would a man's job matter to me as far as being in a relationship with him, if he were stable, responsible, had priorities straight, was good with his money, cared about making enough to live decent (goal oriented) AND his job didn't go against my personal convictions, then no, the job wouldn't matter.

hell yeah I'd be put off.

If she's a stripper or a prostitute and it isn't just to "pay for collage", hell yeah I drop her like its hot. Also if she isn't planning on getting a degree and thinks that her entire purpose is to watch soap operas and spit out kids once in a while, you fudging right I'd not want to have anything to do with her.

It would be totally different if this wasn't a temporary job since most of us had crapty jobs sometime but I dont think I'd want anyone who wants to be a "barmaid" as a career.

At this point in my life - I would be. I don't feel like supporting a guy with an $8 an hour job... Besides, at my age; he would have to be a few years older and if he can't find a better paying job then that; I'd probably be out of his league... (Wouldn't stop me from having a one-night-stand though, if he was stallion enough!)

That's so funny! I read the question, answered it and knew all along that you were asking it! It's only when I pressed "submit" that I realized that I didn't really know who's survey this was and yet I was sure it was YOU!!

I sensed you!!

PS: Don't be too hurt by the lawyer - they're all A-Hs anyway (until you need them!)...

It doesn't seem likely, although I'm sure there's a job out there. Republican lobbyist? Pimp? I imagine I would find those off-putting.

Ha! I would have never dated and stayed a virgin and probably would still be single and a virgin if that ever put me off! Haha!

It's never happened, and if it were to happen it would have to be something pretty seriously nasty. So far I've dated women who were waitresses, unemployed, medical technician, journalist, archaeologist...various other jobs that are hard for me to describe in a few words...

The only thing that comes to mind is prostitute. I wouldn't date a prostitute. I think that would gross me out. It isn't really the job as much as the fact that I wouldn't date someone who had lots of meaningless sex with strangers.

There might be other ones. I might have a problem with someone who killed animals in a slaughterhouse. I'd really have to be in the situation to say for sure.

No, absolutely not.

What a dillweed. I have worked in a bar myself and all barmaids I worked with were such nice and cool gurls.

lol

It was a job I had in London for a time, in a part of town with snooty rich 'suits' everywhere.. I felt more mad then anything.. here I was, a self sufficient educated nice girl living abroad and not even looking for anyone.. I had had only two boyfriends at that stage so I guess I was just taken aback at the sheer pompous attitude he had shown.
I agree that certain jobs ( hooker..pimp! ha! ) would be a big no no.. but my question was more geared to what people consider menial jobs..
Some have to remember that not ALL of us are defined by what we do for a living. I have a "suit job" now ( & it certainly ain't me..) There are times when sitting in meetings, seminars, presentations..or in my brightly lit office dealing with people who are turning into brown nosing robots.. yes, I gaze out my small window and think, hmmm.. I would much rather be pulling a pint and talking about the weather or issues of the day.... but that's not the way it can be if I want to get ahead, but money and stature are less important to me then happiness..but alas I'm torn at times that's for sure.. I'm the type of person who will permanently have 'temporary' jobs..( I'm just a rolling stone) I do it to myself so its my own fault.. I'm never fulfilled.. so I won't get ahead! ( I can hear my mother right now screaming at me) BTW I will put my notice into my boss in just a matter of days.. moving on once again.

I would never be put off by their chosen career, unless it was illegal or immoral. I might be put off by their attitude about their job or its clients/customers . If they were condescending, offensive, rude, or arrogant about things job-related, I think that would tell me more about them as a person than their specific job description, and that might put me off.

I am a carpenter and would never be with a lawyer or a politician. I just don't trust them. But other than that I don't care what they could do.

No...

well, if its just a temporary job then thats one thing, if its a career and this person has no intention of moving up, thats something else.

seems like you're moving on up.

Yeah. I know what you mean.. I'll find my rightful place in the world someday not too far off!

Depends on the job. For example, I work first shift (banker's hours). If the person worked 2nd or 3rd shift, it might not be "good enough" in the sense that we would never see each other if the relationship were to go anywhere.

> hell yeah I'd be put off.
>
> If she's a stripper or a prostitute and it isn't just to "pay for
> collage", hell yeah I drop her like its hot. Also if she isn't planning
> on getting a degree and thinks that her entire purpose is to watch
> soap operas and spit out kids once in a while, you fudging right I'd
> not want to have anything to do with her.
>
> It would be totally different if this wasn't a temporary job since
> most of us had crapty jobs sometime but I dont think I'd want anyone
> who wants to be a "barmaid" as a career.


Here is someone that you probably wouldn't consider dating....http://today.reuters.com/news/newsArticleSearch.as...

It's about the person, stupid! That said, I do feel that some jobs do reflect on the person. A stripper does not necessarily share the same value system as a nun, and a car wash attendant may not share the same worldview as a government bureaucrat. The point here is that the job may indicate something about the person, but you still have to know the person to make up your mind about him/her. Her/his job is only one part of the picture.

I'm not sure if I would be put off because their job "good enough" but I might be put off by their choice of occupation---if it was something that I didn't approve of. Not sure what...sex worker or ambulance chaser...

no, i don't think so.

No, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

hes a chicken

I'm dating now and can easily answer this.. I don't care what they do for a living... but it is possible some jerk might be put off by my job..

I have a date tonight btw.

Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I got your subscription letter and set you up with the time you bought. Thanks for the support!

Well yeah, if he's a professional child-porn distributed/maker/something such.

I was never put off by their job, or lack there of.

Actually, it was my downfall... I loved my dead end job, but ended up being the breadwinner so there were always money problems.

If there's a next time, I hope to attract someone with a bank account, because I sure don't have one. $579/month won't support two.

no, for me it'd be more important that they have a decent work ethic. i can sympathize with this story (from the bartender's side) cuz some people have that attitude when i tell them i'm a hair stylist...that, "oh, not smart enough for college?" kind of look. well, i went to college for a bit and had a 3.8 gpa. i just happen to love doing hair and i'm damn good at it. whatever. this also reminds me of a friend from high school...she ultimately broke up with her high school sweetheart when she was in college and she told him it was because "she didn't see him going anywhere in life" (he was managing a pizza place at the time, and they were like 19 years old). anyway, now at 27 he owns a couple of the pizza franchises and is doing pretty damn good for himself.

No, never! I told my Woman to quit her job after she moved in with me. She was a bartender too!

> I'm dating now and can easily answer this..
> I don't care what they do for a living...
> but it is possible some jerk might be put
> off by my job..
>
> I have a date tonight btw.

How did it go?
What kind of job does he have? Had to ask that bon this survey!

> no, for me it'd be more important that they
> have a decent work ethic. i can sympathize
> with this story (from the bartender's side)
> cuz some people have that attitude when i
> tell them i'm a hair stylist...that, "oh,
> not smart enough for college?" kind of look.
> well, i went to college for a bit and had
> a 3.8 gpa. i just happen to love doing hair
> and i'm damn good at it. whatever. this
> also reminds me of a friend from high school...she
> ultimately broke up with her high school
> sweetheart when she was in college and she
> told him it was because "she didn't see him
> going anywhere in life" (he was managing
> a pizza place at the time, and they were
> like 19 years old). anyway, now at 27 he
> owns a couple of the pizza franchises and
> is doing pretty damn good for himself.

That's a good story!
BTW I now a couple Gals that are hair stylists and they make pretty good money. It's all about doing what you like or liking what you do, something like that.

It went very, very well.. Thanks for asking

He works on a casino boat.

Oh yeah I saw that in forum I think.(about his job)
I happy it went well for you. You going to go out with him again?
Don't make him wait to long! I just know I always hated that and then would loose interest.

Good luck!

Yeah, I think we'll probably go out again..

He took me to this really cool restaurant called The Habachi Grill.. It's the kind where the cooktop is part of the table.. you sit at the table with a bunch of other people and the cook is a real character.. made us try to catch bits of food in our mouths and since we ordered chicken, we had to run around the place following him with our arms up like chicken wings.. The cook also did a saki bomb with us.. told jokes, danced, etc.. It was pretty cool.

I go to them kind of Japanese restaurants all the time. I think we have one here called the Habachi Grill. I go to a place alled GoJo's a lot. I love th atmousphere of those type places.

I'd never been to anything like it before.. loved it. And it helped that I was drunk.

Anyway.. I don't think this guy and I have much in common really.. except that we are in lust with each other

It all depends on his job or something, if he works in a funeral home I might not like it

Oh well, have fun with it is all I can tell you!
You want to date around anyway for a while don't you? I wouldn't want to look for anything permanant right off the bat.

BTW I usually drink a lot of Saki at them places. I love Saki

Crikey , don't think I was ever quite that shallow :), seem to remember that barmaids ( and nurses ) were the most fancied professions ( but maybe thats just because of the friends I had as a young bloke )

Heck no... wouldn't bother me... I dated a call girl (on her "off duty" time, not professionally). I dated a reformed Prostitute who was trying to get her life back together, she was a cutie, just turned 18. I dated a woman on welfare (she lost her job and hadn't found one). I dated a girl I met when I was in Alcohol Rehab.. she was in the adjoining mental ward... (NOTE: Mental Wards are Not recommended as a good place to meet women for a long term relationship). I have dated a cocktail waitress in one of the Casino’s. So, personally I don't care what they do...

Not at all. Currently I am a waitress. And my dad is a fisherman for goodness' sake!

No, if we're talking about 'good enough' in terms of money or prestige. Otherwise, there are some jobs that I wouldn't be wild about.

No, I would never be put off.

you are welcome bill!! i totally enjoy this.......... and i missed my gold sc card by my name!!!!

Yes, but not because it wasn't "good enough." I don't care how much they make, but some occupations would turn me off because of the decisions or the lifestyle the job creates. I wouldn't date a stripper/hooker, a cop/gov't agent, or a musician (especially a touring performer), as a few examples.

I might not like their job. But if I liked them...then the job wouldn't really matter..would it?

That guy was a jerk for sure. When I was dating it didn't really matter what the guy did (there was this one guy who turned out to be a drug dealer which didn't impress me). Seems to me a lot of girls date and immediately want to turn the guy into a husband which really sucks. There's a difference between a boyfriend and a husband. It's too bad when little girls do that, they miss out on a lot of fun. The person is much more important than the job. I had a couple of friends who would never date, say, a garage mechanic. They were idiots.

It's pretty silly, because they never know if the accountant or executive assistant they are dating will get laid off and not find any work in their field again. They could then become a garage mechanic until something better comes along, but they are always the same person. Picky petty people are so silly sometimes.
And a jobless airhead who knows nothing except selling clothes at GAP has no business turning her nose up at a guy who knows nothing but greasy wrenches.

Back in the early '90's, I would have said no. But, that attitude caused me to end up being hooked with a bum who would not work. Now divorced and a single mom who gets no child support, I would not be put off by the type of job, but just whether one was held consistantly.

I don't know. I haven't ever been in such a situation.

I have met wonderful strippers with a heart of gold and teachers who were from the armpits of Hades! A person is more than a job! He/she is a living/breathing person.

Hi Bill, sorry, I called you Bob, but I was talking with my friend Bob when posting my feedback, so I wrote Bob instead of Bill.
Take care.

It's OK. I'm kind of sick of being called Bill anyway.

i dont really understand the question could you make it a little more clear plz lol

hehe, do youhate that name??
Tell us your preferable name to call you by it.
Take care.

I don't hate it. I'm just a little bored with it. No real preference, be creative.

hehe
What about Bob??

i didn't date a guy once coz he was a shoe salesman - i couldn't get Al Bundy out of my head

depends on the job