How and when are you verbose?

I want a choice between "quite" and "not especially". Like "somewhat", or my usual favorite "sometimes".

it depends on what mood I'm in and how stressed out I am and how many things I'm trying to keep in mind. I'll usually be very terse if I'm trying to do something else that's really occupying my attention. Otherwise I tend to be verbose.

romkey beat me to my reply.

I am usually verbose, unless I am not in the mood to be communicative.

I'm much more verbose on-line than I am in person or on the phone. So much so that it overwhelms people.

It really depends on who I'm talking to.

Some days I feel stupid or anti-social, so I don't. Some days I feel eloquent, so I do. It also depends on whom I'm with.

I'm more verbose online than on the phone, and more verbose on the phone than in person. It makes sense to be more wordy when you don't have inflection or body language to help convey your meaning.

So, if I were answering this question in person I'd probably just grunt and point

I am terse when I'm angry, frustrated, or in some other funky mood. I am verbose with my friends and when I'm in a pleasant mood.

As if you can't tell which of us are long-winded online by reading through the survey comments!
(Look, Mom! Only one sentence! Oops, now I've added more....somebody STOP me!!!)

You people make some interesting points...good survey!

I use as many words as I need, and try to need as few as possible.

During conversations with my Ex Husband, when trying to explain to him how I feel or explain the feelings of our child. I find myself struggling to make myself understood...I can get wordy and repetitive. He has no listening skills and will actually just grunt and walk off...even though I am in the middle of trying to make myself clear.

I hate phone conversations.

I am verbose when I'm trying to talk someone out of being a total moron.

Pandora...Then you've met my Ex?

I've realized that most of my comments here are rarely more than 3 lines long.

mandy-I'm losing confidence in my idiot-reformation abilities. Some people just won't budge.

I'm usually not very verbose in person. Or on the phone. I'm actually kind of shy. But online ... watch out. I guess it helps that online I can get all my words out at once (by hitting the SEND button, or whatever) whereas in person I'm used to the person/people I'm talking to interrupting me if they don't want to hear what I have to say. I guess it's just easier to get my feelings across this way. (Did that make ANY sense?)

Lizbeth, made complete sense to me.

*hands Pandora a big sharp stick* Try this....It's my idiot poker!!! :)

Pandora - Never give up...it's a worthwhile pursuit. (mandy poked me with that stick once -- it was painful, but it worked wonders!)

Lizabeth - Made perfect sense to me, too. In fact, I'm the same way. BTW, it's nice to have you around!

SueBee: Thanks! It's good to be here!

All of the above, as well as when leaving answering machine messages.

pandora - give up. Trying to change others will only make you unhappy. Change yourself if you feel like it or avoid the thing that makes you want to change the thing in the other person.
Big sharp sticks are not very nice and only lead to an exaggeration of the issue.

.....But poking idiots with a big sharp stick FEELS really good bill ;) .....Even if it isn't the least bit effective.....You haven't ever actually tried it have you? *smiles* ......If you had, you'd know it has it's place along with reasoning and cajoling and ass kissing and begging and all the other things humans do to make themselves "feel" understood.

and you can always apologize afterwards and get them a bandaid and claim the devil made you do it ;)....believe me!

I feel bad after I hurt people, and it sticks with me for years afterwards.

bill.....That's really sad :(
I mean, we all "hurt" people. Just by living, there is a give and take. We will never avoid hurting others as long as we pursue life and pleasure and survival.

Do you mean intentionally hurting people, for sport, because you can, out of spite? or unintentionally hurting people by furthering your own interests in this life, making choices that hurt others or coming up against people who want you to behave differently or do something you cannot or will not do (example: Taking a high paying job to support your family that means moving away from your mother who would be heartbroken)

I have been hurt many times. but only because I ALLOWED others actions to hurt me.

I also found that if I spend TOO much time worrying about who I might be hurting by my actions, words etc.....I slip into doormat mode...and that self inflicted state carries a worse hurt than anyone ELSE has EVER caused me.

bill - IT WAS A JOKE! What has happened to your sense of humor? Some of us have gotten more than a little frustrated with a certain stubborn idiot around here, and it feels good to make some jokes about it to help relieve the frustration. I'm sure Pandora is smart enough to know that we're just joking around. (There's really no stick...we were just using our imaginations.) Why did you take it so seriously?

SueBee - I don't think it was just a joke, I think you and others were making underlying statements that were worthy of scrutiny. I guess I don't really get the whole poking someone with a sharp stick thing. Why is that funny?

mandy - I meant metaphorically poking someone with a sharp stick. Essentially attacking someone else. That leaves me feeling bad.
As for doormat vs. being oblivious to how others feel - well, I hope there's a balance in there somewhere. I don't think either extreme really works.

Bill - Underlying statements? Please explain, because I don't see how you could take it for more than the simple joke that it was meant to be. Kind of like, gee maybe this will work as a last resort...it's not like we would really want to physically hurt Brian, but it was a funny joke to me. I pictured a little cartoon devil following him around poking him with a pitchfork, and having him go "Ouch! Okay, I'll quit being a smart ass!" It's not like it was some horrible violent act. Just a silly little joke. Sorry you took it to mean more.

RE: Doormat vs. Oblivion.
I'm still trying to find my balance in that area, bill. I was trampled for so long that I swung to the polar opposite for a while. I'm moving back towards the middle ground now. But growth is a slow process. Sometimes I need my stick, and I don't feel bad when I use it. Of course...I would never use that stick unless provoked and I can take a lot of guff before I grab the stick and let an idiot have it!!

SueBee - It was the underlying message about trying to change someone else. I often feel strongly that trying to change someone else is a bad place to be, and that it leads to various forms of violence. The pointy stick joke alludes to that so it set me off a little.

mandy - Amen, sister.

*note* I like the HA!

Ha! ?

ok...how'd you do it? :)

just a guess... but LOL?

Bill - I absolutely agree with you that it's not good to try to change people. Trying to get them to consider a new point of view, however, could be a good thing since we can and should learn from each other. The whole "Brian thing" escalated a lot farther than it should have because he got my dander up, and I regret that. I'm much calmer now, and I'm sorry to you and others that were made uncomfortable by the vicious exchanges in several of the surveys. I don't usually resort to name-calling or similar tactics unless I feel that it's the only thing the other party can understand. I'll try to be more mature in the future. Honest.

I must add, though, that it felt really good at the time!

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lol

I don't Know what the fudge your talking about!

freak, "anonymity" doesn't give you the right to behave like an ass.