Have you ever been in love with more than one person at the same time?

I'm sure I won't be the first to point this out, but being in love is not the same as being romantically involved.

Attracted to two people? sure. In love with, no way. Not how I'm wired.

Love, for me, is very focused. All or nothing. I doubt I would be capable of even having a casual romantic relationship.

i'm so easily attached...naturally i've been in love with more than one person at the same time...sometimes i may misconstrue what i'm really feeling, but generally i feel it's love

Once (back in the day) I was very intrigued by this guy at work while I was living with my SO. I wouldn't say it was love, but I certainly thought about him frequently and had some type of feeling for him. He said something that I totally disagreed with one day and it all fizzled to nothing after that. We're still good buddies to this day though, and of course he never knew how I once felt.

Your inconsistent use of "love" and "in love" make it difficult to answer, but I'm going to assume you mean "in love" in each instance.

I think the explanation ruins this question, as "romantically attracted to" and "romantically involved with" are radically different things. I therefore decline to answer.

First you gotta define love....

I had the same trouble hunter did with the language at first, but I went back and read the comment and understood what I believe you were trying to get at. Nice survey and nice set of answers, once that language issue is worked out.

I cannot imagine either being able to or wanting to keep being in love a secret from someone else I loved that way. It just wouldn't work for me. Part of romantic love for me includes involving someone else in my emotional and physical state- letting them know when I am happy or sad and why, and knowing that they will care about this- as well my as being involved in theirs.

I have in the past, loved/been in love with two people at once and had it hurt very badly because not everyone involved was able to deal with the situation. I do find it's confusing and disorienting at first to realize I have these very strong feelings and then similar but also very different in-love feelings for someone else. I'm okay with this strangeness, though, and have been enjoying it very deeply for something like a year now (depending on how you count). To be honest, while one of my SO's has been coming to grips, himself, with how strange and sometimes uncomfortable it can be to have feelings like this for more than one person, it has been difficult for all of us, but I can empathise and try to be understanding at the same time, and there's still a whole lot of wonderfulness going on.

While I believe it is quite possible to love more than one person at a time (I've done it), it's not so easy to get the situation to work on a long-term basis for all three (or more) people.

Falling in love is easy. It's the "out" part I'm having truoble with. At last count it was, 11.

Being "in love" and being "romantically attracted to" someone are two very different things, IMHO. I'm having a lot of trouble answering the survey as a result.

"I love you" = "I want to do things for you"
"I am in love with you" = "I want you to do things for me"

To a near approximation, anyhow.

Sorry about the wording folks...Thanx for the clarity...I didn't want to just say "Have you ever loved more than one
person?"...I feel we all do this...Moms, Dads, friends, kids, pets etc....I wanted you to know I meant "In Love" , like
romantically....with more than one person..

The thing is, for me, at least, that I have times when I am "in love" with my romantic partners and times that I love them a lot but am not hitting the high emotional focus and intensity I associate with "in love." This is not a linear process, btw, I go back & forth. I have had and I can imagine having more than one romantic partner at a time, but I don't think I could be "in love" with more than one at once, for the simple reason that my being "in love" specifically involves an extremely tight focus. I don't think I *will* have more than one romantic partner at a time in the future, but that's a matter of logistics and acceptable levels of complexity and instability, more than a capacity to feel strongly about multiple people.

For myself, saying 'I love you' to another person is a commitment and a promise on my behalf to stand by them and support them in their life while they are a part of my life in what ever form that happens to take. There are very few people I have said "I love you" to because I consider it to be a thing which should not be taken lightly at any level.

Saying "I'm in love" with someone is saying "I love you" but with the additional feelings of wanting a romantic life with the person.