Which of these locales would you go to if you are or were single and looking to meet someone?

I don't actively seek.

Almost all of the above.

Not looking for a hooker, so I think a brothel is out ... Can't just waltz into a correctional facility to look at the sexy cons, so I guess that's out, too. I like younger men ( if a sexy and virile older gentleman isn't available,) but high school would be robbing the cradle a bit too much.

I love men, and love to "man watch" everywhere. Bus stops are good, too!

Some guy walks into my field of vision, he's gonna get looked at!

Bars, colleges, health/fitness clubs, parties, beach, grocery store, resorts. All good places to me.

> I don't actively seek.

Hey, the question was IF you were. Come on give us some spots you would go IF you were active.

I've never had a problem meeting women, anywhere really. It's too easy to get laid; the tough question is how do you find a good woman.

Bars, nightclubs and house parties would be the usual place I would look for other single people, but i wouldn't rule out meeting someone in many of the places.

I really have no idea, I've been off the market for so long now... But, I don't really think of it in terms of places. I think I'd just hope to meet someone through mutual friends.

Not on purpose.

> I've never had a problem meeting women, anywhere really. It's too
> easy to get laid; the tough question is how do you find a good
> woman.

The "good ones" are all married!

Possibly at a science fiction convention or a poetry reading/open stage night. I've had some good luck meeting nice people both places.

This is not how I operate.

I wouldn't go to any place on purpose to spot someone- I'm a big believer that the best relationships develop naturally, from friendships. I met my other half at work, but I wasn't looking for anyone at the time

If I was in the market for a SO, I wouldn't visit any of these places. I prefer relationships that develop naturally. They are longer lasting and deeper relationships in my experience.

There are a few of these I would visit. It's never really turned out any results, but there is always a lot of good looking girls there anyway.

It's too easy? You have to give me some tips on it sometime.

I guess I might reasonably expect to meet someone at work or at a house party, so I selected those. Although I wouldn't go to work with the sole purpose of meeting someone to date! I might do so for the party, though. I would probably not really do much active about it, though. I'm not much of one to go out seeking that way. I might ask friends if they had friends they could set me up with, but mostly I'd just go about my business while keeping my eyes open for people I might like.

Depends on what you want to meet someone for. In general I'd say just go to places you normally do. If you're not a partying person who goes to nightclubs by nature, it would be a mistake to meet someone there if the other person likes the nighlife. Doomed to fail. On the other hand, if you are a nightowl, trying to meet someone in church is also a mistake. Just let life happen and someone will come along.

I see the most attractive women in the grocery store, but I don't know if that would work as a pick-up place. If I want just sex then a brothel, strip club will do.

I was never an active seeker. If I was, I'd pick colleges, bookstores and maybe even coffee shops, places where smart guys are more likely to be.

nowhere as it's inconceivable

However just to amuse you ...Universities, cofee shops, etc

I don't really go anywhere specifically to meet guys, but if I did I'd go to clubs, bars, and parties.

Airport.............. because I met my wife at one

um, the internet?

generally anywhere but clubs or bars, much less strip clubs. At least from what I hear, these are the worst places. No thanks to AA or drug support centers either. Even if I were a druggie, I don't think I would want to interact with other druggies and get together with them. Not a good idea. This probabbly is also why stay away from stripers and brothels, cause half of them are probabbly drug addicts anyway. Hym, church sounds like an interesting place. I hear many of the really successful "players" use churches primarily for that reason, to pick up women. Apparantly that works, or so I hear. Also no thanks to casinos or the library. In casinos, I hear its hard to multitast. Females would be a great of a distraction while trying to count cards I would imagine. Libraries wouldn't work for picking up women/men either cause it would be really hard to talk to them considering their zero-tolerance policy towards talking.

most strippers and cocktail waitresses usaually have a zero-tolerance policies from their bosses against being available to their clients. Besides, they're real experts at being a tease, so if I were you I wouldn't bother.

you''re right I am married

Well, what's hard about it? You met a girl, you talk, if she still likes you two hours later, you ask her if she wants to bump uglies.

You would be surprised how many women one can find at a cemetary ,there are lots of lonely widows that come there daily.A lot of them are easy to pick up.

I've met most of my former boyfriends (and current boyfriend) through local theatre performances. But parties and coffeehouses are also a couple of my favorite locales. I think meeting someone at the airport would be really interesting and I'll keep it in mind if/when I'm single again!!

See?

Good one!!
I was just messing with you, you didn't need to answer it for me.

you were correct, as it is hypothetical

Apart from trying the online dating thing a few years back, I've always met the women I've gone out with by being introduced by friends. Those introductions, and the initial subsequent meetings, usually took place in art galleries, or at nightclubs, cabarets, recording studios, house parties or in my home.

you need a lesson in manners young man and do not be so crude as to refer to women as 'bad'.just the mere fact that they would have anything to do with you...sexually or otherwise...tells me they are in need of acute psychiatric assistance.

haha right on!

How do you and Matty each other? In real life, or is this some kind of SC feud?

I haven't been to strip places in years. The girls would offer themselves to you in the 'private dance' rooms. Quick lollipop or bang. I read that many of the strippers in typical strip joints are actually lesbians. Here in SF anyways.

fudge off, fatso.

in SF go figure. lol

To bad though, cause I was hopeing on just gay men and not too many lesbians.

Oh sure, pretend to be all about treating women nicely. If that's what works for you thats perfectly more power to you. I figured you'd need some women after being in prison for all those years. Just don't go too pussy crazy, ok.

Does your mother know you write the kind of material you are writing? Is there a particular group of girls in school who are encouraging you to go down the wrong path? When you are old enough to have a boyfriend...please do not be influenced by the boys your schoolmates pick!

I may know his parents...but i hardly associate with children. you never know, it's a small world and i do travel with a company of chefs..teaching and demonstrating, that kind of thing

diet is moderation, matty

Parties and bars?? No wonder so many relationships don't last. They're started while drunk!

> Does your mother know you write the kind of material you are writing?

nope. Its such a travesty too.

> Is there a particular group of girls in school who are encouraging
> you to go down the wrong path?

yep, but at least they also encourage me to stay away from guys like you, so it evens out.

>When you are old enough to have a boyfriend...please
> do not be influenced by the boys your schoolmates pick!

You're right, I should do whatever I can to stay away from losers you. I wouldn't want to be with any guys who are headed straight for prison.

i am so sorry that you and the other boy have a fascination with prison. yes, i have visited one or two on cooking/baking assignments from time to time. at times, the inmates are given my home made banana/chocolate chip cookies and they are very grateful. i blame the media for childrens fascination with prisons. don't immerse yourself in those thoughts...a senior/junior prom must be coming out. have you picked out a dress?

if I were single? ...um probably happy hour after work with friends at a bar or restaurant, work, the mall, coffeehouse or bookstore....and possibly online dating, although I've never done it.

i would go anywhere for sex

You are NEVER gonna meet anyone half decent in a bar. The amount of my friends that meet a guy out flirting with their mates in a club, and then wonder why they get treated badly. Duh!

I *am* single. I don't go out of my way to "meet someone".

Sounds like someone is a little too comfortable with being alone.

I just don't think that the kind of guys that I could "pick up" are the kind of guys that I'd want to be with. And the guys that I meet on a day to day basis are generally private school educated, rich, Conservative (or even more right-wing), anti-gay, anti-ethnic minorities, intolerant Christians. Not that there is anything wrong with some of those things (but with others...) but they are not what I would want in a boyfriend! The ones that don't largely fit that profile tend to be married or not short of being married. I have the self-confidence to know that I'm enough of a catch that when I find myself somewhere with decent men, I'll do just fine. For now, there's nothing wrong with being single. If I thought I would never find anyone, it would be different, but I'm not that daft.

I still say you couldn't get laid in a whorehouse with a fist full of fifties.

I'm puzzled, what brought that on?

It's a running joke between me and Ravedevil. Whenever he talks about sex, love, etc., I bust out that remark.

Oh, I see.

Then maybe you'd care to explain "why" you think that?

And another thing, why do you care if I am or am not getting any tail?

After you reply, go get laid why don't ya. Now thats a good idea.

Are you sure he knows that?

because you and I had made similar jokes in the past, often after your complaining as such, or at least I took them as jokes.

Then again, maybe my memory is failing, and it wasn't you at all.

If it's the latter, I apologize. If it's the former, huh?

Now I'm not, maybe it wasn't him.

No, no offense taken. To me, the jokes are all in good fun and great for a laugh. So yeah, I whine a lot about it, but thats my current situation.

No guy likes not getting laid, right? When it happens for me again, I'm sure the complaining will cease.

I certainly didn't intend to offend you either, it just seemd to me that this was a running joke between us, my being married and older, while your still young and on the prowl, etc.

Anyway, I'm glad that we cleared that up, and one tip: don't try so hard, women can sense desperation. Be cool...like lemonade on a Sunday afternoon, act like you don't give a fudge, and your certain to get fudgeed.

I've heard advice similar to that before. The other person who told me about it was a woman.

Since I've gotten the same info from both sides, I'm pretty convinced it must be the real deal.

So, thanks for the info.

your welcome and good hunting

im confused, your profile says your a male, straight, and 23...so um why is that person talking along with you about boyfriends, proms, and dresses? am i missing something here?

> im confused, your profile says your a male, straight, and 23...so
> um why is that person talking along with you about boyfriends, proms,
> and dresses? am i missing something here?

To answer your question, this "Wolfgang" person is a troll. Are you familiar with the concept of the "internet troll"?

In other words, this wolfgang is just making random crap up and posting obnoxious comments to various people just to get attention because he probably has nothing better to do with his free time. The best way to deal with them is to just ignore them completely; and the second best way is to go along with their stupid ass game and then make returning smart-assed comments, which is what I did. This wolfgang person probabbly has no life and if is a teenager then probabbly will grow out of it.

oh ok, no offense, i was just confused, thought i had missed something lol, yeah i think last year when i was real active here there was a "troll" - or maybe he was just a jackass i dunno but i remember he got on alot of ppl's nerves and alot of ppl blocked him...not sure if anyone knows who im talking about though, it was a while ago

....there was a "troll" - or maybe he was just a jackass....

jackass, troll, -- same thing

Well, almost.


I think I might know who you're talking about though.

House party or park. I am a recovering bartender. About 1% of relationships that start in a bar last, otherwise I would go to a bar.

That is so true. An alcoholic beverage is a "relationship grenade" and a keg of beer is a "relationship h-bomb."

I don't know. I don't want to meet anyone.