What songs would you like to have playing at your wedding/commitment ceremony?

I wouldn't want any music. I want something very simple.

I don't plan on ever having a wedding or ceremony...

If we ever do decide to get married, which I doubt, we plan on just having a Justice of the Peace to our home.

At this point, we can't really afford to get married. We depend on the income tax return I get as a single mother.. We've lived together for 5 years, have a child together, own a home and a car together.. What's the difference?

I'm getting married next summer and, at this point, I've got no clue as to what songs will be played.

That's true. What does having a piece of paper prove? You mentioned before about getting your last name legally changed to his last name. Are you still going to do that?

I got married at the courthouse. There was no music.

What kills me is when people play "I will always love you" at weddings. It's a break up song! So many people don't listen to the words...

Most "love" songs are if you notice.

Our entrance music was a Liz Story piano tune. Our exit music was Vince Guaraldi's "Linus and Lucy".

Old Brown Shoe by the Beatles

I remember when I was in Jr. High the popular song for the couples skate at the rollerskating rink was "Look Away" and even then I remember thinking "why are they playing this as a romantic song?"

ugh.....cheese....cheese cheese.....I really don't want to go back and think about my first wedding......I would NEVER walk down the isle again.....l think I had my brother sing that Dan Fogleburg song....what is that? um..."Longer Than"....ew! ....makes me sick thinking about it...and the other sickly lovesick song was the Atlansick Starr song "Always"......ew....ptooey...gross gross gross!!!!!! I can't believe you just made me do that !

I don't plan on having to ever get married again. Twice is more than enough. No special songs for either one that I can remember.

I'm really not sure how the laws work... Do you think I could get into trouble for claiming to be a single mother if I do that?

Anything by Diana Krall.

Metallica - Nothing Else Matters WILL be the either the first dance, or played during the ceremony at my wedding. The guy has no choice in the matter.

we had some dude on a guitar... I forget what he played... we were busy at the time...

> we had some dude on a guitar... I forget what
> he played... we were busy at the time...

Dude, shouldn't that have waited til the honeymoon? What did her parents think?

There are some potential things you might miss out on if you're not married. Minor stuff like inheritance not being assured if one of you croaks, but you can have a will made to compensate. But, also things like insurance coverage can be tricky (though, less so these days because of changes that help gay couples). One random one... while traveling, the airlines are much more likely to know they should keep your seat together.

...that is kind of fudgeed up that tax law is motivating you not to get married. I'm sure some politician could have a field day with that.

Personally... I think marriage is an important ritual. Standing up in front of your friends and family, telling them all that you love each other and are committed to stay together through thick and thin. It seals the deal and also establishes a clear understanding of the ways things are which allows you to build from there.

I know it's bullcrap to many people these days, but for many of us it means a lot and is an important step to take. The commitment can be a great comfort at times.

We lived together, bought a house together, etc... for years and didn't particularly want to get married. Then, things changed and we did. So, we did. I know of some other couples who had the same thing happen to them.

Yuk! None thank you.

Always and Forever (Heatwave), A House is not a Home (Luther Vandross)

To me, it adds a sense of permanence to the relationship. That probably doesn't apply to a lot of people nowadays, though. They don't take it seriously enough for it to feel permanent.

The great thing is that the house is in both our names, so if something happens to him, it's still mine..

I have life insurance on him and he has it on me.. Also, thanks to gays, he is considered my domestic partner and is covered on my medical/dental/vision insurance.

Also, great news! We don't travel Rod has anxiety disorder. I couldn't force him onto a plane.

I appreciate the sanctity of marriage and all that.. but I feel like we have the same commitment that any married couple has.. I could NEVER have an actual ceremony.. I strive to NOT be the center of attention. And with Rod having an anxiety disorder.. he wouldn't want to do that either.

So we are married without the certificate and the name change I guess

yeah... it seems like a lot of people don't take it seriously, but then again, I think divorce is the right thing sometimes too, just not for me.

OK, I'll let you off the hook.

I don't think divorce is any big deal at all if there are no kids involved. When there are kids, I think there should be serious problems (infidelity, abuse, etc) before people even consider a divorce. This "irreconcilable differences" thing is too easy to break up a family over.

Thats life - Frank Sinatra
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Women John Lennon

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Lady in Red Chris DeBerg

For the actual ceremony, I'd prefer the traditional stuff. For the reception, I'd want to include "I'll Come Running" by Brian Eno and "Walk Through This World With Me" by George Jones.

I seriously doubt you could get into any trouble. You wouldn't be getting married, so you'd still be a "single mother". Is Mary's last name his or yours?

I'm with you on the whole marriage thing. James and I are engaged, but we've actually been re-thinking the whole thing. (Mainly based on the fact that I'm on SSI and he makes pretty good money.) We were actually talking about it last night. My views are that we truly love one another and we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We don't need to prove that love to anyone else and, even if we did, having a ceremony isn't going to prove that. Anyhow, I totally see where you're coming from. My maternal grandmother is having a fit because James and I are living together and we aren't married. (She's your typical Bible banging hypocrite.) We're going to hell and all that good stuff. I told her that we love each other and that's all that matters. I told her that I seriously doubt that, back in Bible times, that people got marriage licenses. She agreed, but said they probably had some kind of ceremony, stating their love for one another. I told her that James and I have our own little "ceremonies" proclaiming our love for one another very frequently. She didn't like that!

I don't know exactly which song, but I'm sure I'll figure one out by the time I need it...

our ceremony was very untraditional, there were a total of 4 people there,(scotty and i included in that 4), and there was no music.
if we did it over again...i wouldn't have a clue as to what to choose. there are some songs that are special to us, but not like "ooh, they're playing our song" type of thing

That's how I'd like to get married - with the bare minimum of people there. That would be five here I think, the couple, the registrar and two witnesses.

you need 2 witnesses there? or is that simply what you would prefer?

That's the requirement.

Mary's last name is his.

When we announced to Rod's mom(bible thumper also) that we were pregnant, the first thing she said was that she supposed we were going to get married then... She never liked that we were 'living in sin' but has accepted it..

I like how you handled it with your grandmother.. it's always fun to shock religious people

ah, ok i see.

How many do you need there?

here you only NEED one, but on the "piece of paper" there are spots for 2

I see. I don't really see why you should need more than one, or really why they're needed at all. I like the idea of grabbing two random people off the street!

i like that idea too!! that would seriously be an event to remember, (thinking of the the stranger from the street), i know i would be tickled to death if that happened to me. truly magical i believe.

and yeah, i don't see why the person who performs the ceremony just doesn't count as a witness

So are you and Rod going to Hell along with James and I?

If Mary had your last name, I'd say not to change yours. You know how kids are...it could make her feel left out or something. But, since she's already got Rod's last name, then I'm all for you having it, too. It could help Mary have a sense of belonging when she got older, having Mom and Dad having the same last name. Not to mention that it would be better when she started school. But, then again, there are so many remarried mothers that last names don't mean a lot in schools. I don't know. I guess I'm just babbling. Anyhow, I still don't think you'd have any trouble claiming to be a single mother. Technically, you are and changing your last name won't change that.

Maybe I'll look into it then.

I already use his last name most of the time anyway.. I have lived with my impossible for people to pronounce/spell name for a very long time and his name is so easy!

My wedding song was Selena "I could fall in love"

I don't know, that would be mostly up to my woman. I don't remember what was playing at my first wedding.

If Walls Could Talk - Celine Dion
We've Only Just Begun - Carpenters
Make Believe It's Your First Time - Carpenters

I guess any love song would do.

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yes he is.

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