What do you do when a person of the opposite sex gives you the eye?

Check out their body, maybe smile.

"the eye"? I don't think I would notice this.. I'm not even sure what this would look like.

smile, then ignore them!

Probably not even notice it.

Aargh! I learned this one the hard way.
I consiouslly DO NOT put energy out there. I do not pursue even a friendship. If it's on the job, I keep it strictly professional. If it's elsewhere, it's even easier to avoid an awkward confrontation.
I have too much respect for what my SO and I have built, and we just haven't reached our potential yet, to jeopordize it.

the EVIL EYE? Is she a witch?

gives me the eye?
the eye of newt? evil eye? a literal sense of the term meaning that they have a phyisical eye ball in their hand and are trying to give it to me?

Nothing. Ignore it. Maybe roll my eyes.

Become confused.

She turned me into a Newt!

I got better.

I don't notice. I am too busy checking out ASBT.

I'll give them the eye back!

Refuse it and suggest they put it back in its socket. Leave.

It's been difficult lately. I think men have some hidden radar that senses my boifriend is gone and that I am lonely. I try to be honest and tell them I'm "Taken", unfortunately most men see that as some sort of challenge. I'm a good gurl though. I've flirted back a little, but I realize now that's out of being lonely and missing male attention. I thought about this alot this weekend and next time a boi gives me the eye....I'm totally shutting him down. Maybe I'll just stop going out.

If they gave me an actual "eye" I'd keep it in a jar in my LabOOOORatory.

It depends on whether that person is my SO or not.

The Eye of Sauron!!

I go all shy!!

I hear you. That's why I said above that I've been through this the hard way. Everything you said, me too! My SO is pursuing a degree (later in life) and we've been doing long-distance the last 2 years out of our 6 year relationship. I see him every third weekend or so. But people (men) DO (or have) pick up on the "lonely" vibe. I had a really hard time dealing with so much attention at first, but now I know just to STOP IT!!!

Good luck to you and your sweetie! It is hard isn't it?

Feel flattered yet married.

Smile

Yes, it's been pretty hellish. Thank you for the good wishes, I wish the same for you.

Burn her anyway!

> Feel flattered yet married.

That's an eloquent way to put it.

Ohhhh! That always gets my blood pumpin' when a hot babe gives me "the eye." I try to put on my game face and then I move in for the score. I try talking to the hottie and hopefully she won't be disappointed in me!

I give it right back to them!

Ask myself if he's really looking at me and if he is, he's probably a creep!

I ignore them.

For me, the main task that has helped me be married for a long time (is 10 years a long time? Kind of feels like it.) is to continue to choose to be married at every opportunity - to never choose, regardless of circumstance, anything else, no matter the distraction or frustration.

I prefer that men keep their eyes in their eye sockets.

10 years, congratulations!

I think the essential element of marriage is commitment. And that often means making an effort to make things work. It's a stake in the ground that both people can depend on; that's one of its main values. Other things in life will change, but not that commitment. Giving your commitment to someone is a great gift. Knowing you can depend on it from your partner a great feeling.

I tend to ignore when people do this to me when I don't know them. If I know them, I'll probably smile or something,

I don't think that has ever happened.

*hands you an eye*

talking to them or listening to people talk to me, I don't. But it's not like it matters right?

give them the eye?

Run in the other direction!

Become confused, excited, and a little fearful. Not necessarily in that order.

BTW SC has taught me to spell "necessarily"...

I flirt back always. It doesn't matter if I don't like her, I always flirt.

If they're cute, give them "the eye" back

If I consider them attractive I will give them the eye back.
If I don't consider them attractive, but don't think there is anything wrong with them, I'll give them a bright and smile but then turn away.
If I think they look unattractive I'll just ignore them.

I'd just like to point out that I don't count attractiveness as purely how handsome/beautiful someone is.

Amen! You put it so well....

Do you think attractiveness is just about looks? Nothing to do with intelligence or wealth?

Living where I do, I'm rarely in the presence of breath-takingly handsome men. Those who I have come across have been pains-in-the-arse with neither money, nor intelligence to back them up when their good looks fade.

> How do you even know if they are giving you the eye when most of
> the time you are lying flat on your stomach? (Most likely,
> they are giving you something, though)

That was very mean and uncalled for.

He's getting braver and braver.. what a nasty crap.

I can see him being evicted from this site again in the near future with that kind of attitude.

oh...c'mon....
*rolls eyes*

Dunno! The blind person wouldn't care, though, would they?

I ignore them because sexually I'm interested in women, not men. It has nothing to do with popularity.

It depends on how attracted to her I am. If she's attractive, I'll return "the eye".

When I was a kid, I practiced kissing on the mirror!

Don't bother commentting to me anymore I am filtering you.

I dont like to look people in the eyes when talking to them. I still find it a distraction from the conversation, I lose my train of thought when attempting it and it gives me a creepy feeling. If a person were blind, I don't know how I would talk to them--I'd probably just think it wasnt a big deal since they can't see whether I am or not, so I honestly don't know.
Yes at the end of January.

Sunglasses, yes probably, you cant see their eyes at all in most cases, can you? I'd probably be looking at their sunglasses as well as thier face. I tend to look at people's lips when they talk, though. It's a habit.
A girl-Sarah.

Geez. That's a bit extreme for a trait that doesn't matter! Why stress or work hard to change things that don't matter? There are more important things in life to worry about. "Training" to look people in the eyes is not a priority. It's much easier to just not talk to people who would make it an issue, eh? You make it sound like its a negative trait that needs changing. That's your OPINION. Not mine.

Well then they arent worth being friends with if they base their opinions of people on that crap, are they? I know that I am honest, and if people distrust me, they aren't worth knowing. If they get to know me, and know my habits, and I'm talking to them about the weather, they arent going to think I am lying, since they know what the weather is doing, too. If people misinterpret me, THEY need to get a clue & I don't want to be around those judgemental presumptive people, anyway. Thier loss! I'll find real friends who are nice, and cool. P.S.-I wouldnt call anyone loyal who would misjudge total strangers. Food for thought!

What about those who are quick to judge me? Mannerisms of a person should not put people off. If they do, then they arent worth getting to know, because they are too ignorant to be worth it. They should give the benefit of the doubt, don't you think? If people can't trust me when I have given them no reason to feel this way (caught in lies, caught cheating in a game, caught stealing, backstabbing, doing hurtful things or saying hurtful things) then they aren't worth my time, efforts or energy. I am not going to waste my time "modifying mannerisms" to get judgmental idiots, who base opinions on whats typical or societal norms, to like me. What a waste. Maybe they should modify THEIR behaviors.

That's not a good reason. It's a stupid reason. I wouldn't want to know people who think it IS a good reason to distrust, and be jerky to someone. They are the ones who need behavior modification and the ones worthy of distrust. I don't think "lack of eye contact" is mean, hurtful or offensive. If other people do, then they can pick their friends based on first impression mannerisms. If they don't like quirkiness, they don't need me as a buddy anyway. It's their loss for having such a closed mind.

I do, but later the mirror has to sleep in the wet spot

maybe give em the eye back

ha ...see...wifey and i are runnin on the same track...just a wink and a smile right babies

Same thing I do when a person of the same sex gives me the eye Or a trans person for that matter.

No I don't. I dont expect anyone to initiate contact. I'm not looking to win a popularity contest. It's up to *everyone* to be decent to each other. I'm a decent person, honest, nice, considerate-and don't set out to hurt people, no matter how "different" they are from myself. I don't expect everyone to be decent-I just get annoyed with people who dig badmouthing or being snotty to people who are different. It's not up to me to blend and be like everyone else. I have friends who like me for me, and those are the people I am comfortable being around. People at my church don't act like jerks to those who are different, neither do a LOT of people. There are a few cliquie groups and social circles who *do* act that way. Yes, they are defective & need attitude adjustments.

Nope, I don't need to do anything different. I am comfortable with me, and the people I surround myself with. I don't want to be around the closed minded ones of the world. You shouldnt have to change aspects of yourself to make morons like you, when there is absolutely nothing wrong with your personality or mannerisms. Being different is not a bad thing.

Also: I have *always* thought people were petty, immature and closed minded when they base their opinions of people, or decide whether or not to like a person based on APPEARANCES (or mannerisms) instead of the person's heart. I do *not* like people who think it's more important to appear a certain way to impress people, than to just be good people. I dont like people who care more about a persons appearance than their heart. WHY on Earth should I go out of my way to please those types of people, when I want nothing to do with them? There are plenty of decent people in the world who are not like that, that I can be myself around, right? I like people to like me for ME, not for fakeness and desperate attempts to please and impress. YUCK. They can go stick with their shallow minded clones.

I don't really care if people *see* me as cold and impersonal or if they THINK that I am a bad person. Usually if they are nice (haven't done something mean) I *do* talk to them, open up, etc. It's when someone has no reason to hate me, yet they badmouth me, bash me, or treat me rotten, giving me hateful looks when I've never done anything hurtful to them. Those are the types I don't want to know. Aren't they the cold ones for being that way to a stranger? Aren't they impersonal for not taking the time to get to know someone before making those kinds of judgments? I'm *not* saying I *expect* them to get to know me.... I am saying I expect that if they want to judge a person, and decide if they are a good person or not, blab their opinions to others, decide how they will treat the person, they should know who they are and what they are all about *first*. If I am "hard to get to know", they should shut up, because they *don't* know me.

I don't intentionally try to "be different" and I don't try to "preserve" anything. I just refuse to change who I am, being uncomfortable and fake-to please people. If they don't like me for me, it's their own problem.

I'm not going to practice appearances or mannerisms. I will be who I am comfortable being. I am *not* making any assumptions. I'm aware of what people do/say. I'm not a moron. I'm not self conscious, either.

*clapping*

I'm the same way about eye contact.. agree with you completely.

I just don't understand the benefits of being LESS comfortable, to please people that I wouldn't want to know, anyway (because of their unlikable personality flaws). I'd rather be myself, and have the buddies I have and be happy & comfortable. At least when there are things about others that *I* don't particularly like, I am still nice to them.

YOU CAN'T PLEASE EVERYONE!!

Why make yourself miserable trying? If you have enough friends to make yourself happy, you don't need to be someone you're not in order to make even more friends.

I'm the same way exactly. I have enough friends, it would be disservice to anyone new if I did befriend them because I don't have time for more friends. I've never looked to impress anyone either.. but I'm always kind to people even if I'm not looking them in the eye.

give them the eye back, but then let them do the rest!

Yeah, and it doesn't really matter, does it? I can still do every day things and be happy in life. I don't need to be popular or please everyone to be happy. I can still go up to McD's and get me a Big Mac in the drive through without having to look someone in the eyes. Hey I can pretend the speaker is a big eyeball! Good practice!

People who want to be popular do what they have to to make friends. People who make friends without trying, and who are content with the friends they have don't have to do anything but be themselves! Aren't we lucky?

No...I used to be kate. And I never said I ignore women...the question is about the opposite sex which to me would be men...silly boi!

Yep!

It's funny, but every single time, we both get off at the exact moment!

It takes no energy just being myself. Geez. It wont enhance my world any to try to please morons who are shallow. I dont want to be friends with ignorant closed minded shallow people with high expectations of other people. If they dont like people for who they are, and only care about appearances, they are morons. yuck.

BTW I am pleasant to people and I do talk to people. Why, just today I passed son's principal and laughed about how son actually had his glasses on this morning and took them off because they were dirty... didn't tell me, just took them off! (When I go in to breakfast, thats why I am there-to bring son his glasses that he forgot) We both had a laugh. She was amused. See? Now wasnt that pleasant enough? Not making eye contact does *not* mean I am this somber, straight faced, non social, never talks to people type. I am *generally* a quiet listener. It doesn't mean I dont know how or refuse to converse with people. I also *do* get in conversations with people outside church, exchange pleasantries, etc. (Talking to the principal this morning is a perfect example of how I sometimes am when I am out) Depends on my moods. I dont make a huge effort to go out of my way and have a big active social life. So what? I am happy and content with spending most of my spare time with my husband and kids. Want more examples of me conversing with people I barely know or don't know? I can come up with recent stuff if you need examples!

Who ever said I was talking about people I've never met? I'm referring to those people who are aquainted with me, that don't get to really know me, before gossiping, badmouthing, calling me names, judging me, judging my motives, snubbing me, giving me mean stares, etc. I never said a majority of people or general population were like that. BUT-yes, those particular people are ignorant and jerky. They judge, condemn and gossip about people they dont take the time to know--yep--thats what they are. They are suspicious of me because they are IGNORANT and judgmental! They base their opinions on mannerisms alone. (Causing them to have warped perceptions of someone THEY'VE never taken the time to really know. To me, that is ignorant & WRONG behavior. Their behavior causes me to form my opinions of them, so why dont they change their stupid behavior?

I wonder how easy it would be or how willing a normally *put on a front* acting person would be to go out of their way to act more down to Earth and less flaky fakey, to make me feel more comfortable. I bet it would be uncomfortable and hard for them, wouldn't it?

It might for some of them. They probably act more natural around people close to them.

It's okay as long as you clear it with bill. I changed my name because I've moved and moved on and felt it was time for a change. As to the new user name, it happens to be from the old Outer Limits series, in fact it's the title of my favorite episode.

Blush usually.

I eye him back.....hehe

i'd like to say hi to everyone my first time here just checking it out.......it get really mad and wanna fight because im homophobic....

You want to fight and get mad because a person of the OPPOSITE sex gives you the eye and you're HOMOphobic? Wouldn't you be heterophobic if someone of the opposite sex gave you the eye and it made you mad & wanted to fight?

i cant READ, read the question wrong LoL.....i go start a conversation as long as her looks are appealing to me

Grab their titties

Well, it depends. If I'm interested, give them the eye back. If you get tired of waiting for them to speak with you, eventually get your ass over there and talk to them. If not interested, turn away, don't show any other interest.

I smile

I do not enchourage them, unless it is my husband, then I lure him to the bed room.

Since I am gay, I just look at them kind of like they have to be kidding.

People don't "give me the eye" regardless of their sex.

instantly gain 5 pounds in self-defense

hahaha, amazingly, women do use weight to their advantages.... I would say I would look at them without any reaction, then I would turn my back to them and just ignore them and hope that they think they have 0 chance to get with me... unless they find some kind of really seductive way to touch me...lol...j/k

Look back longingly...