Which do you think would be more difficult for you emotionally, giving a newborn child of yours up for adoption, or having an abortion?

I think i would have more trouble with an abortion b/c then you spend your entire life in regret of a) taking a life, and b) wondering what that person could have been
Whereas giving a child up for adoption there's just the regret of not knowing if you made the right decision, however you have to think about what's best for the child.

Giving up my newborn for adoption. There's no way that I could carry a fetus for 40 weeks, give birth to a baby, hold that baby, then give it to someone else. Never knowing if that child was leading a happy life, never knowing if that child was being abused, always wondering. I'd look at every child that passed by, wondering if that could be my baby. There's just no way I could do it. Call me selfish, but that's the way I feel.

My sister-in-law gave her first child (a boy) up for adoption when she was 15. Her parents forced her to do it. It's been almost 13 years and she still has a horrible time dealing with it.

I couldn't do either.

I'd have a harder time with adoption, because I'd actually see the baby and know someone else would have it. With an abortion, there's a closure to the problem, though a very grim one. The baby is dead and I never saw it or held it, so it would be easier for me to cope with. They'd both be fairly traumatic, though. I imagine one who chooses adoption would have an easier conscience in the long run, but it's hard to say.

Giving up a newborn. I'm assuming I would be having an abortion relatively early, and of my own will. I might answer differently if it were a late-term abortion, or forced on me when I really wanted the baby.

I would not do either so the question is moot for me.

Having an abortion would be more difficult.
It would be against everything in me to do such a thing. If everything was fine, I equate it with murder, so I'd have a real hard time facing myself.

At least with adoption I'd know the baby was going to a family who wanted him/her. Just because I didn't want the baby, doesn't mean the baby's not wanted.

Giving up a child for adoption would be much more painful. I can't see me attaching any emotion to getting an abortion at all.

I think having an abortion would be more difficult.
I am pro-choice, but, an abortion just isn't an option for me.

both I would think but it depends on the person and the circumstances.

Newborn child.

I wouldn't do either. If I had to pick, abortion would be worse.

I would have a harder time giving up a newborn child. It would be difficult to decide to have an abortion as well but much less so for me.

I'm really sorry that you hurt about it But I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't feel that way since I don't see abortion as killing anything.

Probably giving the baby up for adoption.

Aborting would probably be harder biologically speaking, but still ONE thing is a fetus, even if it's yours, another thing is a BABY that you carried for 9 months and gave birth to.

Neither, children suck.

Giving up a newborn child is more difficult for me. It's an emotional and selfish choice, of course. For the "child" abortion is surely worse.
Having an abortion after 3/4 month of pregnancy or give up the baby would be equally difficult.

I'm really sorry that you felt so bad about it - I hope you have had better times since then and have someone to talk to about this stuff! I hope that I never have to find out too - I know that it would not be a pleasant experience by any means, but I cant see e getting upset over it.

Giving up a newborn kid.

The abortion, since that would involve me consenting to have my child butchered.

That is selfish.

Giving up a newborn child for adoption would be much more painful emotionally.

Both would be hard. I wouldn't want to have to make that choice.

I feel like giving the child a chance at life is a better choice, although it isn't easy either way.

Either choice would be devastating.

Giving up a newborn and having an abortion are not really comparable. Obviously unless you are insane, Giving up a newborn baby would be more difficult.

If I had an abortion, I would really regret it. On the other hand, it would kill me always knowing that my child was alive and out there some where with a different family, and she wouldn't even know who I am. I think they are equally difficult.

if something cannot feel pain, is it still considered murder? like in the very early stages of pregnancy when not much has developed. i guess everyone has their own opinion, on this, but when does a fetus become a baby?

This is a LOADED question.
Either choice would be hard to do...But.
I would give up my baby for adoption before I'd even think of murdering my unborn baby,..because that's what "Abortion" is...It's MURDER.....

How is this question loaded?? If it said:

"Which do you think would be more difficult for you emotionally, giving a newborn child of yours up for adoption, or murdering a fetus?

It would be loaded then..

Giving up the kid

I know that.....why do you think I said...."Loaded Question" ?

Umm. I don't know... that's why I asked!

How do you think this question should have been worded in order to not be "loaded"?

Having an abortion would be more difficult. I could never have one.

Giving up the newborn - definitely. I don't believe that the soul of the child has entered the baby as soon as there was fusion of the egg and sperm - I think that the soul enters much later so abortion doesn't actually kill a child. I think giving up a newborn would be so horribly difficult - and I feel sorry for people who have to enter into this situation (like those where the baby was created by a rape or incest).

Maybe make that 1 question ...2 separate questions...
It was just a Lot of emotion in 1 question..
Are you loosing sleep over me saying it was a Loaded Question?.......
I've never had an abortion nor gave up any of my children...
I guess being a mother made it a Loaded Question for me.

Nope.. just asking.. I had already forgotten about this conversation actually!

It would be worse to give up a child. I don't believe the chances are good for a child that enters into orphanages or foster care. There have been many infant/child abuse and neglect cases lately in my state. Even if you interview the family that will adopt your child, appearances are deceiving. The child might end up cared for like a new puppy that is neglectfully tied to the tree in the backyard.

I think having an abortion would be a million times harder, because I would be killing a baby with no chance of life. At least with adoption, he or she would have life.

Uhh...this is a curious thing. I wonder how anybody could find it less difficult murdering their own baby instead of giving the sweet thing a family who desires to have one. I'm so confused with this survey. But glad to be able to give my opinion at the same time.

I would guess that most people who are pro-choice don't view abortion as murder.

I think both would be difficult for me! Being a woman, I can't imagine giving up one of my children, and I can't imagine an abortion.

On abortion, it would depend on the circumstances. If it were rape, or incest, I could and would opt for an abortion.

giving up your newborn child would be more difficult.

i think they'd be equally difficult--giving up a kid is giving up a kid.

Giving up for adoption

I think they would be very differently difficult for me. A relatively long time ago I thought about having an abortion and didn't think I could do it, I planned to give baby up for adoption. Turned out to be a false alarm. Short run, I think abortion would be easier (certainly over more quickly). In the long run, for me, I think abortion would be harder to live with - not impossible, but more difficult.