Is there such a thing as love at first sight?

Lust, not love.

I'd like to remain undecided. I believe in it but I wonder if its like one of those things like ghosts or stuff. We've all heard of people who have seen one, and there are tons of films and stories, and lots of theories BUT does it really happen. Or is it just wishful thinking.

it's lust not love. Love takes some time.

There IS lust at first sight--you know, this is where virtually everybody gets confused. They say "love at first sight" when they notice the physical beauty, when, in fact, the appreciation of physical attractiveness triggers lust. I think you would have to get to really know a person before actual love develops.

Lust certainly, love no. Not for that individual. I can meet someone for the first time and feel a sense of love for a fellow human, but that's not based on who they are. And it isn't a romantic love. I do believe that you can spark with someone at first sight, and that could turn into love though.

No. I think you actually have to get to KNOW a person and value them before you can be in love with them. How can anyone LOVE someone (in the romantic in love way) without knowing anything about them? It's impossible.

Happened to me about five years ago. Got married three years later, to the day that I met my husband. Never thought it would happen to me, but it did. So, yeah, I believe in love at first sight. Our two year anniversary is coming up in a couple of months!!

Yes, I believe in love at first site. I have experienced love at first site. Love at first site does not necessarily mean long lasting meaningful relationship.

I believe in it, and am still experienceing it now. It did take her a little while to get to know me though. I took it slow as not to scare her off.

When people feel that they experience "love at first sight", it's much more about themselves then about the object of their affection. The person they're feeling this towards has some elements which resonate strongly with needs or experiences of the person who's feeling the "love at first sight"... which says more about the lover than the lovee. It's not love in the deep abiding sense; usually it's more "need".

I believe in it because it happened to my sister. She and her husband met during high school, got married after living together for some years, and have stayed married and close for many years.

You can FALL in love at first sight sure. I don't mean lust, lust is purely physical, the kind of thing I'm talking about it's spiritual though it includes physical attraction as well. But you can't STAY in love only on the basis of the first time. And you can't make it work only based on how you felt on the first time. But of course you can *fall* in love at first sight.

That's not lust. Unless there's spiritual/mental lust as well as physical. You can be incredibly interested in a person's soul and body at first sight. It's not love, but it's the way that love can start. Surely it's not lust.

That makes more sense than the "lust" thing.

I'm sure lust has something to do with it, too

But it's very different seeing someone and wanting to have sex with them and seeing someone and wanting to go out with them.

or seeing someone and planning out the rest of your life with them

Well that takes a lot and it's never sure.

some people do it in the first five minutes, though!

I think so. My wife and I were married 3 weeks after meeting, only 2 dates. Been almost 22 years now. We aren't madly in love anymore, don't even kiss hardly, but we're civil most of the time.

Chemical and psychological attraction, maybe. I don't call that "love", but I don't know what is exactly "love"....

Was it passionate at first and just lost its luster? What happened? What drew you together so quickly and ardently that you would marry a stranger?

I am not too sure if I believe if love exists to begin with, probably just a figment of our imatination. I guess it exists on one level, but youd have to know someone well. So no, probabbly not. Its all hornyness, but the guy (not allways the guy though), says it is .

Actually, not totally passionate at first. I don't really know. We met at my sister's wedding. My wife is first cousin to my sister's husband. So, we cut out an entire set of relatives.
I lived on the West Coast, sister's wedding was in Chicago. This beautiful young lady who looked like Bridgette Bardot came up to me at the reception and asked me to dance. Said she was tired of waiting for me to ask her to dance. We danced the rest ofthe night, talked all the next day at a "wedding day after" family deal, went out a couple times, then I had to leave and flew home. We talked, I flew her out two weeks later, we got married and that was it.

We've had ups and downs over the years, affairs, money, children problems, etc. We still get along basically after 22 years but there isn't any romance or physical attraction much. She's not the 33 year old former model anymore. At 55 she's still attractive, but over 50 pounds overweight, going through menopause - meaning crabby, irritable, wild mood swings. She also has borderline personaility disorder, which she is in complete denial of. Okay, to be fair, I'm getting to be an "old guy" too. Almost totally gray hair now, yeah typical overweight spare tire middle. I'm an engineer personality type - meanign boring, nothing much to say, my own mental issues as you know.

So, when you add everything in, I think we're doing pretty well not having killed one another yet. You ever see the movie "War of the Roses" with Michael Douglas? If so, things get like that occasionally.

Thanx for sharing.

No I don't believe it can be called love. I do believe there are different degrees of romantic love but don't believe one can truly call it love when first one sets eyes on another they find attractive in looks and/or personality.
I also believe it's the same way with true friends. Like my friend I met over a year ago there was a spark of the Kindred Spirit but couldn't be sure until we really got to know each other better and so it is with someone you will/can fall in love with you can feel a spark but not really know until later if it's the real deal.

I have experienced it! When my husband and I had our first date after meeting at Yahoo! Personals, I went into it thinking, "This is going to be the stupidest thing ever, meeting someone online and expecting them to be honest with you." Then the first date....amazing! I was head over heels the minute I saw him.

I believe in love, or some sort of intense connection (be it a strong feeling of trust, or friendship), at first sight. My SO and and I had that feeling of trust and friendship when we first met. I don't think that it can work if two people who initially dislike eachother end up together.

Oh yes, 100 percent for sure it exists...but it usually doesn't last.

Love is for losers and old people.

It's lust. Pure and simple. Great fun, but only lust. You have to know someone to love them. For me, anyway.

I think people who thinks there is love at first sight is very foolish. I think that it is something that someone just made up.