Which member on SC would you like to have as a father and/or mother?

I'm quite keen on the parents I already have, but thanks!

I'm happy with the mother and father that I was given at birth.

But, if I had to choose parents from SC I'd pick Cleo as my mother. Followed closely by Carol, Sue, and Irene. (in no certain order) My father would have to be either Rockman or ElvisFan. Maybe Zang (in which case, I'd buy him a vacuum cleaner for Father's Day )

saintange for the simple reason that she IS my mother.

If I was 10 years younger I would pick Mandy.
If I was a child or a baby probably Cleo or Irene.

Father...none...maybe a cross between Zang, Rockman, Dino and Marteen.

I like my parents.

Whoever is the richest. And oldest. And most likely to leave all their wealth to their children when they die.

none thanks my family is disfunctional enough

If we all put in a dollar we could buy him a nice vacuum cleaner

Good answer

None

Hell if I know. Most likely none, most seem way too liberal for me, almost like hippies.

Thank you, Lisa Marie!

hippies are cool dude Peace

None of them. I think I'm older than most, and those that I'm not older than certainly aren't so old that they could be my parent.

Okay, there may be a few, but I'm quite satisfied with my parents. I really have no desire to trade them in on a couple of people I've never met.

Count me in.

Puhlease!!! I have enough of my real one and I ain't looking for more!!

Your such a stick in the mud - you ol' fuddy duddy! Hey - smoke some pot!
Move with the groove!

Am I bringing back some memories?

Come to Momma!

I was just thinking this morning about asking saintange if she knew you but I was afraid to sound like the cliché American line used when meeting Canadians in the States; "Do you know Carol and Bob from Canada?" as if it was some quaint little town! However, Italy is much smaller and it does fit 6 times in the province of Quebec but there is a whole lot more people there than here!
I just suspected that she might have come here upon your invitation... I was right! Hmmm.... Maybe I could be your Mom! Come to Mama!

None.

You'd fit right in my family! We may be dysfunctional but we sure have a lot of fun!

Last weekend, my 48 yr old brother and I went to Ottawa to visit our Mom during the Winterlude. The Rideau Canal is opened for skating (the whole frozen season) and there are ice sculptures, music and entertainment; many things to see. We just wanted to see Mom and the canal... My brother built a sled (he calls it the Rideau Taxi) to push her when he skates. This is the 1st time I go with him (and the taxi) and we had so much fun!! We brought along a bottle of Caribou (cheap red port spiked with pure alcohol - a favourite drink of all winter festivals!) and a mickey of rum... Needless to say, we had a lot of fun! Picture this; my Mom checking the time (I don't know why - she's retired!), tilting her arm with the watch to see the time while holding her drink in the same hand! What a waste of a good drink!! We got a few giggles from the other skaters (it's an 8 mile long stretch of ice and there are many people) as they watched us with the Rideau Taxi; Bro was pushing my Mom who had her legs wrapped around me, I was sitting like an Indian at the front of the sleigh - holding an imaginary steering wheel and going "Brooom-broom!" My brother followed the path of my imaginary steering and announced loudly that I sure didn't know how to drive! After a little huffing and puffing, we stopped to get some hot cider (that we spiked with the rum - we're always so well prepared!) and had a "beaver tail" (a deep fried pastry shaped like a beaver tail spread with chocolate or maple spread or cinnamon and sugar and a NEW one - cheese and garlic butter; which I had! Delicious!).
Try to imagine all the parents there with their young children and these grey haired idiots go by laughing and screeching like banshees! Every time we skated under bridges, we'd hoot and yell to hear the echos; that would get the ball rolling and all the "young-uns" would start up and join us! Everyone is so civilized in Canada... It's annoying! You've got to show them how to let loose! We sure had some fun for a dysfunctional family!

I have a friend who lives in Ottawa. She sent me pictures of it

It's a nice place to visit - but I wouldn't want to live there!

The bars close at one o'clock!!! Sheeesh! What a bummer!

father=romkey
mother=suebee

You my darling, would be my incestuous sister!

*giggles*

Mandy! Are you blushing??

Mother: Mandy

Father: Bill

Can I be your brother?

You can't have sex with your mother!!!
Unless you're a hillbilly of course.

This my first survey, too bland, only for testing my ability in "correctly surveying" and ...
Mandy in few hours is your mother, your sister, Irene's incestous sister and of course Irene is your sister and your aunt, too. I'm impressed.
I pick Irene = mother (and so you and me are relatives now)
Romkey, whit a bit of Zanginess= father (so Mandy and me are relatives and so, you and Romkey...)

You don't pick and so, being out of this nightmare (and still sane), in what way all are relatives each other?

lol

It's kind of hard to pick when your about the same age or older than the people your picking from.

I'm honoured -- do you want a nice glass of milk with your cookies, sweetie?

I'm not sure.

You are not sure about relations or about your sanity?

You are definitely my mum. Go with the Caribou! Je ne me souviens pas; est-ce-que vous venez du Quebec?( I don't remember if you are "french speaking" canadian).

YES!

Yes, we have quite a mix going don't we! I feel like I'm in North Carolina.

You can be anything you want...as long as I get to touch your ass.

It's my mothers birthday today and I can't think of anyone other than her that I would like to have as my mother....she's great..

I would have to see some bank statements first.

southernyankee, cerealkiller (this may be interesting), romkey, judgescratch--father figures????
ASB, they, dabprovin, irene007 and little miss Biggles (she is so mature for her age)--mother figures???

Cookies? Yummy!!!!! Are they chocolate chip?

I'm not sure "in what way all are relatives each other".

Gosh, none. I've never thought of them in that way

If that's what you want, baby.

were those your real answers or were you being facetious?

It is! It is!

'as kids' would be an easier question, and I might get in trouble for suggesting anyone could be my parent.
I'll take Joe, Romkey, Mikal, or Bill as a dad, and Mandy as a mom.

Mais oui! Mais votre français est excellent! Comment est-ce? Parlez-vous français aussi bien que l'italien?

Je viens d'un pays où le français et le provencal sont des langues assez connues; nos ançetres sont arrivés ici en Italie environs dans le 13ème siècle, laissant la France, où ils étaient persecutés car ils étaient heretiques.

Ah... Nous, par contre, sommes venus ici pour se faire persécuter! Non, mais sans farces - je suis d'origine Belge (3e générationn) et Irlandaise (6e génération). Comme la majorité des gens au Canada, mes ancêtres sont venus ici pour améliorer leur vie. Je ne suis pas certaine s'ils ont réussi!!

Dabprovin, but I'd rather have her as a sister.

I think Mandy or Sue would've made a splendid mother for me, disregarding the fact that we're all roughly the same age.

woo hoo, we're all one big dysfunctional family!

No, not really. Yeah, I was a teen during the 60's, but I only tried pot once. Made everything spin in circles, made me feel sick, totally hyper, heart racing. Not the 'mellow' thing advertised to be. I am who I am and I don't care what others think of my standards. I am a laid-back, easy-going guy, but I don't like anything radical, out of the ordinary, anyone not with the society norm. I guess that's maybe a part of my OCD - everything must be the same every day, nothing to rock the boat. Liberals, hippies, gays, protesters, religious fanatics and the like I don't have any use for, mainly because they don't mind their own business, be quiet and live their own life like a good robotic citizen should. I detest and avoid confrontation, controversy at all costs.

Not to say I haven't done some crazy things in my life. Like going with my friends at 16 to drink in bars in all-black neighborhoods in Chicago, drag racing at 120 mph and being at a private Hell's Angels party. But I did not feel comfortable doing those things. I much prefer being the invisible man in the background of society.

Sounds like an early death wish to me.

I'm starting to believe that you really do have the personality of a potential serial killer...
Try a little introspection, and ask yourself why you prefer to be the invisible man in the background. Do yourself a favour and be honest, really honest. Do not denigrate your person, just question it. You might be surprised with what you find out...

A big part of it is due to very low self-esteem, low self-confidence. My wife and ex-wife just say I'm a wimp. Maybe, but a potentially dangerous one.

I had already guessed that but why the low self-esteem? That's what you have to answer.

Come to Momma!

Judgescratch is a girl! *giggle*

Lot of it goes back to childhood. I wear contacts now, but back as a kid I wore glasses, since 3 years old. And, not just glasses, mine were like coke bottle bottoms, almost a half inch thick.

And, as a teen I had acne very bad, not so much on my face but huge boils of pus all over my chest, back and arms. Still scarred all over from it.

Those two things never helped. Plus various highly embarassing things as a kid, ridicule, mentally strange things due to I believe OCD even then, like throwing a kid down a flight of stairs on impulse, pissing on kids for fun, torturing animals, blowing up things.

I've always felt 'different' and not normal from the average person. Reality is, in a lot of ways I'm probably 'more normal' and boring than the average Joe. But I've done so many horrible things in my life that the sum of them all makes me totally ashamed of myself and deserving to be put away forever. The law would agree too.

I flip-flop back and forth. On a surface level/business environment I'm very easy to get along with, helpful, relatively dedicated employee if I'm kept interested enough. But I'm also devious, cheat and do bad things whenever I can get away with them. OCD interferes with things, makes me want to do mischievious things, gives me a sick sense of humor, bugs my mental attitude just enough to keep me from being balanced.

The therapist said my overly structured and squeaky clean problem-free childhood left me totally unprepared for real life. I never saw problems, parents arguing, fights, etc. So now, anything out of the ordinary is totally stressful for me.

Gotta go - have worked 20 hours in the last 24, time to go home, can't see straight anymore.

I bet glassa would do, except shes too young and doesnt have the doe.

I dont know about parents, but I would definatly want BOTH kaleb and brian as simblings.

why? are you going to beat them up?

It seems to me that your psyche occasionally rebels against the limited restricting definition of sane success by which you attempt to prove yourself to yourself through. The kid stuff was long ago, not a cell in your body exists from back then. Feeling shame about the past is unproductive after it's been thoroughly contemplated. The only thing to feel shame about is that which you would still do. If such actions are undesirable, and a response to certain conditions you'd rather not be in, then strive to remove yourself from those conditions. Workaholism is another death-wish advoidance strategy. I know full-well the comfort of an OCD rut. It removes the quality of time and tangibility, and gives your consciousness opportunity to drift. But it's not living. Breaking the wall, you will find that a constant interactive changing of gears can be just as comfortable a baseline, and feel so much more fresh and alive. I'm guessing that you only break out to laugh, dance, or play board games when drunk at a family gathering where escaping to work and proving yourself is not an option, and you have no choice in the matter. Your cross-bearing helps no one at all.
On the devious thoughts, I bet it is accompanied by thoughts that you are supposed to be thinking something else, and that you also fear such thoughts as potentially destroying your life. You give them too much power. Don't encourage them, but accept them without censure, and let them pass by without meaning or significance. If you're going to get stuck on a passing thought, it should be a sweet and invigorating one. OCD is a reaction to forcing ones own train of thought too much or worrying about it's contents. I've experienced a great share of the DSM listings, and I can assure you that one can rewrite their own mind to mechanically work differently with just a philosphical change.
You've noticed the balance issue. On one hand, there is an integral reality where you acknowledge all your strengths and weaknesses, and make the most of it. OCPD can go hand in hand with matching quantities of manic impulsiveness. Try giving yourself permission to be at once a complete person encompassing the range of potential thought and behavior that are you. Yesterday is always someone else. You are who you choose to become.
Tell your wife you want to get a divorce or fix your marriage. You accept conditions which you do not have to endure. You get the return on life proportional to the energy you invest in it. For balance, this means investing energy into each domain. Being a workaholic will never improve your social life. That's an obsolete lie from your childhood. Be who you want to be, not who you feel history and circumstance and outlook has forced you to be. Those things only hold you down to the extent in which you embrace them. People only embrace them because are so deprived of identity that that a negative identity seems more assuring than the risk of having a new one. If you are reluctant to be photographed, try being some blaring cheese with a big muscle flexing grin that gets a kick out of it. Personal philosophy, psychology, and outlook are really as much a costume as the outfits we wear, and some are hell of a lot more enjoyable to wear than others. Your success in business is because you wear the business confidence costume. You may have some logic that claims that that costume is one of the few you deserve, but the confidence itself made that true, and it was an arbitrary decision. I sucked at guitar 20 years ago, but after seeing the red violin, had the sudden confidence that I could become an instant virtuoso, and did so. Personal history had nothing to do with that success (except the history in recent years of finding that I could do many things which were logically improbable by sheer humble confident will). Our bodies and brains are just primitive excuses for manifestation of far greater forces.

Uh...huh, yeah, what Irene 007 said!
*giggle/blush*
I'm flattered, though...........

ASB--those were my real answers from what I have read in the posts you all seem so cool and down to earth. I like that. You are all probably about my age (38) and I think from what I have read that you folks (the ones I have mentioned) are really nice. If I offended anyone please accept my apologies.

I am so sorry, but now I need to add you to the mommy list, right. I still think you are pretty nice and intelligent, from you answers it seems that way. Once again, please accept my apologies for making that mistake. I am so embarrased. Did I spell that right?

...no worries, I'm just glad for a compliment and a smile on a Monday morning!! (and believe me, on THIS morning, it was very appreciated!)

Well thanks for the compliment

Hey no problem I do think you are pretty cool and so is your sis, they. You both seem like two smart gals.

Thanks *blushes*

No. But it would be fun watching them fight all the time, like simblings do all the time, and be right in the middle of it all.

Though your idea of beating them up doesnt sound bad either

lmao

Um.....I don't really know what I'd do with a father There are some great guys here that I think are of an appropriate age. Um....romkey, Zang, msgman, bill...um, that's about it I think - the rest are too young! Maarten and icurok could *perhaps* squeeze into being old enough, but I can't quite see it. So....Zang doesn't vacuum.....msgman is Christian.......bill has said he doesn't want kids I think.....which leaves romkey. Who has probably the best kitchen of anyone here at SC. I'm sold!

Choosing an SC mother is harder! There are lots of very maternal, lovely ladies. Cleo, SueBee, freebird, kate, irene are probably the most appropriately aged ones. Hmm, freebird is probably too young by a few years......kate doesn't have internet access at home.....irene is probably looking forward to getting all her kids out the door......Cleo is hoping to move back to Hawaii soon so i wouldn't see very much of her....which leaves Sue Who I think would be an excellent choice

All of this is in fun by the way - I'm not really shallow enough to reject anyone on the basis of the things outlined above!

Zang would be a great dad...although he's not old enough to be my dad; and as for a mom...hmmm.....well, I'll have to say mandy. She'd be the wacky, fun mom!

With you and Mallory as my children I'd be the proudest mother on earth!!!!

*beams and shows everyone your report cards*

I want Cleo (dabprovin) to be my mommy!

I don't know who here is old enough to be my daddy... I'm 22. Any takers?

nadie

None.

Thanks for the compliment.. I'm actually 27 though I usually feel about 63, so you were close!

I sure hope you are feeling better. I wish I was 27 because I also feel like I am 63. With all the medical problems you have been having it's no wonder you feel bad. I sure hope things are getting better for you.

I don't know anyone well enough to choose so I'll stick with my own parents.