What is ONE regret in your life that you would take back if you could?

I believe I answered a similar survey before, but I'll tell you here, also:

I was really shy in high school, and that had a negative effect on my social life as a teen. So I would have erased all those negative fears and been more outgoing back then.

There's only one regret that I have and I've been over it on SC before and don't want to rehash it. (It involves my mother's death.) Other than that, I wouldn't change anything or take anything back. I've made mistakes in life, like everyone has, but I think those mistakes make me the person I am today.

You big bully!

something I once gave someone.. who certainly didn't deserve it. Shame on me for being so deluded.

*shame*

Everything is related to something else, and who knows what one minor change would set off. No thank you.

I should have studied for that test, it was the source of lots of problems.

My one and only regret is when I was holding a grudge against "someone" that died....I mean it's something I never want to experience again....when they died it was like such an emotional period.....He didnt want it to be the way it was but I just insisted and I choose not to be around him....then I got the news...it didnt really "sink" in until the day of the funeral and I was driving home.....I just couldnt believe the pain and selfishness I felt after that.....since then...I make sure with every waking day to let people in my life know how I feel about them........believe me ..it wasn't worth it and if i could go back...it wouldn't have ended that way.

I don't live this way.

I regret not keeping in contact with friends. I'll slide into a funk/depression for about 6 months or so out of every year, and when I come out of it I rarely take the initiative to get back into contact with those people. Some of my friends I've reconnected with, alot of it by their doing, but the rest I miss their companionship.

Not continuing school after high school, athough I have done real good without it I still wish I would have went to college, but then again I might not be where I am today if I had of went, who knows.

well i always try to say i would never take anything back, but i think it would neat if i had left my girlfriend of five years (not lovelight) long before she dumped me for some guy she met at a bar.

yeah, same here, i got so used to moving around it dint ever occur to me to keep in contact with friends after moving on until one good friend kept in contact with me after he moved on. i am glad he did, we've been best friends for like 9 years or something now.

Causing my parents so much pain with thoughtless actions conjured up by youthful stupidity.

Oh yes.... I just remembered something that happen many years ago with a total stranger. This, I have thought about many times since; a glib remark said in an effort to "make light" of a heavy situation.
My husband and I were visiting a potential house to buy and we went with our small children in tow. Jess at 4 years old and Mat at 3. Kids at that age are a lot of action so I was running around the place trying to keep them in check; they really can be exhausting at that age. So when the woman told me that she and her husband could not have children, I replied something silly that I regret to this day; "Lucky you!" I regretted it the moment I said it when I saw her stricken face.... I was just trying to underline the fact that kids are..... I don't know what I meant. I just regret saying it to the point of wishing that I could meet that woman again and ask for her forgiveness for my thoughtlessness...

The pain I caused my parents was done unconsciously, the hurt I caused this woman I was aware of instantly and felt terrible about it. By her expression, I realized that this woman really wanted children and felt cheated. My heart goes out to her, she would have been a wonderful mother. It seems so unfair that undeserving people can have children so easily and good people like them cannot. I learned something from that experience; I learned to be grateful for what I have and I have so much to be grateful for.

Droping out of collage.

Speaking of which I just came back from a friends house, of about 8 years now, though there was about a 2 year lapse, she made sure that she tracked me down though. I'm horrible, b/c in that 2 years, she's gotten a hold of me on a few occasions, but I let things slide again, but now we're back in each other's lives, and it doesn't seem like any time has really passed between us, whereas with other people that have tried to reconnect with me, there's a big difference, and I normally let them go again.

Who can say what my life would have been like had I not made that one error. Maybe my life would be better, maybe it would be worse.
Maybe I would be less intellegent, or more.
Maybe I would be a horrible person, maybe I would be a kinder person.

I cannot say. I must learn to accept my mistakes.

May I ask, do you sink into this "funk" every year beginning in the fall?

That I didn't put money away in savings, etc. accounts (and leave it there!) when I was younger.

I can only think of one thing. I wish that when I was being teased as a child, I had stood up to someone or gone to an adult. If someone had handed me a gun, I could have ended up being a school shooter. I only hope that I am able to raise my child to tell me if she's having problems.

No, I can't say it's always in the fall, it's mostly triggered by a chain of events.

"No regrets!" That's my motto!

I wish I never had to go through the pain that I went through in my first marriage, but I have to say it made me ALOT stronger, and makes me appreciate what I have now so much more. The only thing I regret about the first marriage is that I let him walk all over me for far too long before I ended it. I wouldn't take back the lesson I learned from that relationship per se....but I would get the lesson and move on a whole lot faster if I knew then what I know now.

i regret not being myself around all the kids in school, trying to be something im not, just to make people care, and pay attention

Nothing, really. I mean I have done lots of things I am sorry for, and certainly not proud of, but most things have been a learning experience. It took all of my experiences, good and bad, to get me to where I am today.

Zang i like your way of thinking...Hey everything happens for a reason right? And "He" said to NOT regret.............

That's right!

yeah, i am in a slide with my best friend right now, and have let all the others go, i guess.

This one man I hurt emotionally, not on purpose, but I would have never gotten involved with him romantically.

But I have, at least, two other BIG regrets that if I could change I would.

not spending enough time with my family

I regret nothing.

I regret not having enough understanding of myself about a month ago to realize that I needed to seek out some therapy to work through the unhappiness in my relationship with my S.O. I ended up sleeping with someone else who I thought was giving me the attention and "love" that I thought I needed and I lost the relationship with my S.O.

Becoming such close friends with someone, which lead to neglecting my own family. My friends family became my family. Now I am not friends with that person anymore after 15 years of friendship.
I am now enjoying my own family, but hate I missed so much!