When was the last time you yelled at someone, angrily?

the last time was in fall of last year/ i was quite angry, quite hurt, quite disgusted

I have fairly vocal disagreements with my spouse probably every few weeks. I don't really yell so much as talk *really* loudly. But the angrily part was definitely there.

It was probably about a month ago I got into it with a clerk in a quick stop store becase they wouldn't get off the phone, I seen to it she don't have a job there anymore too, This happened more then once.

It's really hard to say... I'm sure that I have, though it's quite rare (handful of times in my life, I think). I might have done it in my car, where they wouldn't hear me (or something like that), just to let off some steam. But, in someone's face, I don't know. I think Jen and I yelled at each other once 8 years ago, and there was that time I stormed out of the restaurant on my dad. As a kid, I had a few incidents of shear rage... which I think impressed upon me the need to not let myself get that angry.

Probably within the past week.

Yesterday

5 days ago (my dad).

It wasn't exactly yelling, but it was here at work less than an hour ago. Someone made a snotty comment and I decided that this time I wasn't going to sit back and take it.

I've raised my voice angrily with my SO when we were having an argument about politics, but it wasn't really yelling. I have certainly yelled at other times in the past, though.

Last night. I lost my cool and feel bad about it now.

Maybe you should keep a "yelling angrily" log book that you keep with you at all times.

I rarely every yell, and even in this situation I still didn't, but it was probably one of the most vindictive things I could say. I felt horrible, but on the other hand, I didn't due to how much the person knew they were provoking me. In fact after the storm blew over, there was no malice, and they were actually proud of me for standing up for myself in some fashion or another.

It's funny how society prides sticking up for yourself so much more than priding not provoking people in the first place.

I'm not sure, but it would have been a very long time ago, maybe 15 years. I'm really not a very angry person.

What you say is very true...now that I think about it. I'm somewhat proud to be 'wussy-boy' lol...though there are times and places for everything

I don't remember for sure. I think its been a couple weeks. I yelled at mandy about something, then she yelled at me, then we both started laughing. We've gotten pretty good at defusing those yelling matches over the years. I've really been working on controlling my bad temper and I don't yell much anymore. Actually, I was more of a stomper and a slammer than a yeller, but I don't do that as much as I used to either.

You make a very good point.

Uh-oh, yelling and slamming doors? You clearly need some intensive psycho-therapy my dear. I'm sure our ol' buddy Richie47 would be happy to help you out, maybe even pro bono!

Agnes, our cleaning lady, was celebrating her 83rd birthday...and wanted to leave work after only half a day of labor. Not only did she "tell" me she was leaving opposed to "asking", she completely destroyed the turtle wax finish job on the BMW. I REALLY felt I was justified in raising my voice (though she DID fall down the back porch steps). I paid for the medical expenses...I'm not heartless!

All because you found a microscopic hole in a new pair of pink panties!

So let's leave it alone, 'cause we can't see eye to eye.
There ain't no good guys, there ain't no bad guys.
There's only you and me and we just disagree.
Ooo - ooo - ooohoo oh - oh - o-whoa
You bastard

Are you the guy in the survey about getting the girl fired due to sexual harassment? You dirty dog. That girl probably has six mouths to feed and was most likely on the phone with one of her childrens physicians.

Cars have personalities too, you know. I'm surprised you didn't get a flat tire after your auto was cursed out...by you!!!

Yesterday , all my troubles seemed so far away ,
Now it looks as though they're here to stay ,
Oh I believe in yesterday .
Suddenly , I'm not half the man I used to be,
There's a shadow hanging over me,
Oh yesterday came suddenly ...
Why she had to go I don't know . She wouldn't say.
I said something wrong , now I long for yesterday ,
Yesterday , love was such an easy game to play ,
Now I need a place to hide away ,
Oh, I believe in yesterday ...

How dare her fudge up the wax job? She should be shot.

Philadelphia is often associated with food--the soft pretzel, the cheesesteak, the water ice. And for a period during 1962, the City of Brotherly Love also became famous for the Mashed Potato.
However, these were not the kind of potatoes that you eat. The Mashed Potato was a dance that, well, made participants look as if they were mashing potatoes with their feet.
To be sure, not the stuff of Fred Astaire, but the Mashed Potato was fun and certainly not out of sync with the time. After all, this was the 1960s--the dance craze era that produced such oddities as the Fly (which gave the appearance that one was shooing away a fly while dancing), the Penguin, (which had dancers waddling around the floor) and the Swim (which, well you get the idea).
Dee Dee Sharp, the '60s Cameo-Parkway recording artist who made Mashed Potato Time into a much-loved million seller, will be Mistress of Ceremonies at the second annual Make A Difference Day in Landis Park on Saturday.

Got your tongue caught in the bug zapper again, huh? One "Bud Lite" too many!

Enheduanna (as well as Biggles) have been saying some pretty nasty things about you lately. Especially the former...something about a Southern bitc....?????

I don't drink Bud Light. Thank you very much. If you knew anything, you'd know that *real* rednecks drink Budweiser.

Then...behind your back...told ALL your friends you had just been released from the state insane asylum. I know that trick!

I was hinting about that DIET you should be on, young lady. Remember, I'm psychic ! (33% less calories)

More cushion for the pushin'.

Don't listen to ANYTHING Joalis says...ever! You'll end up jumping off a bridge (It's already happened to 3 SC users!!!) I warn you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To thevelvetcure: Don't listen to ANYTHING Joalis says...ever! You'll end up jumping off a bridge (It's already happened to 3 SC users!!!) I warn you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've fought with my older brother several times this summer but I don't believe I've yelled at him in ages. I think I may have done during the Easter holidays - I got really pissed off with him for something I can't remember now. He seems to be the only person who can push my buttons in that way - he's just so...unreasonable and incapable of discussing things rationally sometimes. I rarely fight with anyone else and if I do it's a brief patch of bickering with either my younger brother or my mother which doesn't mean anything. I haven't fought with anyone at uni, though me and my lab partner have had some heated practicals where everything has gone wrong and we've started getting a bit pissy with each other. Less so lately though - either we've become more efficient, or we just accept that our practicals always go wrong!

Ever since I made that Mississippi Mud Pie remark............

Your boyfriend is away...I guess you're getting the wrong buttons pushed (though serious yelling can denote many, many things).

Did I miss something? What is that supposed to mean?

SueBee fired me because I told her the truth

You were drunk! (Put ALL beer down while on SC)

No beer for me. All I'm drinking now is sweet iced tea! I swear!

Don't remember the last time, but I'm sure I have. (I definitely don't like to do it, though. )

Shhhhhhh! Don't get him started now.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with sticking up for yourself. It's just that society should be emphasizing being so nice to people they don't have to stick up for themselves, MORE than sticking up for yourself. If we didn't have bully instigators running around, no one would have to stick up for themselves. It wouldn't be an issue.

In all honesty, I find your comments about my relationship with Mandy very annoying. I don't mind when people try to provide helpful advice, but when we tell you you're way off base, you should leave it alone. You can't know us better than we know ourselves and each other just by reading our comments on this website. We've worked through some difficult times this year, and we're doing quite well, but we don't need someone like you at us with all the negative comments. Whether you're serious, or just joking around, I find your attitude very mean-spirited and I don't enjoy reading your comments, so I usually don't.

He should be here in 10 hours Except there's major national disruptions on the railway this weekend so he may not be on time

I actually yelled at someone at work, which surprised me and I profusely apologized (a while after) and so did she. She started the yelling, I have to say - screaming more like - "Well then I'll just leave! I'll just QUIT, how's THAT?!" I yelled back, "Well I'LL just hold open the DOOR for you, how's THAT?!"

Your cleaning lady's twin sister, Mabel...uh, Mabelgnes...does my cleaning. I kindly allowed her to go to her 83rd celebration without any yelling or any of that scaring her into crippling herself by fall - and shame on you. Mabelgnes cried all night at the hospital, next to Agnes, who spent a few hours on a life machine that night, I don't know if you knew about that. (You're probably being billed for it.)

Mabelgnes was there until four in the morning and Agnes's condition was still in question. When she showed up at my gates at 5:10am (she had to be verified - the guards switch duty right at five so the guards on day duty had never seen her since she shows for work Mon-Sat, 4:30am, and leaves no sooner than 11:00pm), she told me all about the horrible things you had done to her sister. She thanked me for hearing her tell of the ghastly experience she'd been through and how she didn't know if Agnes was going to make it through.

You could learn from me - how to be a little more hospitable with others. Like when I let Mabelgnes leave early that day for their birthday, so she could catch the earlier bus to the place on the other side of town. It only took her 3 1/2 hours that way (and only 2 hours of that was on foot toward the bus stop), and I knew this was what she faced, so I said sure, she could leave 15 minutes earlier than she had previously asked to.

Or about how I listened to her sob story while she prepared a light breakfast for me. I even followed her out with my coffee and newspaper, all the way to the back veranda, just to have a seat and listen to her ramble some more - like any good master would do for their servant - as she cleaned out the gutter drains. I even let her work on four consecutive Sundays instead of taking the customary dock in pay for all the time she had burneded me with missing...on her birthday, the two times I let her come in late because she was visiting Agnes at the hospital, etc.

You could use a crash course in congeniality. Let me know if you want help. But let me know soon, my offer runs out a few minutes ago, my little protégé.

SueBee, I understand you've been through a difficult time...and this is the time when you should be making new memories "together" opposed to all of this outside romantic interference. You don't see yourself...as we (I) see you. You can't possibly see how imbalanced it all is. Of course, Mandy cherishes you. She should!! Look what you are allowing her to do...and then you laugh about it, soooo in love, everything is wonderful, tattoos, things couldn't be better. Don't you feel the reverberations of the SC users when she comments on her boi!! They smile politely and say, " Is SueBee in the picture?" "Oh, yes, yes, yes...but he...etc...." Yes, they are your friends so they'll except ANYTHING she says and does. I don't have to subscribe to that nonsense. The mere fact that you are allowing such an arrangement tells me you deserve much better than this. Don't you feel this about yourself? Where are the tied that bind you to this treatment? I'm not speaking as a therapist, naturally, but as a human being who is seeing someone who is hurting and then "smiling" brighter than all those around her. If this silly arrangement worked, millions would be engaged it in. They are not. Any self-respecting person would not allow their soulmate to flaunt the greater affections of another in everyones faces. It makes me want to cry, but you WILL come out the stronger one due to all this adversitity...and you will THANK me for being one of the first people to say it. (I was right about the liquor too)!

If you are not reading my comments, others are...and hopefully they can guide you through this, also.

The conversation went more like this, I suspect:

OfTheSoul: You're a dog!
Girl: You're a dog too.
OfTheSoul: You sleep with everyone
Girl: You sleep with everyone.
OfTheSoul: How dare you?
Girl: You're hideous!
OfTheSoul: I hate you!
Girl: You're a slut!
OfTheSoul: Take that back!
Girl: I will not!!
OfTheSoul: You're such a dog
Girl: Whore!!
OfTheSoul: How DARE you!!!!

...and so on, so on so on...............

The help!!! So hard to find decent ones these days ( I accidently pulled Agnes life support plug while plugging in my own electric razor [forgot to charge it the night before], before work, when visiting her for a moment. How the hell did I know?)

This morning. Im not a morning person, and my mom is and she expects everybody to be day people.

More so, Agnes died by her own hands, if you think about it. Why the hell is she expecting you to charge your own razor? Or to shave your own face for that matter?
Sounds like professional suicide with a just twist in the end to me.

Of lemon? Yes...and make mine on the rocks, OfTheSoul...Oh, my "new" Agnes!!! Oh, on second thought...what's the difference.

I can't remember the last time I did this, but I know I have done this before.

Look, I thought we agreed you would keep your nasty little fantasies to yourself from now on?

This was a 16 or 17 year old and she don't have any kids and I also heard her conversation,she was bullcraping with one of her friends, and women can make all the sexual remarks they want to me, hell I enjoy it.

tribadism ????

Fantasy? I want to put you on the payroll. What are YOU thinking about?????

You should hear what Enheduanna is requesting from you! You'll have to ask her yourself!

Oh just tell me.

There is a REASON why you must ask her yourself!

You've already shared with me your lustful dreams with images of me in some construction worker's getup, tooling around your house with my manly bod- -...gag! I can't repeat that crap, just be confident that 1) it ain't happening and 2) you couldn't afford me on your payroll if I was an ambitious volunteer from Thailand.

So, you're from Laos (you louse). What's the difference?

The Maytag Repairman, I'm sure.

That fantasy was with Dino!

Then...(lips quiver)...then...you lied? It wasn't about me? I...(lips quiver violently)...but I bought a toolbelt, and...well this thiggamuhjigger called a vice grip and all.

You can wear it while serving my Stoli vodka martini with a....lemon twist. Remember that! Agnes always did (sobs)
*You may need it to repair a light fixture on something!

My mother,like 2 years ago.

It doesn't seem as if you were ever hired in the first place, does it?

I know Sue and Mandy outside of Survey Central, and the only adversity Sue is facing is you butting in where you're not wanted. Your comments say more about your inability to listen and respect a direct request from someone else than they say anything about Sue and Mandy.

Ya know Richard, I woke up this morning, and I have this sudden urge to park my truck on top of the Sunshine Skyway, and take a flying leap. I apologize for ever doubting your all powerful knowledge on all subjects and people.

I love Mandy deeply and unconditionally. Her actions are not hurting me. We have been doing a lot of fun and wonderful things together lately. You seem to think she's off spending all her time with her boyfriend, but that's not what's going on -- not that you'll believe a word I say. You seem to think I'm somehow stuffing my true feelings and putting on a smile while I'm unhappy inside. That is simply not the case. I'm really curious to know if you honestly can't get that through your thick skull, or if you're just trying to stir up crap. Judging by your meddlesome and impertinent comments to others here, I'm inclined to believe the latter.

Thank you.

You can't speak up now...after ignoring me for three months. It doesn't work that way.
(You had your chance )

Like all crisis situations, someone has to intervene when "no one" knows what to do (or say). It might as well be me.

Who "are" you

I know I have been impossible...but, like a, IV bolus of erythromycin, I feel I am most effective if a large dose of 'me' is injected quickly...then, I tapper off. Any infection needs a fighting change.
You are so kind and wonderful. I see you as "Mother Earth"...with the SC users...never an unkind word, always encouraging, always supportive, always loving and accepting (which makes you MOST vulnerable, I'm afraid). When pushed to a corner (somewhat, what I am doing) you have the ability to fight back viciously...but it hurts you to be pushed to that extreme. It is not in your nature (despite your propensity for slamming doors).
But, it is because of your kind and loving nature...people, here, feel very protective towards you, and may be hesitant to mention matters too sensitive for casual discussion. A sense of helplessness, loyalty to Mandy ( who is so precious..though self-involved...herself), and a reluctance to disturb your tenuous stability prohibits true expressions of concern. Enter the bad guy....me, I suppose. Like the alcohol crisis, if I am an EYE OPENER, and have no other function..then that is enough. If you are blissfully happy with Mandy sleeping and loving someone else....fine....you shouldn't be, though... (but just ask her to stop flaunting it in everyones face because it is making folks feel bad for you. I have accurate evidence concerning that from those who truly love you and are concerned for you). Again, SueBee...this has happened to me, and I want to tell you about my past situation, if you want me to.
Much, much

*If you just DID admit that it did upset you, I would feel sad and drop it..and tell you I could help, though not publically... on this SC thing.

I ignore you because you're not interesting or engaging.

And after all, it's all about you, isn't it? Even Mandy and Sue's relationship - it's about you because obviously you know best, despite the fact that you've no clue about who they really are, what their experiences are.

You're a classic narcissist. Lie, manipulate, provoke, in order to get attention. If other people are upset about it it's because they're too thin-skinned, because after all, you can do no wrong, and obviously everyone but you is responsible for their reactions to you.

If someone doesn't respond to you, you use a little honey to draw them out. If that doesn't work, you attempt to provoke them. It's all textbook, and it's rather sad.

How did you manage to stay awake long enough to write that?

When I first joined SC, I sent you an e-mail because you were one of the creators, and introduced myself because we were fellow Bostonians. I was quite pleasant, as I recall...and I got...zippo back from you. In your eyes (now), I doubt I would be interesting and engaging enough for you if I were to come up with a cure for AIDS and wanted to reveal it, first, on SC.
Next, you told a SC user that the "majority " of the SC users found me annoying. At the time there were ruffly five (out of 60 active users) who I received any resistance from. (Though I'm sure there are more now). So, you ignored me...leave it at that!
Don't start defending Mandy and SueBee, now, for brownie points. I see right through that. All my information about them doesn't necessarily originate from me. You have no idea SC relationships I have with users outside of here.
It's all about me? We're all asked opinions about OUR lives and experiences.... I'm sorry if you do agree with my rules of engagement but I am much more qualified to access situations and statements than you are. You come from a "different" place stemming from self-righteous protection, where I obtain vital information from clients and/or SC users who are in distress when they are in the throngs of resistance. No NOT interfere!

* I knew Enheduanna unplugged me so I used "freedom" pertaining to her...because she wouldn't be reading it. There was no harm. But she's "your" personal friend so THAT woke you up, also!

What is going on in your life, now, ( besides the me/SueBee/Mandy thing) that is causing you to...suddenly...spring to life? ( which has nothing to do with me)

Can't remember - perhaps never. I'm a cancer victim waiting to happen - according to Louise L Hay in her book 'You Can Heal Your Life'

I can't remember. I've been a bit passive lately, bottling it all in.

Well, duh!! This DID upset me at first, but that was months ago. After much turmoil, and thinking, and discussion, and examining the possibilities, I realized that supporting Mandy's desire to have a boyfriend could very well be the best thing for our relationship. I decided that I'd rather share her affection part of the time and see her happy. Geez, the girl has had a lot of sadness in her life -- how can it be wrong for me to try to let her find happiness?! I'm not an idiot. I realize there's always the chance that she'd end up leaving me if she meets someone she likes better, but I'm willing to take that risk if it means seeing her truly happy. If she ever leaves me to be with someone else, it'll hurt like hell, but I will wish her all the best, and hope we can still be friends.

If being loving and accepting makes me vulnerable, so be it! I'd rather be vulnerable and take my chances than not treat people with the kindness that I hope to receive in return. I'm seeing a contradiction... you're lecturing other people in other surveys about their fear of opening up to others because it could make them vulnerable, and you tell them the love they are missing out on would be worth the risk. Then you seem to pity me for being so loving and accepting that it makes me extremely vulnerable. Which is it? Or is it just the extremes you advise against? Well, I'll tell you what... in this life we have to take the bad with the good. We have good days and bad days, and they seem to have to balance each other out. My "vulnerability" might make my bad days really tough, but the good ones are so fudging fantastic that I wouldn't want it any other way.

As far as Mandy "flaunting it in everyone's face", her comments here have always reflected what is on her mind at the time and I see no reason why she should censor herself. Nobody needs to feel bad for me.

Here's the part that REALLY makes no sense to me, though:
If you are blissfully happy with Mandy sleeping and loving someone else....fine....you shouldn't be, though...
Why shouldn't I be? Who wrote that rule?

Romkey would never defend someone "for brownie points". You so don't know what you're talking about! But his observations about you seem right on to me. You see, unlike you, he only speaks (or types) when he has something worthwhile to say.

Which SC users do you have relationships with outside of here? I don't see why it should be a big secret unless you're making it up.

About the "boi" thing.I think that maybe their relationship got even better,more mature and lovely.
If it wasn't real love before,this whole "boi" thing shows it is.
That said I don't know anything about their relationship as you don't know either.
Now perfect love doesn't exist,but theirs is damn closer.
But of course you're one of those "counsellor" type of person.the ones that ruin lives trying to "help" or at least you come out that way.
Just resolve your problems,because you seem to have a lot of them,before trying to resolve the problems of others.

but again,I don't know anything about you.But your online personality,your comments,serious,funny,sweet,hard...the whole mix...is hard to take.Despite your compliments over my songs,for which I'm thankful,but isn't enough to match the rest.
I'm not even sure why I try to talk to you.Maybe only because of the aformentioned compliments.

RIGHT NOW!!!!!WHAT KIND OF QUESTION IS THIS?GOD DAMMIT!!!!!

Thank you for your comment. It was lovely

Thank you for your friendship and for speaking out with such wisdom and diplomacy regarding Richard47 and his behavior here. I so appreciate it. You are an amazing person and a genuine blessing in our lives.

You never cease to amaze me with your insight and eloquence. You are an amazing woman. Thank you so much.....for everything....I love you.

You suck. Go away.
*laughs*

*kiss*

Thank you! You are absolutely right -- our relationship is better and stronger than it ever has been. Mandy and I are best friends with an incredible bond, and I'm glad you are able to pick up on that.

you and Sue are a wonderful and important part of my lfe too (and Mallory too). You both deserve much better than the way he's been treating you here.

He's only as harmful as anyone else makes him. Note I say "makes him"--a smidge more powerful than just allowing him to (try to) be of any concerning harm to anyone here.

News: Richard4077th is harmless. I think it's Richard's gift for placing words together in a form that seems to make too much sense when they're all read in sequence together that intimidates. How much attention would the guy be receiving if he showed up in surveys and screamed, "MANDY SUCKS! SUEBEE SUCKS!"? I really think it's his articulate style that prompts anyone to even rate him with enough merit to respond to him. Otherwise, why isn't he just judged to be one of these "trolls"? And why aren't about 40 SC users utilizing the hell out of that "Ignore" feature the site offers?

He's harmless. Mandy seems to notice this. She laughs at him. He can even be entertaining, if you play along.

You're right, he is harmless. He makes sense, even when he is totally wrong about someone. I can follow the line of reasoning that leads him to his conclusions, even when they are faulty!

yeah, if i owned any panties!