If someone does not notice that they are being insulted by another, do you let them know?

I would if I knew the people and thought it might get something going that would amuse me. I sometimes will just say "Hey you goin' to take that crap" or something like that.

it would depend very much on the situation and the people involved... it would depend on my relationships with the people, on how serious the situation was, how much I cared about the outcome... it's difficult for me to generalize here.

I wouldn't reveal it, but would have a quiet word with the mean person afterwards.

Would not reveal the insult to that person.

depends, for some reason, this sounds a lot like a situation that would happen in a bar. if i was in the mood, i might want to try to start a bar fight, in which case i would follow the middle school kid route. i would make noises like, "awhhhh, you gona take that from him, ooooooooaaa". Or if i was in a serious mood and i felt sorry for the dude, i'd get him to stand up for himself and either get him to fight or not to fight, depending on what i would think is the right thing to do. getting revenge certainly wouldnt hurt.

OF COURSE NOT!

I can't think of any reason to do this, besides to be mean and hurt the other person. Even if you mean well, there's no real reason to tell them. What they don't know can't hurt them.

I would if I liked the person being insulted and disliked the one doing the insulting.

I would if the person considers the insulting one a friend or trusts him.And if I see the insulting one acting very hypocritically towards the person-I would inform that he is an hypocrite.
If not,well I won't.

Something else: Whatever the situation called for. Us usually yes in a lax manner.

I may point it out to the person after the event if I liked the person.

It depends of course, but likely I would assume that the person in fact *did* notice and was simply being polite.

I chose both "empowering" related answers. My standard when communicating: "If it doesn't empower all parties involved, don't have the conversation."

Wowee, a lot of interesting answers here!

I wouldn't tell them. When someone insults you, you should just ignore the comment. Not hearing/understanding the comment makes it a lot easier

It depends on my relationship with the insulted person. A lot of the time I'm in the conspiring party enjoying the insult. Usually the insult is subtle enough that I can wait until later to tell my friend what was going on - but if it was a really strong insult that my friend was the butt of I'd be right there explaining everything to them in front of the insultor's face.

I wouldnt, why start a fight?

I might make a smart comment to the insulter to make them think about it.

That's what we call "went right over their head". I'm having trouble picturing myself in this situation as described. It would be easier for me to imagine myself being the one delivering the "insult". Although, in that case, my intent would probably not be so much to insult the person, as to make a little joke at their expense. The way I picture it, someone who thought they should fill this person in, would probably be instigating something unnecessary. More than likely, it seems to me, they would be exaggerating the insult in order to make their point. Very much like viscous gossip, this sort of thing only creates hostility where there wouldn't have been any otherwise. I wouldn't do it.

Probably not, unless I had a particular reason to.

It really depends on the circumstances. Usually, I just let it go. Today, something happened that I found rather amusing. There is this woman (I will call her mystery woman) who is quite obsessed with me, talks about me all the time, follows me around on the Internet, etc. Anyway, some of my friends and I ordered pizzas for lunch. I also ordered a large pizza to take home, so my mom could get a break from cooking. All afternoon, mystery woman kept making comments like, "I can't believe someone who has had two strokes orders pizza", "I can't believe her mommy cooks her dinner", etc. I ignored it. Finally, one person walked over to my desk, and said, "I thinks X is talking about you ordering pizza. She just said that people who live with their mother can afford pizza." I said, "Oh, she wouldn't do that." This girl's mouth dropped, because she was amazed that I would not be mad or hurt by the witty remark. I went on to say, "Surely, someone who hasn't spoken to their mother since their mother had them thrown in jail wouldn't DREAM of putting someone down for being kind to their mom." The idiot just walked away, clearly disappointed. I was quite pleased with myself, and it had the added bonus of shutting someone up for the rest of the day.

I only would if I didn't like the person who was insulting and I did like the person who was being insulted. If a person didn't notice then they wouldn't notice my hints either. I can be rather blunt at times though if I want to.

Is that why your name is Hyena.... because you like to laugh at people?

You assume I care about the exchanges other people have

Ouch! I do like to laugh - I laugh too much - but no, not sit back and laugh at people. That'd be a silly way to spend my life. But, looking at my comment I can see why you'd get a bad impression - ha ha ha ha ha.

I would reveal the insult in all circumstances probably because I wouldn't want person A to just let person B get away with that and I would defend person A. LOL.

I was just playing on the name. I'm sure you don't really like to laugh at people!

That's a good approach to "chatters" like the one you described. It's not difficult to steer clear from drama if you're not sensationalized by it yourself. The mentality is this: "Well, children will be children..." though I'm sure you're left wondering why it seems you're the only adult in your workplace. Good story, thanks.

I do indeed wonder sometimes why I am the only grownup in my workplace, but that's okay. I firmly believe the old adage that what goes around, comes around.

Right. I think I'm unexpectedly but finally at a point in my life where I have little concern for even the comeuppance of others. I guess we at last retire from trying to make certain things are in balance in the universe. I think that's when we truly begin to live our own lives. Besides, keeping tabs on my own bills is enough without concerning myself with the debits and credits of the Universe ha ha.

That is for sure! I especially like your line about keeping tabs on your own bills. That is the way I feel too.

I would let them know if I thought it would benefit the person. I might say, "Well, she thinks people who...suck.' but not tell the person I am referring to them.