Do you think, in general, that people mellow with age?

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posted 24-Dec-2002 4:22pm

I don't know about "people" but I changed.You could say "mellow" in the same sense you can call a good old wine mellow...not like I turned into an hypocrite or sleepy or old fashioned,but I'm more open and accepting.I still have the same ideas,but I don't need to fight.Before it was "I'm right.You're wrong" even though I always been pretty tolerant (like in my old school days I listened to what the right-wing students had to say! Unbelievable!

),but now it's "I'm right.I think you're wrong,but if it's your truth then okay for you." I never was a black or white kind of person,but now I see more shades of grey than before as well.And now I think that even "normal" people are useful.There are a lots of them,I let them live.The world needs 'em,they rule the world...but people like me change the world,or maybe that's too arrogant...but I feel that way.I won't mellow,I won't pretend to be someone I'm not because it's easier that way,but I already mellowed in the sense that I learned to accept people (and the part of myself)that are my opposite.Sort of like accepting your Shadow...in the Jungian sense of the term...

Enheduanna

posted 24-Dec-2002 5:53pm

Yes.

Galomorro

posted 24-Dec-2002 7:24pm

Yeah, somewhat. Depends on the person too. I think I have "mellowed" somewhat. As one gets older, they learn more about people and life in general, so they are maybe a bit more accepting of peoples' differences and they might learn to stress out less about little things.

mandy

posted 24-Dec-2002 8:30pm

Well, if Nthensome is any example..I'd say...uh...naw
I think he just spontaneously combusted in a nearby survey

romkey

posted 24-Dec-2002 11:41pm

I think it really depends tremendously upon the person and whatever situations you're thinking about them being in... some people seem to become more finicky and picky with age, some less so... I don't think I can generalize here

ROCKMAN

posted 25-Dec-2002 10:52am

Yes in general I think they do, although I sure the hell haven't and have no intensions of doing so, (I'm 40 yrs old) my Mom still asks me when she sees me "when are you going to grow up" and my answer "never".

kaleb777

posted 25-Dec-2002 11:48am

It depends. Some people are pretty wild in their youth, and testosterone is highest in men when they are young which means they are agressive. However, as people get older I have found their tolerance falls, and they become cranky, often because they can't hear or don't understand. My father is getting far more grumpy as he ages.

southernyankee

posted 25-Dec-2002 12:22pm

it depends. i guess some do, going from the testotorne driven 20-something year-old to the mild-middle-aged 40 year-old man.

then again these days are a lot of dead head teenagers working endless meaningless jobs and living their lives as if they were very depressed without any expression on hteir faces. you know what some of them they need though, they need some middle aged hippy full of life to come allong and bring them to life again. sort of like that movie flashback.

off course you're forgeting that some people (read my parents) become really unbearable butt-holes as they and their kids get older. i swear, my mom is PMSing virtually 24/7 now. geez, i sure cant wait for the holidays to be over so i can finally go back to my crappy dorm room instead.

thus my vote goes to "it depends" and "i dont know"

roro246

posted 25-Dec-2002 1:44pm

Well you know that the old people that drive 10 miles per hour now use to fly when they were younger. I Would call that mellowing

juliw

posted 25-Dec-2002 2:40pm

yep

Galaxy83

posted 25-Dec-2002 9:03pm

I think as some people get older and learn their mistakes they tend to change themselves around. But there are a lot of people that I know that have just never really grown up.

starrpickle

posted 26-Dec-2002 11:22am

hell no! age does'nt matter, but if anything i think it would be in reverse alot of older people are bitter and rude

confetti

posted 26-Dec-2002 1:24pm

I haven't.

Dino

posted 26-Dec-2002 6:33pm

I have and I've seen other people do it too. I would say 'yes' generally.

scrubnurse

posted 26-Dec-2002 11:16pm

I said it depends, but I think for the most part they do. I know I am!

Zang

posted 27-Dec-2002 12:09am

Yeah, that's been my experience. I can't think of a single example of the contrary.

grayladydeath

posted 28-Dec-2002 6:24pm

I don't think you mellow as you get older, as much as you just reach a point in your life where other people's opinions are less important than your own (unless, of course you are a politician ;-> )

sonikJ

posted 29-Dec-2002 3:31pm

Depends on the person...I sure have.

anonymous

posted 30-Dec-2002 2:57am

I don't know.

misskruckow

posted 30-Dec-2002 3:00am

It depends. Some people mellow with age, some people don't. Take me for example, I think I've mellowed out a lot with age. I'm now very accepting of others and open to new ideas. Some people though, start out mellow and then eventually just go wild. It's weird.

Cleo

posted 30-Dec-2002 3:20pm

Depends. Sometimes my temper seems so mellow.Then someone will come along & start me up like I never even mellowed at all.

Biggles

posted 31-Dec-2002 2:50pm

I know a lot of very non-mellow older people and a lot of very mellow younger people - and vice versa. I think people are just people.

darkshadowsseeker

posted 1-Jan-2003 11:20pm

I don't know for certain, but I certainly don't think I've mellowed with age!

che

posted 2-Jan-2003 7:52pm

yes because all the old people dog a lot. and they are all cranky complaning about stuff they even dont understand damm that must suck. especially for me because im gonna be old too.

wolfchik9

posted 3-Jan-2003 2:54am

Yes, my dad has mellowed quite a bit with age. He went from being an uptight father to a lax man-of-the-house.

gypsy55

posted 3-Jan-2003 4:25am

As for me....NO I was very mellow in my teens and 20's, and 30's. The further I get in my 40's Im planning to get a lot more cantankerous.

pandora

posted 10-Jan-2003 8:54am

I, for one, started out wild, and have gotten mellower. However, I have known many people who were very reserved in their younger years, but who are now the life of every party. I think I might still be too young to answer, though. Feels weird, since I'm only 20. But, personally, I have settled down quite a bit since I was 16/17 years old.

Catharsis

(reply to ROCKMAN) posted 10-Jan-2003 9:14am

How old is your Mum?

ROCKMAN

(reply to Catharsis) posted 10-Jan-2003 9:13pm

Hi there

she's 64 and perty cool for being that age, I can talk to her about anything, and I do...whee are you from\question mark\sorry but some of my buttons don't work so hope you figure this out.

Catharsis

(reply to ROCKMAN) posted 11-Jan-2003 6:32am

Hey!!
Um, I sort of move around a lot. In England just now. What about you?

ROCKMAN

(reply to Catharsis) posted 11-Jan-2003 8:10am

I 'm in the U.S., Missouri, just about smack dab in the middle of the states.

Catharsis

(reply to ROCKMAN) posted 11-Jan-2003 9:03am

I'd like to get over to the states at some point - feel myself gravitating in that direction.

ROCKMAN

(reply to Catharsis) posted 11-Jan-2003 9:34am

Gravitate away

mags

posted 11-Jan-2003 8:35pm

If you relate mellowness to energy level, then yeah, but if mellow refers to easygoing and not being uptight then I'd have to say it depends on the individual.

Catharsis

(reply to ROCKMAN) posted 12-Jan-2003 7:00am

One day. When the time is right.

utahblaine

posted 13-Jan-2003 7:43pm

you get old you cant mouth off to much or ppl might take away your false teeth

Okiryu

posted 17-Jan-2003 10:13pm

I think it's because of experience. Once somebody gets used to something, it can get boring.

thewolfdreamed

posted 23-Feb-2003 11:13am

most people do, but i have a neighbor who still gets her kicks at 57. and that's old in the states