Do you have a hard time admitting you need help?

I'll say "Sometimes". Most of the time "No". I have no problem provided that I'm dealing with friends and family (or someone whom I'm paying to help me! ). I might not be so forthcoming with co-workers, employers, or complete strangers.

Sometimes, definitely.

I wouldn't know. As far as I know, I do that myself which is appropriate to do myself. I've probably carried quite a few things myself when I could have used help though.

I have no difficulty admitting I need help but I don't have the patience to get it.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Depends on whether I think I ought to be able to accomplish the task at hand...

I used to but I've gotten a lot better about it

I do. I don't like to look weak. I have this whole....let me do stuff myself attitude, of late. Because I have never had to completely take care of myself without help.

It is painful. I'd just like to know I could make it on my own if I had to.
Emotionally, It is easier for me to ask for help and advice. I have an easier time admitting my psychological weaknesses and damages and asking for feedback.

I have a very hard time doing it. I have now taken steps to try and get some help but am still unsure about the whole thing. Its easier for me to just help others than to try and get help for myself.

*hug*

Sometimes, it just depends.

No, not at all. It's quite the opposite for me, actually. I have a hard time doing things on my own, without help, or at least begging for help.

People are more independently capable than they think. A lot of times when people think they "need" help, they only "want" it. If you keep it in and work something through on your own, you never needed the help to begin with.

A "sometimes." In the workplace I've always been prone to sometimes putting off getting help with stuff I need help with; but I am getting better at communicating with people recently and asking for help better. I have always found it very easy to communicate on the Web, however, than in person or on the phone, so I am much more apt to ask for help or complain about something via the Internet.

It totally depends on what I'm needing help with. But, for the most part, I'd say yes.

Sometimes, but it really depends on the situation.

I used to.

Everyone should answer sometimes, of course. This question should be a "most of the time" or "prefer". Usually, I'll ask for help.

((((HUG))))
Have I told you lately how much I adore you, Mathieu?

...Staring at the beauty of night
I feel the winds gentle breeze
Rain pounding ever so slightly
A comforting heartbeat
A presence is near
I feel it
I hear it
I breath it in
I fear it….

I love it

Only special customers get the glove.
((HUG)))) (clipped parrot version)
Your poetry is so like my daughter's. So are you, for that matter.

I didn't write that...my Mathieu did

I do too much. And I don't want anyone to believe what I can do can't be done in the capacities people need me to do them. So, I end up working until nine or so every night. All to get ahead, but I'm repeatedly told it's not going to be worth it once I feel I've finally "reached" my heights.
I think I need to hire.

Yeah, I bottle it all in. Repress repress repress.

Most of my worklife was overtime trying to catch up with what I volunteered thinking I could do. Knowing how to do something, and being able to do it are two way different things for me. I was any jobs I had merely involved explaining the concepts of what needs done. As I couldn't sleep last night, I refined the design for my infinite ratio automatic bike transmission. One of these years I might find a business partner willing to split the profits on all my inventions, for getting them produced, while I just consult and sketch and such. Sometimes I prosper in the physical realm, but it's intermittant, just like whethar I'm up days or nights. I am a bit of a chameleon though. Good friends will say things like 'wow, i didn't know you were an administrator, engineer.. whatever..' until they see me interacting with similar people. Sometimes I even wonder myself. Perhaps I am like those buddhist sages who are empty reflections of whoever they are with teaching.

I miss you mandy, have I told you that I think of the time we spent together quite often and it puts a smile on my face each time

I told Sue that if she ever gets hit by a bus and killed...I'm coming to Canada to marry you because you look so cute with a beer in your hand
I miss you madly, too.

I don't like people to know when I am having emotional difficulties-- I am very afraid of appearing vulnerable. And, I don't want to scare my mother.

Just so long as she doesn't stand an arms length away from you when busses are approaching.

It depends on what I need help with, I hate asking someone for money. But I dont mind asking someone to wire up a light for me because I don't know how to do it.

She's probably going to push me in front of the next one we see!

Justice.

Yes I sometimes have a hard time with admitting I need help with things. As a disabled person, it can be difficult to be ask others for assistance. It's a hard thing to deal with. One, you don't want to be seen as dependent, even though you are in some ways. I have just come to realize in the last few years, (I'm in my early 30s)that I will never be totally independent like a "normal" person. I can and do many things for myself. But there are always times when I need help. Two, you have a fear of being perceived as helpless or mentally retarded, you would be surprised at how many people will assume that because you are physically handicapped you are mentally not all there as well. Which can make me really angry. Third you get angry and frustrated with needing help more than you would like. And then people think that you are mad at them for helping, like they aren't doing it right or whatever. When usually as a disabled person you are angry and embarrassed at the situation that you NEED help, and are afraid of being a burden. I know most people would not understand the fear and worry that others will resent you because you are dependent. And it's very hard on your self-esteem when you cannot do so many things like an able-bodied person can. But I have been raised by a loving wonderful family. Who are caring and patient (usually)! Although my parents didn't allow me to do a lot of things growing up that they maybe should have. But I have a nephew in particular who is wonderful. He helps me without complaint, never makes me feel like I'm a burden or asking too much. He is patient and loving and will always do what I ask cheerfully, and better yet he is always encouraging me to try new things, and helps me to stay focused on what I can do instead of what I can't.

Not at all.

Actually no. Not at all.

Sometimes...

You realize of course that at least half the people who say they don't have a hard time admitting simply are not admitting. :)

I HATE to ask for help. I don't even like stopping to ask for directions. (I'm a woman by the way)